Is That All He Thinks About?: How to Enjoy Great Sex with Your Husband

by Marla Taviano

For many married women, their sex life is a source of frustration instead of the pleasure they expected. Author Marla Taviano believes most women need an attitude adjustment before they and their husbands will experience a fulfilling sex life.

With candor, Marla helps women view sex God's way stop the "meet my needs; then I'll meet yours" mindsetcelebrate God's plan for women to be godly and sexualseek forgiveness for past sexual impurities and move onget creative, spice up lovemaking, and increase desire

Marla debunks myths, calls women on their own issues, exposes the joy of sex, and presents hopeful advice that new or veteran brides will gratefully refer to again and again.

Genres: Marriage

225 pages, Kindle Edition

First published January 1, 2007

About the author

Marla Taviano is into books, love, justice, globes, anti-racism, blue, gray, rainbows, and poems. She reads and writes for a living, wears her heart on her t-shirts, and is on a mission/quest/journey to live wholefarted (not a typo). She’s the author of unbelieve: poems on the journey to becoming a heretic and jaded: a poetic reckoning with white evangelical christian indoctrination. Marla lives in South Carolina with her four freaking awesome kids. Find out more at marlataviano.com.

Reviews

[Colorado Buck · Rating 5 out of 5]

this book is great - funny, honest, and she explores topics christian women just don't usually talk about (well, i would, but not most other women I know). good christian sex-help book. and she's a really nice person too - down to earth.

[P.L. Smith · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is not my typical read, but I was curious about what views a Christian took on the subject of sex. I have always been told it is private, between a husband and wife (and God) and no one else needs to know anything about it nor should you talk about it with anyone. So while I was curious, I was also a bit unsure of what I would learn by reading this book. Luckily for me, author Marla Taviano writes in a style that is engaging and relatable, drawing in even the most reluctant or uncertain readers who, like me, have been taught that this subject is taboo. It is true that sex is not your typical conversation topic, but as Christians we should address it instead of pretending it is not happening. And there is no shame in it. Too many women are ashamed to admit they have an active and healthy sex life in their marriage, but this is good! And for those who are struggling in that area of their life, this book can give hope and ideas for making some changes to improve things in the bedroom. As women, we should embrace our sexuality and honor God with our bodies and husbands. And this book can teach you how. A must for every married woman!

[Katie · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is the exact book I needed in this exact moment of my life. This book may not be the solution for every woman or marriage, but it has been for me. I knew that my lack of desire was all about my attitude - the fact that I'm going on 8 years of marriage and mothering two small children, and I have let my husband's needs fall to the side because I've got "more important" things to focus on. If that sounds familiar to you, then this book will be a huge help.

The author made so many statements that really gutted me. I felt like I highlighted the first five chapters of the book. It is a quick read but I feel like it'll stay with me for a while. She makes a lot of great points about a woman's attitude and the ways our husbands are wired. A lot of points she makes, I've seen evidenced in my own marriage but I was too clueless to make the connection. But what got me the most is when she points out the fact that my attitude and my unwillingness to make my husband and his needs a priority are purely out of selfishness. I completely agree. I plan on keeping this book and re-reading it every time I need an attitude adjustment. Highly, highly recommend.

[Brooke Fradd · Rating 4 out of 5]

I'm prude through and through, so I found parts of this book embarrassing. That's probably more a commentary of myself, rather than the sections in question.
Taviano doesn't take herself too seriously, which is something I love about her writing style (this book included). She never comes across as holier (or sexier in this case) than thou, but rather a work-in-progress muddling through like the rest of us.
The book's primary theme (sex aside) is selflessness - something I'm prone to buck against. She hits the reader with some challenging material, while maintaining an easy-to-read format.

[Leah Douglas · Rating 4 out of 5]

It's alright. It covers a lot of basics when the stuff I was really interested in only came in the last couple chapters. A lot of her statements about marriage (while I believe they were true in general) were poorly supported when there were lots of Scripture passages she could have at least footnoted. When she did use Scripture, she used The Message, which is just watered down Scripture that could be so much more powerful straight up the way God wrote it. It wasn't a waste of time, but it wasn't something I'd be very quick to recommend either.

[Melissa · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book has been shocking from page one. It takes all of my education in feminism and women's rights and flushes them down the toilet while laughing psychotically. I am on the fence as to weather I agree with the author or not. And I found a part in the book which makes me believe she was raised in a cave and is biased! She thinks sex toys will all cause injury and ADDICTION!!!! MY turn to laugh psychotically!!!!!hahahahahaha!!!

[Julia]

This author understands her husband....his deep emotional needs, and how she can satisfy his emotional needs. Something terrible happens, when a wife rejects her husband sexually. It destroys his manhood. When we reject our husband sexually, we reject the way that God made him. She supports her worldview with biblical scripture.

[Alyssa · Rating 4 out of 5]

Funny. Insightful. Helpful. Great read for all married women.

[Aaron · Rating 2 out of 5]

Read. Done. Checked off. I obtained this book because of the title. It's too heavily influenced by Religion for me. The author includes quotes from Dr. Laura (not high on my list).