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A Submissive's Guide to Your Wants and Needs
Don’t Enter into a D/s Relationship Before You Know What You Need and Want As a submissive, being unsure of what you want and need can lead to incompatibility, hesitation and less fulfilling relationships.
Get the tools you need to figure out what is important to you in a D/s relationship no matter your experience level!
A Submissive’s Guide to Wants and Needs will step you through how to distinguish wants and needs for a more fulfilling life and successful D/s relationships.
What do we cover in this eBook? In this eBook, definitions of wants and needs are broken down into their basic parts so that you can really narrow down what is a priority to you, then explore ways to talk to your partner about your needs.
- Break down why it’s so hard to accept that getting what we need isn’t greedy, selfish or wrong. - Use helpful prompts to uncover your needs. - Pinpoint your essential needs and values that drive you. - Organize and prioritize your wants and needs with the included worksheet. - Explore need deficits and why we often go through life with unmet needs. - Learn how to talk about your wants and needs within a D/s relationship while maintaining a submissive attitude. - Build a working vocabulary for asking for what you want with respect and deference. - Understand what options there are if you still aren’t getting your needs met. Are you ready to start living a more authentic submissive life by accepting and sharing your personal needs and desires?
Get the tools you need to figure out what is important to you in a D/s relationship no matter your experience level!
A Submissive’s Guide to Wants and Needs will step you through how to distinguish wants and needs for a more fulfilling life and successful D/s relationships.
What do we cover in this eBook? In this eBook, definitions of wants and needs are broken down into their basic parts so that you can really narrow down what is a priority to you, then explore ways to talk to your partner about your needs.
- Break down why it’s so hard to accept that getting what we need isn’t greedy, selfish or wrong. - Use helpful prompts to uncover your needs. - Pinpoint your essential needs and values that drive you. - Organize and prioritize your wants and needs with the included worksheet. - Explore need deficits and why we often go through life with unmet needs. - Learn how to talk about your wants and needs within a D/s relationship while maintaining a submissive attitude. - Build a working vocabulary for asking for what you want with respect and deference. - Understand what options there are if you still aren’t getting your needs met. Are you ready to start living a more authentic submissive life by accepting and sharing your personal needs and desires?
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33 pages, Kindle Edition
First published December 12, 2011
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About the author
Luna Carruthers
27 books37 followersHi, I'm lunaKM. I'm an obese, fat, not ashamed of my size submissive with a lot of passion for what I do and how I serve. My Master has taught me to think beyond the basic responses (ie. Why do I serve? "To please him," wouldn't go over well.) and get to the meat of the issues each and every time. I thank him each day for that.
I've been in the active scene since 2003. I explored online before that and found that it just wasn't enough, I needed the real thing.
I met my Master online in a chat room late 2003. He moved from England to be with me in October 2004. We got engaged on Valentine's Day 2010. We were married June 4, 2011.
My Master and I have been together since 2003. We met when we were both new to BDSM so learning has been wonderful. We have the same likes and dislikes which makes pleasing him easier. I received my permanent collar February 2007 and have bloomed and grown so much since then.
I'm a stay at home submissive and totally immersed in the lifestyle as I have no outside or inside interference. (No kids, no close family, no job) This makes for an ideal way for us to live.
I've been in the active scene since 2003. I explored online before that and found that it just wasn't enough, I needed the real thing.
I met my Master online in a chat room late 2003. He moved from England to be with me in October 2004. We got engaged on Valentine's Day 2010. We were married June 4, 2011.
My Master and I have been together since 2003. We met when we were both new to BDSM so learning has been wonderful. We have the same likes and dislikes which makes pleasing him easier. I received my permanent collar February 2007 and have bloomed and grown so much since then.
I'm a stay at home submissive and totally immersed in the lifestyle as I have no outside or inside interference. (No kids, no close family, no job) This makes for an ideal way for us to live.
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April 11, 2025
good read
I appreciate this book as I’m learning how to be a sub before I begin the power exchange relationship. And I hate writing reviews with required number of words.
I appreciate this book as I’m learning how to be a sub before I begin the power exchange relationship. And I hate writing reviews with required number of words.
April 12, 2016
Not very helpful
This book was a gift if you will but I'm not certain that it was helpful at all. I know that there are some that are new to lifestyle and I'm not an expert but this should all be common knowledge for anyone that has gone beyond the idea of thinking about being in a D/s relationship to actually doing it. I did like the exercise of writing down your needs and wants.
This book was a gift if you will but I'm not certain that it was helpful at all. I know that there are some that are new to lifestyle and I'm not an expert but this should all be common knowledge for anyone that has gone beyond the idea of thinking about being in a D/s relationship to actually doing it. I did like the exercise of writing down your needs and wants.
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