Liberal, egalitarian, so I’m not impressed. It isn’t that I disagree with everything in this; in fact, I found myself agreeing with much of what she said. The insight into the hebrew meaning of helper in Genesis (warrior-helper) was nice, but…. This wanes a bit gnostic when we have an entire volume dedicated to super extra special personal insight into all the special aspects of this one key word. Any student of the bible familiarizes themself with key greek and hebrew words, in order to better understand; this is normal. As a memoir, this book is fine if you read it that way (the author has lots of great ministry experience that is heart-warming and encouraging to read!) The problem is, if you read this as some kind of instruction on how to order the church or the household, it is NOT reflective of biblical complementarianism (=male headship in marriage and church eldership) which is problematic.
Here is where I agree with the author: There is indeed a “patriarchy” trend circulating that does not reflect traditional biblical gender roles. Patriarchy promotes male dominance and female subordinance in all aspects of society; patriarchy ideology is wrong because it is adding to scripture! Patriarchy ideology artifically limits female roles in ministry, and in all of society. The author says this is wrong, and anyone who is biblically literate can read that God has ordered the household and the church eldership for male leaders, but that limits women very little in daily functions. Patriarchy ideology seeks to extend this male headship into everything, everywhere, and neglects Galatians 3:28 particularly because it treats women as inferior in all aspects, and effectively ignores the existence of unmarried or childless women (because a true woman is a helper to her husband and homemaker.) Patriarchy ideology also diminishes the priesthood of all believers (PI calls the man the priest of his home, which effectively messages women that her access to God is mostly through her husband. Cringey.) So there is where the author and I agree. The pro-patriarchy response to 3rd wave feminism is just that: a reaction to secular culture. It is NOT a true reflection of what God has commanded in scripture. When PI adds to scripture to make extra rules and holiness codes in order to protect gender roles, they are just being unhinged legalists and putting a yoke of slavery on other believers where God has left them free! So good for her pushing back against that!