Sex and Your Stars: A Sexologist's Guide to the Erotic Energy of the Zodiac

by Stefanie Iris Weiss

A shame-free, sex-positive, no-holds-barred guide to understanding our erotic selves―both gifts and challenges―through astrology

Astrology offers a potent portal to self-inquiry, including the deep terrain of our erotic landscapes. In Sex and Your Stars , clinical sexologist and astrologer Stefanie Iris Weiss invites us to explore our sexual selves―as complex, confounding, and fulfilling as we are―through the lens of astrology.

“So much of what I see in my clinical practice can be addressed when we work through the shame we retain about our sexuality,” Weiss explains. “ Sex and Your Stars will help you dissolve the shame you’re holding on to, no matter where you are in your sexual journey.” Weiss introduces us to each sign, illuminating its core gifts and common challenges. With keen insight, she reveals the many ways we relate to each sign―including as a Sun sign and as a season during the year. Subsequent chapters look at Venus and Mars, as well as explore how to discuss sex, intimacy, and creativity in astrology readings. Weiss supports us in navigating sensitive topics―including libido, sexual function, religious conditioning, and what turns us on. Somatic practices and meditations help us investigate and embody what we learn.

This guide to the elemental, archetypal sexual self can help us understand our erotic desires and relationships in ways we may never have allowed ourselves to consider.

Genres: Astrology, Nonfiction

280 pages, Paperback

Published July 30, 2024

Reviews

[QueenDee · Rating 4 out of 5]

An interesting read for anyone looking into sexaulity in the zodiac signs. It goes in depth about the shadow work and how to better connect with yourself sexually

[Tristan · Rating 4 out of 5]

Absolutely loved finally hearing an experienced sexologist blend her knowledge and practice with astrology. I thought the merging was seamless and informative in a delightful way that made this book such an interesting read.

The only drawback to this book is that the astrology information covered was limited. Anyone well-versed in astrology knows that sex and romance goes way beyond looking just at one or two planets, and with the way modern astrology is trending, just sticking with one very much restricts how much someone can learn about themselves using the stars.

Thank you Netgalley and Sounds True Publishing for the digital ARC!

[Dawn Mabaso · Rating 3 out of 5]

2.5 stars 

Firstly, I would like to extend my gratitude to NetGalley, Stefanie Iris Weiss, and Sounds True Publishing for providing me with an advanced reader copy (ARC) in exchange for an honest review.

I was thrilled when I came across this book, as I believe it's crucial for astrology to reflect society's expanding conversation around sex and sexuality, including those who are disabled or part of the LGBTQ+ community. As a sexologist and astrologer, Weiss seemed like the perfect person to take on this challenge.

Unfortunately, I found that the book fell short of its promise to provide a "revolutionary approach to shedding shame and understanding one's self" due to certain structural and content choices. One issue was the lack of clarity regarding the house system and Weiss's specific school of practice. While I understand that she has learned from various resources and has developed a unique practice, I believe that a book aimed at beginners should clearly outline the basics.

Another challenge was the use of sun sign astrology to understand sexuality. Although I appreciate the effort to make astrology accessible, I believe that using sun signs alone is insufficient to provide the level of detail offered in this book. The lack of consideration for house placements and aspects made the interpretations seem oversimplified and stereotypical.

That being said, there were some positive aspects of the book, such as the journal prompts and shadow work exercises. These elements were able to shine through when not limited by the sun sign placements. Weiss was intentional in making this an inclusive and accessible resource, and I appreciated the effort she made to acknowledge various sexual minorities and remove a lot of the shame people feel about sexual difficulties. I think, if presented as exploration of the different sexual energies and challenges presented by each sign and season, with a short (2 - 3 sentence) delineation of relevant planetary placements- this book would read better.

In conclusion, while I had some reservations about the book's approach to astrology and sexuality, I appreciate the author's intentions and the positive aspects of the book. I would recommend this book to beginners looking to understand how the signs relate to sex omitting the sun sign interpretation and delineations.

[Melissa · Rating 4 out of 5]

As someone who has studied astrology for many years, I enjoyed Sex and Your Stars by Stefanie Iris Weiss.
I appreciate Stefanie's open tone and attitude toward sex and her encouragement to work through past trauma and shame.
In this book, readers may look up their sun sign or the sign of others to learn about the energy and ways to connect. The book also covers embodiment exercises, creativity and gifts, as well as challenges, shadow work, shame, and journal questions, all with a focus on sexuality.
Using the zodiac as a lens to contemplate sexuality is a fun and effective way to bring awareness and healing.
I would like for the book to have covered the rising sign, moon, houses, and aspects. However, I understand the author's decision to make the book accessible to those without prior study or knowledge of astrology.
I hope that through this book, more people discover the wonderful tool of astrology and its benefits!

Thank you to NetGalley, the author and publisher for this eARC.

[Hannah Greenwood · Rating 4 out of 5]

As someone who is actively breaking down the walls that purity culture instilled at an early age, I love learning more about how to be more present in and accepting of my body. When I came across this title on NetGalley, it was a no-brainer for me to read.

Sex and Your Stars is an entertaining and insightful guide to using astrology to better tune in with ourselves intimately. Having never read anything like this before, I loved it! I have a basic understanding of astrology and have recently enjoyed delving into it more, so this book was really fun for me. I kept my own natal chart accessible in another tab as I read this book, so that I could easily reference my Venus, Mars, and Lilith placements. It was also cool to peek at what my partner’s placements revealed about their own mindset, potential struggles, and interests,

Overall this was an informative and enjoyable read! Thank you to NetGalley and the publishers for this ARC to read and review.

[DustyBookSniffers - Nicole · Rating 3 out of 5]

When I got approved for Sex and Your Stars by Stefanie Iris Weiss, I was excited to dive in. I've been looking to broaden my astrology knowledge, so this book immediately intrigued me.

I loved how Weiss, an experienced sexologist, seamlessly blends her expertise in sexology with astrology. The information presented is both informative and accessible, making it easy to understand her insights and objectives.

While I found the book engaging, I would have appreciated some reference pictures, especially in the tarot sections. However, this is more of a personal preference than a necessity.
Overall, I thoroughly enjoyed reading Sex and Your Stars and would recommend it to an adult audience interested in the intersection of astrology and sexology.

Thank you to NetGalley and Sounds True Publishing for providing this book.

[Maddy · Rating 4 out of 5]

Thank you to Netgalley and the publisher for the perfect read if you want to know more about


I really have been into learning about astrology more and this book Sex and Your Stars was an incredibly interesting read. I have been getting into reading more about astrology - Sex and Your Stars was a super fun read and it made me want to read more about myself as a person and I wanted to learn more about my star chart about my whole life. I liked how much this book made me think about all aspects of the book - there were prompts for journaling or thinking in every chapter and I liked how many resources the author gave to help learn more about our star charts.

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[Kassie Rankin · Rating 4 out of 5]

Over the last year or two, I have been trying to learn more about astrology. This book is another perspective I would never have thought to focus on within astrology, but it makes a lot of sense.
I learned more about each of the astrological signs, including their basics and how they influence a person’s sexual needs and wants.
This would be a great book to own physically or as an e-copy to reference at different times. It can be beneficial to learn more about yourself sexually and about future partners.
I also enjoyed that this book felt like there was little to no judgment towards the reader.
Thank you to NetGalley and Sounds True Publishing for the opportunity to read the eArc in exchange for an honest review.

*3.5 Stars*

[Kate Laycoax · Rating 4 out of 5]

I love that this book combines astrology and sex, and how to get the most out of your sex life based on your astrological sign. I do think it's a little narrow with only focusing on someone's sun sign, because I think their moon and rising signs are just as important, but this is a good guide to get your feet wet when it comes to using astrology to improve your sex life. This book is very inclusive, and takes into account the pandemic and what kind of effect that had on everyone. This book is informative, shameless, fun, and most of all, a must read!

Thank you to NetGalley, Stefanie Iris Weiss, and Sounds True Publishing for the eARC of this book.

[Aeriel Halstead · Rating 4 out of 5]

I received this book as part of a Goodreads giveaway. Admittedly, I'm not much into astrology (hearing the bad reactions your whole life about being a Gemini will do that to a girl). But being queer, I still need to be versed in it. I appreciated the social justice lens that she applied, her acknowledgment of intersectional identity, and some of the thoughtful exercises and questions. I'm all for liberation of any kind and I think this would help folx, but especially those who are into astrology, ask meaningful questions about who they are, what feels good to them, and how they can access their pleasure.

[Rachelle · Rating 4 out of 5]

Sex and Your Stars... this book is fascinating! It covers a wide range of signs and identities throughout, mixing and mashing information across the signs where they are relevant. Weiss is an authority and breaks down the Astrology into easy to understand chunks and references how the changing seasons relate to each sign and expectations common to each sign. Recommend this book to anyone looking to become more confident sexually and learn what their partner's sign says about their needs.

[kennsley willow ☽ · Rating 3 out of 5]

i’ll be for real, i pretty much only read the parts pertaining to mine and my boyfriend’s zodiac lol, but it was pretty fun to read about!!

[Araya · Rating 4 out of 5]

Arc Review:
Overall Rating: 4 Stars ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Cover Rating: 3 Stars ⭐️⭐️⭐️

This book combines astrology and sex giving you a guide on how to get the most out of your sex life based on your astrological sign.
This book is shame free, sex positive and pretty inclusive.
Thank you NetGalley and the author for sharing an arc copy of this book with me. I’m leaving this review of my own free will.