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Sovereign Love: A Guide to Healing Relationships by Reclaiming the Masculine and Feminine Within
A new perspective on understanding our inner masculine and feminine energetics as the key to experiencing fulfillment in our partnerships
Does love mean that we “belong” to one another? This idea can sound romantic―but the normalized ownership template most of us were raised with has created some challenging dynamics within our partnerships. “This skewed perspective arises when we’re out of touch with the masculine and feminine energetics within us,” therapist Dené Logan says. “Understanding these energetics and how they work in relationships is the key to ending the unspoken war of the sexes that plays out far too often between intimate partners.”
In Sovereign Love , Logan helps us understand how to integrate the masculine and feminine energetics within so we can move away from the codependent, transactional views of what relationships “should” be, toward an interdependent, mutually balanced state where both partners are present, self-aware, and strong in Self. Combining her personal revelations as a therapist with a modernized perspective on liberating, non-patriarchal relationship models, Logan offers a deep yet approachable guide to greater self-awareness of what has shaped us―and how we can develop balanced, conscious, and loving partnerships.
“By unpacking the historical, cultural, and highly individual reasons why we love the way we do,” she explains, “we can understand our motivations and consciously choose to love in a way that serves our growth, our values, and our personal sovereignty.”
Does love mean that we “belong” to one another? This idea can sound romantic―but the normalized ownership template most of us were raised with has created some challenging dynamics within our partnerships. “This skewed perspective arises when we’re out of touch with the masculine and feminine energetics within us,” therapist Dené Logan says. “Understanding these energetics and how they work in relationships is the key to ending the unspoken war of the sexes that plays out far too often between intimate partners.”
In Sovereign Love , Logan helps us understand how to integrate the masculine and feminine energetics within so we can move away from the codependent, transactional views of what relationships “should” be, toward an interdependent, mutually balanced state where both partners are present, self-aware, and strong in Self. Combining her personal revelations as a therapist with a modernized perspective on liberating, non-patriarchal relationship models, Logan offers a deep yet approachable guide to greater self-awareness of what has shaped us―and how we can develop balanced, conscious, and loving partnerships.
“By unpacking the historical, cultural, and highly individual reasons why we love the way we do,” she explains, “we can understand our motivations and consciously choose to love in a way that serves our growth, our values, and our personal sovereignty.”
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Published May 28, 2024
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July 28, 2024
I don't say this lightly...This is the most meaningful book I have ever read in my life. It has truly shifted the ground I stand on in a way that has me feeling more centered, present, and authentic. Logan lovingly helps the reader reimagine their relationships with others and themselves. She helps all of us remember our true purpose and what it means to be free in love. This book changed me and I know it will continue to be a transformative resource for many others.
July 26, 2024
A must-read. Dené Logan is so brilliant.
I read this book as a recommendation from a friend. Not gonna lie, I was skeptical! The premise of the book seemed traditionalist and outdated. I had heard of ‘healthy masculine energy’ vs ‘healthy feminine energy’ and ‘wounded masculine energy’ vs ‘wounded feminine energy’ before, and it made me roll my eyes. But Dené’s analysis sang to me.
This book found me at the right time. I was puzzled because I continually found myself in collision within my social relationships; My relationship with my boss, my parents, and my partner. I was trying to be open-minded. I wanted to know where the contention was coming from.
I answered a questionnaire to determine my leading energy (feminine vs masculine), and found that I resonated more with divine feminine characteristics. I’ve always been hyper independent and insistent that I know best, but it occurred to me that I wasn’t being honest with myself that I have an innate desire to relinquish some of my control and feel taken care of.
Additionally, I began to understand the source of conflict in my relationships. A huge piece of the puzzle is that I need polarities in my life who display healthy masculine energy: leaders who witness without judgment, hold space for me to be creative and intuitive, and support & encourage me. Authority figures or partners who display wounded masculine energy (reactivity, a need to be right, narcissism) do not allow me to thrive, and in many cases cause me to lash out. It’s not enough to tell me what to do and ‘take control.’ You need to be stable, capable and deserving of my trust.
The above is what resonated with me during my first read-through, but there are a lot of things to be learned from this book. Dené also uses this paradigm to explain attachment styles, patriarchy, and effective leadership. I love her perspective as a black woman who has needed to embody masculinity and femininity in order to survive.
I appreciate that she also gives an alternative framework; You don’t have to think of these principles in terms of masculinity/femininity if that doesn’t resonate with you. You can call it yin and yang, internal vs external, etc. But it’s so helpful to have this framework for what she’s describing so that you can understand what you desire, find alignment in your partnerships, and create authentic companionship without codependency.
This is one that I am definitely going to revisit.
I read this book as a recommendation from a friend. Not gonna lie, I was skeptical! The premise of the book seemed traditionalist and outdated. I had heard of ‘healthy masculine energy’ vs ‘healthy feminine energy’ and ‘wounded masculine energy’ vs ‘wounded feminine energy’ before, and it made me roll my eyes. But Dené’s analysis sang to me.
This book found me at the right time. I was puzzled because I continually found myself in collision within my social relationships; My relationship with my boss, my parents, and my partner. I was trying to be open-minded. I wanted to know where the contention was coming from.
I answered a questionnaire to determine my leading energy (feminine vs masculine), and found that I resonated more with divine feminine characteristics. I’ve always been hyper independent and insistent that I know best, but it occurred to me that I wasn’t being honest with myself that I have an innate desire to relinquish some of my control and feel taken care of.
Additionally, I began to understand the source of conflict in my relationships. A huge piece of the puzzle is that I need polarities in my life who display healthy masculine energy: leaders who witness without judgment, hold space for me to be creative and intuitive, and support & encourage me. Authority figures or partners who display wounded masculine energy (reactivity, a need to be right, narcissism) do not allow me to thrive, and in many cases cause me to lash out. It’s not enough to tell me what to do and ‘take control.’ You need to be stable, capable and deserving of my trust.
The above is what resonated with me during my first read-through, but there are a lot of things to be learned from this book. Dené also uses this paradigm to explain attachment styles, patriarchy, and effective leadership. I love her perspective as a black woman who has needed to embody masculinity and femininity in order to survive.
I appreciate that she also gives an alternative framework; You don’t have to think of these principles in terms of masculinity/femininity if that doesn’t resonate with you. You can call it yin and yang, internal vs external, etc. But it’s so helpful to have this framework for what she’s describing so that you can understand what you desire, find alignment in your partnerships, and create authentic companionship without codependency.
This is one that I am definitely going to revisit.
July 1, 2024
Another great audiobook that brought on a lot of great conversations between me and my family. Dené Logan herself narrates it, so all her points are very eloquently & clearly communicated.
I loved this. It felt like a therapy session in itself reading this book. It brought a lot of challenging ideas and thoughts to mind about how, as individuals, we are inherently attracted to the polarity we find in others because it is a part of ourselves we do not have healthy access to. Masculine and feminine energies are within us all, and various aspects of each appear in us depending on the situation, but it is important to be able to identify whether it is a wounded or healthy aspect of the masculine and feminine - all so that we can communicate better and more authentically, not just to others but to ourselves.
I’m about to go on a tangent here, but even though this book is technically mostly about healing relationships between couples, I love that Dené brings home the fact that we, as humanity, are at a focal point of our history where we must ask ourselves: “Evolve or die?” Will we connect with the healthy masculine in us of creating a safe & peaceful environment, diminishing the wounded masculine of destruction & distance from the cold reality of our planet’s slow but inevitable obliteration? Will we connect with the healthy feminine in us of leading with intuition & authenticity, minimising the wounded feminine of manipulation & desperation? The answer, of course, is entirely up to us.
I loved this. It felt like a therapy session in itself reading this book. It brought a lot of challenging ideas and thoughts to mind about how, as individuals, we are inherently attracted to the polarity we find in others because it is a part of ourselves we do not have healthy access to. Masculine and feminine energies are within us all, and various aspects of each appear in us depending on the situation, but it is important to be able to identify whether it is a wounded or healthy aspect of the masculine and feminine - all so that we can communicate better and more authentically, not just to others but to ourselves.
I’m about to go on a tangent here, but even though this book is technically mostly about healing relationships between couples, I love that Dené brings home the fact that we, as humanity, are at a focal point of our history where we must ask ourselves: “Evolve or die?” Will we connect with the healthy masculine in us of creating a safe & peaceful environment, diminishing the wounded masculine of destruction & distance from the cold reality of our planet’s slow but inevitable obliteration? Will we connect with the healthy feminine in us of leading with intuition & authenticity, minimising the wounded feminine of manipulation & desperation? The answer, of course, is entirely up to us.
September 16, 2024
Some good points but could have really used tighter focus. I understand that these ideas could be applicable to a lot of areas in our lives, but it felt like a stretch to apply them to capitalism. Further, the spiritual messages and quotes, while I don't disagree with them, felt misplaced and a bit distracting from the main topics. Also, I wish there were more practical takeaways/tangible techniques. I get the main points, I just think the approach/writing could have been more focused and practical.
August 31, 2024
This is another example of how much there is to learn from someone who solidly commits to a certain perspective that is different from my own. I really wish masculine and feminine were not utilized to describe human tendencies that exist within all of us but the author does a great job of acknowledging what might be problematic about her commitments to do so and then exploring the consequences (positive and negative) of that stance. I appreciate that the book focuses gendered polarities as internal work for each of us which is closer to how I would describe my personal interest in taking turns and in cultivating all the human/spiritual capacities that have been identified as “masculine” and “feminine.” I can appreciate how the grounding and frame the author chooses would make her an amazing couples therapist.
5 […] wholehearted, satiating kind of love that is rooted in self-awareness and interdependence.
7 […] at its core, attempting to love another person is a process of healing. […] when and if you decide to partner with another, you’re bringing an authentic sense of Self to the union.
15. And while I think codependency is certainly just as prevalent a behavior pattern in men as it is for women, the particular configuration of pressures placed upon women make the nuances of how we heal from codependency a bit more gender-specific. <>
19 Personally, I love working with couples. Mostly because I don’t believe the goal of couples therapy should be salvaging a relationship between two people. To me, the work is more about supporting people in living the most authentic, beautiful lives they possibly can – even if that means the dissolution of their relationship. […] And I’ve found that holding the work in this way allows me to bring a lot more presence into couples work. Presence that I might not have if the main goal were attempting to save the relationship.
22 […] I’m attempting to articulate how patriarchal wounding causes us to defend against connecting with one another.
23 I have come to believe the key to having more fulfilling relationships (both with ourselves and everyone around us), is understanding the ways we’ve been conditioned to self-abandon. […] Interdependence is the relational practice of harmonizing our ability to be present in intimate connection with another person, while maintaining relationship with ourselves as an autonomous “other.”
[…] We heal a little more in every moment that reminds us that we are never alone. […] continue cultivating and rediscovering the sensation of eros for much longer than our current structure of romantic love allows for.
24 Interdependence is about understanding where our own patterns originated, questioning whether or not they’re still serving us, and then asking what might be another way of seeing each situation – so that we can stay in relationship to others, while taking 100 percent responsibility for what is within our control – ourselves.
39 I will not stop describing these polarities in the context of masculine and feminine energy, because I believe we cannot heal what we cannot name.
62 […] view our lives through the lens of our Soul. We start asking of life’s most difficult moments “What has this moment come to teach me?” instead of “Why is this happening to me?”
63-4 A healing response to feeling insecure would be for us to do some re-parenting work in the moment – or as I like to think of it from a masculine/feminine dynamics perspective, to allow our healthy masculine energy to hold space for our wounded feminine. This containing energy becomes our way of reminding ourselves that we have our own back; that we are seen, appreciated, and valued by ourselves; and that there’s nothing we ever have to do in this life to be worthy of love.
80. We have been operating within a wounded masculine paradigm of love and relationships for a very long time. This paradigm causes us to cling to a sense of security, doing what seems to make the most logical sense, even when we’ve lost our connection to our innate nature and feeling fully alive.
101 But before we can release a pattern to make space for the next iteration of who we are meant to become, it becomes really important to honor the place this survival strategy held in our lives while it was here.
102. […] one of my absolute favorite therapeutic inquiries: what else could be true?
181 There is power in reclaiming how we hold our most difficult moments. Instead of seeing them as horrific events that never should have happened, we can work to view them as initiatory periods, guiding us back home to a more authentic version of who we are. […] If we make the sole focus how each of them could more effectively empathize with the other’s experience, we miss the larger synchronistic unfolding of why each of them are offering the other a perfect container for what they need to heal. […]
There is a dichotomy that exists within the heart of the feminine. […] This dichotomy is the desire to feel both held and free in relationship.
--
VII Maya Angelou poem
19 Model minority
26 couples therapy and patriarchy
28 defenses gendered
29 erotic polarity (but why as masc/fem?)
30-1, 39 she describes reasons to. Transcend/throw out masc/fem labels but decides not to
41 wounded masc & fem
43 imagination—James Hillman
45 disappointments
47, 49 abandonment, shame
50-52 over functioning/invisible labor/resentment
54 do partners meet each other’s needs?
77,78 why we want security
81 child-rearing: wounded masc/fem -> need external mother/father figure
114 original wounding: spiritual/psychological
115, 124, 179 response to wound
146-7, 156 women’s training re trust (or not) w/men and impact on ind relationships
148 why again does it matter that we identify psycho-spiritual tendencies re emotional habits as masc or feminine?
149, 158-9 different allowable expressions and costs
150, 155 sex, porn & emotional processing
162-5 her descry of healthy polarity
166-7 auth. masc & capitalism
172, 175-6 addictive tendencies
184-5 “nice guys” and healthy polarity
192-4 not compromise, curiosity.
195, 198, 200 polarity: nothing to do w/ gender
207-9, 218 codependence -> healthy polarity
213 joy/fun
5 […] wholehearted, satiating kind of love that is rooted in self-awareness and interdependence.
7 […] at its core, attempting to love another person is a process of healing. […] when and if you decide to partner with another, you’re bringing an authentic sense of Self to the union.
15. And while I think codependency is certainly just as prevalent a behavior pattern in men as it is for women, the particular configuration of pressures placed upon women make the nuances of how we heal from codependency a bit more gender-specific. <>
19 Personally, I love working with couples. Mostly because I don’t believe the goal of couples therapy should be salvaging a relationship between two people. To me, the work is more about supporting people in living the most authentic, beautiful lives they possibly can – even if that means the dissolution of their relationship. […] And I’ve found that holding the work in this way allows me to bring a lot more presence into couples work. Presence that I might not have if the main goal were attempting to save the relationship.
22 […] I’m attempting to articulate how patriarchal wounding causes us to defend against connecting with one another.
23 I have come to believe the key to having more fulfilling relationships (both with ourselves and everyone around us), is understanding the ways we’ve been conditioned to self-abandon. […] Interdependence is the relational practice of harmonizing our ability to be present in intimate connection with another person, while maintaining relationship with ourselves as an autonomous “other.”
[…] We heal a little more in every moment that reminds us that we are never alone. […] continue cultivating and rediscovering the sensation of eros for much longer than our current structure of romantic love allows for.
24 Interdependence is about understanding where our own patterns originated, questioning whether or not they’re still serving us, and then asking what might be another way of seeing each situation – so that we can stay in relationship to others, while taking 100 percent responsibility for what is within our control – ourselves.
39 I will not stop describing these polarities in the context of masculine and feminine energy, because I believe we cannot heal what we cannot name.
62 […] view our lives through the lens of our Soul. We start asking of life’s most difficult moments “What has this moment come to teach me?” instead of “Why is this happening to me?”
63-4 A healing response to feeling insecure would be for us to do some re-parenting work in the moment – or as I like to think of it from a masculine/feminine dynamics perspective, to allow our healthy masculine energy to hold space for our wounded feminine. This containing energy becomes our way of reminding ourselves that we have our own back; that we are seen, appreciated, and valued by ourselves; and that there’s nothing we ever have to do in this life to be worthy of love.
80. We have been operating within a wounded masculine paradigm of love and relationships for a very long time. This paradigm causes us to cling to a sense of security, doing what seems to make the most logical sense, even when we’ve lost our connection to our innate nature and feeling fully alive.
101 But before we can release a pattern to make space for the next iteration of who we are meant to become, it becomes really important to honor the place this survival strategy held in our lives while it was here.
102. […] one of my absolute favorite therapeutic inquiries: what else could be true?
181 There is power in reclaiming how we hold our most difficult moments. Instead of seeing them as horrific events that never should have happened, we can work to view them as initiatory periods, guiding us back home to a more authentic version of who we are. […] If we make the sole focus how each of them could more effectively empathize with the other’s experience, we miss the larger synchronistic unfolding of why each of them are offering the other a perfect container for what they need to heal. […]
There is a dichotomy that exists within the heart of the feminine. […] This dichotomy is the desire to feel both held and free in relationship.
--
VII Maya Angelou poem
19 Model minority
26 couples therapy and patriarchy
28 defenses gendered
29 erotic polarity (but why as masc/fem?)
30-1, 39 she describes reasons to. Transcend/throw out masc/fem labels but decides not to
41 wounded masc & fem
43 imagination—James Hillman
45 disappointments
47, 49 abandonment, shame
50-52 over functioning/invisible labor/resentment
54 do partners meet each other’s needs?
77,78 why we want security
81 child-rearing: wounded masc/fem -> need external mother/father figure
114 original wounding: spiritual/psychological
115, 124, 179 response to wound
146-7, 156 women’s training re trust (or not) w/men and impact on ind relationships
148 why again does it matter that we identify psycho-spiritual tendencies re emotional habits as masc or feminine?
149, 158-9 different allowable expressions and costs
150, 155 sex, porn & emotional processing
162-5 her descry of healthy polarity
166-7 auth. masc & capitalism
172, 175-6 addictive tendencies
184-5 “nice guys” and healthy polarity
192-4 not compromise, curiosity.
195, 198, 200 polarity: nothing to do w/ gender
207-9, 218 codependence -> healthy polarity
213 joy/fun
August 28, 2024
Oh my god, read this if you have ever had a challenging relationship with any other person ever in your life 😭 Some sobbing in public involved
May 22, 2025
Beautiful book and I love the examples the author gave! It’s clear she is very knowledgeable about couples and the human experience. I think the book could’ve been organized a little better but overall loved it!
August 24, 2024
Delves into the complexities of self-abandonment and the wounded dynamics between masculine and feminine energies - though provoking discourse that challenges conventional ideals of successful partnerships and explores the deeper purpose of relationships in our lives
Notes:
- (women are raised to objectify themselves and stifle their voice in exchange for belonging --> women are taught to disconnect with their own healthy masculine energy (health masc = creating sense of internal safety, staying present without a goal) --> women feel compelled to seek external safety, people please in order to maintain attachments, show up inauthentically in relationships, and manipulate others to get their needs met --> women are in their wounded feminine (lack of safety and powerlessness) [p.92, The Dance of Eros]
- a wounded masculine lens tries to fix things and misses the 'sacred nature' of what's happening between two people in relational conflict...the healthy feminine lens holds that each person is being birthed into the next iteration of who they're meant to become [p.181, Reclaiming the Feminine]
- when you're struggling, GO INTO YOUR DIAGONAL (HEALTHY POLAR) ENERGY (see very bottom)
Quotes:
- "when we resist seeing how a partnership isn't supporting our ability to love and honor ourselves well, the universe will often remove that person from our lives in what can feel like a harsh way" [p.123, The Dance of Eros]
- "if our soul's work in this lifetime is to experience situations, pain points, and relationships that teach us specific lessons that bring us back into alignment with the highest version of who we are, is it really another person's responsibility to fill us up with a sense of wholeness if that's not how we authentically feel about ourselves? And what resources are they using to do that work for themselves, if they're constantly pouring into someone else's cup? even if they are able to pour energy into our cup, filling us with the energetic assurance, support, and positive reinforcement that we desire, what happens to us when they can't? when they don't have the capacity, or feel depleted, or their life pulls them in a direction that's no longer in alignment with us?" [p.126 The Dance of Eros]
- "we've been taught that emotional intimacy looks like each partner releasing difficult feelings onto the other without working to cultivate a sense of self-awareness, or considering the other person's capacity to hold what we are bringing to them" (p.165, Reclaiming the Masculine)
Definitions from Dené:
HEALTH MASC:
- creates safety
-witnesses without judgement. present without a goal / agendaless
- guides
- listens deeply, supportive, encouraging
-faces fears/knows death
-seeks mentorship/humble
-reflective
-peaceful, grounded
-responds instead of reacts
WOUNDED MASC:
-aggressive
-stuck in mind/not present
-cold and distant
-competitive, bullying, has to be right, reactive, fear of failure
-struggles to communicate needs, ignores emotions
-narcissistic
-tends to fix
-avoidant attachment
HEALTHY FEM:
-intuitive, fluid, heart centered, surrenders
-loving, connecting
-playful, expressive, compassionate
-sensual, affectionate
-connected to nature
-RECEIVES
-trusting
WOUNDED FEM:
-irrational, desperate, needy, manipulative
-seeks external validation
-fears loss, seeks external safety
-anxious attachment
-lack of boundaries
-projects emotions onto others
- inauthentic, people pleasing
-chases/obsesses over love
-critical
-victim mindset
Notes:
- (women are raised to objectify themselves and stifle their voice in exchange for belonging --> women are taught to disconnect with their own healthy masculine energy (health masc = creating sense of internal safety, staying present without a goal) --> women feel compelled to seek external safety, people please in order to maintain attachments, show up inauthentically in relationships, and manipulate others to get their needs met --> women are in their wounded feminine (lack of safety and powerlessness) [p.92, The Dance of Eros]
- a wounded masculine lens tries to fix things and misses the 'sacred nature' of what's happening between two people in relational conflict...the healthy feminine lens holds that each person is being birthed into the next iteration of who they're meant to become [p.181, Reclaiming the Feminine]
- when you're struggling, GO INTO YOUR DIAGONAL (HEALTHY POLAR) ENERGY (see very bottom)
Quotes:
- "when we resist seeing how a partnership isn't supporting our ability to love and honor ourselves well, the universe will often remove that person from our lives in what can feel like a harsh way" [p.123, The Dance of Eros]
- "if our soul's work in this lifetime is to experience situations, pain points, and relationships that teach us specific lessons that bring us back into alignment with the highest version of who we are, is it really another person's responsibility to fill us up with a sense of wholeness if that's not how we authentically feel about ourselves? And what resources are they using to do that work for themselves, if they're constantly pouring into someone else's cup? even if they are able to pour energy into our cup, filling us with the energetic assurance, support, and positive reinforcement that we desire, what happens to us when they can't? when they don't have the capacity, or feel depleted, or their life pulls them in a direction that's no longer in alignment with us?" [p.126 The Dance of Eros]
- "we've been taught that emotional intimacy looks like each partner releasing difficult feelings onto the other without working to cultivate a sense of self-awareness, or considering the other person's capacity to hold what we are bringing to them" (p.165, Reclaiming the Masculine)
Definitions from Dené:
HEALTH MASC:
- creates safety
-witnesses without judgement. present without a goal / agendaless
- guides
- listens deeply, supportive, encouraging
-faces fears/knows death
-seeks mentorship/humble
-reflective
-peaceful, grounded
-responds instead of reacts
WOUNDED MASC:
-aggressive
-stuck in mind/not present
-cold and distant
-competitive, bullying, has to be right, reactive, fear of failure
-struggles to communicate needs, ignores emotions
-narcissistic
-tends to fix
-avoidant attachment
HEALTHY FEM:
-intuitive, fluid, heart centered, surrenders
-loving, connecting
-playful, expressive, compassionate
-sensual, affectionate
-connected to nature
-RECEIVES
-trusting
WOUNDED FEM:
-irrational, desperate, needy, manipulative
-seeks external validation
-fears loss, seeks external safety
-anxious attachment
-lack of boundaries
-projects emotions onto others
- inauthentic, people pleasing
-chases/obsesses over love
-critical
-victim mindset
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July 18, 2024
This book is so smart. So challenging. So nurturing. So vulnerable. So deeply researched and presented. My book is dog-eared to death - it will make you think and challenge your conventions about your relationships, provoking profound thinking and conversations. Highly recommend.
March 22, 2024
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This book is very informative in regards to different relationship issues for both men and women. It gives alot of insight as to what women and men experience due to society and culture. There's some parts of this book where I feel as if the author is stretching their point a bit too much in their examples of their points.
This book is very informative in regards to different relationship issues for both men and women. It gives alot of insight as to what women and men experience due to society and culture. There's some parts of this book where I feel as if the author is stretching their point a bit too much in their examples of their points.
July 2, 2025
I really loved this exploration of the masculine and feminine - in relationships and inside each of us. I feel the author provides a very timely message for all of us to get more in touch with these divine aspects of ourselves, in order to heal and create a world where masculine and feminine are both celebrated and begin to complement each other again.
July 7, 2025
Kind of like a low yield mine. You have to dig through a lot of dirt and rocks to get to a few nuggets and veins. I would have loved to give this a three start but realistically, there are many books that provide this information, or better information, without having to dig through so much of the authors own biases.
July 26, 2025
An absolutely stunning, beautifully written book. I wanted to start it again as soon as I finished it. I will definitely read this again soon. So many chapters encouraged my own introspection and encouraged me to think deeply about how I have and am showing up in relationship to others and myself. Brava! I’ll be recommending this book to the people in my life.
August 13, 2024
I love the book like I love Dene’ Logan. She knows how to articulate exactly how I’m feeling or have felt into words. This book is a masterpiece. I took my time to read and digest it. I’m looking forward to her next book! Congratulations!
September 12, 2024
I love Dene Logan’s approach. She takes the Jungian concepts of the anima/animus (masculine and feminine) and makes it feel completely modern and accessible. It’s one of those books that introduces concepts that once you see, you’ll never be able to unsee.
October 21, 2024
3.5 stars. Felt like an amalgamation of other thought leaders rather than being an original thought leader -
Brene Brown, Rumí, Rev Michael Beckwith, Wayne Dyer, Abraham Hicks, etc. I’d say this is a good “step one” book for your personal journey, but I didn’t agree with everything proposed.
Brene Brown, Rumí, Rev Michael Beckwith, Wayne Dyer, Abraham Hicks, etc. I’d say this is a good “step one” book for your personal journey, but I didn’t agree with everything proposed.
December 21, 2024
This book has enlightened and deepened my understanding of the feminine and masculine. There were so many points of clarity with the counseling scenarios. I felt seen and understood. I’ll add Sovereign Love to the short list of books that have made a life changing impact. Exceptional read!!
January 21, 2025
The author of this book is a Jungian couples therapist and though it is interesting, it is very deep. She explains the masculine and the feminine traits in both men and women and how to be your true self in relationships.
January 28, 2025
The key to understanding healthy relationships with yourself and others. If you're into self development and growth, relationship dynamics, unconditional love and if you have the capacity to take in the principles explored in this book around masculine & feminine energy - read this book.
March 18, 2025
This book was phenomenal. Anyone who reads this would learn more about themself and how they relate to their closest loved ones. Whether this is your first or 30th book you’ve read to reflect on how you relate you will benefit from this perspective.
September 22, 2025
An enlightening book ! I found myself nodding and almost highlighting around 80% of the book. I recommend it to everyone curious about how the feminine and masculine energies shaped us , our relationships and our society . A must read
November 21, 2025
I was skeptical at first. the beginning felt a little too woo woo. but she ultimately captures misunderstandings about toxic masculinity and oppression against feminine energy and how this impacts dynamics in relationships and self love.
June 5, 2024
A great summary of the importance of healthy polarity in relationships.
September 15, 2024
This book is not for men, I had a longer review but I wanted to be kind.
October 12, 2024
Very New Age, and not as direct as I would have personally preferred.
Did find clarity and learned new ways of thinking in the passages regarding the ego and the ego mind.
3/5 stars ⭐️⭐️⭐️
Did find clarity and learned new ways of thinking in the passages regarding the ego and the ego mind.
3/5 stars ⭐️⭐️⭐️
December 27, 2024
I have read quite a few "self help" books. This is one of the few that I have felt engaging and thought provoking. Adding to my reread list because I am sure I missed some while I pondered. 4.4/5
January 8, 2025
One of my top favorite reads of all time!
March 7, 2025
One of the best self help books!
April 11, 2025
This book blew my mind. Read it.
June 28, 2025
This is one of the best books iv read. Dene has given me the language for so many things iv felt but could explain. A powerful read and enlightening.
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