Lori's Lies and Family Ties: Healing from the Tylee and J.J. Tragedy

by Rex Conner, Adam Cox

Amazon Bestseller

Are you struggling with loss and grief? Do you feel betrayed by someone who claimed to love you? This book may be just what you need to begin your healing process.Adam Cox and Rex Conner, the brother and uncle of Lori Daybell, have had their family torn apart by Lori's lies, which ultimately cost at least four innocent people their lives.Just a few short months before the killing started, Lori spoke casually with Adam in her kitchen one day, but what she told him frightened him to his core.“I don’t have to eat ever again,” Lori said, her gaze locked on Adam, “and if you shoot me, the bullet won’t hurt me. My body has almost completed the process of becoming immortal.”So begins the often bizarre, almost unbelievable tale of Lori Daybell, as told by two of the people who know her Adam Cox and Rex Conner. What follows is the hauntingly tragic account of Lori Daybell's transformation from loving sister, daughter, niece, wife, and mother to murderous manipulator. Throughout the book, Adam weaves together stories about growing up with Lori. He then takes the reader through her four marriages and three divorces, as Lori welcomes her children into her heart and homes. Adam identifies several behaviors and patterns that may offer insight into Lori's actions and her beliefs. Uncle Rex offers wisdom as he seeks to answer the WHY would anyone commit such travesties? and HOW could someone become so estranged from her own internal guidance system that she can't hear it at all.Ultimately this is a book about healing. It is about the process of finding grace and meaning by sharing and normalizing stories of pain and despair. It is about recognizing silver linings as precious gifts. It is about celebrating the redeeming love of friendship and community.

182 pages, Kindle Edition

Published November 1, 2023

Reviews

[Tina · Rating 4 out of 5]

When I first started this book, I didn't even realize it was written by Lori's brother.

An interesting look from the inside. Adam writes his story in a clear way, staying away from gossip and emotional ups and downs. I did think it worked up to a point.

The even leveled tone is appreciated, but towards the middle, it starts to sound almost robotic. I know he must have been walking a very difficult line between giving us the facts while remembering his love for the children. In fact, his emotions only really come out when he talks about those poor kids.

How horrible to have lived through this, and I give him props for his honesty.

[Dr. Vonda Kaye VanDyke-Swartz · Rating 5 out of 5]

One of the best books I have ever read

You won’t regret read Adam and Rex’s account as they walked through this trial. I know many people will be helped by these powerful people and their words.

[Susan Parker · Rating 4 out of 5]

An insider look at the tragic events in the Chad Daybell and Lori Vallow Daybell murderous activity. Told by the brother and also the uncle of Lori they outline the family dynamics leading to the horrendous end to many lives.

[Belle S · Rating 2 out of 5]

While I appreciated the book’s intent, I found the content less insightful than I had hoped. Most of this story as well as the personal anecdotes shared were already familiar to me, as I’ve watched most of the available coverage of the case, including Adam’s interviews. I was expecting more comprehensive insights into Lori’s mind - particularly from the perspective of someone who grew up with her - but that depth was largely missing. Although the book is brief, it often felt rambling and unfocused. I hope that writing it was a healing experience for both authors; however, for me personally, it lacked the depth and introspection I was looking for.