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The Red Flags I've (Repeatedly) Ignored: Love, Lust, + Lessons
Brianna McCabe, a marketing professional and professor, emerged from her treacherous 20s with enough lessons about love to fill a book. So she decided to write one. After all, she couldn't keep all that she learned to herself.
In this semi-autobiographical (ish) self-help book, Brianna puts herself on the line in the hopes of cracking the code on sex, love, and relationships, but instead learns what it means to actually love herself. She navigates the dating scene-eliminating potential boyfriends one red flag at a time-and shares all of her funny, raw, and real details with readers along the way.
McCabe's soul-baring book, The Red Flags I've (Repeatedly) Ignored, explores the relationship danger signs that she failed to see. Well, maybe sometimes she did notice some red flags, but she ended up disregarding her gut instincts that told her to flee the person or situation, anyway... but why?
McCabe digs deep in this semi-autobiographical (ish)-meets-self-help book to understand her own choices that led to heart aching and breaking by answering some critical questions - and further providing an action plan for not just herself, but readers along her self-exploratory journey.
McCabe wrote this book to heal from her own wounds, such as abandonment and "daddy issues," being bullied as a child for being overweight, feeling insecure and only attracting men who further exacerbated her insecurities, and growing up in a dysfunctional environment for a period of her life. Initially, she struggled to understand the roots of her insecurities. However, as she develops a greater understanding of herself, McCabe has learned to not only heal, but to build upon her unique strengths. By offering a self-love roadmap to readers through The Red Flags I've Repeatedly Ignored, she hopes to inspire others to do the same.
McCabe eventually learns that to first enjoy the comforting embrace of a romantic lover, you must first embrace your own true self. Join McCabe, her friends, her family members and, yes, her lovers as she navigates this almost universally tumultuous decade with compassion and humor. She turns raunchy rendezvous, roller coaster relationships, and rock-bottom moments into real revelations.
In this semi-autobiographical (ish) self-help book, Brianna puts herself on the line in the hopes of cracking the code on sex, love, and relationships, but instead learns what it means to actually love herself. She navigates the dating scene-eliminating potential boyfriends one red flag at a time-and shares all of her funny, raw, and real details with readers along the way.
McCabe's soul-baring book, The Red Flags I've (Repeatedly) Ignored, explores the relationship danger signs that she failed to see. Well, maybe sometimes she did notice some red flags, but she ended up disregarding her gut instincts that told her to flee the person or situation, anyway... but why?
McCabe digs deep in this semi-autobiographical (ish)-meets-self-help book to understand her own choices that led to heart aching and breaking by answering some critical questions - and further providing an action plan for not just herself, but readers along her self-exploratory journey.
McCabe wrote this book to heal from her own wounds, such as abandonment and "daddy issues," being bullied as a child for being overweight, feeling insecure and only attracting men who further exacerbated her insecurities, and growing up in a dysfunctional environment for a period of her life. Initially, she struggled to understand the roots of her insecurities. However, as she develops a greater understanding of herself, McCabe has learned to not only heal, but to build upon her unique strengths. By offering a self-love roadmap to readers through The Red Flags I've Repeatedly Ignored, she hopes to inspire others to do the same.
McCabe eventually learns that to first enjoy the comforting embrace of a romantic lover, you must first embrace your own true self. Join McCabe, her friends, her family members and, yes, her lovers as she navigates this almost universally tumultuous decade with compassion and humor. She turns raunchy rendezvous, roller coaster relationships, and rock-bottom moments into real revelations.
345 pages, Kindle Edition
First published April 19, 2023
13 people are currently reading
248 people want to read
About the author
Brianna McCabe
4 books6 followersBrianna McCabe, MBA, is a marketing professional, professor, author and podcast/segment host with a quirky vibe, wholesome heart, electric personality, comforting smile, inquisitive mind and old soul. She is a driven, well-rounded woman who is committed to maneuvering life with kindness, passion and balance.
Brianna graduated from Monmouth University, NJ, with a Master of Business Administration in 2019 and Bachelor’s in Journalism/Public Relations in 2015.
Her book, "The Red Flags I’ve (Repeatedly) Ignored," is a semi-autobiographical (ish) meets self-help book published by Inspired Girl Publishing Group. To purchase a copy of "The Red Flags I've (Repeatedly) Ignored," visit thebriannamccabe.com/bookdrop.
Visit thebriannamccabe.com to learn more. Connect with Brianna at contact@thebriannamccabe.com.
Follow Brianna on social media: @thebriannamccabe
Brianna graduated from Monmouth University, NJ, with a Master of Business Administration in 2019 and Bachelor’s in Journalism/Public Relations in 2015.
Her book, "The Red Flags I’ve (Repeatedly) Ignored," is a semi-autobiographical (ish) meets self-help book published by Inspired Girl Publishing Group. To purchase a copy of "The Red Flags I've (Repeatedly) Ignored," visit thebriannamccabe.com/bookdrop.
Visit thebriannamccabe.com to learn more. Connect with Brianna at contact@thebriannamccabe.com.
Follow Brianna on social media: @thebriannamccabe
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April 27, 2023
I was at the airport coming home from vacation after being in another country for a week, suffering from Montezuma's Revenge, when I received a USPS notification that this book was delivered. Somehow, just knowing I could dive into this book when I got home turned my shitty (literally and figuratively) day 10,000x better.
That being said, I read this book in one day. Brianna/Bri/Professor McCabe writes so eloquently and passionately that I didn't want to put the book down. Where was this book when I was in high school because I've definitely dealt with some of these red flags in prior romantic rendezvous?!?
The book itself: it's beautiful. Large print, hardcover, a cute theme of pinks/reds/maroons, high quality pages, and the page design and layout is *chef's kiss* 😙👌🏼They say to not judge a book by its cover but I would totally pick this up at the book store.
The Red Flags I've Repeatedly Ignored made me guffaw, cry, gasp, and empathize with the millions of people who have similar stories to tell. There were some chapters that made me say, "girl, same!" I even texted one of my friends to ask about one of her relationships with a guy in tech because the chapter "The Guy with the Girlfriend" sounded oddly familiar. She replied, "omg can you imagine if we were dating the same guy at the same time?"
To Brianna: thank you for creating a book full of eye-opening and helpful information, telling us of your trauma and emotions and how you are healing/have healed from them, making me go through a rollercoaster of emotions, and effectively communicating your thoughts during your experiences through your brilliant choice of references that us millennials would get. It just makes me want to give you a hug. I hope you find your Robbie Hart, your Bobby Boucher, Jr., your Billy Madison, your Longfellow Deeds, your Happy Gilmore --- your Adam Sandler one day. ❤️
Don't hesitate to read this book!
That being said, I read this book in one day. Brianna/Bri/Professor McCabe writes so eloquently and passionately that I didn't want to put the book down. Where was this book when I was in high school because I've definitely dealt with some of these red flags in prior romantic rendezvous?!?
The book itself: it's beautiful. Large print, hardcover, a cute theme of pinks/reds/maroons, high quality pages, and the page design and layout is *chef's kiss* 😙👌🏼They say to not judge a book by its cover but I would totally pick this up at the book store.
The Red Flags I've Repeatedly Ignored made me guffaw, cry, gasp, and empathize with the millions of people who have similar stories to tell. There were some chapters that made me say, "girl, same!" I even texted one of my friends to ask about one of her relationships with a guy in tech because the chapter "The Guy with the Girlfriend" sounded oddly familiar. She replied, "omg can you imagine if we were dating the same guy at the same time?"
To Brianna: thank you for creating a book full of eye-opening and helpful information, telling us of your trauma and emotions and how you are healing/have healed from them, making me go through a rollercoaster of emotions, and effectively communicating your thoughts during your experiences through your brilliant choice of references that us millennials would get. It just makes me want to give you a hug. I hope you find your Robbie Hart, your Bobby Boucher, Jr., your Billy Madison, your Longfellow Deeds, your Happy Gilmore --- your Adam Sandler one day. ❤️
Don't hesitate to read this book!
April 25, 2023
To order a copy of the book visit thebriannamccabe.com/bookdrop ❤️🫶
May 17, 2023
Wow, I could not put this book down! Bri tells her heart wrenching stories so beautifully that I found myself on the edge of my seat needing to know what happens next in each chapter. She uses her experiences to teach and make readers think about their own relationships, boundaries, red flags and much more. So much respect and love for Bri!
July 7, 2023
Brianna put her soul out for all to explore for those to learn from her life lessons, the good, the bad, and the absolutely hysterical. Her unfiltered honesty made all the situations as well as characters completely relatable. As friends we knew each other and by the end of the book I felt like I truly understood her on a deeper level.
Throughout the book there are times where she shares what her present thoughts were, what she had learned from it, and what her boundaries will be moving forward. I found these sections most impressive, as inward reflection is often difficult to face, much less share.
These moments also allowed me to reflect on how I would be in that situation, and who I would want to be. Having been in many of these situations, after reading this, I can accept that sometimes I was charging up the hill, red flag in hand. Any book that we learn and grow from is a MUST read.
As a long time reader of self development books I can say this is not by any means the most traditional but by far the most relatable for both women and men. We have all been in these places before, and unlike ignoring it, or using a positive affirmation, or a systematic process; Bri shares the most important things of all, the EXPERIENCE and GROWTH. It's rare that someone can take their trials and tribulations and present it in her authentic self. Cant wait to see what next.
Throughout the book there are times where she shares what her present thoughts were, what she had learned from it, and what her boundaries will be moving forward. I found these sections most impressive, as inward reflection is often difficult to face, much less share.
These moments also allowed me to reflect on how I would be in that situation, and who I would want to be. Having been in many of these situations, after reading this, I can accept that sometimes I was charging up the hill, red flag in hand. Any book that we learn and grow from is a MUST read.
As a long time reader of self development books I can say this is not by any means the most traditional but by far the most relatable for both women and men. We have all been in these places before, and unlike ignoring it, or using a positive affirmation, or a systematic process; Bri shares the most important things of all, the EXPERIENCE and GROWTH. It's rare that someone can take their trials and tribulations and present it in her authentic self. Cant wait to see what next.
April 27, 2023
Brianna takes you through a rollercoaster of emotions as you follow along her journey in dating and life experiences. I laughed, I cried, but most importantly I just couldn’t put the book down and didn’t want to stop reading. The Red Flags I’ve (Repeatedly) Ignored was the perfect balance of humor and raw emotion, and allows the reader to question their own experiences with dating and red flags they may have experienced. I think anyone who has dated in this decade can relate to Brianna’s experiences and journey towards self-love.
As a huge added bonus, this book is GORGEOUS. It is a super high-quality hardcover with beautiful design throughout the entire book.
As a huge added bonus, this book is GORGEOUS. It is a super high-quality hardcover with beautiful design throughout the entire book.
April 29, 2023
This book will make you laugh and this book will make you cry! Read this book if you wanna be touched. Read this book if you need a relatable story. Sometimes we just allow too much from a walking red flag. And how that ultimately shines a light on our own red flags within ourself! A true self-reflection/self-help book with playful humor and touching perspectives. If you want to learn how to create healthy boundaries, give this a good read and take note! AMAZING Writer!
April 27, 2023
A true look into the real world. McCabe was able to help us dive deep into our inner selves to learn to find peace. Not a typical self help book, it felt as if you were reading a novel that mirrored so many things that have happened to women (actually, people in general) all around the world, at any age. Pick up this book. Read this book. Learn from this book. Pass it on. It’s a game changer 💕
April 25, 2023
WOW! This book was absolutely incredible and taught me so much about myself. I laughed, I cried, and most important I forgave myself for a lot. Brianna McCabe is funny as hell and clever while offering real life lessons in self love.
August 27, 2023
Wow! This book is everything you’re looking for in a book!
Brianna makes you laugh while learning all about the walking red flags she’s met along the way! This is one of the most relatable books I’ve ever read and would recommend to literally all of the women I know!
Brianna makes you laugh while learning all about the walking red flags she’s met along the way! This is one of the most relatable books I’ve ever read and would recommend to literally all of the women I know!
January 18, 2025
Brianna came to my sorority house and gave a presentation to us about self love. Her story was moving and it perfect especially since I was going through a bad breakup and a toxic situation too. This book taught me so much and I love it.
December 29, 2025
Respect for this woman who set out to collect all possible red flags so we would not have to. At times, the author's attitude has exasperated me, but I appreciate the difficult exercise of writing about dark chapters in your life so that others can learn from them.
July 9, 2023
Brianna perfectly articulated her vulnerability and raw emotions throughout this book. It’s heart tugging, relatable and sometimes humorous all at the same time. This is a MUST read!!
August 17, 2023
This book had me laughing right away! We have all seen and ignored plenty of red flags in our lives. Reading someone elses experiences allows us all to see we are not alone and there is hope!
May 20, 2024
“The red flags I’ve repeatedly ignored” is a rollercoaster of emotions in all the best ways. From laughing to crying, this book is truly entertaining from start to finish. 10/10 recommend!
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