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Extending Forgiveness
Is forgiveness possible even when there is no restitution and no
remorse on the part of the perpetrator? Is forgiveness possible
when your pain and loss seem unbearable and the perpetrator
appears to suffer no consequence? Bestselling author Virginia H.
Pearce declares, “We always have a choice when we are wounded.
We can pass the pain on or return it. Or we can metabolize it
and treat others differently than we’ve been treated.” Using real life
examples and stories from the scriptures, she reveals that the
greatest wounds we inflict are often those we have no idea that
we are inflicting. But when we forgive others, we mirror God’s
mercy to us.
remorse on the part of the perpetrator? Is forgiveness possible
when your pain and loss seem unbearable and the perpetrator
appears to suffer no consequence? Bestselling author Virginia H.
Pearce declares, “We always have a choice when we are wounded.
We can pass the pain on or return it. Or we can metabolize it
and treat others differently than we’ve been treated.” Using real life
examples and stories from the scriptures, she reveals that the
greatest wounds we inflict are often those we have no idea that
we are inflicting. But when we forgive others, we mirror God’s
mercy to us.
48 pages, Kindle Edition
First published August 1, 2013
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August 7, 2013
"Think about it for a minute. None of us can be everything to everybody. We all have to let those around us have a chance to forgive us for being ourselves...Our expectations about the way people should behave create unforgiving feelings, and with those unforgiving feelings we start to shut our hearts off so that we can't feel love for those people, we can't feel their love for us, and we certainly can't feel the Lord's love for us in the same way we had before. We would do well to remember that none of us is who the Lord wants us to be-not yet. Think about His expectations for us. Is He unforgiving because we don't meet them yet? He's giving us time, isn't He? He grants us the time and space to grow and forgive us along the way as we fall short."
I have a confession...forgiveness is not one of my strong suits. I have to really, really try to let things go. Most of the time I eventually do forgive and forget. It is just a special gift that some people naturally have while the rest of us have to learn! This book is all about that process. It is about learning that we aren't the ones who should pass judgement! I am loving these Time Out for Women classics!
"Keep a place in your heart for forgiveness, and when it comes, welcome it in. It may not be tomorrow; it may not be in three years; it may take longer, but keep that place in your heart and welcome forgiveness in when it comes."
I have a confession...forgiveness is not one of my strong suits. I have to really, really try to let things go. Most of the time I eventually do forgive and forget. It is just a special gift that some people naturally have while the rest of us have to learn! This book is all about that process. It is about learning that we aren't the ones who should pass judgement! I am loving these Time Out for Women classics!
"Keep a place in your heart for forgiveness, and when it comes, welcome it in. It may not be tomorrow; it may not be in three years; it may take longer, but keep that place in your heart and welcome forgiveness in when it comes."
September 16, 2016
Short and sweet, part of a balanced and nutritious breakfast. Sharing three stories of forgiveness, one scriptural and two from experience, Pearce gives gems of wisdom with plenty of meme-ready pictures. As valuable as anything else is the bibliography, which is a great place to start for anyone who wants to dig in to the topic on a deeper level. Forgiveness is between us and the Lord, not us and a wrong-doer.
September 21, 2013
Forgiveness...we all want it....
So why do we struggle to extend it?
Filled with tender stories about those who have mastered the art of forgiving...even for just one time.
This book will show you that forgiveness is in the miracle of the atonement..."this is what Christ can do that we cannot do on our own."
Forgiveness is more about our relationship with the Lord than it is with the one who hurt us.
A beautiful book to be read and re-read.
A beautiful book to be cherished and shared.
"Keep a place in your heart for forgiveness, and when it comes, welcome it in."
So why do we struggle to extend it?
Filled with tender stories about those who have mastered the art of forgiving...even for just one time.
This book will show you that forgiveness is in the miracle of the atonement..."this is what Christ can do that we cannot do on our own."
Forgiveness is more about our relationship with the Lord than it is with the one who hurt us.
A beautiful book to be read and re-read.
A beautiful book to be cherished and shared.
"Keep a place in your heart for forgiveness, and when it comes, welcome it in."
August 15, 2013
Extending Forgiveness is a beautiful message of how to more fully incorporate forgiveness into a life. Virginia H. Pearce has struck a chord by pointing out that as members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints we honestly want to forgive but often are lost how to fully forgive or the implications of it. Sister Pearce wonderfully illustrates with personal stories and stories from the scriptures how to seek to forgive and what it can mean for us.
September 3, 2017
Fun, easy, small, quick read. I am liking Virginia Pearce more with each new book of hers that I read. I great reminder that we have to forgive everyone, if we want to gain exaltation. There is no exception. The Lord will have a humble, forgiving people. Yes, we can take the time that is needed to be forgiving, but eventually it is required to forgive all men. This is a great little book to help us in that process.
August 12, 2013
I loved this little book on forgiveness. One of the quotes that I loved from the book: Gratitude flips the switch that allows us to see the good. Each of us has had to forgive someone in our life, big or small. Sometimes it takes ten minutes, sometimes it might take three years or longer.
February 25, 2015
This talk by Sister Pearce gives a person a lot to think about. She helps give a great understanding of how forgiveness can be a long process, but a worthy cause to work toward. It helps the person who needs to forgive, much more than it helps the person who did something to be forgiven of.
February 16, 2017
This is a very short but well worth it read! Just what I needed.
October 18, 2024
Though priced like a full-length book, this is only 48 pages. I was hoping for an in-depth evaluation of what it means to forgive and how to go about it especially in difficult situations where the offense was profound and life-altering. Instead, the author refers to other people's experiences with forgiveness in a cursory way that suggests forgiveness just happens like magic when you want to forgive and enough time passes. While that may be true, it isn't particularly helpful. The author also uses manipulative language, inserting "isn't it?" at the end of her sentences, and her counsel seems to be directed at squabbling women who unnecessarily take offense. There are some good general authority quotes and scriptures included; however, they were not sufficient to save this book for me. Virginia Hinckley Pearce is President Gordon B. Hinckley's daughter and a former member of the YW General Presidency from the 90's. I am certain she is a lovely person, and if you are easily offended and have difficulty getting along with other women, this may be the book for you.
April 28, 2025
Short but thought-provoking
Super short read comprised of a few stories and comments on lessons learned from them, but with some powerful truths about forgiveness and developing a forgiving heart.
Very interested in the idea of metabolizing pain rather than passing it on. Opened something new for me to study on.
Super short read comprised of a few stories and comments on lessons learned from them, but with some powerful truths about forgiveness and developing a forgiving heart.
Very interested in the idea of metabolizing pain rather than passing it on. Opened something new for me to study on.
January 2, 2019
We have to learn to forgive others for being themselves. This taught me not to have expectations for what a friend should be, or how my child should act, but learn to accept all where they are and offer my love unconditionally.
December 5, 2022
This was probably a talk that was published in book format. It’s only 34 e-pages long with lots of white space and pictures quotes. It’s not the deep dive I was wanting into the subject, and there are some points that feel underdeveloped and can read trite, but there a couple authentic nuggets.
July 9, 2021
Great little read on forgiveness!
December 24, 2022
What does it really mean to be forgiving or to have a forgiving heart? Insightful little read this.
April 21, 2024
- although filled with great information, I was left wanting much more because it was so short
- it's a thoughtful guide on forgiveness with 3 stories in it
- it's a thoughtful guide on forgiveness with 3 stories in it
November 3, 2021
Such a great book. The title says it all. I recommend everyone that can read you need to read this book if you haven’t yet.
May 18, 2016
Very, very short! (It's about 40 pages in length and some of them are nothing but pictures.) I finished this book in about 30 minutes. I'm fairly sure that it is based off of a talk that Sister Pearce gave at Time Out For Women. I enjoyed the book and the points that she made. That being said, I'm not sure that the price tag matches up with the product.
October 30, 2013
This is just a short little book, I think it was a talk given by Virginia Pearce. It was all about forgiveness. It was a great reminder. Well said.
November 3, 2013
I love this author! This is short book, you can read it in a hour or less. It opened my mind to identify ways I have forgiven and an attitude of forgiveness I still need to work on.
December 29, 2014
good stuff.
February 25, 2014
For the price, I was expecting a bit more substance. Some nice faith promoting pictures but I read the book in about 20-30 minutes.
May 5, 2015
You will read this book in one sitting. I loved her ideas on "how to" forgive. I actually read it twice in one day. A fantastic read!
September 9, 2015
What a great little read! This book made me want to be a better person, I felt the spirit and desire to forgive those whom I hold ill feelings toward. Everyone should read this!
April 3, 2016
Can you read too many books on forgiveness? I appreciated her insights and perspective.
July 18, 2016
Good read for everyone about forgiveness in many forms. Forgiving others gives an individual a peace of mind and greater happiness in their lives. It's really to help you.
October 15, 2019
I checked this out from the library in ebook form so I didn’t realize it was a short pamphlet until I downloaded it. Very briefly covers a topic I’ve been studying lately.
February 16, 2021
It was fine. I don’t even remember how I required the book. Better left as a talk.
January 5, 2022
FANTASTIC! I loved this book to the moon and back!
December 27, 2013
Everyone should read this book! The message is so simple, true and powerful for each of us.
March 29, 2015
I felt the spirit of a loving Heavenly Father as I read this talk.
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