Review/Personal insights ahead: I’ll be up front. This was a very hard book for me to read. I long ago decided, arbitrarily and with the mind of a teenager and then a (unintentionally) delusional adult that my past, including my childhood, through college, had absolutely no bearing on my current life, thought, mood, proclivities, etcetera.
This seems immensely foolish. Yet even a short time ago I would have fought tooth and nail to defend that belief. (Just ask my wife). This began to change after I read Hillbilly Elegy by J. D. Vance. That opened the door, the tiniest crack, to the idea that maybe, just maybe, something hadn’t been ‘normal’ or ‘average’ about my life. Ironically, it wasn’t in nursing school, (where low socioeconomic status seemed to be a prime predictor of social, substance abuse, crime, health problems and psychological problems) where I learned this. It was through more books like ‘The Deepest Well’ by Nadine Harris, MD, and now by this book, Mindsight, by Daniel Siegel.
I admit body scanning, insight meditation, attachment theories, and mindfulness sound dreadfully ‘new age’ to me, but given how DEEPLY UNSETTLING these books are to me, if nothing else, is opening my eyes to where I might have been going wrong all these years.
Thank you for those of you who prodded, poked, or cajoled me into reading more about this. I think I need to, and I think I’m convincing myself that I need to even though I have an IMMENSE unconscious aversion to reading about it.