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Gatekeeper: The Tactical Guide to Commitment
Romantic commitment is the most consequential investment a man can make. It affects every facet of our lives — from how much money we make, to how long and how happily we live. And the women to whom we offer our commitment are the recipients of our greatest gift.
Why, then, do so many of us devote ourselves to women who drive us crazy, or even ruin our lives? And why do we repeat malfunctioning relationship patterns that damage our happiness, our health, and our productivity?
At a time when cynicism toward romance is at an all-time high, Gatekeeper offers a counterintuitive message of hope for raise your standards. Transcend the history and habits that foster unworkable commitments.
A better life is never free. It takes work. But maybe it’s time to expect more from ourselves, from our relationships, and from the women in our lives. Gatekeeper is the roadmap for any man starting out, starting over, or simply looking to improve his relationships with women. If commitment is our greatest investment, then our relationships should be among our most powerful assets.
Why, then, do so many of us devote ourselves to women who drive us crazy, or even ruin our lives? And why do we repeat malfunctioning relationship patterns that damage our happiness, our health, and our productivity?
At a time when cynicism toward romance is at an all-time high, Gatekeeper offers a counterintuitive message of hope for raise your standards. Transcend the history and habits that foster unworkable commitments.
A better life is never free. It takes work. But maybe it’s time to expect more from ourselves, from our relationships, and from the women in our lives. Gatekeeper is the roadmap for any man starting out, starting over, or simply looking to improve his relationships with women. If commitment is our greatest investment, then our relationships should be among our most powerful assets.
- GenresRelationshipsNonfiction
354 pages, Kindle Edition
Published September 1, 2023
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April 24, 2024
Similar to his other works, but worth the reminder. I find Smith's approach to dating to be wise, and well thought out. I hope I can embody his wisdom moving forward.
"Healthy couples rely on reward more than punishment. They express gratitude and affection. They give to each other simply because it feels rewarding to do so."
"When we accept responsibility for our romantic choices, we grant ourselves the freedom to have standards. We give ourselves the power and the duty to reject arrangements that bring misery and chaos."
"Few men are taught the skills to assess the costs and benefits of a romantic investment."
"Healthy couples rely on reward more than punishment. They express gratitude and affection. They give to each other simply because it feels rewarding to do so."
"When we accept responsibility for our romantic choices, we grant ourselves the freedom to have standards. We give ourselves the power and the duty to reject arrangements that bring misery and chaos."
"Few men are taught the skills to assess the costs and benefits of a romantic investment."
January 20, 2024
“Gatekeeper: one who guards and controls access.”
The need to “gate keep” something implies that it is valuable, and therefore needs to be protected from being wasted, abused, or exploited. Men and women both MUST recognize that their romantic investment is extremely valuable and therefore must be protected and handled carefully.
Unfortunately many successful, strong men with a sense of duty and a desire to take care of families and significant others miss the mark when they make romantic choices. Self sacrificing, honorable men often make the mistake of not recognizing the value of their own romantic investment, and therefore not being good gatekeepers for themselves or anyone else.
Dr Shawn will change the way you think, and allow you to ask yourself: “how will my romantic investment affect and serve my values, purpose, and long term well being?” So you don’t unknowingly lose yourself in high cost, atrocious romantic commitments.
But this book is more than a simple call for men to take charge of themselves. It offers practical tools with examples that will resonate, illustrating the conflicts within yourself that you will have to face based on “organizing principles” that you may have been previously unaware of. And he will give you practical steps to change and act in a manner that better serves you and your loved ones.
Out of all of Shawn’s work, this one is his best. Buy it on every medium possible. Listen to it and read it several times. Become a better gatekeeper, and learn to better protect and honor yourself, the woman you love, and the gift of your relationship.
- Paul Benjamin
The need to “gate keep” something implies that it is valuable, and therefore needs to be protected from being wasted, abused, or exploited. Men and women both MUST recognize that their romantic investment is extremely valuable and therefore must be protected and handled carefully.
Unfortunately many successful, strong men with a sense of duty and a desire to take care of families and significant others miss the mark when they make romantic choices. Self sacrificing, honorable men often make the mistake of not recognizing the value of their own romantic investment, and therefore not being good gatekeepers for themselves or anyone else.
Dr Shawn will change the way you think, and allow you to ask yourself: “how will my romantic investment affect and serve my values, purpose, and long term well being?” So you don’t unknowingly lose yourself in high cost, atrocious romantic commitments.
But this book is more than a simple call for men to take charge of themselves. It offers practical tools with examples that will resonate, illustrating the conflicts within yourself that you will have to face based on “organizing principles” that you may have been previously unaware of. And he will give you practical steps to change and act in a manner that better serves you and your loved ones.
Out of all of Shawn’s work, this one is his best. Buy it on every medium possible. Listen to it and read it several times. Become a better gatekeeper, and learn to better protect and honor yourself, the woman you love, and the gift of your relationship.
- Paul Benjamin
August 4, 2024
I liked his previous book “The Tactical Guide to Women” so much that I wanted to pick another one. But all-in-all the previous was better, more general. This one had too much specific stories. But of course a good one also. A good book to go through when You’ve found a woman and want to confirm that she’d be a good for many years to come.
May 20, 2024
Highly insightful, during some moments in which I needed to analyse my relationships. Something I'd refer back to during relationship struggles and general maintenance.
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