Going to use this book to help my Ethics Bowl students articulate a moral framework (desparely need in times such as these)
P.xiii The reciprocity in caring relations is not contractual; that is, we do not expect the cared-for to balance the relation by doing what the one-caring (or carer) does. In equal relations, we do expect that, under appropriate conditions, the parties will exchange places as carer and cared-for. The world is not divided into carers and cared-fors as separate and permanent classes. We are all inevitably cared-fors at many times and, ideally, most of us are carers.
P.xiv … the ethic of care is not about moral credit. It is about moral life and what makes it possible. The contributions of the cared-for sustain us in our attempts to care.
…Today, in a world shaken by the violence of nations and groups whose acts are “justified” by the principles they espouse, an ethic of care is even more important and ultimately reasonable. Our efforts should be directed to transforming the conditions that make caring difficult or impossible. .
… We often justify our acts, especially those that cause harm, by claiming adherence to a recognized moral principle
P.xv Caring-for is the direct face-to-face attempt to respond to the needs of a cared-for. It uses the response of the cared-for in monitoring and shaping what it does to meet these needs…. In contrast to caring-for, caring-about is characterized by some distance. It moves us from the face-to-face world of direct responsibility into the wider public realm.
P.5 We want to be moral in order to remain in the caring relation and to enhance the ideal of ourselves as one-caring
Wherever there is a principle, there is implied its exception and, too often, principles function to separate us from each other. We may become dangerously self-righteous when we perceive ourselves as holding a precious principle not held by the other. The other may then be devalued and treated “differently.” Our ethic of caring will not permit this to happen. We recognize that in fear, anger, or hatred we will treat the other differently, but this treatment is never conducted ethically.
P.6 The philosopher who begins with a supremely free consciousness– an aloneness and emptiness at the heart of existence– identifies anguish as the basic human affect. But our view , rooted as it is in relation, identifies joy as a basic human affect .
P.13 Undergoing conflict is another risk of caring, and we shall consider a variety of possible conflicts.
P.16 As I think about how I feel when I care, about what my frame of mind is, I see that my caring is always characterized by a move away from myself.
P.18 Many of us think that it is not only possible to care for everyone but morally obligatory that we should do so. We can, in a sense that will need elaboration, “care about” everyone; that is, we can maintain an internal state of readiness to try to care for whoever crosses our path. But this is different fro the the caring-for to which we refer when we use the word “caring.”
P.19 Gabriel Marcel characterizes this attitude in terms of “disposability (disponibilite), the readiness to bestow and spend oneself and make oneself available, and its contrary, indisposability.
P.24 To care is to act not by fixed rule but by affection and regard
To act as one-caring, then, is to act with special regard for the particular person in a concrete situation. We act not to achieve for ourselves a commendation but to protect or enhance the welfare of the cared-for
P.33 I have claimed that the one-caring is engrossed in the other. But this engrossment is not completely characterized as emotional feeling. There is a characteristic and appropriate mode of consciousness in caring.
P.38 Can I be free of guilt? I do not think it is possible. Paul Tillich describes the anxiety of guilt as ontological. It transcends the subjective and objective. It isa constant threat in caring. In caring, I am turned both outward (toward the other) and inward ( my engrossment may be reflected upon); when caring fails, I feel its loss.
P.39 The risk of guilt is present in all caring. But its likelihood is greater in caring that is sustained over time.
P.40 Martin Buber says: “Love is responsibility of an I for a Thou: in this consists what cannot consist in any feeling.” Caring, too, although it is not necessarily accompanied by love, is partly responsibility fo the other– for the cared-for
P.43 Kierkegaard interprets Abraham’s action as supra-ethical, that is, as the actio of an individual who is justified by his connection to God, the absolute. For him, as for us, the individual is higher than the universal, but for him that “higher” status is derived from “absolute duty toward God.” Hence a paradox is produced. Out of duty to God, we may be required to do to our neighbor what is ethically forbidden.
P.55 I am suggesting strongly that we have no ethical responsibility to cooperate with law or government when it attempts to involve us in unethical procedures. Spying, infiltration, entrapment, betrayal are all anathema to one-caring, and she cannot justify them on the basis of principle.
P.95 But there is another difficulty in answering the request for justification. Consideration of problems of justification requires us to concentrate on moral judgments, on moral statements…..
For an ethic of caring, the problem of justification is not concentrated upon justified action in general. We are not “justified” – we are obligated– to do what is required to maintain and enhance caring. We must justify “not-caring”; that is, we must explain why, in the interest of caring for ourselves as ethical selves or in the interest of others for whom we care, we may behave as ones-not-caring toward this particular other.
P.99 An ethic of caring is a tough ethic. It does not separate self and other in caring, although, of course, it identifies the special contribution of the one-caring and the cared-for in caring. In contrast to some forms of agapism, for example, it has no problem in advocating a deep and steady caring for self.
P.101 My concern is for the ethical ideal, for my own ethical ideal and for whatever part of it others in my community may share. Ideally, another human being should be able to request, with expectation of positive response , my help and comfort.
P.115 The perceived lack of alternative induces minimal ethical functioning under the diminished ideal. The ethical agent accepts responsibility; it is she who is, personally, committed to caring. Built on perceived autonomy cooperating with one form of natural feeling , her ethic treasures both the natural feeling that it seeks to preserve and the autonomy by which it is embraced. When the one-caring is driven to the point where she perceives only one solution, and that in opposition to the enhanced ideal, she is badly shaken and, in extreme cases, broken… There can be no greater evil, then, than this: that the moral autonomy of the one-caring be so shattered that she acts against her commitment to care.
But this evil is not An Evil sustained by cosmic forces and just waiting to trap the weak and unwary. It is created by individual human beings making conscious choices. When one intentionally rejects the impulse to care and deliberately turns her back on th ethical, she is evil, and this evil cannot be redeemed. Sarte also says that “ evil cannot be redeemed,” and I think he is pointing to the same thing– that evil is chosen by the evil one as good is chosen by the good.
P.117 Cruelty and harsh judgment are not strangers to religion. Further, the frequent insistence on obedience to rules and adherence to ritual contributes to the erosion of genuine caring.
P.123 Nothing is more important in nurturing the ethical ideal than attribution and explication of the best possible motive. The one-caring holds out to the child a vision of this lovely self actualized or nearly actualized.
P.133 Those, like Sartre, whose ontology posits a lonely emptiness trying to actualize itself, a consciousness forever subject to some object, see anguish as the inevitable accompaniment of our realization of our aloneness– of our essential freedom to choose ourselves and our world.
P.139 In Sartre’s view this switch from the externally oriented control of rational, instrumental thinking represents a “degradation of consciousness.” If I cannot achieve my goal in the instrumental world, I create a magical world to replace that of instrumentalities.
P.141 …in our framework, consciousness does not resist the call to duality. It seeks relatedness; it is not reduced or degraded by the other’s subjectness. We cannot escape responsibility, but that responsibility is always shared. Consciousness may, then, take on an explicit attitude of openness; that is, consciousness may make a commitment to give over the control that is always in its power to other forms of subjectivity.
P.145 receptive joy occurs when we are engaged as though possessed– when we are caught up in a relation. We may have ceased manipulative activity and fallen quiet; we are listening. We are not trying so much to produce a particular product or answer as we are trying to understand, to see.
P.150 The caring relation, in particular, requires engrossment and motivational displacement on the part of the one-caring and a form of responsiveness or reciprocity on the part of the cared-for