I am fascinated by the impact of technology on our lives, and especially that of social media, which is probably why I was drawn to the book in the first place. But reading the book left me rather a bit confused than truly enlightened.
In my opinion, the writer shouldn't have bothered to ask the question whether 'social media hinders the production of the standard good consequences of friendship'. Although I must agree that social media can negatively influence friendships in certain situations, I believe most friendships are maintained through face-to-face contact and we don't use social media primarily to maintain our friendships. Thus, its benefits (gaining pleasure, self-knowledge and self-development) aren't impeded by social media. It's toxicity can be attributed to the constant comparing we do because of it, which the book rightfully claims is making us feel lonely and isolated. Why not focus more on these negative effects on our well-being that are much more harmful?
I probably could've saved myself some time by looking more closely at the title of the book, but now that I bought it and read it I might as well say that the author's focus on friendship and social media feels odd. I believe it isn't friendship that is affected most by technology. This may vary depending on the extent to which social media are used by people to maintain friendships. There are undoubtedly friendships that started and being maintained online, but I'm bound to believe these are in the minority.
I'm not saying the author said anything inherently wrong, in fact it included some interesting remarks about how social media prevents us from having intimate connections since it impedes empathy, for example. Also, it does a good job at explaining what friendship entails and how it benefits our lives. However, I think social media doesn't stand in the way of achieving this as long as we don't completely maintain our friendships through social media, which doesn't seem to be the case for me and many others anyway. 🤷♂️