Redefine success based on who you are and what you value with this indispensable guide from the authors of The Pursuit of Excellence and Surrender the Outcome.
People love to keep score. Managers keep score of a range of business market share, revenue, profit margin, growth rate. In our personal lives, social media has us keeping score by likes and followers.
These external scores are outcome-driven and serve as proof of our success—money, fame, material possessions, wins—but this constant chase for more validation often leaves us feeling exhausted and empty.
In The Score That Matters, Ryan Hawk and Brook Cupps show that the internal score is what matters most—it reveals whether we are living in alignment with our purpose and values. It also measures how we are leading ourselves and others, prompting us Differentiate between the two scoreboards that run our lifeUse our fear as fuelAvoid the poison of comparisonEmbrace the mundanity of excellenceRegulate our emotional thermostatCreate a mentality for attacking adversity Offering both descriptive and prescriptive advice and anecdotes, The Score That Matters will help you unlock true fulfillment and happiness by discovering your purpose, identifying your values, and creating critical behaviors and living them faithfully every day in all aspects of your life.
So this is Spencer’s book that I took haha. But it was written by his coach, Brook cupps and AJ hawks brother, Ryan hawk! Cool to see Coach Cupps’s way of thinking and his style of leadership. He reminds me of Coach Dobson and I think their great coaching is shown in the teams’ successes.
Many years ago, I started studying the writings of Coach John Wooden, HOF basketball player and coach, 10 times NCAA champion coach and famous Hoosier. His definition of success: "Success is the peace of mind which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you did your best to become the best that you are capable of becoming." became a guiding force in my leadership and parenting.
So when I recently started reading Ryan Hawk and Brook Cupps new book The SCORE That Matters, I couldn't help but imagine that Coach Wooden would not only appreciate this book but probably would have been honored to write the forward for it.
In this book Ryan and Brook focus on our Internal Scoreboards vs External Scoreboards. By this they mean, are you going to evaluate your success by the internal drivers vs the opinions of others on your performance. Throughout the book, the authors share stories from their own careers and break down the various components of how you build a Internal Scoreboard life.
At the end of each chapter, they include a Take Action section where they prescribe two exercises where you can take stock of how you can better define and take actions on the topic of that chapter. These are simple yet powerful exercises that allow you the opportunity to take a hard and honest look at yourself, your approaches and your success and see how you can move towards the Internal Scoreboard.
If you are a leader, want to be a leader, or are a parent, you NEED to read this book. Ryan and Brook can help you crystalize who you want to be and craft the focus on building the peace of mind that comes from doing the best YOU are capable of doing every day.
Providing a different viewpoint on success and happiness...
Ryan Hawk and Brook Cupps' "The Score That Matters" provides a different viewpoint on accomplishment and fulfillment. This smart book questions traditional accomplishment measurements, focusing on internal alignment with one's purpose and beliefs rather than external validations. Hawk and Cupps make a persuasive case for valuing human development and true leadership over superficial measurements of success. They offer real tactics for overcoming anxiety, avoiding comparison, and embracing the sometimes unsung path to success. The authors' approach to emotional regulation and resilience in the face of hardship deepens their philosophy. "The Score That Matters" is a useful guide for individuals seeking genuine contentment in both their personal and professional life since it emphasizes the necessity of living according to one's principles. Highly recommended.
The world today offers a concept of success that can be quite entangled with other paths, leading to a constant search for external approval instead of recognizing that the sense of success should be more focused on the individual and their level of satisfaction. By reading The Score That Matters, I embarked on a journey to redefine success by rediscovering myself through the practical advice the author provides. After finishing the book, I realized it is also a personal growth journey. I now prioritize my internal scores, try to avoid comparing myself to others, and embrace doing what I want. I explore new things to learn more about myself and how far I can go, recognizing that the scores that matter are related to how I feel. Focusing on myself before pursuing what I want is very fulfilling. I have learned about my desires, my beliefs, and what I want for my life. If you want to be successful, read this book and give yourself the chance to be your own scorekeeper.
Thought provoking, interesting, useful, inspirational, and well developed are some of the many words that I would use to describe this amazing book. The author made an incredible job delving into topics such as success using the traditional metrics. Also, I loved how this book challenged the common perceptions of achievement and switched from focusing on external validation and conventional definitions, to more meaningful and lasting accomplishments. One of the things that made this book stand out from others is the way in which the author's narrative made the book more motivational, encouraging us as readers to take a step back and made us think of what success really means. Overall, this book offers inspiration and practical tools to create a more fulfilling definition of success. It’s an ideal read for anyone looking for balance, personal growth, and long lasting impact.
A must read When it comes to useful and life-changing books, I believe that “The Score that Matters” can be considered as one of them. Ryan Hawk and Brook Cupps have penned a detailed guide that will enlighten people to lead their own life by finding life’s purpose. Sometimes, it’s hard to find it but after reading it, for sure, it can be easy to achieve anything. The internal part of a person is what matters and helps to identify values and shape people’s lives. Here, readers will learn how to control their emotions, to use their fears as fuel and to embrace diversity. It’s a well-developed and explained book since Ryan and Brook give a variety of anecdotes to help readers grasp the nitty-gritty of it and start applying it. I found it very interesting and I definitely recommend it.
I feel my purpose has a new meaning after reading this book. I have not changed the purpose of my life, rather I have reaffirmed it and clarified my life’s values and objectives by reading this amazing book. Redefining the notion of success is something really powerful and at the same time challenging for everyone, and these authors have done an amazing job, through this internal scoreboard that is presented. Talking about that this score is the one we keep for ourselves, both internally and externally, and how these two should align with our values. When you accept and are conscious about this, you can lead your life differently and be an example for others, as it is happening to me. Don’t hesitate to read this book, it will be a guide that will change your life and help you clarify your purpose and reaffirm your values.
In 265 pages, in an easy to understand and easy to read way, the authors of the book make us reflect on what should really be important to us. It leads us to confront our reality and to think about what we are basing our success on. With examples and exercises at the end of each chapter which are very easy to do, we realize that nothing is further from reality to base our success on the number of followers we can have on social networks for fame or money. The real success is in our values, principles, beliefs and how we can apply them in our lives and in our dealings with others and in different areas of our personal development. It is a book that from the moment you start reading until the end makes you reflect on what our life is like, how we want it to be and how to achieve it.
I fully agree with Ryan Hawk and Brook Cupps when they refer to what is really important in our lives. If we are thinking about self-esteem and personal growth, it is assumed that we all know how we should live our lives, but it is very important to know how to differentiate between what helps us grow and become better versus everything that destroys us and makes us look weak to others but especially to ourselves. We must learn not to live according to what others think, especially those who are not part of our closest circle. Something that is also very important is that we cannot lose sight of being guided by our values and always assert them above anything else. Within those values mentioned by the authors, there is one which is very important to me, as I believe it is highly needed in today's world: gratitude.
Great read for anyone who wishes to be a better leader
Several years ago, I was introduced to Ryan Hawk when he was a guest on a podcast that I listened to weekly. I really enjoyed what he had to offer in that episode so I listened to one of his episodes of The Learning Leader podcast. At the end of that first episode, I subscribed.
Over the years Ryan has invested in my leadership development through his podcast and introducing me to other incredible leaders like Brook Cupps who push me to pursue excellence. This book draws from first hand experience of a championship-winning coach and an avid learner (and successful salesperson). It was chock full of actionable and relatable content that will make you a better learner. Don’t miss it.
I really liked The Score that Matters because this book will definitely help you be better, happier and more productive. The narrative inspires excellence in oneself, and the best thing about the book is that it is very dynamic since each chapter ends with an objective and a task to reinforce what has been read. The activities are very practical, and helped me strengthen my life purpose through self-awareness and a growth mindset. I learned from reading that before leading others, we must first lead and know ourselves, and always have beginner's thinking to be open to learning new things. I recommend this book if you want to learn about different leadership perspectives always oriented toward personal growth.
This book offers a fresh perspective on a fascinating topic. “The Score That Matters” helps readers unlock happiness in a unique way. Let me say that this guide is quite thought-provoking since it invites readers to reflect on their own lives and values. It often happens that human beings spend their lives asking themselves whether they are basing their personal experiences on their beliefs or acting in accordance with their values and purposes. The narrative is absolutely catching and easy to follow, making it an agile read to be enjoyed at any time of the day. The exercises proposed in its pages provide the reader with an accompaniment so that they can put into practice everything they have learned.
I really enjoyed this amazing book! I believe this book is written for everyone, no matter where you live, where you are in life, and what you do. Now a days, we somehow have given ourselves value depending on how many likes or followers we have but life is much more than that and there are other things that matter much more. This book will help the reader see beyond that number and that basic trend of today. A thing I really liked from this book is that after each chapter, a sort of assignment follows that chapter to reinforce it and help the reader better understand it. The purpose of this book in my opinion, is to lead the reader to greatness and success and I highly recommend it!
The world evolves and human beings live more comfortably, but despite this, we are not happier. Obviously, we are looking for happiness in the wrong place. More often we look for achievements, goals, and scores that do not compensate for the emptiness that some situations make us feel. That's why authors Hawk and Cupps share with readers tools to see if we live aligned with their purpose and values. I think books like this one should be in any reader's library, because they make a difference, since they do not try to make them the best or the first in what they do, but rather they help readers to be focused on their goal, without harming those next to them, without comparing themselves and mainly prioritizing the values, which we often forget very often. I certainly recommend this book.
This author is too clear about what is really important today. The book, more than teaching us, reminds us that internal validations, even if we don't notice it, are what should be the engine of our goals and our biggest dreams. The book wakes us up, because it makes us see that we live so dependent on the metrics imposed by society in order to fit in and measure our success. But have you ever thought about what success really is? Through super interesting anecdotes, the author gives us the best guidelines to grow but from within, not competing with anyone but with yourself, reevaluate your standards and your life models to achieve fulfillment in your own development. I was completely enthusiastic about this book.
Ok, so this book on it's content merit was GREAT! It references several books I've also read or listened to as of late, sort of tying them all together.
The only thing keeping it from five stars would be that I bought it on Audible and I wish there was at least some kind of pdf of the applications. I listen a lot in the car so being able to go back and have those easily accessible would be handy. I've looked around, but can't find anything online so if someone knows of one, please share that!!
Also, it's obvious Ryan Hawk is a keynote speaker. He read his part in this booming sports announcer voice and it took me awhile to get past it... In short, get the hard copy and skip the Audible in my opinion.
Author Hawk has put pen to paper and described plenty of techniques and tips which can be used to help so many people. These have been well-crafted and they are easy to put into practice. This book offers all readers profound insights into who we are and what is holding us back to grow excellence in ourselves and those who we lead. The pieces of advice given within can help us achieve both our personal and professional goals. We can accomplish what we never dreamed possible, and reading this book can be the start of our metamorphosis into someone and something greater than we have ever dreamed possible. Overall, this book is well-structured and a useful resource! Recommended.
Leadership positions have a major impact on any organization, whatever the industry and as leaders we have an obligation to educate ourselves daily to be the best version of ourselves to not only achieve our company's goals but to motivate our employees and generate new leaders for the future. In this book, I found a guide to achieve fulfillment in life. I understood that in a world full of metrics, the only important thing is the internal score that should be the one that shows us if we are living in balance with all aspects of our life. It is a very interesting book and full of anecdotes that will make you change several aspects of your life.
I think we have all been through comparison and measuring our success by the standards of others, and this not only is exhausting but also, it can make us feel "failures" when it is not true. For that reason, this book is so important for me. The Score that Matters is a reminder about what is really important to guide our life. It proposes a path where each of us lives a life guided by our own convictions and beliefs. Also, it can be a great message for the self-esteem of many people, to know and remember that they are much more than likes on social networks. It may be aimed at business leaders, but I'm sure there is useful and important advice here for everyone.
''The Score That Matters'' written by Ryan Hawk and Brook Cupps is a fascinating read that shows us that it is possible to live in alignment with our purpose and values. This transformational book allows us to identify our values and make a new definition of what success is. This is a unique guide that is going to be perfect for you, no matter what your passion is in life. This book will open your mind and will guide you to create a strong mind, making us focus on what matters. I enjoyed reading this book and I am sure you will do it. There are so many lessons to apply in your life.
This book left a mark on me, a valuable lesson: I learned to focus on what really matters and to define success from a more internal and personal perspective. The advice the authors provide is practical but also profound. The narrative is relatable, almost as if the authors are sharing their thoughts with you directly. The Score that Matters is a book that not only talks to you but also listens to you, challenging you to make better decisions for your overall well-being. I definitely recommend it. No matter what stage of your life you are in, it is a reading that invites you to pause, reflect, and redirect your energy towards what truly makes you grow.
This read is truly inspiring. You will for sure take a lot of wisdom with you. It helped me personally because I am in phase where I am trying to renew the person I am, the values I follow and the way I wanna live. For that, it is crucial to know what fulfilment means to you. And it is not necessarily what society means by it. We all have to find our own way. And this book does a great job at leading you to the right thought process. I managed to unwind quite a few new things about myself that I wasn’t really aware of. So, I definitely recommend reading this book.
The Score That Matters will appeal to you if you are both a leader and a sports fan. In a similar vein to John Wooden and his style, this book takes a look at how some of the aspects of being a coach can apply to business life as well. I appreciated that the book focused both on personal and team development and leadership, as well as provided helpful exercises at the end of each chapter. I thought the book was interesting but some of the anecdotes fell flat to me as someone who is not a sports coach.
"The Score That Matters" helped my understanding of success and fulfillment. Ryan Hawk and Brook Cupps guide readers through the process of aligning actions with core values, emphasizing the importance of using fear as a catalyst for growth. That was an interesting appraoch!Q
From the very first chapter, I enjoyed their practical advice and engaging anecdotes. The book offers actionable insights that are both motivating and relatable. Whether you're navigating a career change, striving for personal development, or seeking a more meaningful life, this book provides a pretty good roadmap .
This is the first book I've read by Ryan Hawk. The premise seemed interesting, I have a master's degree in leadership, so I thought I'd give it a whirl. Did it help me, "unlock true fulfillment and happiness"? No. *giggle* But was it a quick, easy, and sometimes insightful read? Yeah. He uses a lot of business jargon so, folks working in sectors outside business (higher ed, the arts, non-profit, NGO, etc.) keep that in mind when you pick this up.
This book just entered in my top 5! Amazing topic, analogies and very easy to read!! I’ve been a sports person my whole life so, since the very beginning, I felt connected with the book. But you don’t have to like sports in order to read this book. I think it is a must for everyone!! I found very valuable how the authors used examples from different sports in order to convey their main message: you’re the one who determine your score and how much you value. Nowadays, I’m training to run my first marathon and my main mantra is to enjoy the process and be grateful! It was amazing reading this book and how they focus one chapter for “The Process”. I felt it was written for me!
I really enjoyed The Score That Matters. The book makes you think about what success really means. It doesn’t just focus on external measures like money or fame. Instead, it talks about living in line with your values and purpose. I found this approach refreshing. The authors encourage you to stop comparing yourself to others. The concept of using your fear as fuel was also powerful. It made me see fear as something positive, not something to avoid.
The writing style is simple and direct. The book is easy to read and understand. It feels like you are having a conversation with the authors. I appreciated the personal stories they included. It made the ideas more relatable. Overall, the book motivated me to focus on my internal score. It made me want to live a life based on my values, not what others expect of me. I would definitely recommend it to anyone looking for a new perspective on success. I give it 5 stars!
Far too often we seek temporary happiness or achievement over a longer lasting pursuit of excellence. This book provides key insights coupled with real life examples to help us all flip the script and focus on the score that matters.