Unfuck Your Shame: Using Science to Accept Our Feelings, Resolve Guilt, and Connect with Ourselves

by Faith G. Harper

Shame and guilt are perhaps the most difficult emotions humans experience. They tell us we are fundamentally broken, wrong, and unsalvageable—and then we operate in the world from that self-concept. Dr. Faith G. Harper, bestselling author of Unfuck Your Brain and Unfuck Your Stress, writes that these emotions often result from our sense of "not-enough-ness" and the overwhelming feeling that we need to hide parts of ourselves in order to be loved and accepted. But we don't need to keep going through life feeling guilty, ashamed, and disconnected from ourselves. With compassion, humor, brain science, and swearing, she guides us through the difficult shadow work of finding and reconnecting with these hidden parts and learning to accept our whole selves to regain our sense of vitality and completeness. Because we each deserve the experience of being a fully alive human.

Genres: Nonfiction, Self Help, Psychology

192 pages, Paperback

Published July 30, 2024

About the author

Faith G. Harper, PhD, LPC-S, ACS, ACN is a bad-ass, funny lady with a PhD. She’s a licensed professional counselor, board supervisor, certified sexologist, and applied clinical nutritionist with a private practice and consulting business in San Antonio, TX. She has been an adjunct professor and a TEDx presenter, and proudly identifies as a woman of color and uppity intersectional feminist. She is the author of the book Unf*ck Your Brain and many other popular zines and books on subjects such as anxiety, depression, and grief. She is available as a public speaker and for corporate and clinical trainings.

Reviews

[✧˖°. wolfe of the void ✧˖°. · Rating 5 out of 5]

I deal with immense shame. It has manifested into a form of OCD that centers on ethics and morality. It's been extremely difficult to deal with... A lot of OCD books tend to lean on mainstream secular OCD that is seen in Hollywood. I related more to this and the shame that I posses over my being, than I did trying to relate to the mess that most people see OCD as.

Not trying to be bitter or a hater. Just nice to have something in my hands that genuinely gives me relief and direction.

[Vadim G · Rating 3 out of 5]

Other than trying to be unnecessary, edgy, and progressive, this book is decent. I think there is some good information and facts. The exercises at the end of the book are helpful, but in the end, does it really solve your issues with the "Shadow". Not to me. I think it is helpful, but not complete.

[Wendy · Rating 4 out of 5]

3.5 ⭐️

[Pía López Copetti · Rating 1 out of 5]

I couldn't get past 1/4 of this book out of the cringe writing style

[lochNessmonster · Rating 3 out of 5]

Exactly like the author’s other books in the sense that the writing style is so unbelievably cringe but the information is really useful and valuable. It’s easy to read even through all the eye-rolling, and I feel like this laid a really solid groundwork on how to use shadow work and soul retrieval to heal shame. I enjoyed how she drew on ancestral wisdom, and it wasn’t in a culture vulture-y way. I wish her editor would have told her what an ugly look it is to be a white passing woman who uses words like ratchet but WHATEVER

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