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Lives Not Lived
The only good thing about pain is that it connects. And “Lives not Lived” is a story about the same connection. It is a story about Haree and Naina who are dealing with the same kind of struggles but are still hoping to survive.
This book talks about child marriage, abuse, and courage. It's a story about all the innocent children who could not protect themselves. It’s a journey of women who always lived in silence. It’s a silent journey we all go through or see around us.
Haree, a young girl was married off when she was 16. She always lived a simple life. She had accepted the anger that her father had for her mother for giving birth to only girls the way women lived and were treated, everything was acceptable to her. She had no desire of any kind until she married Ram.
Naina is different from Haree. She did not want to accept the restrictions, neither she wants to break them. All she wants is to live in her own imagination where she could play and sing and dance. But everything changes for both of them when they came face to face with pain. When life broke them, they call out every ounce of courage to save themselves and others around them.
This book talks about child marriage, abuse, and courage. It's a story about all the innocent children who could not protect themselves. It’s a journey of women who always lived in silence. It’s a silent journey we all go through or see around us.
Haree, a young girl was married off when she was 16. She always lived a simple life. She had accepted the anger that her father had for her mother for giving birth to only girls the way women lived and were treated, everything was acceptable to her. She had no desire of any kind until she married Ram.
Naina is different from Haree. She did not want to accept the restrictions, neither she wants to break them. All she wants is to live in her own imagination where she could play and sing and dance. But everything changes for both of them when they came face to face with pain. When life broke them, they call out every ounce of courage to save themselves and others around them.
386 pages, Paperback
Published September 8, 2023
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October 31, 2024
The story runs parallely between lives of two suppressed women, struggling through immense pile of atrocities. Even though, it was a good story, I found it difficult to read. I left the book unread towards the end. There are horrible amount of grammatical mistakes, incorrect use of pronouns here and there. The author is juggling between first person and third person narratives in a single chapter. Writing is an art and publishing a good book with such important issues should be taken seriously and artistically. The usage of words, construction of sentences at multiple position didnt make sense at all. Hence I wouldnt recommend someone to read this.
April 25, 2024
"Life Not Lived" by Monika Bhatti is an emotional rollercoaster that gripped my heart from the very beginning. The story follows the lives of two remarkable women, Haree and Naina, as they navigate the treacherous waters of child marriage, abuse, and societal expectations.
What struck me most about this book is its raw portrayal of the resilience and strength of these two women. Despite facing unimaginable hardships, they refuse to be broken by society's cruelty. Instead, they rise above it, their voices echoing with defiance and power. As I turned the pages, I found myself drawn deeper into their world, feeling every ounce of their sadness and anger.
The author's skillful storytelling and vivid characterization made me feel like I was living alongside Haree and Naina, experiencing their triumphs and tribulations firsthand. The plot is gripping, with every twist and turn leaving me on the edge of my seat. And the cover and title perfectly encapsulate the essence of the story, drawing me in with their haunting beauty.
In the end, "Life Not Lived" left an indelible mark on my heart. It's a book that deserves every bit of praise it receives, and I wholeheartedly recommend it to anyone in search of a powerful and thought-provoking read.
What struck me most about this book is its raw portrayal of the resilience and strength of these two women. Despite facing unimaginable hardships, they refuse to be broken by society's cruelty. Instead, they rise above it, their voices echoing with defiance and power. As I turned the pages, I found myself drawn deeper into their world, feeling every ounce of their sadness and anger.
The author's skillful storytelling and vivid characterization made me feel like I was living alongside Haree and Naina, experiencing their triumphs and tribulations firsthand. The plot is gripping, with every twist and turn leaving me on the edge of my seat. And the cover and title perfectly encapsulate the essence of the story, drawing me in with their haunting beauty.
In the end, "Life Not Lived" left an indelible mark on my heart. It's a book that deserves every bit of praise it receives, and I wholeheartedly recommend it to anyone in search of a powerful and thought-provoking read.
January 9, 2024
TRIGGER WARNINGS: child marriage, abuse, sexual assault, trauma, depression
The only good thing about pain is that it connects. And “Lives not Lived” will connect the pain of two such women Haree and Naina with you all.
The book has two stories playing parallely, of Haree and Naina. And as time goes by, both woman fall in love and hope for a happily ever after in their lives. But fate has different plan for them.
There was a new wave of sorrow and anger, turning each page. Even though the book is fiction, the story isn’t really. Each day there is one or the other news about a woman being abused to such an extent that isn’t humanly possible.
This is a story that will make a chill run down your spine. Its not an easy read and some parts of it might not be suitable to all readers.
Some lines of the book still haunt me! So pick the book only after reading the TW
Read this book
-ONLY if you are in a good place of mind and want to read something hauntingly real
- If you like books like ‘a thousand splendid suns’, ‘a woman is no man’ and so.
The only good thing about pain is that it connects. And “Lives not Lived” will connect the pain of two such women Haree and Naina with you all.
The book has two stories playing parallely, of Haree and Naina. And as time goes by, both woman fall in love and hope for a happily ever after in their lives. But fate has different plan for them.
There was a new wave of sorrow and anger, turning each page. Even though the book is fiction, the story isn’t really. Each day there is one or the other news about a woman being abused to such an extent that isn’t humanly possible.
This is a story that will make a chill run down your spine. Its not an easy read and some parts of it might not be suitable to all readers.
Some lines of the book still haunt me! So pick the book only after reading the TW
Read this book
-ONLY if you are in a good place of mind and want to read something hauntingly real
- If you like books like ‘a thousand splendid suns’, ‘a woman is no man’ and so.
July 17, 2024
the writing is just so confusing sometimes it is in first person sometimes in third person, constant changing of timelines and switching between the two girls. lots of telling (so much about side characters)and not really showing i wouldn’t say the story is bad but there is not really a story just a bunch of experiences together. there is literally no emotions in the writing just plain flat…it’s putting me in a slump so dnfing it!
September 5, 2024
“Nobody told me where the devil lived.
I found him hidden in a human whom I believed.”
-Read this book if you are a woman, a mother, a sister, a wife or a girlfriend.
Read this book if you are a man, a father, a brother , a husband or a boyfriend.
Read this book despite your gender, religion and your nationality.
Read this book if you feel for women who go through abuse and violence.
-HAS RAPE BECOME NORMALISED IN INDIA?
-INDIA: 86 rape cases every day or 3.5 every hour or 31,516 for 2022, according to the National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB). This number hasn’t gone down but has increased with time.
-Think of Bilkis Bano, Nirbhaya case who were brutally gang raped. Think of Manipur where women from the
'enemy' tribe were stripped and paraded.Think of those women who were abused and became victim of violence.
-In many rural areas of India girls are still being the victim of child marriage, domestic violence, abuse and what not? Girls are deprived of going to school and colleges.
Heartbreaking right? Just think about the women who go through this.
-Monika Bhatti through her book depicted the life’s of women who go through abuse and violence. Monika depicted the stories of Naina and Haree. The book has their stories playing parallely. Both woman fall in love and hope for a happily ever after in their lives. A life free of pain and suffering.But fate has different plan for them. Book leaves the reader devastated. This is a story that will leave you heartbroken. Some parts of the book still haunts me .Pick the book only after reading the trigger warnings.
-I loved the beautiful writing style of Monika Bhatti. She wrote this book beautifully that i connected with life’s of Naina and Haree. Thank you Monika for writing such a beautiful book and conveying a more beautiful message to the society.
-To everyone reading this Let’s bring a change. Let’s treat Men and women equally. Let’s not tolerate any kind of abuse against men or women. Let’s make a better and safer place for both women and men.
I found him hidden in a human whom I believed.”
-Read this book if you are a woman, a mother, a sister, a wife or a girlfriend.
Read this book if you are a man, a father, a brother , a husband or a boyfriend.
Read this book despite your gender, religion and your nationality.
Read this book if you feel for women who go through abuse and violence.
-HAS RAPE BECOME NORMALISED IN INDIA?
-INDIA: 86 rape cases every day or 3.5 every hour or 31,516 for 2022, according to the National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB). This number hasn’t gone down but has increased with time.
-Think of Bilkis Bano, Nirbhaya case who were brutally gang raped. Think of Manipur where women from the
'enemy' tribe were stripped and paraded.Think of those women who were abused and became victim of violence.
-In many rural areas of India girls are still being the victim of child marriage, domestic violence, abuse and what not? Girls are deprived of going to school and colleges.
Heartbreaking right? Just think about the women who go through this.
-Monika Bhatti through her book depicted the life’s of women who go through abuse and violence. Monika depicted the stories of Naina and Haree. The book has their stories playing parallely. Both woman fall in love and hope for a happily ever after in their lives. A life free of pain and suffering.But fate has different plan for them. Book leaves the reader devastated. This is a story that will leave you heartbroken. Some parts of the book still haunts me .Pick the book only after reading the trigger warnings.
-I loved the beautiful writing style of Monika Bhatti. She wrote this book beautifully that i connected with life’s of Naina and Haree. Thank you Monika for writing such a beautiful book and conveying a more beautiful message to the society.
-To everyone reading this Let’s bring a change. Let’s treat Men and women equally. Let’s not tolerate any kind of abuse against men or women. Let’s make a better and safer place for both women and men.
August 27, 2024
This book was decent. It managed to capture the struggles of women quite well, but the writing had me stumped. Some of the phrases/sentences were translated directly from Hindi. It appears as if it has not gone through a rigorous editing process. This is evident from the glaring spelling mistakes and the way the narration shifted from a third person to a first person point of view so randomly. The back and forth between Naina and Haree's story didn't appear seamless as well. There were so many unnecessary exclamation marks at the end of the sentences, and the writing had a conversational tone–quite literally. Sentences are written in a sing-song manner, in the way one would actually speak them; for example, at one point in the book, a character screamed "Oh, shit! My baaaaaaaaaaag!"
Most of the colloquial abuses used in the book felt forced. This is not to say that people don't abuse like that in real life, but it appeared forced in the book, as if they're there just for the dramatic effect and nothing else. I had to struggle to keep reading the book despite the subject matter being so serious.
Having said that, I liked the little glimpses of interactions between Haree and Naina, where the little girl cared for the old woman. I would've loved more interactions like that since the readers were introduced to their bond all of a sudden, out of nowhere, and it ended drastically as well. I would have also loved to see either Haree or Naina develop some sort of agency to govern their own lives, but I understand how difficult it must have been to chart in the book given that the society had broken their spirits.
This book has made a good attempt at highlighting the struggles that women have endured silently throughout the ages. It would garner more serious appreciation if the writing as well as the editing becomes polished.
Most of the colloquial abuses used in the book felt forced. This is not to say that people don't abuse like that in real life, but it appeared forced in the book, as if they're there just for the dramatic effect and nothing else. I had to struggle to keep reading the book despite the subject matter being so serious.
Having said that, I liked the little glimpses of interactions between Haree and Naina, where the little girl cared for the old woman. I would've loved more interactions like that since the readers were introduced to their bond all of a sudden, out of nowhere, and it ended drastically as well. I would have also loved to see either Haree or Naina develop some sort of agency to govern their own lives, but I understand how difficult it must have been to chart in the book given that the society had broken their spirits.
This book has made a good attempt at highlighting the struggles that women have endured silently throughout the ages. It would garner more serious appreciation if the writing as well as the editing becomes polished.
May 5, 2024
TW: Child Marriage, Abuse, Rape, depression
This book got me hooked from the beginning. It's about what women go through in silence in the name of traditions and culture through the eyes of Haree and Naina.
How going through the great deal of struggle and still looking for hope and having courage to survive through it.
This book was an emotional rollercoaster for me and broke my heart by the end of it.
This also focuses on how important every part of our life is and how people in it influences it mentally and emotionally. How can something linger on once in life forever.
The most important thing this book talks about is kindness and love.
Loved the author's work and how she started every chapter with a quote which I truly loved the most.
A must read!✨
But go for it only after going through the trigger warnings.
This book got me hooked from the beginning. It's about what women go through in silence in the name of traditions and culture through the eyes of Haree and Naina.
How going through the great deal of struggle and still looking for hope and having courage to survive through it.
This book was an emotional rollercoaster for me and broke my heart by the end of it.
This also focuses on how important every part of our life is and how people in it influences it mentally and emotionally. How can something linger on once in life forever.
The most important thing this book talks about is kindness and love.
Loved the author's work and how she started every chapter with a quote which I truly loved the most.
A must read!✨
But go for it only after going through the trigger warnings.
May 10, 2024
This book shines a light on tough topics like child marriage and abuse, but it's also about finding strength and courage.
The book takes us on a journey through the lives of Haree and Naina, two young girls who are facing daunting challenges like child marriage and abuse. It's a tale of empowerment, highlighting the importance of courage and overcoming difficult circumstances. The book reflect on the struggles faced by many individuals, particularly women, around the world. It is a story of hope and the power of human spirit to triumph over adversity.
It's a reminder that we all have the power to overcome challenges and support each other along the way.
The book takes us on a journey through the lives of Haree and Naina, two young girls who are facing daunting challenges like child marriage and abuse. It's a tale of empowerment, highlighting the importance of courage and overcoming difficult circumstances. The book reflect on the struggles faced by many individuals, particularly women, around the world. It is a story of hope and the power of human spirit to triumph over adversity.
It's a reminder that we all have the power to overcome challenges and support each other along the way.
January 4, 2026
The only reason I am not tearing this book down page by page is because I want to burn it with the flame thrower along with the girl who said it resembles "A thousand splendid suns" and is a very deep book.
November 23, 2024
Lives Not Lived is an emotionally charged tale that shines a light on the silent battles fought by countless women and children. It revolves around Haree and Naina, two women navigating through different yet equally oppressive realities. Themes of child marriage, societal expectations, and abuse are intertwined with the resilience and courage needed to break free from these shackles. The narrative explores the inner conflicts of its protagonists while emphasizing the hope and strength that emerges in the face of overwhelming adversity. This book is a poignant reflection of the dark realities many endure, and it lingers in your thoughts long after the last page.
Writing Style
Monika Bhatti’s writing is evocative, weaving intricate details with profound emotional depth. Her prose is poetic yet raw, capturing the essence of her characters’ struggles and triumphs. Each chapter begins with a reflective quote or poetic snippet, setting the tone for what follows. The author’s style is deeply engaging, balancing vivid descriptions with a sensitivity that ensures even the most painful moments are conveyed with grace. The language is simple yet impactful, making the story accessible while delivering a lasting impression.
Narration
The narrative alternates between the perspectives of Haree and Naina, providing a comprehensive view of their lives and struggles. This dual perspective approach immerses readers into the characters’ emotional and psychological landscapes, allowing them to connect deeply with their journeys. The transitions between the two protagonists are seamless, ensuring that the story flows naturally without disrupting its rhythm. The narration is introspective, often delving into the characters’ thoughts and memories, which adds layers to their personalities and makes their experiences feel authentic and relatable.
Themes Explored
Voices of Silent Struggles
At its heart, Lives Not Lived is a tribute to the resilience of women who endure pain in silence. Haree and Naina’s experiences reflect the struggles of those bound by societal norms and expectations, giving a voice to their unheard stories.
Breaking the Chains of Oppression
The story addresses deeply ingrained societal issues like child marriage, abuse, and gender roles. It portrays the courage needed to challenge these oppressive structures and advocates for a world where freedom and dignity are accessible to all.
Resilience and Hope
Despite their pain, both protagonists find ways to rise above their circumstances. Their journeys serve as a reminder that the human spirit has the capacity to endure, adapt, and thrive, even in the face of unimaginable adversity.
Final Reflections
Lives Not Lived is more than just a novel—it is an exploration of humanity, resilience, and the fight for dignity. Monika Bhatti has masterfully crafted a narrative that speaks to the heart, urging readers to confront societal realities while inspiring hope. The characters of Haree and Naina are deeply relatable, their struggles echoing the challenges faced by many in real life.
This book is a must-read for those who value stories with emotional depth and social relevance. It will leave you not only moved but also inspired to reflect on the strength of the human spirit. Monika Bhatti’s storytelling transcends the pages, making Lives Not Lived a powerful and unforgettable reading experience.
Writing Style
Monika Bhatti’s writing is evocative, weaving intricate details with profound emotional depth. Her prose is poetic yet raw, capturing the essence of her characters’ struggles and triumphs. Each chapter begins with a reflective quote or poetic snippet, setting the tone for what follows. The author’s style is deeply engaging, balancing vivid descriptions with a sensitivity that ensures even the most painful moments are conveyed with grace. The language is simple yet impactful, making the story accessible while delivering a lasting impression.
Narration
The narrative alternates between the perspectives of Haree and Naina, providing a comprehensive view of their lives and struggles. This dual perspective approach immerses readers into the characters’ emotional and psychological landscapes, allowing them to connect deeply with their journeys. The transitions between the two protagonists are seamless, ensuring that the story flows naturally without disrupting its rhythm. The narration is introspective, often delving into the characters’ thoughts and memories, which adds layers to their personalities and makes their experiences feel authentic and relatable.
Themes Explored
Voices of Silent Struggles
At its heart, Lives Not Lived is a tribute to the resilience of women who endure pain in silence. Haree and Naina’s experiences reflect the struggles of those bound by societal norms and expectations, giving a voice to their unheard stories.
Breaking the Chains of Oppression
The story addresses deeply ingrained societal issues like child marriage, abuse, and gender roles. It portrays the courage needed to challenge these oppressive structures and advocates for a world where freedom and dignity are accessible to all.
Resilience and Hope
Despite their pain, both protagonists find ways to rise above their circumstances. Their journeys serve as a reminder that the human spirit has the capacity to endure, adapt, and thrive, even in the face of unimaginable adversity.
Final Reflections
Lives Not Lived is more than just a novel—it is an exploration of humanity, resilience, and the fight for dignity. Monika Bhatti has masterfully crafted a narrative that speaks to the heart, urging readers to confront societal realities while inspiring hope. The characters of Haree and Naina are deeply relatable, their struggles echoing the challenges faced by many in real life.
This book is a must-read for those who value stories with emotional depth and social relevance. It will leave you not only moved but also inspired to reflect on the strength of the human spirit. Monika Bhatti’s storytelling transcends the pages, making Lives Not Lived a powerful and unforgettable reading experience.
July 8, 2024
Monika Bhatti’s Lives Not Lived has recently become a bookstagram sensation and understandably why. Through the lives of two main characters, Haree and Naina, Monika voices the suffering and misery of women and what it means to be able to survive (or not) in a male-dominated society.
Though from different generations and each having their distinct personalities, Haree and Naina were tied down by the same social construct. What makes this novel stand apart while also conveying things that all of us, as women, have been through at least once in our lives, is the powerlessness of it. In reality, not every woman has the strength or the means to overcome their suffering.
The characters are well-written, allowing us to see ourselves through them. I loved Ram. Although I was hoping more from when Naina met Haree, Ashok’s storyline connected the two characters well. From an editorial perspective, there were some flaws which if mitigated would have made this a 5-star read for me.
Overall, we have a heart-wrenching debut novel. I would suggest going through the trigger warnings before you start with this one.
Though from different generations and each having their distinct personalities, Haree and Naina were tied down by the same social construct. What makes this novel stand apart while also conveying things that all of us, as women, have been through at least once in our lives, is the powerlessness of it. In reality, not every woman has the strength or the means to overcome their suffering.
The characters are well-written, allowing us to see ourselves through them. I loved Ram. Although I was hoping more from when Naina met Haree, Ashok’s storyline connected the two characters well. From an editorial perspective, there were some flaws which if mitigated would have made this a 5-star read for me.
Overall, we have a heart-wrenching debut novel. I would suggest going through the trigger warnings before you start with this one.
March 15, 2024
What does hope mean when your entire world is crumbling around you? It serves as sustenance for resilience, fueling the struggle to overcome adversities; temporary adversities. Yet, where lies the breaking point? When does the heart fracture into countless shards, reduced to nothing more than a crumpled lump of flesh? This transformation doesn’t occur in a single day; it unfolds gradually, over days, months, even years, as it did for Haree and Naina.
Encountering another book more so served to remind me of my privilege. It resonated with the pain I've witnessed, the pain to which I could relate, rendering this book all the more poignant and something I like.
To give you more context:
For Haree, marriage at 16 provided solace from years of torment by her peers and familial pressure, a burden that she was a girl, to all the gender norms. However, this newfound happiness was short-lived. My heart shattered as Haree continued to live with her husband in her mind, unable to accept his passing.
Naina, a gentle and carefree soul, finds herself oppressed by both her family and the solitude she embraces due to her lifestyle, thrust into the harsh realities of existence.
Both share a common thread of loss and resilience, enduring untold hardships. But for how long? How long can one subsist solely on injustice and oppression?
The book, while well-developed, occasionally felt prolonged with each incident being accompanied by an anecdote or a backstory. Nonetheless, the author deserves commendation for fearlessly tackling sensitive topics, a purpose that underscores the book's entirety. The verses and the concluding section particularly resonated with me, leaving me speechless, I lost my voice. The author consistently reminds us that the scars of childhood trauma and oppression are enduring, stretching far beyond the initial incident. The character arcs are compelling, the narrative intense until the very end, and the plot direct and engaging. It’s a really good book, an exploration to pain and an abode to surviving with hopes.
Encountering another book more so served to remind me of my privilege. It resonated with the pain I've witnessed, the pain to which I could relate, rendering this book all the more poignant and something I like.
To give you more context:
For Haree, marriage at 16 provided solace from years of torment by her peers and familial pressure, a burden that she was a girl, to all the gender norms. However, this newfound happiness was short-lived. My heart shattered as Haree continued to live with her husband in her mind, unable to accept his passing.
Naina, a gentle and carefree soul, finds herself oppressed by both her family and the solitude she embraces due to her lifestyle, thrust into the harsh realities of existence.
Both share a common thread of loss and resilience, enduring untold hardships. But for how long? How long can one subsist solely on injustice and oppression?
The book, while well-developed, occasionally felt prolonged with each incident being accompanied by an anecdote or a backstory. Nonetheless, the author deserves commendation for fearlessly tackling sensitive topics, a purpose that underscores the book's entirety. The verses and the concluding section particularly resonated with me, leaving me speechless, I lost my voice. The author consistently reminds us that the scars of childhood trauma and oppression are enduring, stretching far beyond the initial incident. The character arcs are compelling, the narrative intense until the very end, and the plot direct and engaging. It’s a really good book, an exploration to pain and an abode to surviving with hopes.
March 22, 2024
Rightly said by the author "the only good thing about pain is that it connects", and the painful resemblance of the characters is what connected me to the narrative.
Naina, a very visionary and gritty woman, who wouldn't allow anyone bounding her to the restricted society illogically, and knows how courage can mould one's existence without breaking norms.
Haree, a young submissive girl, married off at a tender age of 16 with a life simpler than one can imagine. The fate fabricated by her ferocious father who certainly is dejected by her mother on not being able to bear a boy to the family, was undertaken by her, forgetting what life can look like beyond the four walls of prejudices.
The two women may sound poles apart, just as all the women in this entire world are, but even then, we are all connected through the stories weaved within us for being born as a woman.
I am sure, not just Naina, Haree, Mariam or Laila, but a lot of women around have either seen or been a victim to child marriage, physical abuses, molestation, and yet decided to stay put believing that one day she will cross path to justice, and life will fall into its place.
Women in every corner of the world go and grow through traumas that are tough to imagine. It doesn't have to do anything with any specific country, it's universal, however, they still SURVIVE. How? you ask?
Well, WOMEN are God's most favourite creation. ✨
Naina, a very visionary and gritty woman, who wouldn't allow anyone bounding her to the restricted society illogically, and knows how courage can mould one's existence without breaking norms.
Haree, a young submissive girl, married off at a tender age of 16 with a life simpler than one can imagine. The fate fabricated by her ferocious father who certainly is dejected by her mother on not being able to bear a boy to the family, was undertaken by her, forgetting what life can look like beyond the four walls of prejudices.
The two women may sound poles apart, just as all the women in this entire world are, but even then, we are all connected through the stories weaved within us for being born as a woman.
I am sure, not just Naina, Haree, Mariam or Laila, but a lot of women around have either seen or been a victim to child marriage, physical abuses, molestation, and yet decided to stay put believing that one day she will cross path to justice, and life will fall into its place.
Women in every corner of the world go and grow through traumas that are tough to imagine. It doesn't have to do anything with any specific country, it's universal, however, they still SURVIVE. How? you ask?
Well, WOMEN are God's most favourite creation. ✨
March 5, 2024
Oh god. My heart. This book is painfully good, it sheds light on some of the challenges women go through - Domestic violence, child marriage, sexual assault and mental health issues. Lives Not Lived focuses on 2 protagonists - Haree and Naina, both who go through their own dark times. It's an important read, as we see and understand the pain they go through with almost little to no support. It's a reminder to be kind towards others and stand up for them! Easiest 5 stars.
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August 22, 2025I have left this book and there were 50 pages left or so and i am done . completely done i can't read this book anymore and i am disgusted to my core. to everything!!
November 28, 2023
"Lives not Lived" is a poignant narrative that delves into the profound connection forged by pain. The story revolves around Haree and Naina, two individuals grappling with similar struggles but clinging to hope. The book fearlessly tackles issues of child marriage, abuse, and the resilience required to confront such adversities.
Haree, wed at the tender age of 16, embodies the acceptance of societal norms and the submissive role women often play. However, her life takes an unexpected turn with her marriage to Ram, challenging her complacency and forcing her to reevaluate her desires and dreams.
In contrast, Naina rebels against societal restrictions, yearning for a life where she can freely indulge in her imagination through play, song, and dance. Yet, both women find themselves confronted by the harsh realities of life, a shared experience that transforms them. Faced with adversity, Haree and Naina summon extraordinary courage to not only salvage themselves but also extend a lifeline to those around them.
The narrative skillfully navigates the silent struggles endured by countless innocent children and women, shedding light on the pervasive issue of silenced voices. Through Haree and Naina's journeys, the author crafts a compelling exploration of the silent battles we all witness or undergo in our lives.
This book serves as a powerful commentary on the resilience of the human spirit when faced with societal injustices. Its candid portrayal of pain, courage, and the quest for survival leaves a lasting impression on readers, prompting reflection on the untold stories that echo around us. "Lives not Lived" stands as a testament to the strength found in the most unexpected places and the transformative power of overcoming adversity.
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Haree, wed at the tender age of 16, embodies the acceptance of societal norms and the submissive role women often play. However, her life takes an unexpected turn with her marriage to Ram, challenging her complacency and forcing her to reevaluate her desires and dreams.
In contrast, Naina rebels against societal restrictions, yearning for a life where she can freely indulge in her imagination through play, song, and dance. Yet, both women find themselves confronted by the harsh realities of life, a shared experience that transforms them. Faced with adversity, Haree and Naina summon extraordinary courage to not only salvage themselves but also extend a lifeline to those around them.
The narrative skillfully navigates the silent struggles endured by countless innocent children and women, shedding light on the pervasive issue of silenced voices. Through Haree and Naina's journeys, the author crafts a compelling exploration of the silent battles we all witness or undergo in our lives.
This book serves as a powerful commentary on the resilience of the human spirit when faced with societal injustices. Its candid portrayal of pain, courage, and the quest for survival leaves a lasting impression on readers, prompting reflection on the untold stories that echo around us. "Lives not Lived" stands as a testament to the strength found in the most unexpected places and the transformative power of overcoming adversity.
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December 11, 2024
Lives Not Lived by Monika Bhatti is a deeply emotional and powerful story that deals with difficult topics such as domestic violence, sexual abuse, child marriage, and toxic relationships—issues that are still very real in Indian society today. As I read, I could feel the pain and struggles of the characters in a very real way. I knew I would cry reading this book- The writing was so vivid that sometimes I had to stop and take a moment to process what I had read.
What hit me the most was the portrayal of family neglect and how, in a patriarchal society, women often end up being enemies of other women. This is something that troubles me deeply in real life, as it reflects my own experiences and thoughts about friendships with girls. ( I find it easier to connect with boys than girls) This theme reminded me of movies like Bulbul, Highway, English Vinglish, Dil Dhakhane Do which show how women’s suffering can often go unnoticed or unspoken.
The storytelling was also beautifully done, especially with how each chapter began with a short poem. These poems were not only creative but helped set the tone for the entire chapter. I couldn’t believe this was Bhatti’s debut novel because her writing was so thoughtful and impactful.
The two main female characters are strong and complex, each facing their own struggles. Their stories of surviving difficult lives are powerful and inspiring. This book is more than just a novel; it's a reflection on the struggles women face and the courage it takes to keep going. I would highly recommend it to anyone looking for a story that is both heartbreaking and uplifting.
In conclusion, Lives Not Lived is a book with many layers, and I feel like I’ll need to reread it to fully understand its depth. It touched my heart deeply, but there were parts of it that I couldn’t completely grasp the first time around. So, I would definitely revisit in the future. While it is fictional, the themes it covers are not unique—they reflect real issues that happen in everyday life, especially in India. The struggles faced by the characters are relatable and resonate with the challenges many women continue to face globally. This makes the story even more impactful, reminding us of the pressing need for change and understanding in our society.
What hit me the most was the portrayal of family neglect and how, in a patriarchal society, women often end up being enemies of other women. This is something that troubles me deeply in real life, as it reflects my own experiences and thoughts about friendships with girls. ( I find it easier to connect with boys than girls) This theme reminded me of movies like Bulbul, Highway, English Vinglish, Dil Dhakhane Do which show how women’s suffering can often go unnoticed or unspoken.
The storytelling was also beautifully done, especially with how each chapter began with a short poem. These poems were not only creative but helped set the tone for the entire chapter. I couldn’t believe this was Bhatti’s debut novel because her writing was so thoughtful and impactful.
The two main female characters are strong and complex, each facing their own struggles. Their stories of surviving difficult lives are powerful and inspiring. This book is more than just a novel; it's a reflection on the struggles women face and the courage it takes to keep going. I would highly recommend it to anyone looking for a story that is both heartbreaking and uplifting.
In conclusion, Lives Not Lived is a book with many layers, and I feel like I’ll need to reread it to fully understand its depth. It touched my heart deeply, but there were parts of it that I couldn’t completely grasp the first time around. So, I would definitely revisit in the future. While it is fictional, the themes it covers are not unique—they reflect real issues that happen in everyday life, especially in India. The struggles faced by the characters are relatable and resonate with the challenges many women continue to face globally. This makes the story even more impactful, reminding us of the pressing need for change and understanding in our society.
January 17, 2025
3.8/5
Reading this left me feeling heavy, uneasy, disgusted and devastated. It talks about rape, assault, abuse, and trauma. It's about women who suffer in silence. Enduring pain becomes a part of their everyday lives that it resonates with them and the wounds it leaves can't be healed even with love.
"Love brings an illusion. It silently tricks you to suffer for years. At least, cruelty and unkindness are honest. They do not attack from the back. You can fight if you want to, you can surrender if you want to. But what would you do with love? There is nothing you can do to protect yourself. It wrecks you in an impossible way. Your pieces remain missing for life."
The book presents the harsh reality of how society burdens girls with expectations from a very tender age causing them to attach their self worth to those expectations.She is unable to raise voice for herself, and every person on whom she places her trust betrays her. When love is shown to her, she feels obliged to pay back with something in return even if it shatters her into pieces. The magnitude of their suffering is unimaginable.
There are a few pronoun errors and the timeline feels a bit inconsistent. But the portrayal of their emotions and suffering is so real that it helps you connect with the characters and feel their pain.
The book reminds me of a quote by Dostoevsky:
"People speak sometimes about the "bestial" cruelty of man, but that is terribly unjust and offensive to beasts, no animal could ever be so cruel as a man, so artfully, so artistically cruel."
Reading this left me feeling heavy, uneasy, disgusted and devastated. It talks about rape, assault, abuse, and trauma. It's about women who suffer in silence. Enduring pain becomes a part of their everyday lives that it resonates with them and the wounds it leaves can't be healed even with love.
"Love brings an illusion. It silently tricks you to suffer for years. At least, cruelty and unkindness are honest. They do not attack from the back. You can fight if you want to, you can surrender if you want to. But what would you do with love? There is nothing you can do to protect yourself. It wrecks you in an impossible way. Your pieces remain missing for life."
The book presents the harsh reality of how society burdens girls with expectations from a very tender age causing them to attach their self worth to those expectations.She is unable to raise voice for herself, and every person on whom she places her trust betrays her. When love is shown to her, she feels obliged to pay back with something in return even if it shatters her into pieces. The magnitude of their suffering is unimaginable.
There are a few pronoun errors and the timeline feels a bit inconsistent. But the portrayal of their emotions and suffering is so real that it helps you connect with the characters and feel their pain.
The book reminds me of a quote by Dostoevsky:
"People speak sometimes about the "bestial" cruelty of man, but that is terribly unjust and offensive to beasts, no animal could ever be so cruel as a man, so artfully, so artistically cruel."
September 23, 2024
BOOK REVIEW : Lives Not Lived by Monika Bhatti
" Nobody told me Where the Devil Lived.
I found him hidden in a human whom I believed."
Congratulations to the author Monika Bhatti for writing a wonderful book which will not only keep you hooked till the last page, but also force you towards deep thinking and explores the theme that pain can be a unifying force, connecting individuals in unexpected ways.
The story revolves around Haree, a young girl who, at the tender age of 16, is thrust into a life she never chose. Her acceptance of the mistreatment women endure in her society is heartbreaking, reflecting the stark reality faced by many. However, her life takes an unexpected turn when she marries Ram, setting the stage for a compelling character transformation.
In contrast, Naina is a spirited young woman who refuses to accept the suffocating limitations imposed on her. Her dreams and desires are beautifully portrayed as she yearns for a life beyond the confines of tradition. Their paths cross, and both women find themselves grappling with pain that threatens to shatter them. Grab a copy of this book to explore more about the storyline.
Through their journey, the author sheds light on the silent struggles endured by countless others, making this book a poignant reflection of real-life situations.
This novel serves as a powerful reminder that silence should never be the answer and that courage can be found even in the darkest of times.
Overall, I loved the book and strongly recommend fellow readers to give it a try. And lastly, I'd thank the man who edited this cover, else it would have taken more or less months to come across the read, post finishing the other books of my collection.
Reviews. I read this book to give my unbiased and honest review.
Must recommend.
" Nobody told me Where the Devil Lived.
I found him hidden in a human whom I believed."
Congratulations to the author Monika Bhatti for writing a wonderful book which will not only keep you hooked till the last page, but also force you towards deep thinking and explores the theme that pain can be a unifying force, connecting individuals in unexpected ways.
The story revolves around Haree, a young girl who, at the tender age of 16, is thrust into a life she never chose. Her acceptance of the mistreatment women endure in her society is heartbreaking, reflecting the stark reality faced by many. However, her life takes an unexpected turn when she marries Ram, setting the stage for a compelling character transformation.
In contrast, Naina is a spirited young woman who refuses to accept the suffocating limitations imposed on her. Her dreams and desires are beautifully portrayed as she yearns for a life beyond the confines of tradition. Their paths cross, and both women find themselves grappling with pain that threatens to shatter them. Grab a copy of this book to explore more about the storyline.
Through their journey, the author sheds light on the silent struggles endured by countless others, making this book a poignant reflection of real-life situations.
This novel serves as a powerful reminder that silence should never be the answer and that courage can be found even in the darkest of times.
Overall, I loved the book and strongly recommend fellow readers to give it a try. And lastly, I'd thank the man who edited this cover, else it would have taken more or less months to come across the read, post finishing the other books of my collection.
Reviews. I read this book to give my unbiased and honest review.
Must recommend.
May 12, 2024
LIVES NOT LIVED by @nikaphilosophy
Idc if you’re 13, or 31, or 63
Idc if you’re from india or from canada or from any corner of the world
Idc if you’re single or in a relationship or anything
But please do read this book if you’re someone’s sister, mom, wife, grandmother, aunty, or even if you justify yourself as a woman.
It’s been a long time since a book has bared me this much, i felt so naked while reading,
To say i cried a lot would be an understatement
The author targeted ever aspect of womanhood in such-a raw-carnal way that it’s going to hit you straight like bullet
I have vowed to read this book atleast every year just to have a sort of reality check.
Rating ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Idc if you’re 13, or 31, or 63
Idc if you’re from india or from canada or from any corner of the world
Idc if you’re single or in a relationship or anything
But please do read this book if you’re someone’s sister, mom, wife, grandmother, aunty, or even if you justify yourself as a woman.
It’s been a long time since a book has bared me this much, i felt so naked while reading,
To say i cried a lot would be an understatement
The author targeted ever aspect of womanhood in such-a raw-carnal way that it’s going to hit you straight like bullet
I have vowed to read this book atleast every year just to have a sort of reality check.
Rating ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
July 24, 2024
This book is one of those books that rip your heart out straight from your chest, crumple and crush it between its pages and then tear it apart only for you to place it back inside your ribs hoping that it'll all be okay soon.
May 28, 2024
Read only if you like tragedy of epic proportions.
June 29, 2024
I picked up "Lives Not Lived" by Monika Bhatti after seeing it widely recommended on my feed by many bookstagrammers. This poignant portrayal delves into the lives of two individuals navigating the harsh realities of child marriage, domestic violence, and the profound impacts of rape and depression.
It was a challenging read that evoked strong emotions; however, I found some parts to be overly detailed for my taste. I also found a lot of errors so a better edit would have been much more appreciated. Despite this, the book offers a thought-provoking narrative on difficult subjects. If you’re up for an emotional rollercoaster, give it a whirl!
It was a challenging read that evoked strong emotions; however, I found some parts to be overly detailed for my taste. I also found a lot of errors so a better edit would have been much more appreciated. Despite this, the book offers a thought-provoking narrative on difficult subjects. If you’re up for an emotional rollercoaster, give it a whirl!
April 23, 2024
Rating: 4.75 ⭐️
This book made me cry so hard that my eyes swelled up. I must say that if you haven’t read this book yet, please do, because the issues that Bhatti brings up in her book should be known by every human being on this planet.
Naina and Haree were living their lives, but they didn't get to live the way they wanted. The cruel society betrayed them at every turn!
I don't understand why some people think that if they abuse others, they will look cool or more masculine. It's wrong!
This book addresses the issue of domestic violence and child abuse in a very raw and unfiltered way. You need to keep your heart strong while reading it, otherwise it will break you into a thousand pieces.
Monika Bhatti has perfectly portrayed all the characters and the worlds of Naina and Haree in a very easy-to-read writing style. I love how she wrote about the abuse that women have to face almost every other day and how they are unable to speak up about their situation. I am sure the only reason why Monika wrote this book is because she wants to change this and make women feel more independent by encouraging them to speak up about their circumstances more loudly.
This book made me cry so hard that my eyes swelled up. I must say that if you haven’t read this book yet, please do, because the issues that Bhatti brings up in her book should be known by every human being on this planet.
Naina and Haree were living their lives, but they didn't get to live the way they wanted. The cruel society betrayed them at every turn!
I don't understand why some people think that if they abuse others, they will look cool or more masculine. It's wrong!
This book addresses the issue of domestic violence and child abuse in a very raw and unfiltered way. You need to keep your heart strong while reading it, otherwise it will break you into a thousand pieces.
Monika Bhatti has perfectly portrayed all the characters and the worlds of Naina and Haree in a very easy-to-read writing style. I love how she wrote about the abuse that women have to face almost every other day and how they are unable to speak up about their situation. I am sure the only reason why Monika wrote this book is because she wants to change this and make women feel more independent by encouraging them to speak up about their circumstances more loudly.
July 24, 2024
"When life goes out of me
Remember that I may be gone,
But the life inside me is unfulfilled,
A life that remained unlived.”
Trigger warnings: R@pe, abuse, PTSD, trauma & harm
There’s a Bollywood movie called “Prem Rog”, I remember watching it with my mom when I was a kid. I used to dance to the songs and skip throughout whole movie.
Fast forward to me being 16 years old and watching the movie again with my mom and that time I did watch the whole movie and I remember it made me a crying mess at certain scenes.
I understood what happens to the women around us, especially in the rural areas because of lack of education and their backward mentality and had a detailed discussion about it with my mom.
When I started this book, Haree’s story reminded me a lot about that movie. But reading about it made it more vulnerable and heartbreaking to read.
This book follows the story of 2 young women, Haree, who was trapped in an arranged marriage at a young age and Naina, a young aspiring college going girl, how their lives were shattered because of our society, culture and men. How men treated them and how they didn’t “live” their lives. It’s a story about all the innocent children who could not protect themselves. It’s a journey of women who always lived in silence.
The characters storyline instantly made me feel connected to them. It was a whole rollercoaster of emotions and not in a good way. I won’t say much but I think everyone should give this book a read & give yourself a reality check about how women are treated around us.
Thank you @nikaphilosophy for writing this book. I’m honoured to get one of the copies❤️
Remember that I may be gone,
But the life inside me is unfulfilled,
A life that remained unlived.”
Trigger warnings: R@pe, abuse, PTSD, trauma & harm
There’s a Bollywood movie called “Prem Rog”, I remember watching it with my mom when I was a kid. I used to dance to the songs and skip throughout whole movie.
Fast forward to me being 16 years old and watching the movie again with my mom and that time I did watch the whole movie and I remember it made me a crying mess at certain scenes.
I understood what happens to the women around us, especially in the rural areas because of lack of education and their backward mentality and had a detailed discussion about it with my mom.
When I started this book, Haree’s story reminded me a lot about that movie. But reading about it made it more vulnerable and heartbreaking to read.
This book follows the story of 2 young women, Haree, who was trapped in an arranged marriage at a young age and Naina, a young aspiring college going girl, how their lives were shattered because of our society, culture and men. How men treated them and how they didn’t “live” their lives. It’s a story about all the innocent children who could not protect themselves. It’s a journey of women who always lived in silence.
The characters storyline instantly made me feel connected to them. It was a whole rollercoaster of emotions and not in a good way. I won’t say much but I think everyone should give this book a read & give yourself a reality check about how women are treated around us.
Thank you @nikaphilosophy for writing this book. I’m honoured to get one of the copies❤️
October 18, 2024
Trigger warnings:
Child marriage, depression, ràpe.
Lived Not Lived" is a deeply moving narrative that intricately weaves the lives of Haree and Naina, two Indian women whose stories, though different, echo the same pain and struggles faced by countless women in India. This book is a poignant exploration of their experiences, and it doesn't shy away from the raw and unfiltered realities of womanhood in a patriarchal society.
Haree and Naina's stories are compelling and heartbreakingly real. Through their eyes, we witness the injustices, the silent sufferings, and the resilience of women who navigate a world that often seems stacked against them. The author captures their pain so vividly that it transcends the pages, making the reader feel every ounce of their despair, anger, and helplessness.
As I read, I was transported back to the stories my Nani used to tell me about her own life and the lives of women in her time. It struck a chord when she used to say, "The problem isn't the man. It's women who don't want to change. And the women who want no change are the women who drag other women down with them." This book brings those words to life, showing how the reluctance to embrace change perpetuates the cycle of suffering.
There were moments when I had to put the book down, overwhelmed by the sheer intensity of the emotions it evoked. The portrayal of the protagonists' pain was so palpable that it demanded reflection and introspection. This is not a book to be rushed through; it is one to be felt deeply and contemplated upon.
"Lived Not Lived" is more than just a story; it is a call to awareness and empathy. It sheds light on the silent battles fought by women every day and challenges us to look at the world through their eyes. Regardless of gender, this book is a must-read. It is an eye-opener, a conversation starter, and most importantly, a testament to the indomitable spirit of women who continue to fight for a better tomorrow.
Overall, I highly recommend this book. It is a powerful reminder of the strength and resilience of women and a call to action for us all to strive for a more just and equitable society.
Child marriage, depression, ràpe.
Lived Not Lived" is a deeply moving narrative that intricately weaves the lives of Haree and Naina, two Indian women whose stories, though different, echo the same pain and struggles faced by countless women in India. This book is a poignant exploration of their experiences, and it doesn't shy away from the raw and unfiltered realities of womanhood in a patriarchal society.
Haree and Naina's stories are compelling and heartbreakingly real. Through their eyes, we witness the injustices, the silent sufferings, and the resilience of women who navigate a world that often seems stacked against them. The author captures their pain so vividly that it transcends the pages, making the reader feel every ounce of their despair, anger, and helplessness.
As I read, I was transported back to the stories my Nani used to tell me about her own life and the lives of women in her time. It struck a chord when she used to say, "The problem isn't the man. It's women who don't want to change. And the women who want no change are the women who drag other women down with them." This book brings those words to life, showing how the reluctance to embrace change perpetuates the cycle of suffering.
There were moments when I had to put the book down, overwhelmed by the sheer intensity of the emotions it evoked. The portrayal of the protagonists' pain was so palpable that it demanded reflection and introspection. This is not a book to be rushed through; it is one to be felt deeply and contemplated upon.
"Lived Not Lived" is more than just a story; it is a call to awareness and empathy. It sheds light on the silent battles fought by women every day and challenges us to look at the world through their eyes. Regardless of gender, this book is a must-read. It is an eye-opener, a conversation starter, and most importantly, a testament to the indomitable spirit of women who continue to fight for a better tomorrow.
Overall, I highly recommend this book. It is a powerful reminder of the strength and resilience of women and a call to action for us all to strive for a more just and equitable society.
September 27, 2024
Recently, a horrifying incident took place in Kolkata, and amidst the protests for justice, there were arguments that not all men are the same, and that women need to move on from this misconception. There were also questions about why women don’t speak up immediately after such incidents and why they come forward later on.
This book is an answer to all those questions.
This book is an answer to the questions: 'Oh, what was she wearing? Oh, she was out late at night. Oh, she was asking for it.'"
This book is a voice for every scream that has been stuck in the throats of countless girls and women.
Now, if you’re like me and love a book that’s not just a story but an experience, then Lives Not Lived might just be the next read for you. But a little heads-up—this isn’t your typical light-hearted, feel-good novel. It’s heavy, it’s raw, and it’s going to make you feel all the
The book revolves around two central characters—Haree and Naina—each fighting their own battles in a patriarchal society that tries to snuff out their light at every turn.
Haree - She’s someone you’ll probably want to hug the minute you get to know her. Married off at the tender age of 16, Haree’s life is a series of compromises and silent suffering. She’s a character who’s learned to exist within the tight, suffocating boundaries that her life has drawn for her. When we first meet her, she’s trying to find a way to survive the everyday reality of an abusive marriage. It’s heart-wrenching to watch, and yet there’s a quiet resilience in her that keeps you turning the pages .
And then there’s Ram. Oh, Ram. He’s like a breath of fresh air in Haree’s stifling world. He encourages her to dream, to see her worth, to hope. But just when you start thinking that maybe, just maybe, life might be kinder to Haree, tragedy strikes. Haree is once again shattered and at the mercy of a world that has never been kind to her. The way the author has portrayed Haree’s journey of grief, acceptance, and silent endurance is so nuanced and powerful. It’s like you’re sitting with her, feeling every ounce of her pain and loneliness .
But let’s talk about Naina for a moment. Because she’s the character who, in many ways, stole the show for me. Naina is this incredible force of nature—someone who refuses to be shackled by the expectations and restrictions placed on her by society and her family. She’s the kind of character who makes you want to stand up and cheer, even as you’re watching her world try to pull her down at every turn.
Naina’s story is one of resistance and rebellion. Unlike Haree, who initially tries to find peace within her confines, Naina is determined to break free. She’s fiercely independent and unafraid to voice her opinions, even when it means clashing with her deeply conservative family. And believe me, those clashes are not easy. There are moments in the book where you can feel the suffocation that Naina experiences, the frustration of being a woman in a world that wants to dictate how you should live, how you should think, and even how you should feel .
What’s really fascinating about Naina’s character is that she embodies this duality of strength and vulnerability. She’s strong-willed and rebellious, but she’s also deeply human. There’s a part of her that just wants to be loved and accepted for who she is. This is where the real tragedy of her character comes in. Naina’s fight for freedom isn’t just a physical one—it’s emotional and psychological too. She’s trying to carve out a space for herself, to assert her identity, but the weight of societal expectations is crushing.There’s this one moment in the book—I won’t spoil it for you—but it’s where you see Naina at her most vulnerable, and it broke my heart.
On one side, we have Haree’s in-laws - where Haree is left to navigate the suffocating and harsh world of her conservative in-laws, who see her as little more than an object—someone to blame, someone to control. The mother-in-law, in particular, is a character you’ll find yourself struggling with. She represents that generation of women who, despite being oppressed themselves, uphold the very structures that suppress others .It’s frustrating but also painfully realistic.
Then there’s Naina’s family. Her father is the epitome of the patriarchal mindset—rigid, unyielding, and determined to keep his daughter in check, no matter what. He’s not portrayed as a villain, though. The author gives him a kind of depth that shows he’s a product of his own upbringing and societal norms. It’s a chilling reminder of how patriarchy perpetuates itself through generations.
But, amidst this rigidity, we have Naina’s mother. She’s such an important character because she’s caught in this painful dilemma—on one hand, she wants to protect her daughter, but on the other, she’s bound by her own fears and conditioning. Her relationship with Naina is strained, yet there’s an undercurrent of love and helplessness that makes their dynamic so compelling. You can feel her conflict, her love for Naina mingled with the fear of what society would do to them if Naina continued to rebel. It’s heartbreaking .
This book deals with some heavy topics: child marriage, domestic violence, sexual abuse, trauma, and the oppressive nature of patriarchy. These are not easy themes to tackle, especially in a debut novel, but Monika Bhatti does it with a sensitivity and depth that is truly commendable. She doesn’t shy away from the harsh realities, and that’s what makes this book so powerful. You feel the weight of these issues, but you also see the strength and resilience of the women who face them .
Might sound weird but one thing I loved in the book is how the book doesn’t offer easy answers. There’s no neat, happy ending tied up with a bow. It’s messy, it’s painful, and it’s real. And sometimes, that’s exactly what we need in a story—to be reminded that life is complicated, that there are no easy answers, and that strength can be found even in the most unexpected places.
The book is a living attack, and yet I’ll recommend it to every single person out there—more to men than to women. They need to understand that we know, we do know, that not all men are the same. But with the constant incidents, every place, every corner, where you’re looked at wrongly, it’s next to impossible to trust anyone. In the book, there wasn’t a single place where Naina was left untouched, not a single person who didn’t break her spirit. And when she finally met the right man, her heart was so tainted that she couldn’t let go of the fear and believe in the good.
This book is an answer to all those questions.
This book is an answer to the questions: 'Oh, what was she wearing? Oh, she was out late at night. Oh, she was asking for it.'"
This book is a voice for every scream that has been stuck in the throats of countless girls and women.
Now, if you’re like me and love a book that’s not just a story but an experience, then Lives Not Lived might just be the next read for you. But a little heads-up—this isn’t your typical light-hearted, feel-good novel. It’s heavy, it’s raw, and it’s going to make you feel all the
The book revolves around two central characters—Haree and Naina—each fighting their own battles in a patriarchal society that tries to snuff out their light at every turn.
Haree - She’s someone you’ll probably want to hug the minute you get to know her. Married off at the tender age of 16, Haree’s life is a series of compromises and silent suffering. She’s a character who’s learned to exist within the tight, suffocating boundaries that her life has drawn for her. When we first meet her, she’s trying to find a way to survive the everyday reality of an abusive marriage. It’s heart-wrenching to watch, and yet there’s a quiet resilience in her that keeps you turning the pages .
And then there’s Ram. Oh, Ram. He’s like a breath of fresh air in Haree’s stifling world. He encourages her to dream, to see her worth, to hope. But just when you start thinking that maybe, just maybe, life might be kinder to Haree, tragedy strikes. Haree is once again shattered and at the mercy of a world that has never been kind to her. The way the author has portrayed Haree’s journey of grief, acceptance, and silent endurance is so nuanced and powerful. It’s like you’re sitting with her, feeling every ounce of her pain and loneliness .
But let’s talk about Naina for a moment. Because she’s the character who, in many ways, stole the show for me. Naina is this incredible force of nature—someone who refuses to be shackled by the expectations and restrictions placed on her by society and her family. She’s the kind of character who makes you want to stand up and cheer, even as you’re watching her world try to pull her down at every turn.
Naina’s story is one of resistance and rebellion. Unlike Haree, who initially tries to find peace within her confines, Naina is determined to break free. She’s fiercely independent and unafraid to voice her opinions, even when it means clashing with her deeply conservative family. And believe me, those clashes are not easy. There are moments in the book where you can feel the suffocation that Naina experiences, the frustration of being a woman in a world that wants to dictate how you should live, how you should think, and even how you should feel .
What’s really fascinating about Naina’s character is that she embodies this duality of strength and vulnerability. She’s strong-willed and rebellious, but she’s also deeply human. There’s a part of her that just wants to be loved and accepted for who she is. This is where the real tragedy of her character comes in. Naina’s fight for freedom isn’t just a physical one—it’s emotional and psychological too. She’s trying to carve out a space for herself, to assert her identity, but the weight of societal expectations is crushing.There’s this one moment in the book—I won’t spoil it for you—but it’s where you see Naina at her most vulnerable, and it broke my heart.
On one side, we have Haree’s in-laws - where Haree is left to navigate the suffocating and harsh world of her conservative in-laws, who see her as little more than an object—someone to blame, someone to control. The mother-in-law, in particular, is a character you’ll find yourself struggling with. She represents that generation of women who, despite being oppressed themselves, uphold the very structures that suppress others .It’s frustrating but also painfully realistic.
Then there’s Naina’s family. Her father is the epitome of the patriarchal mindset—rigid, unyielding, and determined to keep his daughter in check, no matter what. He’s not portrayed as a villain, though. The author gives him a kind of depth that shows he’s a product of his own upbringing and societal norms. It’s a chilling reminder of how patriarchy perpetuates itself through generations.
But, amidst this rigidity, we have Naina’s mother. She’s such an important character because she’s caught in this painful dilemma—on one hand, she wants to protect her daughter, but on the other, she’s bound by her own fears and conditioning. Her relationship with Naina is strained, yet there’s an undercurrent of love and helplessness that makes their dynamic so compelling. You can feel her conflict, her love for Naina mingled with the fear of what society would do to them if Naina continued to rebel. It’s heartbreaking .
This book deals with some heavy topics: child marriage, domestic violence, sexual abuse, trauma, and the oppressive nature of patriarchy. These are not easy themes to tackle, especially in a debut novel, but Monika Bhatti does it with a sensitivity and depth that is truly commendable. She doesn’t shy away from the harsh realities, and that’s what makes this book so powerful. You feel the weight of these issues, but you also see the strength and resilience of the women who face them .
Might sound weird but one thing I loved in the book is how the book doesn’t offer easy answers. There’s no neat, happy ending tied up with a bow. It’s messy, it’s painful, and it’s real. And sometimes, that’s exactly what we need in a story—to be reminded that life is complicated, that there are no easy answers, and that strength can be found even in the most unexpected places.
The book is a living attack, and yet I’ll recommend it to every single person out there—more to men than to women. They need to understand that we know, we do know, that not all men are the same. But with the constant incidents, every place, every corner, where you’re looked at wrongly, it’s next to impossible to trust anyone. In the book, there wasn’t a single place where Naina was left untouched, not a single person who didn’t break her spirit. And when she finally met the right man, her heart was so tainted that she couldn’t let go of the fear and believe in the good.
April 29, 2024
Resembling bestsellers like 'The pearl that broke it's shell' and 'The Stationery shop of Tehran', 'Lives not lived' narrates the painful story of Haree and Naina, two women from two different times battling their own kind of pain. Some parts of the book are really heart wrenching and you end up feeling so sorry for both the women and their helplessness.
The editting of the book could have been better. There are lot of spelling errors and in a few places , the hurried writing is very evident. I have always believed the 'acknowledgements' section is a mirror to the whole book but unfortunately this seemed extremely uninteresting and dry for the potential of the book.
The editting of the book could have been better. There are lot of spelling errors and in a few places , the hurried writing is very evident. I have always believed the 'acknowledgements' section is a mirror to the whole book but unfortunately this seemed extremely uninteresting and dry for the potential of the book.
March 22, 2024
A heartbreaking read, but the story of this book, is not something you’ll be surprised with, because it is exactly what we have been listening to since time immemorial. It still equally breaks our heart, leaving us to feel helpless for the characters.
Books like these are perfect to remind us where we stand when it comes to the real ‘women empowerment’.
If you have a chance give this book a try.
Books like these are perfect to remind us where we stand when it comes to the real ‘women empowerment’.
If you have a chance give this book a try.
June 16, 2024
LIVES NO LIVED
To all the women who suffered in silence
To all the children who grew up in violence
The book ‘LIVES NOT LIVED’ by Monika Bhatti is a story of two girls, one named Haree and the other named Naina. They say when life gives you lemons make lemonade, but sometimes the marks of those lemons stay and are never wiped off no matter how much you try, it just stays. This story about the two girls is the depiction of how the traumatic childhood of any individual keeps a void, regret and discomfort within them making them feel caged with those memories forever.
Haree, the eldest girl of the family, who always gave up her happiness and lived a life just as her father wished her to do. She was the daughter of a father who never desired daughters yet found himself with three. She who saw her mother’s misery, father’s anger, sisters’ angst, in-laws’ wrath but also had her husbands love. Haree grew up as a disliked child who was married to Ram to reduce her father’s burden and was never able to live life joyously. Married to Ram, her life began to transform into something sweet and fulfilling, marking the happiest turn of events she had ever experienced. But life had its own twists, all of this was as short-lived as a summer-rain. She loses her whole life in a blink of second as her husband dies due to prolonged illness and she who was trying to fix the broken pieces of her life is scattered all again. Haree never wanted her daughter to face the cruel and heartless world and hence as a mother does the unthinkable.
Naina, as the name translates to English was beautiful hazel eyed girl born to parents who were constricted to social expectations and norms. Naina was a free-spirited girl who would say ‘Namaste’ to any stranger passing by her house, would roam the streets with open arms and had a smile that was difficult to disappear. But life had some different plans and the cheerful, smiling girl became a psychiatric patient. School, college, society ever bit of her life had affected the girl deeply and had broken her in pieces. The unloved child of the family who was always wrong no matter what she did was later loved and taken care of when the family got to know about the physical and mental state. She was married to a loving person Suraj who made sure that Naina was always comfortable and loved by his family. Life came to her in a circle, she received the acceptance and love for her dear one’s which she had always craved for. But now when she gained all this love her heart was full. This love made her weak and filled her mind and heart with guilt, regret, discomfort and pain. So now she makes one last wish to God and asks him for something that someone would never ask for.
Haree and Naina’s stories depict how people suffer their entire lives in pain. How some people are never able to live the lives that they are granted. How one decision affects the whole life. How sometimes you can’t escape the fate. How life teaches you. How people in your life affects and shapes your life and lastly how much you are confined to the ground. This book has taught me to accept things as they are because the more we try to fix the broken pieces of the puzzle, the more the puzzle breaks further.
Riya S Patwardhan (June 15th 2024)
To all the women who suffered in silence
To all the children who grew up in violence
The book ‘LIVES NOT LIVED’ by Monika Bhatti is a story of two girls, one named Haree and the other named Naina. They say when life gives you lemons make lemonade, but sometimes the marks of those lemons stay and are never wiped off no matter how much you try, it just stays. This story about the two girls is the depiction of how the traumatic childhood of any individual keeps a void, regret and discomfort within them making them feel caged with those memories forever.
Haree, the eldest girl of the family, who always gave up her happiness and lived a life just as her father wished her to do. She was the daughter of a father who never desired daughters yet found himself with three. She who saw her mother’s misery, father’s anger, sisters’ angst, in-laws’ wrath but also had her husbands love. Haree grew up as a disliked child who was married to Ram to reduce her father’s burden and was never able to live life joyously. Married to Ram, her life began to transform into something sweet and fulfilling, marking the happiest turn of events she had ever experienced. But life had its own twists, all of this was as short-lived as a summer-rain. She loses her whole life in a blink of second as her husband dies due to prolonged illness and she who was trying to fix the broken pieces of her life is scattered all again. Haree never wanted her daughter to face the cruel and heartless world and hence as a mother does the unthinkable.
Naina, as the name translates to English was beautiful hazel eyed girl born to parents who were constricted to social expectations and norms. Naina was a free-spirited girl who would say ‘Namaste’ to any stranger passing by her house, would roam the streets with open arms and had a smile that was difficult to disappear. But life had some different plans and the cheerful, smiling girl became a psychiatric patient. School, college, society ever bit of her life had affected the girl deeply and had broken her in pieces. The unloved child of the family who was always wrong no matter what she did was later loved and taken care of when the family got to know about the physical and mental state. She was married to a loving person Suraj who made sure that Naina was always comfortable and loved by his family. Life came to her in a circle, she received the acceptance and love for her dear one’s which she had always craved for. But now when she gained all this love her heart was full. This love made her weak and filled her mind and heart with guilt, regret, discomfort and pain. So now she makes one last wish to God and asks him for something that someone would never ask for.
Haree and Naina’s stories depict how people suffer their entire lives in pain. How some people are never able to live the lives that they are granted. How one decision affects the whole life. How sometimes you can’t escape the fate. How life teaches you. How people in your life affects and shapes your life and lastly how much you are confined to the ground. This book has taught me to accept things as they are because the more we try to fix the broken pieces of the puzzle, the more the puzzle breaks further.
Riya S Patwardhan (June 15th 2024)
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