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How Do I Love Thee: Food for Thought, Before You Say "I Do"
Are We Ready For Marriage ? How Compatible are We? Ready for Intimacy? Commitment? The Marriage Bed? What About The In-laws/Out-laws?
"Are you on the brink of saying 'I Do'? Have you considered the solemnity of these words and the commitment they imply? DeBorrah K. Ogans's book "How Do I Love Thee: Food For Thought Before You Say I Do" invokes you to dig deeper into these questions before tying the knot.
A judicious mix of spiritual wisdom, psychological insight, and practical guidance, this book walks you through the significant aspects of defining and nurturing a healthy, meaningful relationship ready for marriage. Ogans, a seasoned marital counselor, presents a candid mirror to every reader, helping them challenge their assumptions, question their readiness, and demystify their understanding of love and commitment.
The book is structured into bite-sized chapters, each dealing with a critical aspect of marriage - forgiveness, trust, flexibility, communication, and many more. It doesn’t simply tell you WHAT to think about, but it aids you in HOW to think effectively about steadfast pledge and conjugal unity. At times, it serves as an instructor imparting valuable lessons, at others, as a friend sharing anecdotes and experiences, and sometimes as a counselor offering solutions to potential challenges.
DeBorrah K. Ogans’s writing is straightforward, compassionate, and insightful. She skillfully shows how successful marriages aren’t built merely on ephemeral emotions, but on the foundational blocks of patience, understanding, and sacrificial love. Through her work, she reminds readers that marriage is not just about finding the right person, but also about being the right person.
"How Do I Love Thee: Food For Thought Before You Say I Do" is not just a book, it's a relationship-building manual designed to equip the readers with the necessary tools to create a foundation for a lasting relationship. Perfect for couples at any stage in their relationship, it delivers practical steps and thought-provoking questions that empower each individual to build a sincere, fulfilling marriage. Whether you're contemplating marriage, engaged, newlywed, or a seasoned couple, this book is a powerful asset for your journey together."
Many couples spend a great deal of time planning their wedding, but little time planning their marriage. They have not taken the time to have candid open discussion as to what happens after the wedding. Planning your wedding is important, but so is planning your marriage. All too often it is the idea of all the exciting Showers, Parties, Celebrations and activities that many have come to enjoy, rather than the marriage itself.
How Do I Love Thee:Food For Thought Before You Say "I DO" is a mini-premarital guide to be used by couples, counselors, and clergy. It addresses many of the major subjects couples should discuss prior to marriage. Included are interactive lessons and assignments for the couple which are designed to motivate serious thought about love, compatibility, commitment, finances, accountability, responsibility, dealing with the in-laws, the marriage bed, and more.
"Are you on the brink of saying 'I Do'? Have you considered the solemnity of these words and the commitment they imply? DeBorrah K. Ogans's book "How Do I Love Thee: Food For Thought Before You Say I Do" invokes you to dig deeper into these questions before tying the knot.
A judicious mix of spiritual wisdom, psychological insight, and practical guidance, this book walks you through the significant aspects of defining and nurturing a healthy, meaningful relationship ready for marriage. Ogans, a seasoned marital counselor, presents a candid mirror to every reader, helping them challenge their assumptions, question their readiness, and demystify their understanding of love and commitment.
The book is structured into bite-sized chapters, each dealing with a critical aspect of marriage - forgiveness, trust, flexibility, communication, and many more. It doesn’t simply tell you WHAT to think about, but it aids you in HOW to think effectively about steadfast pledge and conjugal unity. At times, it serves as an instructor imparting valuable lessons, at others, as a friend sharing anecdotes and experiences, and sometimes as a counselor offering solutions to potential challenges.
DeBorrah K. Ogans’s writing is straightforward, compassionate, and insightful. She skillfully shows how successful marriages aren’t built merely on ephemeral emotions, but on the foundational blocks of patience, understanding, and sacrificial love. Through her work, she reminds readers that marriage is not just about finding the right person, but also about being the right person.
"How Do I Love Thee: Food For Thought Before You Say I Do" is not just a book, it's a relationship-building manual designed to equip the readers with the necessary tools to create a foundation for a lasting relationship. Perfect for couples at any stage in their relationship, it delivers practical steps and thought-provoking questions that empower each individual to build a sincere, fulfilling marriage. Whether you're contemplating marriage, engaged, newlywed, or a seasoned couple, this book is a powerful asset for your journey together."
Many couples spend a great deal of time planning their wedding, but little time planning their marriage. They have not taken the time to have candid open discussion as to what happens after the wedding. Planning your wedding is important, but so is planning your marriage. All too often it is the idea of all the exciting Showers, Parties, Celebrations and activities that many have come to enjoy, rather than the marriage itself.
How Do I Love Thee:Food For Thought Before You Say "I DO" is a mini-premarital guide to be used by couples, counselors, and clergy. It addresses many of the major subjects couples should discuss prior to marriage. Included are interactive lessons and assignments for the couple which are designed to motivate serious thought about love, compatibility, commitment, finances, accountability, responsibility, dealing with the in-laws, the marriage bed, and more.
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78 pages, Paperback
First published March 1, 2000
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DeBorrah K. Ogans
11 books51 followersDeBorrah K. Ogans was born in San Francisco, California. She is a Christian Pastoral Counselor, Elder/Minister, and Author.
At the age of 4 she accepted Christ as her personal Savior, and has been a part of HIS church ever since. At the age of 12 she received a certificate in Major Religions of The World. She has remained actively involved in various aspects of Ministry.
DeBorrah is certified through the Sarasota Academy of Christian Counseling in “Creation Therapy”, and has a Masters Degree in Biblical Clinical Counseling. She is a member in good standing of the Alumni Association of the American Bible College and Seminary. A member of the National Association of Christian Ministers as well as a Member of Association of Clergy International. She is also the co-founder of Alpha 7 Ministries.
She resides in Northern California. Married to her high school sweetheart Elder Randall Ogans Sr. for over 53 years in a covenant marriage, together they have 5 children and 21 grandchildren.
DeBorrah has written extensively. She has ministered to many and embraces Christianity as a daily lifestyle. She has 8 published books and a plethora of articles on behavioral, emotional, and spiritual subjects that are widely published. You can read many of her articles on her ministry website at https://www.alpha7ministries.org.
She is also the co-host of the "Walking In The Light Podcast where she shares biblically based insight, guidance, and advice on Life & Living, Marriage & Relationships, Family & Parenting, Faith & Belief, Church & Religion, Spiritual Health, and more. You can listen to the weekly episodes at: www.youtube.com/@alpha7ministries196/...
As an Ambassador for Christ, she has traveled to many different countries, experiencing the freedom in Christ, and realization that “the earth is the LORD’s, and the fulness thereof; the world, and they that dwell therein.” Psalm 24. Her travels have taken her to Greece, France, Spain, Italy, England, Turkey (Ephesus), Mexico, Switzerland, Canada, Jamaica, and several other destinations throughout the world.
Being able to engage with a diversity of people, cultures, and ages all over the world provided her with a global perspective of God’s true universal Church, better understanding the opportunity, privilege, and calling to minister to all people.
Through her books, podcast, counseling, and articles, DeBorrah encourages individuals, couples, families, youth & children to persevere through life challenges and adversity by working together to develop healthier, loving, safe nurturing living environments that promote well-being.
To God Be The Glory!
At the age of 4 she accepted Christ as her personal Savior, and has been a part of HIS church ever since. At the age of 12 she received a certificate in Major Religions of The World. She has remained actively involved in various aspects of Ministry.
DeBorrah is certified through the Sarasota Academy of Christian Counseling in “Creation Therapy”, and has a Masters Degree in Biblical Clinical Counseling. She is a member in good standing of the Alumni Association of the American Bible College and Seminary. A member of the National Association of Christian Ministers as well as a Member of Association of Clergy International. She is also the co-founder of Alpha 7 Ministries.
She resides in Northern California. Married to her high school sweetheart Elder Randall Ogans Sr. for over 53 years in a covenant marriage, together they have 5 children and 21 grandchildren.
DeBorrah has written extensively. She has ministered to many and embraces Christianity as a daily lifestyle. She has 8 published books and a plethora of articles on behavioral, emotional, and spiritual subjects that are widely published. You can read many of her articles on her ministry website at https://www.alpha7ministries.org.
She is also the co-host of the "Walking In The Light Podcast where she shares biblically based insight, guidance, and advice on Life & Living, Marriage & Relationships, Family & Parenting, Faith & Belief, Church & Religion, Spiritual Health, and more. You can listen to the weekly episodes at: www.youtube.com/@alpha7ministries196/...
As an Ambassador for Christ, she has traveled to many different countries, experiencing the freedom in Christ, and realization that “the earth is the LORD’s, and the fulness thereof; the world, and they that dwell therein.” Psalm 24. Her travels have taken her to Greece, France, Spain, Italy, England, Turkey (Ephesus), Mexico, Switzerland, Canada, Jamaica, and several other destinations throughout the world.
Being able to engage with a diversity of people, cultures, and ages all over the world provided her with a global perspective of God’s true universal Church, better understanding the opportunity, privilege, and calling to minister to all people.
Through her books, podcast, counseling, and articles, DeBorrah encourages individuals, couples, families, youth & children to persevere through life challenges and adversity by working together to develop healthier, loving, safe nurturing living environments that promote well-being.
To God Be The Glory!
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January 19, 2018
Having been married for over twenty years, I found this study guide from an expert in the field of Biblical marriage counseling, informational. It is a short, quick read with the chapters broken down for a counselor to work with and assign thought-provoking homework for the learner. Very good for those wanting to sharpen their relationship according to the Word.
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