Misplaced Childhood: A True Story of Resiliency and Child Advocacy

by Joan Ulsher

After foster care, Joan is returned home and subjected to more abuse. How can she be saved?Misplaced Childhood chronicles one woman’s powerful journey to overcome a tragic past and use her “lived experiences” to inspire others. Wounded by poverty, child abuse, and foster care, Joan Ulsher discovers a purpose-filled life through military service and faith in God. This transformational journey of survival and triumph ultimately leads Joan to become a fierce volunteer advocate for children in foster care, despite not having a dedicated advocate as a child herself. Misplaced Childhood introduces readers to the Court Appointed Special Advocate (CASA) model, where Joan continues exploring childhood memories while highlighting her exceptional advocacy journey shaped by the children whose lives are impacted along the way.With its candid look at child welfare and advocacy alongside a personal narrative of healing, Misplaced Childhood opens up new levels of compassion for children suffering from abuse and neglect. Impeccably researched and told with great transparency, empathy, and vulnerability, Misplaced Childhood will inspire readers to embrace the vulnerable inner child in us all and take action for America’s forgotten children.This book contains language about family dysfunction and generational trauma.

Genres: Nonfiction

317 pages, Kindle Edition

Published September 18, 2023

About the author

Joan Ulsher is a San Antonio-based writer, philanthropist, retired U.S. Army Major, and award-winning child advocate.

A survivor of abuse with first-hand experience of foster care, Joan serves children and teens as a Court Appointed Special Advocate, or CASA Advocate, in the foster care system in Bexar County, Texas.

Net profits from the sales of Misplaced Childhood directly benefit Child Advocates San Antonio, a 501(c)3 organization.

Reviews

[Kellyk114 · Rating 5 out of 5]

As a volunteer CASA in Will County Illinois, this book offered me incredible perspective. I highly encourage you read it if you have ever been interested in becoming a Court Appointed Special Advocate. Written by a CASA in Texas who was also a part of the foster system many decades ago, Joan's story drew a perfect correlation between the trauma and crisis experienced by the youth we service and how a CASA can best support a child navigating through those experiences. Thank you for sharing your story and for the contributions you (and your husband) have made to the CASA community all of these years, Joan.

[Mrs. Z · Rating 5 out of 5]

I do not usually leave reviews- but I am making an exception! Joan's story is a great read. It's a story that must be told.

We often do not ever know what our friends, neighbors or co-workers have experienced in life. Joan shares an utterly compelling story about her life in order to share the message about advocacy for children in foster care. It's a gripping, heart wrenching and heartwarming account of child abuse, foster care, trauma and triumph over tragedy. Faith abounds in Joan and she shares an inside look into advocating for children today as an adult. Get a copy. Read it. Review it. Share it and spread a message of hope for these often-forgotten children.

[Zander · Rating 5 out of 5]

Hit close to home. It wasn't that long ago that I was in foster care. The author gave me hope. I'm still struggling, but I feel like I can realize my resiliency the way the author found hers. I wish I had a casa advocate like Joan. It would have saved me a bit of hardships knowing that there are adults that volunteer like this. I had a mentor, but it wasn't the same. I'm finishing college and hopefully can become court appointed when I am done. I also want to help foster kids because I was one. This book is one I'll re-read later in life. It's like a blueprint for survival.

[Nicola · Rating 4 out of 5]

Misplaced Childhood is a powerful and insightful read that left a lasting impression. Joan Ulsher approaches a difficult subject with honesty, compassion, and a clarity that makes the book both accessible and deeply moving. Her storytelling is engaging, and the real-world experiences she shares bring an authenticity that’s hard to ignore.

What truly sets this book apart is how valuable it is for advocates—whether you work in social services, education, child welfare, or community outreach. Ulsher provides not only a compelling narrative but also a meaningful framework for understanding the lived realities of vulnerable children. It’s the kind of resource that encourages reflection, strengthens empathy, and supports better-informed advocacy.

While there were a few moments where I wished for even more depth or expansion in certain areas, the book as a whole is impactful, informative, and well worth reading. Misplaced Childhood is an excellent resource for anyone committed to supporting children and standing up for those whose voices are too often overlooked.

[Lilly P · Rating 5 out of 5]

Incredible true-life account of surviving child abuse and then making a difference for marginalized children in foster care. Well-written. I couldn't put this book down. It's easily broken up into sections that flow well. Themes of abuse, resilience, survival and even suicide are carefully written to not traumatize the reader. I am refreshed in knowing that there are kindhearted Godly people like Joan serving children in our communities.

[Patsy · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book provides a first-hand look at childhood abuse and neglect which led to foster care for the author and her brother.

[Robert Fike · Rating 5 out of 5]

"Eye-Opening and Essential Reading for Advocates"

"Misplaced Childhood" by Joan Ulsher is an autobiographical account of her experiences in the foster care system and the abuse she endured at home. Joan's story goes beyond personal narrative, advocating for the importance of organizations like CASA (Child Advocates San Antonio).

Recommendation:
I recommend Joan's book to anyone interested in understanding firsthand accounts of child abuse within institutional systems. Whether you want to become an advocate for children or learn more about the realities of child abuse, this book provides important insights. It highlights the challenges faced by vulnerable children and the critical role of advocates in their protection.

Emotional Impact:
This book addresses a sensitive topic with honesty. Joan's willingness to share her experiences shows her commitment to helping children and their advocates. The emotional depth of her storytelling makes the reader aware of the grim realities of abuse while also offering hope and a call to action.

Overall Impression:
I commend Joan for turning her painful experiences into a story of redemption and community service. She tackles a subject many avoid, compelling the reader to confront the issue of child abuse. Joan shines a light on this dark topic and fights for vulnerable children, making "Misplaced Childhood" not just a memoir but a tool for awareness and change.

Joan Ulsher's "Misplaced Childhood" is more than a book; it's a call to action for justice and protection for future generations. Her story reminds us of the resilience of the human spirit and the impact that advocacy and support can have on a child's life. This book is essential reading for anyone committed to making a difference for abused and neglected children.

[Sam · Rating 5 out of 5]

I can't say enough how motivating this book is to those of us who strive for better outcomes in child welfare.
Joan's own journey leading up to and through foster care and the authors subsequent advocacy on behalf of children currently in care gives us a peek behind the scenes into the "why" of child welfare advocacy: for Joan it was her own experiences and strength that drove her to advocate for foster children. For those of us without those same personal experiences, we have an inside look into signs that may go unnoticed that give further credence for the call to all of us who wish to prevent further abuse and be more cognizant of the signs of child abuse in our own communities to stand up and speak out.

I encourage anyone considering child advocacy work to read Joan's journey and take to heart the ways in which we can better serve abused and neglected children.

[Kirsten Marshall · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is an excellent resource for anyone wanting to help children but unsure how to start. I was struck by the transparency and vulnerability with which the author wrote when sharing her personal story, and it is beautiful to see her life come full-circle to so significantly impact children in need. This book makes child advocacy feel within reach for the average person by sharing an insightful overview of the training process, thereby removing some of the mystery for those (like me) who are unfamiliar with the process. It was inspiring to read the real-life stories of the children she has worked with and other adults who are helping in out-of-the-box capacities. If you’re wondering whether to get this book or not, do!

[Paula Miller · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book will pull on your heart and make you want to take action. The author had a very difficult youth and overcame unspeakably traumatic circumstances as an abused child and part of a fractured foster care system. When she became an adult, she found her meaning in giving back to foster care kids by becoming an advocate and spending every day working toward giving these kids a chance at a good life and love from kind people. We need to hear from people like Ulsher who can show us how to care for others who are vulnerable and need help. The book is very well written and highly detailed. I recommend it highly.

[Valerie Woodruff · Rating 5 out of 5]

This was a book I could not put down. When you finish reading it leaves you wondering how could someone persevere into such an incredible woman. Joan obviously is not the person to give up on awareness. Joan’s personal experiences are written is such a way, it makes you wonder how could that abuse not of been recognized. It’s easy to see that she is encouraging the system not to turn a blind eye.
I highly recommend this book

[Cheryl Osborne · Rating 5 out of 5]

I am genuinely touched and inspired by your remarkable story and life’s work. Your resilience and love shine through, warming my heart. Thank you for entrusting me with the privilege of reading this. I believe this book deserves to reach every foster child in our nation. Your words have reignited something within me, and I am grateful for the positive impact. When I resume recording, I’ll be sure to promote it. Thank you once again for sharing your story; it is truly appreciated

[Patrick J · Rating 5 out of 5]

Misplaced Childhood tells a horrific story of a young girl, her siblings and the physical and mental abuse they suffered as children at the hands of their parents. Joan and her husband Andy, uses these tragic events as a platform to advocate for children who do not have a voice of their own and to brings and bring attention to the need for Child Victim Advocates.

This is a powerful story of resiliency and advocacy. This is a MUST READ for anyone who works with victims, especially children.

[Erin Curry · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was a great read! So real to me and shocking at the same time. The Author shares a heartfelt, sad and courages story about her life as a young child and how she barely survived and then how she went on to become the answer to her prayers for the children who now need her help. Highly recommend this book!

[SarahU · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a very pertinent book to anyone desiring to learn about the foster care system, and for anyone who may want to become an advocate for children in the system. Joan paints a very vivid picture in her writing and is able to pull a lot from her own life for an anecdotal and poignant story. Definitely recommend.

[Laura Garza · Rating 5 out of 5]

I couldn’t put this book down. Misplaced Childhood grasps your soul. It’s an inspiring story of courage and perseverance. Through her captivating journey, Joan sheds light into the dark reality of abused and neglected children in our communities and what we can do to make a difference.

[sharon humphrey · Rating 5 out of 5]

misplaced childhood a book of hope and faith.

This was the most inspiring book. Anyone who has suffered abuse or neglect should read this book . The book is a inside look at hope and tenacity of one person who has moved forward with love and hope for the children.

[Wendy · Rating 5 out of 5]

Joan Ulsher has written a heartbreaking but inspiring memoir. Her personal experience with foster care adds so much depth to her growth and knowledge. Her current work with CASA and advocating for these kids is uplifting. Something to learn for everyone.

[Patty Emberley · Rating 5 out of 5]

Fantastic! This is a must read.

[Mary Beth · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a powerful book to read.

[Chrissy Klauss · Rating 5 out of 5]

I was given this book by a friend who volunteers for CASA. Right away I was gripped by the emotional story of the author, Joan. Awesome!

Her journey is raw, honest, heartbreaking and inspiring. I wept as I felt what she detailed as unspeakable abuses inside her home. The author did not have a happy childhood. As I continued to turn each page and take in the narrative, I found hope. I could not put it down. The writing is excellent.

The author eventually made her way through life, losing family members along the way, but she always saw something positive in others. Teachers, friends, neighbors and strangers seemed to give the author a glimpse of what she could become.

I loved the section about "doing it yourself." The author used an analogy eloquently and effectively to shield us from the harshness and transformation in her life. DIY by God. Her words allowed me to envision her life and the horrible state her emotional well-being was one once, as she explained it as a building or a house. Faith allowed her to pick of the damaged pieces of her life and rebuild her life from scratch with God's help. How perfect that she chooses Jesus, a carpenter, to help her along this path to greatness. I could totally understand how much hurt and pain she endured. I also grew to understand how faith can be a powerful force for other children and adults suffering from child abuse or domestic violence. If we could all find peace like the author eventually did!

After I had a firm grasp on who the author was, I identified with her passion towards helping other children in the later parts of the book. Joan did a great job of organizing the chapters and sections of the book. It made ease of reading it in separate sessions. The transitions were seamless, and the book read like a movie of her life. My friend was so RIGHT for sharing this book. I now understand better what CASA does other than somehow serving foster children. I feel like I am better prepared for the process and crisis in child social services. We need more people with hearts of gold like CASA volunteers in Los Angeles where I live and like Joan Ulsher in San Antonio, and across the country. The author gives you a path to follow hers in her resources.

Don't miss this read. Original, heartbreaking and heart touching, you will not stop reading until the very end. And a bonus, I often flipped to the back to scan the photos and images of the author's life as I read along chapter to chapter. I really felt like I was there with the author in her training. I am in the process of review to become a court-appointed special advocate right now. I think everyone who loves children will come to understand that foster children need help. I never thought about those kids growing up and what becomes of them, but now I do and I hope that many can find Joan's book and find their resilience the way she has. The best lesson in this book: "you do not have to become what your past was" or something like that. I may not have used the correct words, but I understood it as kids can break free of the stereotypes and negative statistics and be a success story. Well done Joan Ulsher. I am looking forward to making a difference like you have. Five stars!!!

[READER VIEWS · Rating 5 out of 5]

“Misplaced Childhood” by Joan Ulsher is the true story of the author’s incredible journey through a life of suffering; physically, mentally, and emotionally. She bravely takes the readers on her unusual journey. What makes this book so unique and brave is that she reveals everything in print about her life, not holding back the parts that many don’t want to hear.

Ms. Ulsher and her siblings were raised in Buffalo, New York in a neighborhood of slum and blight. The area, aptly called “The Blocks,” consisted of rows of dilapidated houses that weren’t really homes in a positive sense. The house she resided in was cold, dark, and uncomely; with holes in the floors and unsealed windows allowing the cold wintry weather of Buffalo to enter.

The author and her siblings were mistreated in horrible ways, particularly her and her beloved brother Joey. They were the two middle children and looked as if they were twins. Her father and quite frankly, her mother, were drunks, constantly beating them for no reason. Rape and sexual invasions were quite common in the family as well. “Misplaced Childhood” is a book that surgically dives not only into how child abuse thrives but how we, as a community, must address this issue. The author certainly did!

“Misplaced Childhood” by Joan Ulsher was a very uncomfortable book for me to read. Not because it isn’t worth it, it is. Even more so, this book needs to be read by all, especially parents! The many things that she reveals will make you shed a tear if you’re human, but eventually, any tears will be turned into delight as Ms. Ulsher overcomes her childhood trauma.

The author is now a CASA agent, an acronym for Court Appointed Special Advocate. These agents of the court specialize in advocating for our children who are wayward, distressed, sexually betrayed, and abused. It takes a special soul to care so much for our children. And one shouldn’t be surprised that she’s qualified to hold such a significant position, based on the abuse she suffered as a child.

This story is different from other childhood stories in that the author speaks to all the children… so they won’t ever feel misplaced! “Misplaced Childhood” by Joan Ulsher is a candid look not only at the lives of children in instances of neglect or abuse, but also at the inadequate systems that are in place to protect them. I purposely didn’t divulge all that she went through as a child, as I truly desire readers to thoroughly read her story for themselves.

[Riley Stamp · Rating 5 out of 5]

Loved the cover and title. Hooked me immediately. I did not expect the author's journey to be so expansive! Wow. Incredible and inspiring story! Different than most child abuse stories where you don't feel like there is a happy ending- in this story, you get that- you get triumph over tragedy, survival, hope, and a call for action as she calls it.

This is a unique account of how Joan endured child abuse, poverty, and neglect. Her parents were alcoholics. Warning: there is discussion and detail about suicide. The author provided a trigger warning in the preface. I am saddened by the loss of her brother. Tragic. Don't skip a single page. Read the advanced praise and you will understand right away that you are in for a powerful and tumultuous ride. Buckle your seat belt- the author's life should be made into a movie because as you turn the pages you suddenly unravel her purpose of inciting volunteerism across the country in the name of foster children. This story should be widely shared.

Each chapter and section has wonderful quotes. This is a well-written and powerful story. I am inspired by the author, the children she advocates for, and the advocates "angels in the appendix" that she highlighted. It gave me a deeper understanding of Court Appointed Special Advocates. Do not set this book aside. The pictures in the back bring the story to light.

I do not usually look at authors or book websites, but I had to check out her website after viewing the pictures in the book. They made me curious. Do NOT miss out!!! Joan is a volunteer CASA in Texas. On her website, she has the most creative and artsy pictures of furniture that she makes for children in foster care. Hands down incredible. My son wants one now. The world is a better place with this author in it. A MUST read. Not for young teens because of the trigger warnings, or at least moms, you be the judge on that. Loved this. God bless her.

[Jarmon Page · Rating 5 out of 5]

Hello Amazing People
My name is Jarmon Page also known as AJ

THANK YOU GOD FOR ALLOWING ME TO BE HERE TO WRITE THIS!!!!!!
I LOVE THE AUTHOR
I LOVE THE AUTHOR HUSBAND
I LOVE THE AUTHOR STEPSON
This book is a must read. It appealed to me because I was also in foster care. I needed resiliency and purpose and found it much the way the author did. It was heartbreaking to read the tragic circumstances but I couldn’t not put it down. It was captivating and inspiring. Everyone who is involved with the child welfare system needs to read this story. I feel empowered to mentor foster youth one day! Kids need us. I didn’t have the opportunity of ever being placed with my siblings until it was adoption time but that would take a different turn. I am enough!!! The author and I have so much in common that we don’t even know and I’m truly blessed that I have someone I can truly connect with when it comes to the trauma and stress that comes with being a STRONG ADVOCATE.. If I’m being honest as of 3/2024 I’m currently still serving in the US ARMY as a Staff Sergeant.
My career has been amazing but it has been very very rocky lately I lost a soldier due to suicide 2 years ago and it still affects me to this day I self referred for help and currently still getting help but upon completion of this book … I came to the conclusion that I’m truly tired & sick of being sick and tired & NOW !!!!!!I’m ready to THRIVE !!!but I know first I must continue to seek guidance and mentorship from those who truly believe!!!
Thanks Auntie !!!

[Marty Kay · Rating 5 out of 5]

Inspiring! The author, despite a devastating childhood and the sad loss of her brother, rebounds in life with resilience and a servant's heart.

I was truly touched by the writing. With each page turn, I felt like I was a partner in Joan's life. Walking side by side her as she experienced trauma, fear, loss, grief, happiness, love and FAITH. The author had experienced so much in life, and she had no reason to give back to others, but she still did. She is selfless and an example for foster kids to emulate. She is guided by God's plan for her life.

I fostered two "misplaced" children and later adopted them. It is humbling to understand the horrors some children face. "Misplaced Childhood" is a glimpse into that horror even though the author shields us from the worst parts of her life and the lives of the children she advocates for. I am grateful for Joan sharing her story. It will truly impact adult-children, trauma survivors and former foster kids and any reader for that matter.

Carry on your passion Joan! You are making a difference for the "voiceless" and if they read your story, I believe they will find they always had a "voice" and will discover their resilience.

This book is a must read for anyone working in the child welfare field. Social workers, foster parents, child advocates and child abuse survivors...you are important and also heard!

With a solid understanding of what child advocates, or CASA do, I am now equipped to foster again. May God be with everyone who loves children and serves them as the author does.

[Mindy H · Rating 5 out of 5]

Pretty amazing and courageous story. I couldn't put it down. Got it at my local library after seeing the author on a local news segment. I am going to purchase it for a friend who also experienced foster care but now has a family of her own.

I am inspired by the transparency, transformation, and healing that the author expose for readers. Everyone who cares about the community and children should read this!

Joan details horrible abuse, but not so much that you have to turn away. I grew up in her home town and know that these situations still exist. I was touched and saddened by the story about how she lost her brother at such a young age. Joan then turned to the military to forge a new path in life! She found God and purpose. Eventually she put her experiences into action to volunteer for a child advocacy center. You will want to aspire to help others after reading this story!

Thank you for your service to the nation and to your community in helping children in foster care. A career in the military was not enough so she returned to face her past and became a child advocate to help children find resiliency of their own. I want to do more like the author. I loved the pictures at the end and feel more familiar to her story and children in my neighborhood. This well-written book definitely has a purpose and should be on every library shelf. Get it now.

[Jeanie Reeds · Rating 5 out of 5]

Incredible! I read this book for a book club and then we were able to meet the author virtually to discuss. Joan Ulsher is as genuine in her book as she is in person. I could identify with several aspects of her story. I also suffered horrible abuse growing up, but fortunately for me family stepped in and I was made safe. I was not surprised by what I read in her story. It seems that we as a society have not eradicated child abuse and still have a long way to go in recognizing the signs in children who are too scared to share or speak up. It is still such a problem. I am in awe of the author and all she has accomplished. How brave she was to share the details of her life. I am nowhere close to being able to have such raw transparency. I admire her efforts as a Court Appointed Special Advocate. This is also a very well-written book. I enjoyed the scenes in her voice as a child and as an adult looking back or working with children in foster care today. I do not want to share any spoilers but please read this book. You will be better informed about the struggles facing children in America.

[Reader · Rating 5 out of 5]

I really enjoyed reading Joan Ulshers book titled Misplaced Childhood. I was amazed by her bravery to tell her story honestly and truthfully. Her memoir recounts Joan’s life growing up in a completely dysfunctional family. Sharing her own experience helped me imagine it as an experience i could have easily had myself. It’s a story filled with her resilience to overcome her traumatic childhood. She enlist into military service and developed a transformational faith in God. The book is a fact based. On her sociological construction of her own-temporarily lost childhood. It’s a story of redemption and hope. I would rate this book a 10 for its authenticity and brutal honesty. I would recommend it to anyone who has experienced childhood trauma, parents, or anyone involved with foster care programs, people who would like to advocate for kids who have known some sort of traumatic experiences in life. I give it 5 stars.

[Cinda Brooks · Rating 5 out of 5]

In Misplaced Childhood, author Joan Ulsher invites the reader into her world of child abuse and neglect…a world most often buried and protected. This courageous and talented author opens her life experiences with amazing vulnerability. Her story is raw, real, and heartbreaking. She and her siblings endued unspeakable pain at the hands of their parents and foster homes. Their attempts to get help remained unanswered. As this sad story of trauma and wounding unfolds, wounds turn to purpose. Instead of letting her past define her, she has used it to set her purpose on fire as she fiercely defends and advocates for children through CASA-Court Appointed Special Advocate. Misplaced Childhood is real life testimony of God’s ability to redeem and turn hurt to healing. Each chapter draws the reader to the next…a hard-to-put-down memoir.

[Shayla Dugan · Rating 5 out of 5]

This was a really vulnerable memoir regarding the abuse the author suffered as a child and how that affected her into adulthood. It was incredibly insightful in regard to how spending a childhood feeling unsafe can ripple into choices you make in adulthood. I appreciated the author providing awareness of the challenges in the child protection system as well as sharing her personal experience with CASA. I feel like CASA is one of those programs that really isn't on enough radars when it comes to volunteerism and protecting children. One caveat--It can be very heavy at times. It could've just been my own current emotional state but I had to take breaks throughout my read so it took me months to finish. I was originally going to give it four stars for that reason but I really feel like it wasn't the work so much as it was the person reading it (me.)