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The Me List
Ziplining despite being scared of heights. Learning yoga when you're afraid of downward anything. Facing your strained relationship with your mother. When Olivia writes a ME List, she picks 10 things to get her out of her suburban mom funk. But what she really needs is to figure out how to deal with her next-door neighbor, nemesis, and new boss-Patricia. Patricia is the top realtor in their town and has the perfect life. But when Olivia agrees to be Patricia's assistant, she discovers Patricia's life isn't as perfect as she thought. The Me List is a touching tale about the complexity of friendship, the importance of reserving judgment, and the rocky path that life takes as we get older. Julee Balko brings snark and heart to this journey of self-improvement with a keen eye for flawed characters. Can a list change a life?
227 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 2024
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May 1, 2025
3.5 ⭐️⭐️⭐️ 💫
I have nothing negative to say about this book. It was an enjoyable read. It just was not quite what I was looking for.
The Me List is essentially about two women who had grown, changed, and become friends when they’d both needed one.
Along the way, Olivia and Patricia learned what it means to be a good friend and how to deal with the issues causing them the most stress in their lives. They learned how to say ‘I’m sorry’, and how they have no control over other people’s actions and behaviors.
The Me List is about accepting things they cannot change but also make changes when they realized they have total control of their own lives.
Each learned how to be a better parent, better listener and be true to themselves. Take risks, shake it up and go for what they want.
A few funny parts. The beginning was a little slow compared to the end, last 50 pages were my favorite part making it worth finishing the story. Patricia could be trying at times and Olivia needs to get ahold of herself, took till the end to feel something for these characters. Olivia’s 8 year old daughter was a doll. It’s rare I can tolerate when kids are written into stories, Daughter Sammy felt like a big hug!
A light read even though it dealt with a few heavy topics: divorce and addiction. This worked as a pallet cleanser after just completing a very heavy and emotional read.
I have nothing negative to say about this book. It was an enjoyable read. It just was not quite what I was looking for.
The Me List is essentially about two women who had grown, changed, and become friends when they’d both needed one.
Along the way, Olivia and Patricia learned what it means to be a good friend and how to deal with the issues causing them the most stress in their lives. They learned how to say ‘I’m sorry’, and how they have no control over other people’s actions and behaviors.
The Me List is about accepting things they cannot change but also make changes when they realized they have total control of their own lives.
Each learned how to be a better parent, better listener and be true to themselves. Take risks, shake it up and go for what they want.
A few funny parts. The beginning was a little slow compared to the end, last 50 pages were my favorite part making it worth finishing the story. Patricia could be trying at times and Olivia needs to get ahold of herself, took till the end to feel something for these characters. Olivia’s 8 year old daughter was a doll. It’s rare I can tolerate when kids are written into stories, Daughter Sammy felt like a big hug!
A light read even though it dealt with a few heavy topics: divorce and addiction. This worked as a pallet cleanser after just completing a very heavy and emotional read.
January 8, 2024
Reader’s Choice gave it 5 stars and said, “Julee Balko has mastered the ability to grab her readers by the heartstrings.”
An Editor’s Pick by Publishers Weekly! “Balko combines heart and snark that bring to life this journey of self-improvement, producing a book that fans of wise (and sometimes wised-up) domestic comedies will find impossible to put down.”
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An Editor’s Pick by Publishers Weekly! “Balko combines heart and snark that bring to life this journey of self-improvement, producing a book that fans of wise (and sometimes wised-up) domestic comedies will find impossible to put down.”
Read the full review here: https://booklife.com/booklife-review/...
January 26, 2024
“The Me List” by Julee Balko is the compelling story of Olivia, who pushes through her insecurities and doubts to become herself. Struggling with feelings of low self-worth from feeling emotionally abandoned by her alcoholic mother, her perfect next-door neighbor Patricia, totally out of the blue, offers Olivia a job as her assistant. She wants to say no, but there is that pesky matter of the money she has secretly taken out of her family’s vacation fund to bail her mother out of trouble. Olivia and Patricia’s relationship develops from employee-employer to something more. Neither woman knows much about friendship and this is new territory for the both of them. When Patricia insists that Olivia make her own “me list” to become the person she wants to be, Olivia’s live begins to change. Actually, both women’s lives change.
I really loved this book, and I’m grateful for NetGalley and for Black Rose Writing for providing an ARC of this novel. However, I’m not sure why the book was labeled on Net Galley as “humor and satire.” It was moving and heartwarming, but it certainly wasn’t funny or satirical things. I wasn’t disappointed in the least because I enjoyed the book so much, but a different reader might be. I also wondered how Olivia could make a real spur of the moment decision to travel to buy a ticket to go to a foreign country while in an airport (don’t want to give any spoilers here) without a passport! Maybe she carries one with her all the time, but she didn’t seem the type. But that’s just a teeny issue. I’m looking forward to reading more by this author. My opinions are my own.
I really loved this book, and I’m grateful for NetGalley and for Black Rose Writing for providing an ARC of this novel. However, I’m not sure why the book was labeled on Net Galley as “humor and satire.” It was moving and heartwarming, but it certainly wasn’t funny or satirical things. I wasn’t disappointed in the least because I enjoyed the book so much, but a different reader might be. I also wondered how Olivia could make a real spur of the moment decision to travel to buy a ticket to go to a foreign country while in an airport (don’t want to give any spoilers here) without a passport! Maybe she carries one with her all the time, but she didn’t seem the type. But that’s just a teeny issue. I’m looking forward to reading more by this author. My opinions are my own.
January 28, 2024
Olivia is a SAHM, and when her uptight neighbour Patricia ask her to be her assistant she jumps at the chance because she needs the money, even if she is afraid to work for perfect Patricia. They start building a friendship, and Patricia tells Olivia about the Me List, a list about doing things that scare you or are not easy for you to do but will improve your life and wellbeing.
I liked that the characters are flawed and not everything ends happily, but even so Olivia improves her life and learns how to priorize herself and her feelings.
** Thanks to NetGalley and the publisher for an ARC in exchange for an honest review. **
I liked that the characters are flawed and not everything ends happily, but even so Olivia improves her life and learns how to priorize herself and her feelings.
** Thanks to NetGalley and the publisher for an ARC in exchange for an honest review. **
January 1, 2024
What a beautiful gem of a story! There will always be the right time to read this book with its great message but finishing it at the start of the new year is perfection!
Olivia is a thirty-something married, stay at home mom. She’s feeling dispirited, unfulfilled and still grappling with the trauma of the relationship with her mother. Her neighbor Patricia appears to have it all as a successful real estate agent but appearances don’t often tell the full story. Patricia enlists Olivia to be her part time assistant and gives her an assignment to create a Me List. A list that includes things that “excite you, scare you a little, challenge you.” A list that “improves you, makes you happy, makes you face your fears.”
The book is short at 228 pages but it packs a wonderful message. And now, with five hours to go until 2024, I’m going to make my own Me List and hope that I will join Olivia in completing my list and in the process filling my life with more goodness.
Thank you NetGalley, Black Rose Writing and Julee Belko for this beautiful story that delivered all the emotional feels, gave me pause for thought and has inspired me to create my own Me List.
Olivia is a thirty-something married, stay at home mom. She’s feeling dispirited, unfulfilled and still grappling with the trauma of the relationship with her mother. Her neighbor Patricia appears to have it all as a successful real estate agent but appearances don’t often tell the full story. Patricia enlists Olivia to be her part time assistant and gives her an assignment to create a Me List. A list that includes things that “excite you, scare you a little, challenge you.” A list that “improves you, makes you happy, makes you face your fears.”
The book is short at 228 pages but it packs a wonderful message. And now, with five hours to go until 2024, I’m going to make my own Me List and hope that I will join Olivia in completing my list and in the process filling my life with more goodness.
Thank you NetGalley, Black Rose Writing and Julee Belko for this beautiful story that delivered all the emotional feels, gave me pause for thought and has inspired me to create my own Me List.
February 12, 2024
This novel is for anyone who has every felt like they put themselves last, for whatever reason. We all know we all wear many hats including friend, co-worker, parent, daughter, mother or many other titles.
Olivia is one of those women who gets in a rut with everyday life. She finds herself going through the motions but life has changed. She meets her neighbor, a nemesis, Patricia and she feels like she is missing out on living, although she has a supportive husband and daughter. Patricia offers her a job as her assistant. Patricia is a realtor who seems to have the perfect life and is a little abrupt.
Olivia takes the job, and realizes Patricia’s life is not as perfect as she thought it was. Their friendship forms under the strangest of circumstances. Patricia assigns Olivia a task to create a Me List, and to Olivia’s surprise she finds herself getting control of her life again. Things like learning to zip line and yoga along with more personal things show Olivia she is stronger than she thinks she is. Along the way these two women find solace/power with each other and the life they want.
I adored this novel.
Thank you GetRed PR for this book. Available as of January 24, 2024
Olivia is one of those women who gets in a rut with everyday life. She finds herself going through the motions but life has changed. She meets her neighbor, a nemesis, Patricia and she feels like she is missing out on living, although she has a supportive husband and daughter. Patricia offers her a job as her assistant. Patricia is a realtor who seems to have the perfect life and is a little abrupt.
Olivia takes the job, and realizes Patricia’s life is not as perfect as she thought it was. Their friendship forms under the strangest of circumstances. Patricia assigns Olivia a task to create a Me List, and to Olivia’s surprise she finds herself getting control of her life again. Things like learning to zip line and yoga along with more personal things show Olivia she is stronger than she thinks she is. Along the way these two women find solace/power with each other and the life they want.
I adored this novel.
Thank you GetRed PR for this book. Available as of January 24, 2024
December 22, 2023
This was the perfect book to read as the year is winding down and I'm looking toward 2024 with the hopes that I can have my own Me List (the beginnings of one is at the end of the book!).
The story revolves around Olivia who, at the beginning, has not been taking good care of herself since her daughter was born. She's been a stay at home mom for years and now that her daughter is in school, she's finding the days a little lonely. When her neighbor surprises her in Target and suggests Olivia work as her assistant, she reluctantly agrees. Becoming Patricia's assistant ends up being a godsend to her as Patricia suggests Olivia make a "Me List" of things she wants to accomplish. At first she has trouble with the tasks including a rather disasterous karoke night, but little by little, Olivia regains her confidence in herself and starts to find her own happiness.
I really enjoyed this book and really related to Olivia's problems with her mother and difficulties making friends. The book ends on a very hopeful note and you'll be thinking about your own list and activities after.
The story revolves around Olivia who, at the beginning, has not been taking good care of herself since her daughter was born. She's been a stay at home mom for years and now that her daughter is in school, she's finding the days a little lonely. When her neighbor surprises her in Target and suggests Olivia work as her assistant, she reluctantly agrees. Becoming Patricia's assistant ends up being a godsend to her as Patricia suggests Olivia make a "Me List" of things she wants to accomplish. At first she has trouble with the tasks including a rather disasterous karoke night, but little by little, Olivia regains her confidence in herself and starts to find her own happiness.
I really enjoyed this book and really related to Olivia's problems with her mother and difficulties making friends. The book ends on a very hopeful note and you'll be thinking about your own list and activities after.
January 30, 2024
This is the story of a newish mom, Olivia, trying to harness her identity. It is about unexpected friendships and making strides to live a life well lived.
When Olivia loses herself to being a mom to her daughter, now 5 years old, she's inspired to make her life more fulfilling. To achieve that, she gets a job and creates A Me List, a list that will challenge her and push her outside her comfort zone. A list that will enrich her life.
I enjoyed watching Olivia grow during her journey as she dealt with past trauma, forged new friendships, and found her footing at being the type of mom she was meant to be.
This is my second book by Julee Balko, and they both have the undercurrent of strained relationships between a mother and her adult daughter.
It also came with a side of wisdom and inspiration, a reminder to not judge as you haven't walked in someone else's path. A good reminder and a fact I often forget.
When Olivia loses herself to being a mom to her daughter, now 5 years old, she's inspired to make her life more fulfilling. To achieve that, she gets a job and creates A Me List, a list that will challenge her and push her outside her comfort zone. A list that will enrich her life.
I enjoyed watching Olivia grow during her journey as she dealt with past trauma, forged new friendships, and found her footing at being the type of mom she was meant to be.
This is my second book by Julee Balko, and they both have the undercurrent of strained relationships between a mother and her adult daughter.
It also came with a side of wisdom and inspiration, a reminder to not judge as you haven't walked in someone else's path. A good reminder and a fact I often forget.
August 25, 2025
Do you have a Me list?
No idea what I'm talking about?
I will tell you this book will make you look at your life and write one.
It also made me think about friendship, the masks we wear, the walls we put up and why and what it takes to bring them down/put them up again.
Olivia and Patricia are characters I was drawn to.
I know I want to read more from Julee Balko.
No idea what I'm talking about?
I will tell you this book will make you look at your life and write one.
It also made me think about friendship, the masks we wear, the walls we put up and why and what it takes to bring them down/put them up again.
Olivia and Patricia are characters I was drawn to.
I know I want to read more from Julee Balko.
July 27, 2025
Delightful, a little saucy here and there, inspiring, and a good read! I still stand behind my statement that Patricia gives off big Jennifer Coolidge vibes, but in both the best and worst ways. Gotta admit though, my favorite characters were Marven and Sammy. A blind dog is wonderfully represented, and maybe it's because I don't read a lot of books with characters that young, but Sammy has tremendous emotional depth for a child of her age. I won't spoil the ending, but it's indeed happy, and I enjoyed how well everything was tied up.
My main takeaway is this: No matter how put-together people's lives are, they're always struggling with something. And if someone doesn't appear to be very put-together, they're struggling with something too. I appreciate that this book doesn't glamorize any of the struggles the main characters in this book and their families are going through, nor does it romanticize them. It makes them human, and insanely relatable. And to people who have struggled through any (or all) of these things, that's all we can ask for. The bonus comes wrapped up in this book with great characters and a plot that could be a movie. Yes, even one with Jennifer Coolidge.
I'm so grateful for the friend who rec'd this book to me, and I'm passing that rec on to all of you.
My main takeaway is this: No matter how put-together people's lives are, they're always struggling with something. And if someone doesn't appear to be very put-together, they're struggling with something too. I appreciate that this book doesn't glamorize any of the struggles the main characters in this book and their families are going through, nor does it romanticize them. It makes them human, and insanely relatable. And to people who have struggled through any (or all) of these things, that's all we can ask for. The bonus comes wrapped up in this book with great characters and a plot that could be a movie. Yes, even one with Jennifer Coolidge.
I'm so grateful for the friend who rec'd this book to me, and I'm passing that rec on to all of you.
January 16, 2024
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️💫
𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙈𝙚 𝙇𝙞𝙨𝙩 by Julee Balko was so stinkin’ cute! This was my first book by Balko, and it definitely won’t be my last!
𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙈𝙚 𝙇𝙞𝙨𝙩 came to me at the perfect time. Gloomily winter day - picks up heart warming, cheeky, laugh out loud book! Y’all, this book had me in a trance, I couldn’t put it down. (When I can finish a book in a day, you are immediately getting all the stars!)
The just- our MC, Olivia is stuck in a funk, where every day feels like groundhogs day in the suburbs. Olivia begrudgingly befriends her annoyingly semi perfect neighbor, who ultimately helps Olivia find herself again- insert the “Me List”. What makes you happy? What dreams big or small do you want to achieve? Put them on the list, and DO them- with a capital D!
For anyone who feels like life is stagnant and boring, and wants the freeing feeling of chasing their dreams again - this book is for you!
Thank you to @getredprbooks @juleebalko @blackrosewriting for the gifted copy
𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙈𝙚 𝙇𝙞𝙨𝙩 by Julee Balko was so stinkin’ cute! This was my first book by Balko, and it definitely won’t be my last!
𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙈𝙚 𝙇𝙞𝙨𝙩 came to me at the perfect time. Gloomily winter day - picks up heart warming, cheeky, laugh out loud book! Y’all, this book had me in a trance, I couldn’t put it down. (When I can finish a book in a day, you are immediately getting all the stars!)
The just- our MC, Olivia is stuck in a funk, where every day feels like groundhogs day in the suburbs. Olivia begrudgingly befriends her annoyingly semi perfect neighbor, who ultimately helps Olivia find herself again- insert the “Me List”. What makes you happy? What dreams big or small do you want to achieve? Put them on the list, and DO them- with a capital D!
For anyone who feels like life is stagnant and boring, and wants the freeing feeling of chasing their dreams again - this book is for you!
Thank you to @getredprbooks @juleebalko @blackrosewriting for the gifted copy
January 26, 2024
3.5 ⭐️ Patricia and Olivia develop an unexpected friendship when Patricia challenges Olivia to create a "Me list." Throughout her journey of self-discovery, Olivia confronts her fears, seeks ways to improve herself, and reflects on what truly makes her happy.
Such a quick read filled with both humor and heart! Sometimes, I need a story filled with heavy dialogue; witty banter and snarky comments lead to laugh-out-loud scenes. But Balko balances those hilarious moments with a heavier topic: how addiction affects a family.
I love that Olivia’s journey is not a linear path; failure and hurt are requirements for growth. Olivia often finds solace in the silent companionship of her rescue dog, Marven, as she works out her thoughts and feelings. Marven's unconditional love for Olivia warms my heart! ❤️
The Me List is a perfect book for dog lovers, women fiction fans, and anyone who loves a good bucket list.
Such a quick read filled with both humor and heart! Sometimes, I need a story filled with heavy dialogue; witty banter and snarky comments lead to laugh-out-loud scenes. But Balko balances those hilarious moments with a heavier topic: how addiction affects a family.
I love that Olivia’s journey is not a linear path; failure and hurt are requirements for growth. Olivia often finds solace in the silent companionship of her rescue dog, Marven, as she works out her thoughts and feelings. Marven's unconditional love for Olivia warms my heart! ❤️
The Me List is a perfect book for dog lovers, women fiction fans, and anyone who loves a good bucket list.
January 6, 2024
What a fabulous read!
Neighbours Olivia and Patricia, couldn’t be more different. Perfect Patricia has it all together, while Olivia has lost her identity somewhere along the way of motherhood.
An unlikely friendship, formed over a salad and very fragile, enables both women to find out who they really are and how to live their lives for themselves. Acceptance and empathy are running themes here, and I particularly resonated with Olivia’s struggles around her difficult mother.
Off to write my “me list”, brb…
5⭐️ Thanks to Netgalley, Julee Balko and Black Rose Writing, for an ARC in return for an honest review.
Neighbours Olivia and Patricia, couldn’t be more different. Perfect Patricia has it all together, while Olivia has lost her identity somewhere along the way of motherhood.
An unlikely friendship, formed over a salad and very fragile, enables both women to find out who they really are and how to live their lives for themselves. Acceptance and empathy are running themes here, and I particularly resonated with Olivia’s struggles around her difficult mother.
Off to write my “me list”, brb…
5⭐️ Thanks to Netgalley, Julee Balko and Black Rose Writing, for an ARC in return for an honest review.
March 1, 2024
The Me List is such a lovely story of finding yourself in the throes of motherhood. Highlighting the ups and downs of everyday life while rediscovering, branching out, choosing adventure and finding your happy!
🐾 Adorable Rescue Pup
📋 Lists
🥗 Menacing Salads
♥️ Family
🫶 Friendship
❤️🩹 Healing
☕️ Lots of Coffee
📈 Character Growth
📚 Bookclub
🧳 Adventure
This was such a fun read full of humor, love, loss and the quiet chaos of everyday life. I’m looking forward to reading more from Julee Balko in the future!
📚The Me List is available now on KU & Paperback! 📚
Method Read: 📖
Thank you so much GetRedPr and Julee Balko for the gifted copy! 📚
January 2, 2024
Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for providing me with an e-copy of this book. All opinions are my own.
A book that delivers all - emotions aplenty and food for thought. Olivia, the proagonist, tries to change her life with the help of "The Me List" - a list of things that she would like to work on or change in her life. She isn't succesfull in everything (and that's also good and potentially inspiring), but some things in her life definitely improve. Plus, there's a lovely dog.
A book that delivers all - emotions aplenty and food for thought. Olivia, the proagonist, tries to change her life with the help of "The Me List" - a list of things that she would like to work on or change in her life. She isn't succesfull in everything (and that's also good and potentially inspiring), but some things in her life definitely improve. Plus, there's a lovely dog.
December 25, 2023
I really enjoyed this book. I loved seeing the character development of Olivia and Patricia as individuals and their relationship. Marven was and added bonus as what story doesn’t need a dog. Steve and Olivia’s mother got on my nerves a bit and Olivia deserved a bit more from both of them. Overall a good feel book.
May 25, 2024
A fun read!
The Me List is a take on 2 unlikely friends that create a "Me List" as they try to seek happiness in a world that is often unhappy.
The characters live in a real world with real problems. I enjoyed that the main characters' friendship is problematic. It's messy. It's real. 5⭐ as I believe this book will reaonate with me for some time. Now, time to make my "Me list".
The Me List is a take on 2 unlikely friends that create a "Me List" as they try to seek happiness in a world that is often unhappy.
The characters live in a real world with real problems. I enjoyed that the main characters' friendship is problematic. It's messy. It's real. 5⭐ as I believe this book will reaonate with me for some time. Now, time to make my "Me list".
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December 10, 2024Really enjoyed reading this, relatable storyline and characters. A feel good story I would recommend to everyone.
December 16, 2024
A well written story about family and friendship. How messy and heart breaking they can be but also how beautiful and tender. Trigger warning: addiction. I want to make a “me list” now :)
January 5, 2024
I love the idea of a "Me List"! This was a heartwarming novel which reminded me that we shouldn't judge other's lives when we really don't know what they are going through.
There are a few frustrating moments interspersed with laugh-out-loud moments and I could relate to Olivia in many ways (except with her relationship to her mother). Patricia could be a handful at times (with a capital H.... After reading, you'll understand!) but when you get a glimpse into her life "behind the scenes" you can't help but acknowledge that she's dealing with her struggles as best as she can.
I really liked that a real friendship developed between the female MCs and I'm super glad Steve (Olivia's husband) changed his mind about Marven, the dog rescue. Marven was adorable.
There are a few frustrating moments interspersed with laugh-out-loud moments and I could relate to Olivia in many ways (except with her relationship to her mother). Patricia could be a handful at times (with a capital H.... After reading, you'll understand!) but when you get a glimpse into her life "behind the scenes" you can't help but acknowledge that she's dealing with her struggles as best as she can.
I really liked that a real friendship developed between the female MCs and I'm super glad Steve (Olivia's husband) changed his mind about Marven, the dog rescue. Marven was adorable.
January 26, 2024
Wow, this is a book that is meant to be shared, and it came at just the right time. Once you read the book, you will understand this, the few friends I have, and I have been talking about not being valued, taking responsibility for someone else's poor decision-making. Why we allow someone to treat us bad, over and over again. I received this book from Black Rose Writing through NetGalley, and this book was insightful, and it is the story of a woman, Olivia, who had finally had enough, and was determined to change, and she started with making The Me List she learned from her neighbor. I will leave it at that, but when you read the book, you will learn what Olivia learned from the neighbor.
The reason I loved this book and I think my friends, and many will enjoy reading this book, is because I too have had enough, and so has my friends. When the book is released January 25, 2024, they will each get a book. I think we got to the point we have had enough, but didn't know how to change it. You can't change people, so instead of getting frustrated, I can see where there are things I can do to change the situation from reading this book. There is hope my future will be different, just like Olivia is trying to do. Olivia is at the start of this, and maybe in the future there will be a book 2, and we will see how it worked out for her. But I am at the beginning like Olivia and I think my friends and I will enjoy reading this book, and we already know we deserve better, but maybe some of the things in this book, will help us to get to what we are looking for.
The reason I loved this book and I think my friends, and many will enjoy reading this book, is because I too have had enough, and so has my friends. When the book is released January 25, 2024, they will each get a book. I think we got to the point we have had enough, but didn't know how to change it. You can't change people, so instead of getting frustrated, I can see where there are things I can do to change the situation from reading this book. There is hope my future will be different, just like Olivia is trying to do. Olivia is at the start of this, and maybe in the future there will be a book 2, and we will see how it worked out for her. But I am at the beginning like Olivia and I think my friends and I will enjoy reading this book, and we already know we deserve better, but maybe some of the things in this book, will help us to get to what we are looking for.
March 1, 2024
First, thank you Julee Balko for my copy of your book.
This was a book about a young mother who has a loving husband and child but who doesn’t love herself. Her child has just started school and her too perfect neighbor seemingly manipulates her into taking a job as the neighbor’s assistant. This job and the me list that is born of it allows the mom to begin the process of loving herself and letting people in to help and support her.
The book feels to me to be about finding yourself, your power and to finding friendship in unexpected places and ways. I liked Olivia and Patricia. I liked Diya as well and maybe the book and Olivia character could have expanded on that friendship. Diya just appeared, seemed to be important and then just disappeared.
I also felt the book was about unresolved issues and addiction and how addiction affects the people who love the addict. There was much conflict between Olivia and her mother which bled into Olivia’s life in a not positive way. I did appreciate how the book ended and that it didn’t end all tied up in a neat bow because life is rarely that way. Still, it was a nice happily ever after ending.
This was an easy read but filled with some serious material. There were a few things that I felt were a little off, but were insignificant to the whole of the book. One was when Olivia is asked to place for sale signs at homes. These signs, in CA anyway, are large and typically need to be transported in a pickup truck and it would take particular tools and strength to place them. I couldn’t see her transporting a dozen of these in her family van. Plus, so many at one time for one realtor. Business must be good. The other thing that threw me was the way the daughter had a melt down. I get kids have melt downs but this kid was 5 and saying she hated her parents. That feels more like teenage angst than a 5 year old’s tantrum.
Overall the book was enjoyable. I hope you enjoy it if you choose to read it.
This was a book about a young mother who has a loving husband and child but who doesn’t love herself. Her child has just started school and her too perfect neighbor seemingly manipulates her into taking a job as the neighbor’s assistant. This job and the me list that is born of it allows the mom to begin the process of loving herself and letting people in to help and support her.
The book feels to me to be about finding yourself, your power and to finding friendship in unexpected places and ways. I liked Olivia and Patricia. I liked Diya as well and maybe the book and Olivia character could have expanded on that friendship. Diya just appeared, seemed to be important and then just disappeared.
I also felt the book was about unresolved issues and addiction and how addiction affects the people who love the addict. There was much conflict between Olivia and her mother which bled into Olivia’s life in a not positive way. I did appreciate how the book ended and that it didn’t end all tied up in a neat bow because life is rarely that way. Still, it was a nice happily ever after ending.
This was an easy read but filled with some serious material. There were a few things that I felt were a little off, but were insignificant to the whole of the book. One was when Olivia is asked to place for sale signs at homes. These signs, in CA anyway, are large and typically need to be transported in a pickup truck and it would take particular tools and strength to place them. I couldn’t see her transporting a dozen of these in her family van. Plus, so many at one time for one realtor. Business must be good. The other thing that threw me was the way the daughter had a melt down. I get kids have melt downs but this kid was 5 and saying she hated her parents. That feels more like teenage angst than a 5 year old’s tantrum.
Overall the book was enjoyable. I hope you enjoy it if you choose to read it.
January 28, 2024
Book Title: The Me List
Author: Julee Balko
Genre: Women’s Fiction
Book Reviewed By Sylvia J.
Julee Balko is an author who loves writing novels with complicated women characters. Her debut novel, The Things We Keep, takes on grief, secrets, and family dysfunction. The Me List is her second novel, and is full of snark and heart as it brings to life an unlikely friendship between neighbors.
You can find Julee somewhere in the woods of Washington hiking with her husband. Or at home, enjoying her three daughters, rescue hound, two cats, and axolotl
Olivia‘s life was hard, and she felt that her marriage was in trouble. By the way, did I also mention that she had some issues with her mother. Olivia had ignored the dishes in her house, hadn’t gone to the gym lately and hadn’t even had lunch today. Oh boy, her life does seem like a mess. At the moment she claims she was too busy at work to even have lunch today. Olivia always dressed like she was staying inside the house, even though she was outside in a public place. Olivia used to be a Project manager as that was her profession.
Olivia‘s mother was very desperate and asked Olivia for money. Olivia took some money out of her savings account and sent it to her mom. How would Olivia tell her husband Steve about the money she just sent? This money was supposed to be for their future vacation. The couple hadn’t gone on vacation since their daughter Samantha was born. Would her mom pay her back? She wants to believe a lot of things about her mother but unfortunately, they may or may not be true. Would she ever give her mother money again or would that be it?
Olivia was Samantha‘s mom but who was she in the world now other than that, these feelings started to come to her. She began to wonder what other peoples lives were like. She started to think about all her friends that went back to work. Here she was now in her kitchen wondering if she should work for the lady next door named Patricia? Could she be that lonely? She could use the money. She could put back the money she lent her mom and not have to tell Steve about it. Therefore, this was definitely something to consider.
Olivia took out a piece of paper and wrote pros on one side and cons on the other side. Will the pros outweigh the cons? Will she be frustrated with the list and crumple it up? Olivia was a stay at home mom. If she takes this job, it will be a good start to get her back in the workforce.
There is so much going on in this book at this moment. Olivia looks out of the window and sees Patricia fighting with her son. She also sees that Patricia's son is being arrested and gets taken away in a police car. What is going on?
The next day in the morning Patricia shows up at Olivia‘s house. Olivia wonders if Patricia will tell her what happened with her son. She doesn’t mention her son, and only asks if Olivia wants to take the job? She tells her that she can work around her daughter Samantha’s schedule, and that there are no specific work hours. Patricia was all business. Olivia wanted to stop her and say let’s just talk about what happened with your son yesterday. Patricia now leaves and Olivia goes through all the papers that Patricia left for her. She notices and sees that Patricia‘s house is up for sale next-door. What is going on? Does this have to do with Patricia's son? So many questions need to be answered. Boy, oh boy, will one be glued to this book. Where was Patricia‘s husband Paul? Olivia had not seen him lately.
Olivia thought so much about Samantha who is in kindergarten as she didn’t really have time to think about herself. I used to be a stay at home mom when my kids were small so I can totally associate with this as your kids always come first.
This book teaches us that you really can not judge a person, because you never know what they might be going through in their life. This book is about two people that became friends and they themselves probably wouldn’t have guessed that they would’ve become friends. As you go deeper into the book, you will see that these two people actually had much in common as they went through some of the similar things. Olivia had a hard time getting along with her mother because of her mother’s difficulties with alcohol. Patricia finds out that her mother is sick. Although this is the author's second book, I wouldn’t have guessed it. One will think that the author has written many many books. I love the writing style. The story just sucks you right into it. One will feel like they don’t want to put the book down and leave it. I loved reading and finding out that Patricia had a me list as well. Her list was for things you want to accomplish, and for things you pushed yourself to do.This book teaches us that it is important to take care of ourselves so we can take care of our children.
In closing I want to say that by reading this book you’ll get much needed time for yourself as it will put you in such a state of relaxation and make you forget everything and unwind. It is definitely important to have a me list. There is a me list in the back of the book. Put it on your TBR list. I give it a much deserved five out of five stars, pick it up and you’ll see for yourself.
Author: Julee Balko
Genre: Women’s Fiction
Book Reviewed By Sylvia J.
Julee Balko is an author who loves writing novels with complicated women characters. Her debut novel, The Things We Keep, takes on grief, secrets, and family dysfunction. The Me List is her second novel, and is full of snark and heart as it brings to life an unlikely friendship between neighbors.
You can find Julee somewhere in the woods of Washington hiking with her husband. Or at home, enjoying her three daughters, rescue hound, two cats, and axolotl
Olivia‘s life was hard, and she felt that her marriage was in trouble. By the way, did I also mention that she had some issues with her mother. Olivia had ignored the dishes in her house, hadn’t gone to the gym lately and hadn’t even had lunch today. Oh boy, her life does seem like a mess. At the moment she claims she was too busy at work to even have lunch today. Olivia always dressed like she was staying inside the house, even though she was outside in a public place. Olivia used to be a Project manager as that was her profession.
Olivia‘s mother was very desperate and asked Olivia for money. Olivia took some money out of her savings account and sent it to her mom. How would Olivia tell her husband Steve about the money she just sent? This money was supposed to be for their future vacation. The couple hadn’t gone on vacation since their daughter Samantha was born. Would her mom pay her back? She wants to believe a lot of things about her mother but unfortunately, they may or may not be true. Would she ever give her mother money again or would that be it?
Olivia was Samantha‘s mom but who was she in the world now other than that, these feelings started to come to her. She began to wonder what other peoples lives were like. She started to think about all her friends that went back to work. Here she was now in her kitchen wondering if she should work for the lady next door named Patricia? Could she be that lonely? She could use the money. She could put back the money she lent her mom and not have to tell Steve about it. Therefore, this was definitely something to consider.
Olivia took out a piece of paper and wrote pros on one side and cons on the other side. Will the pros outweigh the cons? Will she be frustrated with the list and crumple it up? Olivia was a stay at home mom. If she takes this job, it will be a good start to get her back in the workforce.
There is so much going on in this book at this moment. Olivia looks out of the window and sees Patricia fighting with her son. She also sees that Patricia's son is being arrested and gets taken away in a police car. What is going on?
The next day in the morning Patricia shows up at Olivia‘s house. Olivia wonders if Patricia will tell her what happened with her son. She doesn’t mention her son, and only asks if Olivia wants to take the job? She tells her that she can work around her daughter Samantha’s schedule, and that there are no specific work hours. Patricia was all business. Olivia wanted to stop her and say let’s just talk about what happened with your son yesterday. Patricia now leaves and Olivia goes through all the papers that Patricia left for her. She notices and sees that Patricia‘s house is up for sale next-door. What is going on? Does this have to do with Patricia's son? So many questions need to be answered. Boy, oh boy, will one be glued to this book. Where was Patricia‘s husband Paul? Olivia had not seen him lately.
Olivia thought so much about Samantha who is in kindergarten as she didn’t really have time to think about herself. I used to be a stay at home mom when my kids were small so I can totally associate with this as your kids always come first.
This book teaches us that you really can not judge a person, because you never know what they might be going through in their life. This book is about two people that became friends and they themselves probably wouldn’t have guessed that they would’ve become friends. As you go deeper into the book, you will see that these two people actually had much in common as they went through some of the similar things. Olivia had a hard time getting along with her mother because of her mother’s difficulties with alcohol. Patricia finds out that her mother is sick. Although this is the author's second book, I wouldn’t have guessed it. One will think that the author has written many many books. I love the writing style. The story just sucks you right into it. One will feel like they don’t want to put the book down and leave it. I loved reading and finding out that Patricia had a me list as well. Her list was for things you want to accomplish, and for things you pushed yourself to do.This book teaches us that it is important to take care of ourselves so we can take care of our children.
In closing I want to say that by reading this book you’ll get much needed time for yourself as it will put you in such a state of relaxation and make you forget everything and unwind. It is definitely important to have a me list. There is a me list in the back of the book. Put it on your TBR list. I give it a much deserved five out of five stars, pick it up and you’ll see for yourself.
January 25, 2024
Olivia embarks on a journey of self-discovery by creating a list of ten things to break free from her suburban mom routine. From conquering fears like ziplining and yoga to addressing personal challenges, Olivia's ME List serves as a roadmap for revitalizing her life. However, the most significant challenge she faces isn't on the list—it's her complex relationship with Patricia, her next-door neighbour, nemesis, and new boss.
Patricia, the seemingly perfect top realtor in their town, becomes Olivia's unexpected mentor when she agrees to be Patricia's assistant. Through this role, Olivia uncovers the imperfections in Patricia's seemingly flawless life. "The Me List" unfolds as a touching exploration of friendship, the nuances of judgment, and the unpredictable journey life takes as we age.
It is a heartwarming and insightful exploration of self-improvement, friendship, and the complexities of human relationships. The narrative centres around Olivia's quest to break free from the monotony of suburban life, as she courageously tackles challenges outlined in her ME List. Balko skillfully weaves together a narrative that balances snark and heart, creating an entertaining and emotionally resonant story. Olivia's journey of self-discovery is relatable, filled with moments of humour and vulnerability as she confronts her fears and addresses personal obstacles.
The dynamic between Olivia and Patricia adds depth to the narrative, challenging preconceived notions and highlighting the imperfections that exist behind seemingly perfect facades. As Olivia navigates her role as Patricia's assistant, she discovers that life's journey is often unpredictable, and genuine connections can arise in unexpected places.
It is a testament to Balko's keen understanding of flawed characters and the intricacies of human relationships. It prompts readers to reflect on the transformative power of self-improvement and the impact genuine connections can have on our lives. It crafts a poignant and relatable tale that explores the potential for change, growth, and understanding in the most unexpected of circumstances. "The Me List" invites readers to ponder the question: Can a list truly change a life?
📖✨ Dive into "The Me List" by Julee Balko! Olivia's suburban mom funk takes a hilarious turn as she tackles ziplining, faces her yoga fears, and confronts her strained relationship with her mom—all thanks to her quirky ME List! 🌈💪
🏡 But the real challenge? Dealing with her nemesis and new boss, Patricia—the seemingly perfect realtor next door. Get ready for a rollercoaster of emotions as Olivia becomes Patricia's assistant, only to discover that Patricia's perfect life might not be all it seems. 😲🔍
💖 "The Me List" is a heartwarming journey exploring friendship complexities, the importance of holding judgment, and the twists life throws at us as we grow older. Julee Balko infuses snark and heart into this tale of self-improvement, crafting flawed characters you'll root for. 🌟❤️
📝 Can a simple list change a life? Join Olivia on this charming adventure and discover if self-discovery can lead to unexpected friendships and a new perspective on life. 📚✨
Patricia, the seemingly perfect top realtor in their town, becomes Olivia's unexpected mentor when she agrees to be Patricia's assistant. Through this role, Olivia uncovers the imperfections in Patricia's seemingly flawless life. "The Me List" unfolds as a touching exploration of friendship, the nuances of judgment, and the unpredictable journey life takes as we age.
It is a heartwarming and insightful exploration of self-improvement, friendship, and the complexities of human relationships. The narrative centres around Olivia's quest to break free from the monotony of suburban life, as she courageously tackles challenges outlined in her ME List. Balko skillfully weaves together a narrative that balances snark and heart, creating an entertaining and emotionally resonant story. Olivia's journey of self-discovery is relatable, filled with moments of humour and vulnerability as she confronts her fears and addresses personal obstacles.
The dynamic between Olivia and Patricia adds depth to the narrative, challenging preconceived notions and highlighting the imperfections that exist behind seemingly perfect facades. As Olivia navigates her role as Patricia's assistant, she discovers that life's journey is often unpredictable, and genuine connections can arise in unexpected places.
It is a testament to Balko's keen understanding of flawed characters and the intricacies of human relationships. It prompts readers to reflect on the transformative power of self-improvement and the impact genuine connections can have on our lives. It crafts a poignant and relatable tale that explores the potential for change, growth, and understanding in the most unexpected of circumstances. "The Me List" invites readers to ponder the question: Can a list truly change a life?
📖✨ Dive into "The Me List" by Julee Balko! Olivia's suburban mom funk takes a hilarious turn as she tackles ziplining, faces her yoga fears, and confronts her strained relationship with her mom—all thanks to her quirky ME List! 🌈💪
🏡 But the real challenge? Dealing with her nemesis and new boss, Patricia—the seemingly perfect realtor next door. Get ready for a rollercoaster of emotions as Olivia becomes Patricia's assistant, only to discover that Patricia's perfect life might not be all it seems. 😲🔍
💖 "The Me List" is a heartwarming journey exploring friendship complexities, the importance of holding judgment, and the twists life throws at us as we grow older. Julee Balko infuses snark and heart into this tale of self-improvement, crafting flawed characters you'll root for. 🌟❤️
📝 Can a simple list change a life? Join Olivia on this charming adventure and discover if self-discovery can lead to unexpected friendships and a new perspective on life. 📚✨
January 25, 2024
I want to start by saying that I really liked the idea of this book. I mean it's a really cool concept to make this list of things you attend to accomplish for the year. I think the author does an amazing job of portraying Olivia as a pretty realistic stay at home mom. I mean she's relatable for sure with the struggle of her daughter starting school and not knowing what she is supposed to do to fill that time. Olivia ends up being offered a job by her neighbor who she doesn't really like, but sees it as a chance to make some cash to replace the money she took out of the vacation fund (without telling her husband) to give to her mother.
The book in my opinion really wasn't focused on the Me List at all. We get the initial introduction to it. Olivia, at least in my opinion, doesn't really put but like one real thing on the list. Her list just comes off as this superficial entity that the book rushes through accomplishing. Instead, it becomes about this toxic relationship she has with both her mother and her neighbor/boss. Olivia's mom is a whole other level of toxic that the book really should not have tackled because it just feels so rushed and again almost superficial. Her mother is an addict and this has strained the relationship they have. Olivia wants a relationship with her mother so badly for most of the book and then suddenly is just like I can't keep doing this.
We also learn that Patricia her neighbor/boss has a child who is struggling with addiciton, an element that you think would work to bond them, however they never discuss it until the final bit of the novel. Patricia instead for most of the novel manipulates Olivia in various ways. We are supposed to believe they have developed this friendship, but like the entire time they both just come across as tolerating or out right disliking each other. It was just a struggle to believe this dynamic for me.
The whole book Olivia has managed to find an excuse not to tell her husband that she leant her mom money. That is until the second to last chapter and all of a sudden she springs it on him, but it's fine she replaced it. They have this brief dispute about it and her mother and then bam.. happy family. I just feel like for a novel about self-improvement... nobody had any growth whatsoever. I was honestly really disappointed with this story. It could have been so much more. I wanted considered DNFing it a few times but hoped it would get better. I mean it's not a terrible story and I'm sure somebody will disagree with my take. It just wasn't for me.
The book in my opinion really wasn't focused on the Me List at all. We get the initial introduction to it. Olivia, at least in my opinion, doesn't really put but like one real thing on the list. Her list just comes off as this superficial entity that the book rushes through accomplishing. Instead, it becomes about this toxic relationship she has with both her mother and her neighbor/boss. Olivia's mom is a whole other level of toxic that the book really should not have tackled because it just feels so rushed and again almost superficial. Her mother is an addict and this has strained the relationship they have. Olivia wants a relationship with her mother so badly for most of the book and then suddenly is just like I can't keep doing this.
We also learn that Patricia her neighbor/boss has a child who is struggling with addiciton, an element that you think would work to bond them, however they never discuss it until the final bit of the novel. Patricia instead for most of the novel manipulates Olivia in various ways. We are supposed to believe they have developed this friendship, but like the entire time they both just come across as tolerating or out right disliking each other. It was just a struggle to believe this dynamic for me.
The whole book Olivia has managed to find an excuse not to tell her husband that she leant her mom money. That is until the second to last chapter and all of a sudden she springs it on him, but it's fine she replaced it. They have this brief dispute about it and her mother and then bam.. happy family. I just feel like for a novel about self-improvement... nobody had any growth whatsoever. I was honestly really disappointed with this story. It could have been so much more. I wanted considered DNFing it a few times but hoped it would get better. I mean it's not a terrible story and I'm sure somebody will disagree with my take. It just wasn't for me.
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March 19, 2024"The Me List" by Julee Balko is a poignant and empowering novel that delves deep into the complexities of self-discovery, healing, and the transformative power of love. Balko's insightful narrative and relatable characters create a moving story that resonates with readers on a deeply personal level.
At its core, "The Me List" is a story about finding one's true identity amidst the chaos of life's challenges. The protagonist, grappling with the aftermath of a devastating breakup, embarks on a journey of self-exploration and growth. Balko deftly captures the raw emotions of heartache and uncertainty, allowing readers to empathize with the protagonist's struggles and triumphs.
One of the novel's greatest strengths lies in its authentic portrayal of human relationships. Balko explores the complexities of friendship, family dynamics, and romantic love with nuance and sensitivity. The interactions between characters feel genuine and heartfelt, adding depth and richness to the narrative. Through moments of connection and conflict, Balko highlights the importance of support systems and the transformative power of empathy and understanding.
The theme of self-love and acceptance permeates throughout "The Me List," serving as a powerful message of empowerment and resilience. As the protagonist navigates the highs and lows of her journey, she learns to embrace her flaws, celebrate her strengths, and prioritize her own well-being. Balko's portrayal of self-discovery is both empowering and relatable, inspiring readers to embark on their own journey of self-acceptance.
Balko's writing style is engaging and evocative, drawing readers into the protagonist's world with vivid descriptions and authentic dialogue. The pacing is well-executed, with each chapter propelling the story forward while allowing moments of reflection and introspection. As the protagonist confronts her past and embraces her future, readers are taken on an emotional rollercoaster that is both heartwarming and cathartic.
In conclusion, "The Me List" by Julee Balko is a compelling and uplifting novel that celebrates the transformative power of self-discovery and love. With its relatable characters, poignant themes, and engaging narrative, it is sure to resonate with readers of all ages. Balko's insightful storytelling and heartfelt prose create a powerful reminder that, no matter life's challenges, the journey to self-acceptance and fulfillment is always worth undertaking.
At its core, "The Me List" is a story about finding one's true identity amidst the chaos of life's challenges. The protagonist, grappling with the aftermath of a devastating breakup, embarks on a journey of self-exploration and growth. Balko deftly captures the raw emotions of heartache and uncertainty, allowing readers to empathize with the protagonist's struggles and triumphs.
One of the novel's greatest strengths lies in its authentic portrayal of human relationships. Balko explores the complexities of friendship, family dynamics, and romantic love with nuance and sensitivity. The interactions between characters feel genuine and heartfelt, adding depth and richness to the narrative. Through moments of connection and conflict, Balko highlights the importance of support systems and the transformative power of empathy and understanding.
The theme of self-love and acceptance permeates throughout "The Me List," serving as a powerful message of empowerment and resilience. As the protagonist navigates the highs and lows of her journey, she learns to embrace her flaws, celebrate her strengths, and prioritize her own well-being. Balko's portrayal of self-discovery is both empowering and relatable, inspiring readers to embark on their own journey of self-acceptance.
Balko's writing style is engaging and evocative, drawing readers into the protagonist's world with vivid descriptions and authentic dialogue. The pacing is well-executed, with each chapter propelling the story forward while allowing moments of reflection and introspection. As the protagonist confronts her past and embraces her future, readers are taken on an emotional rollercoaster that is both heartwarming and cathartic.
In conclusion, "The Me List" by Julee Balko is a compelling and uplifting novel that celebrates the transformative power of self-discovery and love. With its relatable characters, poignant themes, and engaging narrative, it is sure to resonate with readers of all ages. Balko's insightful storytelling and heartfelt prose create a powerful reminder that, no matter life's challenges, the journey to self-acceptance and fulfillment is always worth undertaking.
January 6, 2024
Let me start by saying, if you don’t already have a “me list”, after reading this book (or maybe while reading) you’ll be inspired to make one! The Me List by Julee Balko is a gem of a book you won’t soon forget. It's a snarky, full-of-heart journey of self-rediscovery and so much more.
For simplicity, I’m breaking this review into three parts…
Plot:
The Me List follows Olivia, a housewife struggling with finding her place and purpose, as she embarks on a new job for her perfectly put together friend/neighbor, Patricia. Through their evolving relationship, Balko takes the reader on a rollercoaster of emotion and personal growth with just the right balance of humor and heart. I don’t want to give away too much, but let’s just say in answer to the question, can a list change a life? Yes, absolutely.
Characters:
Balko excels in character development. You will want to meet these characters for coffee and gossip over wine. Olivia, in particular, is so relatable, I found myself picturing her not as a character, but as a close friend I genuinely cared about. You know it’s a good book when you’re so engrossed, you forget you’re reading!
Message:
The Me List is an easy, read-in-one-sitting kind of book that effortlessly weaves humor and heart into some really heavy subjects. Though entertaining, Balko explores the joys and pitfalls of female and family relationships, superficial judgements, addiction, and self-worth, to name a few. As with her other writing, this is done with lovable snark, true insight, and the kind of depth that inspires and stays with you .
I would recommend this book to readers across age groups and genres, as Balko’s writing has broad appeal. A truly impactful and entertaining story that will leave you wanting more! While I received an ARC in exchange for an honest review, I will be purchasing a hard copy to add to my library.
For simplicity, I’m breaking this review into three parts…
Plot:
The Me List follows Olivia, a housewife struggling with finding her place and purpose, as she embarks on a new job for her perfectly put together friend/neighbor, Patricia. Through their evolving relationship, Balko takes the reader on a rollercoaster of emotion and personal growth with just the right balance of humor and heart. I don’t want to give away too much, but let’s just say in answer to the question, can a list change a life? Yes, absolutely.
Characters:
Balko excels in character development. You will want to meet these characters for coffee and gossip over wine. Olivia, in particular, is so relatable, I found myself picturing her not as a character, but as a close friend I genuinely cared about. You know it’s a good book when you’re so engrossed, you forget you’re reading!
Message:
The Me List is an easy, read-in-one-sitting kind of book that effortlessly weaves humor and heart into some really heavy subjects. Though entertaining, Balko explores the joys and pitfalls of female and family relationships, superficial judgements, addiction, and self-worth, to name a few. As with her other writing, this is done with lovable snark, true insight, and the kind of depth that inspires and stays with you .
I would recommend this book to readers across age groups and genres, as Balko’s writing has broad appeal. A truly impactful and entertaining story that will leave you wanting more! While I received an ARC in exchange for an honest review, I will be purchasing a hard copy to add to my library.
January 21, 2024
I jumped into The Me List expecting a humorous read, but it wasn’t funny at all. I’m a little surprised it’s classified as humor/satire as it was mostly depressing.
Olivia is a 30something suburbanite mom of 1. She’s living her life, but she’s not really living. Every day is the same and she’s just not happy. One day her perfect neighbor, realtor Patricia, informs Olivia that she (Olivia) is now her (Patricia) assistant. In a matter of weeks Olivia is flummoxed, frustrated, and fearful with all of Patricia’s lists. When Patricia asks Olivia about her Me List, Olivia goes home and writes one that night. Over the next few months she works to cross things off her list in an attempt to make herself happier.
I loved the premise of this book. I love the idea of looking at things that can make oneself happier in life. However, I didn’t like any of the characters. All of them had very negative undertones, which made envisioning Olivia happier impossible.
While I appreciated Olivia’s self detrimental internal thoughts (because what woman doesn’t have them), her negative thoughts about her neighbors got to be too much. I also greatly appreciated Olivia’s relationship with her alcoholic mother. I don’t have any experience with loving an alcoholic and I found the inclusion of this to be eye opening.
When I finished this I was left with an overall feeling of sadness. I’m sure Ms. Balko was going for uplifting, but it just didn’t come off that way. Thank you to NetGalley and Black Rose Writing for an advanced copy of this book. The Me List hits the shelves on January 25th.
Olivia is a 30something suburbanite mom of 1. She’s living her life, but she’s not really living. Every day is the same and she’s just not happy. One day her perfect neighbor, realtor Patricia, informs Olivia that she (Olivia) is now her (Patricia) assistant. In a matter of weeks Olivia is flummoxed, frustrated, and fearful with all of Patricia’s lists. When Patricia asks Olivia about her Me List, Olivia goes home and writes one that night. Over the next few months she works to cross things off her list in an attempt to make herself happier.
I loved the premise of this book. I love the idea of looking at things that can make oneself happier in life. However, I didn’t like any of the characters. All of them had very negative undertones, which made envisioning Olivia happier impossible.
While I appreciated Olivia’s self detrimental internal thoughts (because what woman doesn’t have them), her negative thoughts about her neighbors got to be too much. I also greatly appreciated Olivia’s relationship with her alcoholic mother. I don’t have any experience with loving an alcoholic and I found the inclusion of this to be eye opening.
When I finished this I was left with an overall feeling of sadness. I’m sure Ms. Balko was going for uplifting, but it just didn’t come off that way. Thank you to NetGalley and Black Rose Writing for an advanced copy of this book. The Me List hits the shelves on January 25th.
February 3, 2024
Until I read The Me List, I was unaware of the (I gather relatively new, at least by name) genre known as Self-Help Fiction.
While I was reading The Me List, in large part because I gobbled it whole, I was also unaware of all the things I was learning.
Yoga is good. Ziplining is scary, but you can do it. Your mother can break your heart. And healing is hard.
But if you spend just a bit of time taking care of self, you may be even better at taking care of the kid, the husband and the rescue dog.
Not to mention your new friend.
It's funny, isn't it, how you can read a novel and absorb a certain message, and then reflect on the work later and find there were so many more? The Me List is like that. You laugh, you love, you cry, and then you realize . . . I'm a little different from yesterday.
So I was entirely engaged in the development of the relationship between Olivia, the main character, and her neighbour (whom I maayybe wanted to slap at first) and found myself completely intrigued by how people find each other and somehow connect. And how much work forming and maintaining relationships can be.
And then, a couple of months later, I started yoga.
Deftly written with great human insight, The Me List has the potential to shift your perspective and even maybe change your life. As in, for the better.
It's also an incredibly fun read. How did Balko do that!?
This new genre gets two thumbs up from me, because learning through fiction is simply The Best. And The Me List gets at least five stars.
While I was reading The Me List, in large part because I gobbled it whole, I was also unaware of all the things I was learning.
Yoga is good. Ziplining is scary, but you can do it. Your mother can break your heart. And healing is hard.
But if you spend just a bit of time taking care of self, you may be even better at taking care of the kid, the husband and the rescue dog.
Not to mention your new friend.
It's funny, isn't it, how you can read a novel and absorb a certain message, and then reflect on the work later and find there were so many more? The Me List is like that. You laugh, you love, you cry, and then you realize . . . I'm a little different from yesterday.
So I was entirely engaged in the development of the relationship between Olivia, the main character, and her neighbour (whom I maayybe wanted to slap at first) and found myself completely intrigued by how people find each other and somehow connect. And how much work forming and maintaining relationships can be.
And then, a couple of months later, I started yoga.
Deftly written with great human insight, The Me List has the potential to shift your perspective and even maybe change your life. As in, for the better.
It's also an incredibly fun read. How did Balko do that!?
This new genre gets two thumbs up from me, because learning through fiction is simply The Best. And The Me List gets at least five stars.
February 1, 2024
Most of us may find something to relate to in 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐌𝐞 𝐋𝐢𝐬𝐭. I know I did.
Olivia is in that phase of life where she is putting everyone’s needs ahead of her own; maybe she has all along. She’s a mom and a wife, but she’s lonely and feeling down.
Patricia is Olivia’s next-door neighbor, and she’s a top town realtor. Although Olivia finds Patricia rude and abrasive, she also feels Patricia has her life together. So when Patricia offers her a job as her assistant she grabs it.
The story becomes twofold: a self-discovery journey and a stressful but emotional friendship story. Patricia tells Olivia about the “Me List” - things she wants to accomplish each year to push herself to do. Olivia begins her own list - time to think about herself. But, as she and Patricia’s relationship changes from employer/employee to maybe friends, things get messy.
This was a very realistic read. As I mentioned, the characters and what they were going through: marriages falling apart, a sick parent, caring for children, addictions, money issues, etc., made them flawed but relatable. Sometimes, I found Patricia a little too toxic, but Olivia was a saint. I appreciated that both women admit that friendship does not come easy to them, but you can see that, in the end, it’s something worth working for.
Thank you @getredprbooks @blackrosewriting and @juleebalko for a spot on tour and a gifted book.
Olivia is in that phase of life where she is putting everyone’s needs ahead of her own; maybe she has all along. She’s a mom and a wife, but she’s lonely and feeling down.
Patricia is Olivia’s next-door neighbor, and she’s a top town realtor. Although Olivia finds Patricia rude and abrasive, she also feels Patricia has her life together. So when Patricia offers her a job as her assistant she grabs it.
The story becomes twofold: a self-discovery journey and a stressful but emotional friendship story. Patricia tells Olivia about the “Me List” - things she wants to accomplish each year to push herself to do. Olivia begins her own list - time to think about herself. But, as she and Patricia’s relationship changes from employer/employee to maybe friends, things get messy.
This was a very realistic read. As I mentioned, the characters and what they were going through: marriages falling apart, a sick parent, caring for children, addictions, money issues, etc., made them flawed but relatable. Sometimes, I found Patricia a little too toxic, but Olivia was a saint. I appreciated that both women admit that friendship does not come easy to them, but you can see that, in the end, it’s something worth working for.
Thank you @getredprbooks @blackrosewriting and @juleebalko for a spot on tour and a gifted book.
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