This book was a gift from our previous Pastor and current friend. If I could, I would give this book 4.5 but that is not an option, and what I liked made up for what bothered me. The concepts in this book are deep but practical. The authors share from their own lives how they have seen what they are espousing lived out. I appreciated the way the authors explain things, like three things that shape who we are and how we respond to people, the three ingredients necessary for an environment that nourishes and supports growth and change, and the four meta-skills. A highlight of the book for me was pages 123-125 where Chip recounts a conversation with a Pastor about what he sees as the reason he was created. I have shared this with others, friends and family. I loved the analogy that thinking we were created to love God is like Warren Buffett asking me to lunch, and wanting me to pay for it. Another highlight of the book that I have not shared yet is the poem, "The Table" by Jonathan Wiggins. I look forward to sharing this at tables I get to sit at with friends/sisters I do life with. A few quotes that I loved were: "Hey, you have a Father who delights in you. He longs to fill not just your leaky cup, but your aching heart, to convince you that you can't earn security and significance. You already have it to the fullest! Know it, receive it, and delight in it....It's not wrong to be thirsty. In fact, it's a necessary pre-condition to find the right drink. But stop drinking from broken cisterns, and in fact, stop digging them! Go to the source....Can I picture Jesus saying what they're saying and doing what they're doing the way they're saying and doing it?" A worthy read for sure.