Divorced and separated parents are told they must co-parent. Yet millions of parents face daily conflicts with their children's' other parent. Advice such as "put your children first" is not helpful when you are putting your children first but their other parent thwarts your every decision. The conflict is real and so is the fear they will succeed in alienating your children. There is also the ongoing threat of losing custody. When your relationship with your children is at stake, how can you let go?