TL;DR recommendation in brief: 5/5 stars, absolutely recommend for the target (middle grade) audience PLUS I recommend to anyone who cares about someone who's Autistic and would like a simple plain-language explanation of how autism often presents and how Autistic people often experience the world.
My full review, and for context I am Autistic, I have several Autistic children, and I was diagnosed in my early-30s:
I am sitting here seriously about to cry because of this book. It's SO clearly explaining what being Autistic is like and how we can experience things and present to others…. The illustrations are fantastic. and it's easy to read.
Oh my goodness, they have already mentioned, in a child-friendly way, the DOUBLE EMPATHY PROBLEM originally coined by Autistic autism researcher Damian Milton. I'm going to share that little section in its entirety because it's so important!
The double empathy problem, child-friendly edition, page 42:
"It can be extra hard for autistic and non-autistic people to communicate well together. This is neither person's fault; we are just more likely to communicate and think differently to each other.
"When two people whose brains work differently communicate with each other, both of them can misunderstand what the other person is trying to say.
"A well-known autistic man called Damien (sic) Milton calls this the 'double empathy problem'. When people experience the world differently (like autistic and non-autistic people do), they can find it hard to understand each other. Neither person communicates incorrectly they just communicate differently to each other."
I…. am overcome with many feelings that I can't put into words because I struggle with interoception (which was also just explained in a child-friendly way a few pages back!).
Other books I've read about how to interact with non-autistic people have felt overwhelming and discouraging, but this one feels friendly and encouraging. The words-to-illustrations ratio feels comfortable and relaxed. There are empty spaces on some of the pages to allow for a full thought to exist on the next page.
Now I'm sitting here actually crying and I cannot see the computer screen because I had to take my glasses off so I'm typing this without being able to see. They are explaining tone of voice in musical terms. Simply explained. I now understand more about tone of voice, after reading just under two pages from this book (50-51) than I ever understood before in 41 years of living and experiencing communication with other people.
Fifteen minutes until the bookstore closes, maybe nobody will come in and I can just finish reading and cry in peace. Wow. I should probably plan to read autism books, newly released and written by autistic people, when I'm not working at the bookstore… it's a convenient time, of course, but apparently sometimes there are feelings.
Oh my goodness, the part about sarcasm is SO relatable and hilarious and painful all in one! In one of the illustrations on pg. 66 there's a mum saying, "I just *love* when I spend an hour cooking and nobody eats it." and the (Autistic) child is all, "Oh, well good! I don't feel bad about not wanting to eat this now!"
I have been that child. So many times. LOLOLOLOLOLOLSOB (because now I know it's sometimes hurtful to misinterpret sarcasm)
Wow. I didn't stop to take notes after that. Just read it all the way through. They talked about alexithymia, about meltdowns/shutdowns… just so many strategies, so much information, packed into such a digestible and easily understandable book!
I now have a book to recommend to parents of elementary and middle school Autistic children FOR their children. Even if the children don't read the book, the parents can read it and pass along the information in ways that the child finds easier than reading if that's the case.
Communication issues, schedule issues… executive functioning…
I wish so much that this book had been around when I was in the target demographic. I still learn things about myself from reading books like this, but it would have been life-changing in so many positive ways to have had this information 30+ years ago!
This book was just fantastic. I truly could not have liked it better (although I do usually side-eye retroactive diagnosing of famous people from the past) so wow. Definitely going to keep this one on my bookstore's shelf in the future!
~Betsy