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The Final Farewell: Understanding the Last Rites and Rituals of India's Major Faiths
What are the beliefs associated with death in India? How do final rites and rituals reveal the misogyny and caste-based discrimination that plague the country? Who are the people involved in managing the deceased and laying them to rest? What are the economic and environmental costs of saying that final goodbye? Powerful and enlightening, The Final Farewell offers a glimpse into a world that is misunderstood and feared.
With compassion and sensitivity, Minakshi Dewan explores the many ways in which some of the country's major faiths treat the this includes avoidance of human remains, believed by some to be spiritual pollutants; the worship of bodies at the pyre; professional mourners hired to wail loudly for the dead; and musicians devoted to celebrating life at funerals.
Based on thorough research, keen observation, personal interviews, The Final Farewell is a reminder to honour those who came before, and to work towards a better world to leave behind.
With compassion and sensitivity, Minakshi Dewan explores the many ways in which some of the country's major faiths treat the this includes avoidance of human remains, believed by some to be spiritual pollutants; the worship of bodies at the pyre; professional mourners hired to wail loudly for the dead; and musicians devoted to celebrating life at funerals.
Based on thorough research, keen observation, personal interviews, The Final Farewell is a reminder to honour those who came before, and to work towards a better world to leave behind.
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Published October 26, 2023
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January 22, 2024
‘The gender of the mourner shouldn't matter until the rituals are performed with love and respect.’
This book is much more than understanding the death rituals. An insightful read that gives us a perspective of people who work for the dead. People who work in crematoriums, pandits who only do death-related work, people who help organize the last rites and a lot more. @minakshi.dewan.writes brilliantly weaves The Final Farewell, giving us a glimpse of the death tourism in Varanasi, the city walks that happen there, the importance of Nigambodh That, the challenges volunteers faced during the pandemic and how women volunteers performed the funerals.
While we witness how rituals are different in different religions, we see how things are changing and women are actively participating in the rituals while we see the challenges they face as they participate. With the interviews and insights from the people sharing their experiences, we get a whole new perspective on these rituals. While we see the progress with women priests and active participation, We also see the injustice faced by various communities and gender discrimination.
Interestingly structured, Minakshi keeps it light and candid for the readers making it easy to understand. It's not only about rituals but various ways in which death is celebrated in different ways in different parts of the country. She weaves it beautifully with her captivating writing style giving readers an insightful experience. The narratives are encouraging making readers feel optimistic about the change happening around us.
It's a thoughtful read that gives us a glimpse of various traditions and how we witnessed change, especially during the pandemic. We learn about Rudaalis, Mirasans and Oppari, how widows are portrayed in Bollywood (one of my favourite parts), the last rites of the Kinnar group, professional death services, and the funeral workers which we could never get to read somewhere else. She makes it comfortable for the readers to absorb the information. A book that gives us insights about death rituals and the people who help us.
A must-read.
January 2, 2024
The Final Farewell’ is as much about the death and the dead as it is about the ones left behind, the survivors. Since the death affects the family and friends too, the book is aptly structured, researched and written.
Dewan, while putting the last remains of her father to rest, came across a holy man, a Purohit (commonly referred to as panda or pandit) who said something about the specification of the ritual and the one who does it; it triggered a curiosity to know and write about the complexities that exist around death in the author.
The author has compiled an extensive text on what happens when a person passes away. What different religions do differently? What is the concept of afterlife in different religions? What is the concept of heaven, hell and purgatory? Apart from this, she has also touched upon the little know facts - how to lay a child to rest? What about the bodies who have nobody to take their names? Can women do last rites? Are they discriminated against while they are performing the last rites or in death? Does the funeral procession of someone who has lived a long and fruitful life differ from someone who died prematurely?
Dewan begins with Sikhism, stating - "The concept of death is anand in Sikhism. So if life is anand, then death is anand too.”
One is instructed to rejoice in the Lord's will and remember his name because only that will help humans in their journey to the next world, not traditional funeral
rituals.
In Islam, artificially extending life is strongly opposed unless it results in a reasonable quality of life. It’s preferable to bury the martyrs bodies unwashed. For the martyrs, even the shrouding rituals are skipped. What I found somewhat chilling is her mentioning that in Islam, the soul returns to live in the grave where it’s interrogated by two surly angles.
Zoroastrian laws prohibit any contact between the dead and living beings, not even allowing relatives of the deceased to touch the dead after a certain point.
Because of the almost extinction of the vultures, some Parsis have begun burying or cremating the dead, which most orthodox community members oppose. They believe that such practises call into question the age-old Zoroastrian funeral custom, contaminating the earth.
In Hinduism, Gita (2:22) compares death to changing clothes: after discarding worn-out garments, one puts on new ones. Similarly, the embodied Self' encounters new ones after discarding worn-out bodies.
What’s common across all the religions is that all the holy books condemn a noisy expression of grief. Death is considered to be something ordained by the higher power. It doesn’t behave of the mourners to make a loud expression of their grief.
I was frankly amazed to notice that it’s Hinduism that has the maximum number of rituals surrounding death. Maximum rituals translated to maximum money spent. Hence I am happy being an atheist!
Dewan, while putting the last remains of her father to rest, came across a holy man, a Purohit (commonly referred to as panda or pandit) who said something about the specification of the ritual and the one who does it; it triggered a curiosity to know and write about the complexities that exist around death in the author.
The author has compiled an extensive text on what happens when a person passes away. What different religions do differently? What is the concept of afterlife in different religions? What is the concept of heaven, hell and purgatory? Apart from this, she has also touched upon the little know facts - how to lay a child to rest? What about the bodies who have nobody to take their names? Can women do last rites? Are they discriminated against while they are performing the last rites or in death? Does the funeral procession of someone who has lived a long and fruitful life differ from someone who died prematurely?
Dewan begins with Sikhism, stating - "The concept of death is anand in Sikhism. So if life is anand, then death is anand too.”
One is instructed to rejoice in the Lord's will and remember his name because only that will help humans in their journey to the next world, not traditional funeral
rituals.
In Islam, artificially extending life is strongly opposed unless it results in a reasonable quality of life. It’s preferable to bury the martyrs bodies unwashed. For the martyrs, even the shrouding rituals are skipped. What I found somewhat chilling is her mentioning that in Islam, the soul returns to live in the grave where it’s interrogated by two surly angles.
Zoroastrian laws prohibit any contact between the dead and living beings, not even allowing relatives of the deceased to touch the dead after a certain point.
Because of the almost extinction of the vultures, some Parsis have begun burying or cremating the dead, which most orthodox community members oppose. They believe that such practises call into question the age-old Zoroastrian funeral custom, contaminating the earth.
In Hinduism, Gita (2:22) compares death to changing clothes: after discarding worn-out garments, one puts on new ones. Similarly, the embodied Self' encounters new ones after discarding worn-out bodies.
What’s common across all the religions is that all the holy books condemn a noisy expression of grief. Death is considered to be something ordained by the higher power. It doesn’t behave of the mourners to make a loud expression of their grief.
I was frankly amazed to notice that it’s Hinduism that has the maximum number of rituals surrounding death. Maximum rituals translated to maximum money spent. Hence I am happy being an atheist!
April 16, 2024
In "The Final Farewell," Minakshi Dewan delivers a profound exploration into the intricacies of funeral rituals in India, shedding light on a topic often overlooked in mainstream discourse. Drawing from her extensive research and personal experiences, Dewan navigates through the diverse cultural landscape of India, unravelling the various customs, beliefs, and practices associated with bidding adieu to the departed.
One of the most striking aspects of the book is its meticulous attention to detail. Dewan takes readers on a journey across different regions of India, unveiling the distinct rituals observed by various communities, be it the elaborate ceremonies of Hindu funerals or the solemn traditions of Muslim burials. Through vivid descriptions and insightful anecdotes, she captures the essence of each ritual, allowing readers to gain a deeper understanding of the cultural and spiritual significance attached to them.
Additionally, the book addresses sensitive topics such as caste and gender discrimination in funeral practices, contributing to broader discussions on social justice and equity.
Furthermore, "The Final Farewell" transcends mere documentation, offering valuable insights into the psychological and emotional dimensions of grieving and mourning. Dewan sensitively explores how individuals and communities grapple with loss, highlighting the role of rituals in providing solace and facilitating the journey towards acceptance and closure.
Moreover, Dewan's narrative is enriched by her empathetic engagement with her subjects. Through interviews and interactions with individuals directly involved in funeral rites, she brings forth their voices and perspectives, lending authenticity and depth to her exploration.
The Final Farewell stands as a poignant tribute to the rich tapestry of funeral rituals in India. Dewan's scholarly yet compassionate approach invites readers to embark on a transformative journey, where they witness the intersection of tradition, spirituality, and human resilience.
One of the most striking aspects of the book is its meticulous attention to detail. Dewan takes readers on a journey across different regions of India, unveiling the distinct rituals observed by various communities, be it the elaborate ceremonies of Hindu funerals or the solemn traditions of Muslim burials. Through vivid descriptions and insightful anecdotes, she captures the essence of each ritual, allowing readers to gain a deeper understanding of the cultural and spiritual significance attached to them.
Additionally, the book addresses sensitive topics such as caste and gender discrimination in funeral practices, contributing to broader discussions on social justice and equity.
Furthermore, "The Final Farewell" transcends mere documentation, offering valuable insights into the psychological and emotional dimensions of grieving and mourning. Dewan sensitively explores how individuals and communities grapple with loss, highlighting the role of rituals in providing solace and facilitating the journey towards acceptance and closure.
Moreover, Dewan's narrative is enriched by her empathetic engagement with her subjects. Through interviews and interactions with individuals directly involved in funeral rites, she brings forth their voices and perspectives, lending authenticity and depth to her exploration.
The Final Farewell stands as a poignant tribute to the rich tapestry of funeral rituals in India. Dewan's scholarly yet compassionate approach invites readers to embark on a transformative journey, where they witness the intersection of tradition, spirituality, and human resilience.
December 12, 2023
The final farewell”, as evident from the title this book talks about the finalmost journey that human takes, a journey back home- Death. Even though death is considered taboo in many faiths still there lurks a level of curiosity behind it in every individual.
In 2019, while performing last rites of her father, Author Minakshi Dewan, experienced closely how all these rites are performed. This invoked interest in her to know, write and share about last rites of different faiths.
Book talks about last rites in different faiths of Bharat, how funerals are conducted in Hinduism, Islamic faith, Zoroastrian and Christians. Also how death is conducted in Kinnar community. Pre death rituals, cremation/ burials/ post death, mourning and afterlife rituals are discussed in depth in this book. I was amazed to know that neither burial nor cremation is done in Zoroastrian faith, they leave body on the tower of silence ( squat circular stone structures) where crows and vultures devour the flesh. Other ways of funerals are considered polluting in this faith.
Other than funeral rituals this book discusses beliefs on journey of soul after death, concept of hell and heaven. Role of funeral workers like Hindu Purohits, Sikh Granthis, Parsi priests and Muslim Hafizs, caste based roles in funerals, professional funeral services and plight of funeral ghats and cremation places in Bharat.
After so much development in culture and technology, it’s sad to see how caste and gender based discrimination is in existence in death rituals in Bharat. Women, for instance, did not take part in last rites in some major faiths, gradually this situation is getting better and women are also conducting funerals and taking part in it. Author discusses how female child death is still considered less important than male child death still in many cases and how death of husband makes life hell for widowed female. Death thus becomes a curse for female. Caste based discrimination is also a bad thing still prevalent in society, some roles have become caste based and people are still following in many places.
Chapter -12 on Varanasi is one of my most favourites in the book author discusses, Manikarnika ghat, bhasm holi, mukti bhawan( where people come to die), Aghori tradition and death tourism, where death fascinates the tourists coming from different parts of the world.
I found this book very fascinating, a unique book on a special topic. Everyone should read it to understand rituals behind the phenomenon called death.
In 2019, while performing last rites of her father, Author Minakshi Dewan, experienced closely how all these rites are performed. This invoked interest in her to know, write and share about last rites of different faiths.
Book talks about last rites in different faiths of Bharat, how funerals are conducted in Hinduism, Islamic faith, Zoroastrian and Christians. Also how death is conducted in Kinnar community. Pre death rituals, cremation/ burials/ post death, mourning and afterlife rituals are discussed in depth in this book. I was amazed to know that neither burial nor cremation is done in Zoroastrian faith, they leave body on the tower of silence ( squat circular stone structures) where crows and vultures devour the flesh. Other ways of funerals are considered polluting in this faith.
Other than funeral rituals this book discusses beliefs on journey of soul after death, concept of hell and heaven. Role of funeral workers like Hindu Purohits, Sikh Granthis, Parsi priests and Muslim Hafizs, caste based roles in funerals, professional funeral services and plight of funeral ghats and cremation places in Bharat.
After so much development in culture and technology, it’s sad to see how caste and gender based discrimination is in existence in death rituals in Bharat. Women, for instance, did not take part in last rites in some major faiths, gradually this situation is getting better and women are also conducting funerals and taking part in it. Author discusses how female child death is still considered less important than male child death still in many cases and how death of husband makes life hell for widowed female. Death thus becomes a curse for female. Caste based discrimination is also a bad thing still prevalent in society, some roles have become caste based and people are still following in many places.
Chapter -12 on Varanasi is one of my most favourites in the book author discusses, Manikarnika ghat, bhasm holi, mukti bhawan( where people come to die), Aghori tradition and death tourism, where death fascinates the tourists coming from different parts of the world.
I found this book very fascinating, a unique book on a special topic. Everyone should read it to understand rituals behind the phenomenon called death.
March 30, 2024
"Dying with dignity is as important as living with it."
It is a heartfelt book that explores the last rites and rituals of different religions in India. It talks about how Hindus, Islamics, Christians and Zoroastrians say goodbye to their loved ones. With stories and explanations, the book helps us understand these traditions better. It shows that even though we may follow different religions, we all share the same feelings of love and respect when it comes to saying goodbye to someone we care.
In Varanasi, death is not feared but celebrated as a natural part of life. Families gather along the sacred Ganges to perform last rites, embracing the cycle of life and death with reverence and faith in Lord Shiva. I love this aspect because it reminds us of the beauty in accepting life's transitions and the spiritual energy that permeates the city.
This book uncovers the challenges of caste and gender discrimination within funeral customs. From powerful performances to heartfelt expressions of grief, it vividly illustrates the gendered mourning traditions in India.
Through compelling narratives, Dewan also shines a light on the often-overlooked lives of cremation workers, offering insights into their challenges, particularly amidst the pandemic. Farewell traditions are evolving. Environmental concerns and busy lives push us to rethink final rites. COVID's stark reality demands we adjust before it's too late. Greener options like natural burials and shorter ceremonies emerge, balancing tradition with our changing world. Let's talk openly, ensuring goodbyes remain meaningful while adapting to the times.
Dewan's writing is both clear and compassionate, skillfully navigating complex topics like death rituals and discrimination.It leaves a lasting impact on readers, making the book informative and thought-provoking.
I highly recommend reading this book.
It is a heartfelt book that explores the last rites and rituals of different religions in India. It talks about how Hindus, Islamics, Christians and Zoroastrians say goodbye to their loved ones. With stories and explanations, the book helps us understand these traditions better. It shows that even though we may follow different religions, we all share the same feelings of love and respect when it comes to saying goodbye to someone we care.
In Varanasi, death is not feared but celebrated as a natural part of life. Families gather along the sacred Ganges to perform last rites, embracing the cycle of life and death with reverence and faith in Lord Shiva. I love this aspect because it reminds us of the beauty in accepting life's transitions and the spiritual energy that permeates the city.
This book uncovers the challenges of caste and gender discrimination within funeral customs. From powerful performances to heartfelt expressions of grief, it vividly illustrates the gendered mourning traditions in India.
Through compelling narratives, Dewan also shines a light on the often-overlooked lives of cremation workers, offering insights into their challenges, particularly amidst the pandemic. Farewell traditions are evolving. Environmental concerns and busy lives push us to rethink final rites. COVID's stark reality demands we adjust before it's too late. Greener options like natural burials and shorter ceremonies emerge, balancing tradition with our changing world. Let's talk openly, ensuring goodbyes remain meaningful while adapting to the times.
Dewan's writing is both clear and compassionate, skillfully navigating complex topics like death rituals and discrimination.It leaves a lasting impact on readers, making the book informative and thought-provoking.
I highly recommend reading this book.
May 6, 2024
Death and its rituals are often shrouded in silence and mystery, even more so in diverse India with its multitude of faiths and traditions. Meenakshi Dewan's "The Final Farewell" aims to shed light on this sensitive topic, offering a comprehensive exploration of the last rites and rituals practiced by India's major religions. The book explores the vast array of last rites and rituals practiced by India's major faiths, including Hinduism, Islam, Christianity, Sikhism, Buddhism, and Jainism. It delves into the beliefs and philosophies behind these rituals, offering insights into their cultural significance.
In this novel the author examines how death rituals reflect and sometimes reinforce social structures like caste and gender roles. She sheds light on practices that perpetuate inequalities and those that offer solace and community support. Through meticulous research and insightful interviews, the author presents a comprehensive overview, demystifying the significance of each ritual and shedding light on the philosophical underpinnings that guide these ancient customs.
One of the book's strengths lies in its ability to navigate the delicate balance between cultural sensitivity and scholarly analysis. The author avoids exoticism and fosters a genuine appreciation for the profound meaning embedded in each ritual. It offer readers a profound understanding of the spiritual practices that accompany the departure of a soul. From the elaborate Hindu cremation ceremonies along the banks of the Ganges to the solemn Muslim funeral rites, each chapter unfolds a rich tableau of beliefs and practices.
The author's empathetic approach enables readers to appreciate the emotional and spiritual dimensions of these rituals, fostering a deeper respect for the diversity of faith in India. Moreover, the book challenges preconceived notions, demystifying certain practices and highlighting the common threads that unite these seemingly distinct religious traditions.
The writing style is both scholarly and accessible, striking a balance that caters to a diverse audience. The author employs a blend of descriptive prose and analytical insight, providing readers with a vivid portrayal of the various funeral customs while also offering thoughtful interpretations of their cultural and religious significance. The inclusion of personal narratives and interviews adds a dynamic element, preventing the narrative from becoming overly academic and fostering a deeper connection with the subject matter.
The pacing of the book is well-structured, guiding readers through each major faith's last rites with a clear and logical progression. The author skillfully transitions between different religious traditions, ensuring a cohesive flow that maintains the reader's interest. The book's pacing allows readers to absorb the intricate details of each ritual without feeling overwhelmed, making it suitable for both those with a scholarly interest in religious studies and general readers curious about India's diverse spiritual practices.
In conclusion it is an illuminating exploration of India's diverse last rites and rituals. It serves as a bridge between cultures, inviting readers to appreciate the beauty and significance embedded in the final rites of various faiths. Whether one seeks a deeper understanding of their own cultural heritage or an introduction to the rich tapestry of Indian religious practices, this book proves to be an invaluable and enlightening read.
In this novel the author examines how death rituals reflect and sometimes reinforce social structures like caste and gender roles. She sheds light on practices that perpetuate inequalities and those that offer solace and community support. Through meticulous research and insightful interviews, the author presents a comprehensive overview, demystifying the significance of each ritual and shedding light on the philosophical underpinnings that guide these ancient customs.
One of the book's strengths lies in its ability to navigate the delicate balance between cultural sensitivity and scholarly analysis. The author avoids exoticism and fosters a genuine appreciation for the profound meaning embedded in each ritual. It offer readers a profound understanding of the spiritual practices that accompany the departure of a soul. From the elaborate Hindu cremation ceremonies along the banks of the Ganges to the solemn Muslim funeral rites, each chapter unfolds a rich tableau of beliefs and practices.
The author's empathetic approach enables readers to appreciate the emotional and spiritual dimensions of these rituals, fostering a deeper respect for the diversity of faith in India. Moreover, the book challenges preconceived notions, demystifying certain practices and highlighting the common threads that unite these seemingly distinct religious traditions.
The writing style is both scholarly and accessible, striking a balance that caters to a diverse audience. The author employs a blend of descriptive prose and analytical insight, providing readers with a vivid portrayal of the various funeral customs while also offering thoughtful interpretations of their cultural and religious significance. The inclusion of personal narratives and interviews adds a dynamic element, preventing the narrative from becoming overly academic and fostering a deeper connection with the subject matter.
The pacing of the book is well-structured, guiding readers through each major faith's last rites with a clear and logical progression. The author skillfully transitions between different religious traditions, ensuring a cohesive flow that maintains the reader's interest. The book's pacing allows readers to absorb the intricate details of each ritual without feeling overwhelmed, making it suitable for both those with a scholarly interest in religious studies and general readers curious about India's diverse spiritual practices.
In conclusion it is an illuminating exploration of India's diverse last rites and rituals. It serves as a bridge between cultures, inviting readers to appreciate the beauty and significance embedded in the final rites of various faiths. Whether one seeks a deeper understanding of their own cultural heritage or an introduction to the rich tapestry of Indian religious practices, this book proves to be an invaluable and enlightening read.
June 23, 2024
Death usually has negative connotations in our minds, and not a lot is known about the last rites and rituals of the various faiths that exist today. Most of what we know has been passed through families or seen on screen. A country where people of all faiths co-exist, this context becomes even more important. Minakshi’s book is a wonderful attempt to bring together the understanding of how death is treated across religious and social lines. While we see death as a part of life, there are various aspects attached to it which go unnoticed and unheard, especially the people who are a part of the entire process. The book starts off with a brief about how each religion looks at death, what the scriptures say and the concept of why the last rites and rituals are important. Minakshi then moves on to the gender and social aspect of funerals, and how the gender and caste of a person impact their role in the entire process. She also explores the financial aspect of death including the costs as well as the industry that has started to grow around it. The author also explores the contemporary aspect of funerals, specially during the pandemic, and how it became a choice between adapting to the times versus the age-old practices and how it impacted the people in the chain-the mortuary workers, the people in the crematoriums, burial grounds and the Dakhmas.
What I really liked about the book was it brevity, yet the information in the book is enough to pique your interest and make you research more about the topics Minakshi explores. The concepts have been broken down into small chapters that focus on a specific topic which help you focus and keep you attention to what she is conveying. Since death and funeral is a topic that is sensitive, I liked that Minakshi has not left out emotions while writing and you feel the emotions she felt while researching about the book. Another good aspect of the book is that it is not a treatise on how things are done, and neither it is a book that just takes the processes from the scriptures and reproduces it. It is a methodically written book that explores multiple aspects of death and the author has used a socio-economic lens to present the current status of this industry from a third-person perspective. She not only presents what the scriptures say, but also the environmental aspect of the customs and how people have come up with unique ideas to balance the age-old customs with minimal impact to the environment. Another thing that I liked in the book was that Minakshi has included the funerals during the Covid-19 period as a part that explores how the customs had to be modified keeping in mind the regulations, and how we saw citizens rising to the challenge by volunteering and providing respect to the dead. The chapter on Varanasi was one that I really liked because there were aspects that I had no idea, and especially the one on the Holi was an eye opener. While I knew a bit about Rudaalis, the other gendered aspects of funerals and the performative aspects were something that I discovered through this book.
This is a book that one should read not because it talks about death and funerals, but because it is a birds eye view on an integral part of life that people usually ignore until it comes calling. It will not just help you understand death, but some aspects of human life and psychology as well.
What I really liked about the book was it brevity, yet the information in the book is enough to pique your interest and make you research more about the topics Minakshi explores. The concepts have been broken down into small chapters that focus on a specific topic which help you focus and keep you attention to what she is conveying. Since death and funeral is a topic that is sensitive, I liked that Minakshi has not left out emotions while writing and you feel the emotions she felt while researching about the book. Another good aspect of the book is that it is not a treatise on how things are done, and neither it is a book that just takes the processes from the scriptures and reproduces it. It is a methodically written book that explores multiple aspects of death and the author has used a socio-economic lens to present the current status of this industry from a third-person perspective. She not only presents what the scriptures say, but also the environmental aspect of the customs and how people have come up with unique ideas to balance the age-old customs with minimal impact to the environment. Another thing that I liked in the book was that Minakshi has included the funerals during the Covid-19 period as a part that explores how the customs had to be modified keeping in mind the regulations, and how we saw citizens rising to the challenge by volunteering and providing respect to the dead. The chapter on Varanasi was one that I really liked because there were aspects that I had no idea, and especially the one on the Holi was an eye opener. While I knew a bit about Rudaalis, the other gendered aspects of funerals and the performative aspects were something that I discovered through this book.
This is a book that one should read not because it talks about death and funerals, but because it is a birds eye view on an integral part of life that people usually ignore until it comes calling. It will not just help you understand death, but some aspects of human life and psychology as well.
March 1, 2024
'The Final Farewell' by Minakshi Dewan is an astonishing attempt to understand the last rites and rituals of India's major faiths. Through her insightful book, author takes the readers on a enlightening journey of exploring different rituals performed at the time of death in different religions. In her book, she meticulously combines the sensitivity and spiritual realms with the vision of educating the readers about last rites and rituals related to their respective religion.
Well, I really want to applaud the author for penning down such an well-researched and unique book that serves it purpose in every single page. Her attempt to describe the last rites in Hinduism, Islam, Christianity, Zoroastrianism and Sikhism is commendable. Apart from this, it also offers a broad glimpse of death tourism in Varanasi, where a large number of people offers the last prayers after the funeral.
One of the most highlighted point which I discovered in this book is abcourse, the participation of women's in last rites. As we all know that in ancient times women's usually doesn't take any active part in funerals. But, now things are changing and women's are also becoming the part of funeral process. Written in conversational style, it delves deeper into myths and beliefs related to particular community and teaches us some valuable knowledge about their respective rituals.
From personal interviews to keen observations, author minakshi dewan's marvellous attempt to broaden our perspective regarding the final rites. Experiences of different individuals adds more depth in the book and also clears our perception and doubts. The wisdom of knowledge offered in this book are easy to grasp and leaves a profound impact on it's readers.
Overall "The Final Farewell" is a brilliantly penned book that surpasses the horizon and connects the people from different communities. At the same time, it also throws light on different cultural practices to diversify our knowledge.
At last, I highly recommend it to all the readers who want to know about different practices and rituals performed by various communities.
Must read❤❤
Well, I really want to applaud the author for penning down such an well-researched and unique book that serves it purpose in every single page. Her attempt to describe the last rites in Hinduism, Islam, Christianity, Zoroastrianism and Sikhism is commendable. Apart from this, it also offers a broad glimpse of death tourism in Varanasi, where a large number of people offers the last prayers after the funeral.
One of the most highlighted point which I discovered in this book is abcourse, the participation of women's in last rites. As we all know that in ancient times women's usually doesn't take any active part in funerals. But, now things are changing and women's are also becoming the part of funeral process. Written in conversational style, it delves deeper into myths and beliefs related to particular community and teaches us some valuable knowledge about their respective rituals.
From personal interviews to keen observations, author minakshi dewan's marvellous attempt to broaden our perspective regarding the final rites. Experiences of different individuals adds more depth in the book and also clears our perception and doubts. The wisdom of knowledge offered in this book are easy to grasp and leaves a profound impact on it's readers.
Overall "The Final Farewell" is a brilliantly penned book that surpasses the horizon and connects the people from different communities. At the same time, it also throws light on different cultural practices to diversify our knowledge.
At last, I highly recommend it to all the readers who want to know about different practices and rituals performed by various communities.
Must read❤❤
January 10, 2024
The Final Farewell: Understanding the Last Rites and Rituals of India's Major Faiths by Minakshi Dewan
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“The meaning of life is that it stops.”
-Franz Kafka
Minakshi Dewan's "The Final Farewell" delves into the diverse beliefs about death in India, exploring how different faiths handle the departure of the departed.
With compassion, Dewan sheds light on the complex relationships various communities have with mortality, revealing practices ranging from avoiding human remains to reverentially worshiping bodies at the pyre.
The book also tackles the role of rituals in deep-seated gender-based traditions and caste-based social hierarchy.
Through meticulous research and personal interviews, Dewan reveals biases in final rites and differences in posthumous treatment. Hiring mourners and funeral musicians becomes a poignant reflection of societal norms and prejudices.
Readers are introduced to the diverse individuals involved in managing the deceased and conducting rituals. Dewan vividly portrays these caretakers, emphasizing their roles in orchestrating death-related rituals.
The book acts as a mirror reflecting societal dynamics, urging readers to confront inequalities ingrained in these processes.
The author also addresses the economic and environmental costs of bidding farewell. The book examines the resources consumed in traditional funeral practices, emphasizing their impact on the economy and the environment.
"The Final Farewell" prompts readers to consider alternative, sustainable approaches to death, advocating for a conscientious farewell. In its entirety, it emerges as a powerful exploration of a world often misunderstood.
Through the Author's lens, death becomes a tool to scrutinize societal values and challenge norms. The book serves as a reminder to honor those who came before and encourages readers to contribute to creating a more equitable and compassionate world for generations to come.
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“The meaning of life is that it stops.”
-Franz Kafka
Minakshi Dewan's "The Final Farewell" delves into the diverse beliefs about death in India, exploring how different faiths handle the departure of the departed.
With compassion, Dewan sheds light on the complex relationships various communities have with mortality, revealing practices ranging from avoiding human remains to reverentially worshiping bodies at the pyre.
The book also tackles the role of rituals in deep-seated gender-based traditions and caste-based social hierarchy.
Through meticulous research and personal interviews, Dewan reveals biases in final rites and differences in posthumous treatment. Hiring mourners and funeral musicians becomes a poignant reflection of societal norms and prejudices.
Readers are introduced to the diverse individuals involved in managing the deceased and conducting rituals. Dewan vividly portrays these caretakers, emphasizing their roles in orchestrating death-related rituals.
The book acts as a mirror reflecting societal dynamics, urging readers to confront inequalities ingrained in these processes.
The author also addresses the economic and environmental costs of bidding farewell. The book examines the resources consumed in traditional funeral practices, emphasizing their impact on the economy and the environment.
"The Final Farewell" prompts readers to consider alternative, sustainable approaches to death, advocating for a conscientious farewell. In its entirety, it emerges as a powerful exploration of a world often misunderstood.
Through the Author's lens, death becomes a tool to scrutinize societal values and challenge norms. The book serves as a reminder to honor those who came before and encourages readers to contribute to creating a more equitable and compassionate world for generations to come.
March 17, 2024
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"The Final Farewell" by Minakshi Dewan provides a comprehensive exploration of death rituals across major religions such as Hinduism, Islam, Christianity, Zoroastrianism, and Sikhism. Diwan delves into the intricate meanings behind these rituals, offering valuable insights to followers who often perform them mechanically. By shedding light on the practices of different religions, the book not only fosters empathy and understanding but also addresses the current communal polarization in the world.
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Diwan skillfully intertwines academic research with personal narratives, prompting readers to contemplate how daily confrontations with death shape individuals and communities. The book invites readers to delve deeper into life's inevitable aspect, which is rarely discussed openly but is vital to our existence.
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Through engaging storytelling and an introspective tone, "The Final Farewell" compels readers to ponder their own legacies and the impact of their lives. It emphasizes the universality of death while highlighting the unique nuances and beliefs that shape each religious tradition's approach to honoring the departed. In a world marked by religious divides, this book serves as a bridge, fostering appreciation for diverse practices while emphasizing shared human experiences.
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Minakshi Dewan's book offers an enlightening journey into the rituals surrounding death, urging readers to reflect on life's deeper meanings and fostering greater understanding and empathy across religious boundaries. It inspires contemplation and appreciation for the richness of human beliefs and traditions, making it a compelling read for anyone interested in exploring the complexities of life and death across cultures.
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"The Final Farewell" by Minakshi Dewan provides a comprehensive exploration of death rituals across major religions such as Hinduism, Islam, Christianity, Zoroastrianism, and Sikhism. Diwan delves into the intricate meanings behind these rituals, offering valuable insights to followers who often perform them mechanically. By shedding light on the practices of different religions, the book not only fosters empathy and understanding but also addresses the current communal polarization in the world.
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Diwan skillfully intertwines academic research with personal narratives, prompting readers to contemplate how daily confrontations with death shape individuals and communities. The book invites readers to delve deeper into life's inevitable aspect, which is rarely discussed openly but is vital to our existence.
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Through engaging storytelling and an introspective tone, "The Final Farewell" compels readers to ponder their own legacies and the impact of their lives. It emphasizes the universality of death while highlighting the unique nuances and beliefs that shape each religious tradition's approach to honoring the departed. In a world marked by religious divides, this book serves as a bridge, fostering appreciation for diverse practices while emphasizing shared human experiences.
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Minakshi Dewan's book offers an enlightening journey into the rituals surrounding death, urging readers to reflect on life's deeper meanings and fostering greater understanding and empathy across religious boundaries. It inspires contemplation and appreciation for the richness of human beliefs and traditions, making it a compelling read for anyone interested in exploring the complexities of life and death across cultures.
March 28, 2024
This book is an insight read that gives deeper understanding on how people work in crematory, the pandits. Minakshi Dewan based on her keen observation and research, has written the book as a reminder of people who leave the world and the people mourn for the deceased one's.
Before reading the book I have never known those rituals and work behind the death of a person. This book gave a deep insight on funeral practices in each religion.
Especially the death rituals, and customs when a person dies, this book gave a clear perspective of how the deceased been taken care till the burials.
Every religion has their own traditional methods to offer their last offerings to the deceased.
1. Wasing the deceased,
2. Covering the body with the cloth.
3. Women not to beat their breasts.
4. Do not weep when a Sikh dies.
5. Family of the deceased should not light the kitchen hearth when a death occurs.
So many rituals been practised in every religion. While we witness how rituals are different in different religions, we see how things are changing and women are actively participating in the rituals while we see the challenges they face as they participate.
The role of women in death rituals and the difficulties faced by lower castes and other marginalized communities have been written about extensively.
Many other topics connected to death like death tourism in Varanasi and the evolving death industry in India have been covered.
Interestingly structured with deep compassion and sensitivity. We learn about Rudaalis, Mirasans and Oppari, how widows are portrayed in Bollywood, the last rites of the Kinnar group, professional death services, and the funeral workers
Before reading the book I have never known those rituals and work behind the death of a person. This book gave a deep insight on funeral practices in each religion.
Especially the death rituals, and customs when a person dies, this book gave a clear perspective of how the deceased been taken care till the burials.
Every religion has their own traditional methods to offer their last offerings to the deceased.
1. Wasing the deceased,
2. Covering the body with the cloth.
3. Women not to beat their breasts.
4. Do not weep when a Sikh dies.
5. Family of the deceased should not light the kitchen hearth when a death occurs.
So many rituals been practised in every religion. While we witness how rituals are different in different religions, we see how things are changing and women are actively participating in the rituals while we see the challenges they face as they participate.
The role of women in death rituals and the difficulties faced by lower castes and other marginalized communities have been written about extensively.
Many other topics connected to death like death tourism in Varanasi and the evolving death industry in India have been covered.
Interestingly structured with deep compassion and sensitivity. We learn about Rudaalis, Mirasans and Oppari, how widows are portrayed in Bollywood, the last rites of the Kinnar group, professional death services, and the funeral workers
January 26, 2024
The ‘Final Farewell’ of a person is something that is seldom spoken about but is as essential to life as welcoming birth. Minakshi Dewan has written a comprehensive book on this topic and the rituals and traditions related to it. It is well-researched and covers a wide array of themes. It is an interesting read and extremely informative about rites and rituals related to death. Before reading the book, I did not realize that there are so many functions and people involved in death rituals. Reading about the practices of funeral priests at Varanasi and professional mourners like the Rudaalis, Mirasans, and Opparis was both intriguing and educational. The role of women in death rituals and the difficulties faced by lower castes and other marginalized communities have been written about extensively. Besides this, many other topics connected to death like death tourism in Varanasi and the evolving death industry in India have been covered. It is an insightful read and the heartening stories of people who have been interviewed, stay with the reader long after. It is a wonderful book, written with simplicity and honesty.
November 20, 2023
The Final Farwell is a profound exploration that touched a deep chord within my heart. The narrative made me contemplate the unsettling truth that the caste one is born into deciding what one will do. This thought-provoking book raises serious questions about the humanity we sometimes lack and delves into the extremes people go to give a dignified last rite to the departed members.
While the subject may be difficult for some, it remains a compelling read that challenges prevalent notions. The book's well-researched content ensures the authenticity of information, leaving no room for doubt. It skilfully validates its intended message, urging readers to think.
The Final Farwell is not just a book, it's a mirror reflecting societal norms and urging us to pay attention. Despite the weightiness of its themes, it remains a worthwhile journey, offering a unique perspective on human nature and the lengths we go to uphold our values. It's an excellent read that leaves a lasting imprint on the mind.
While the subject may be difficult for some, it remains a compelling read that challenges prevalent notions. The book's well-researched content ensures the authenticity of information, leaving no room for doubt. It skilfully validates its intended message, urging readers to think.
The Final Farwell is not just a book, it's a mirror reflecting societal norms and urging us to pay attention. Despite the weightiness of its themes, it remains a worthwhile journey, offering a unique perspective on human nature and the lengths we go to uphold our values. It's an excellent read that leaves a lasting imprint on the mind.
December 26, 2023
The Final Farewell: Understanding the Last Rites and Rituals of India’s Major Faiths is an informative and intriguing read about last rites and rituals in India covering five religions. It is quite a well-researched book covering different aspects, like the impact of the last rites and rituals on the environment. Apart from the environmental impact, it also dwells upon the caste and caste discrimination in end-of-life rituals.
Even the chapter on Zoroastrian rituals was quite intriguing. Gender is another interesting theme that the book addresses. For instance, the chapter on gendered mourning was fascinating. Death tourism in Varanasi was a new subject that the book addresses. Other than this, it also explores the challenges that the humanity faced during the Covid-19 pandemic.
The Final Farewell gently grips the reader to turn the page after page. Last but not least; the book is a gentle reminder that death is the inevitable truth of life and its grief affects us all.
Even the chapter on Zoroastrian rituals was quite intriguing. Gender is another interesting theme that the book addresses. For instance, the chapter on gendered mourning was fascinating. Death tourism in Varanasi was a new subject that the book addresses. Other than this, it also explores the challenges that the humanity faced during the Covid-19 pandemic.
The Final Farewell gently grips the reader to turn the page after page. Last but not least; the book is a gentle reminder that death is the inevitable truth of life and its grief affects us all.
September 8, 2024
A non fiction by debutant writer that combines the rigour of a research paper with lucidity of a magzine for ensuring that nuanced details related to death rituals and their connectedness to the life appeals to all. The book captures multi-dimensional aspects related to a difficult but important theme: how major religions in India mourn the dead, how death rituals offer relief, bring people together during a crises,
and yet how social discrimination complicates the way death is dealt in communities, how mourning and death rituals are intercepted by gender norms and patriarchy...All this and more. A must read for those who want to understand the deeper meaning of death related practices and are open to learn also about socio-economic and gender dimensions of the same!
and yet how social discrimination complicates the way death is dealt in communities, how mourning and death rituals are intercepted by gender norms and patriarchy...All this and more. A must read for those who want to understand the deeper meaning of death related practices and are open to learn also about socio-economic and gender dimensions of the same!
May 26, 2024
An insightful exploration of India's last rites and rituals, this book delves into their cultural, religious,economic and environmental impacts. It illuminates the financial burdens, cultural significance, and ecological consequences, providing a comprehensive understanding of this deeply rooted tradition. The book prompts readers to consider the sustainability of these practices and the need for greater awareness to mitigate their detrimental effects on our environment and the society. A must-read for those interested in cultural practices and sustainability.
January 2, 2024
A remarkable, insightful and captivating insight into the lesser documented part of our lives. Carefully crafted essence of each tradition with great attention to detail. A must-read for anyone interested in exploring the rich cultural practices of India's spiritual traditions. Highly recommended!
January 1, 2025
“How does India mourn?” was a question that struck the author while she was performing the last rites of her own father, and this book is a culmination of the many interviews she had with people associated with performing the last rites of the deceased. It describes the last rites and rituals prescribed in each of the major religions in India- Hinduism, Islam, Sikhism, Christianity and Parsis. As the writer describes the rituals in different religions, one is stuck by how similar they are, and of how much the families end up spending on death. The book also goes into the caste and gender dynamics related to funeral and mourning, and of how things were challenged during COVID. The book also provides hope when it describes a few organizations which provide an empathetic and inclusive space for people to conduct the last rites of their loved ones. Lastly, the book examines the environmental impact of traditional funeral rites and throws open questions about whether these practices can continue or not.
I enjoyed reading Minakshi Dewan’s The Final Farewell: Understanding the Last Rites and Rituals of India’s Major Faiths both for the descriptions of the funeral and mourning rites followed by different communities and because it challenged me to think about how caste, gender and social-economic status permeates everything in life, including death.
Detailed review here: https://www.youthkiawaaz.com/2024/01/...
I enjoyed reading Minakshi Dewan’s The Final Farewell: Understanding the Last Rites and Rituals of India’s Major Faiths both for the descriptions of the funeral and mourning rites followed by different communities and because it challenged me to think about how caste, gender and social-economic status permeates everything in life, including death.
Detailed review here: https://www.youthkiawaaz.com/2024/01/...
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