And So We Begin: The Founder Of Violence Anonymous Shares A Decade Of Experience Working The 12 Steps Of VA

by James M

This book is designed to be a basic text for recovery in Violence Anonymous and a workbook to help those who want to actively work a VA program and recover from an addiction to conflict and drama. Many find it useful to read with a pen or pencil in hand to more easily and readily answer the questions. I personally work through all 12 Steps one Role at a time. Roles on the Drama Triangle will be discussed in Step 1. My first pass through all 12 Steps was as a Persecutor. Next, I worked the 12 Steps as a Victim, then again as a Rescuer. Many of us continue to work the Steps over and over again. We finish with Step 12 and start again at Step 1, focusing on the Role that is most glaring to us at the time. I recommend that you concentrate on the Role that you and your sponsor agree is most obtrusive in your life today. Keep it simple. No need to do them all at once. I hope this book combined with your own actions brings you peace of mind and freedom from violence. Good reading and good luck in your recovery.

Do you relate to any of these statements?
If so, you will benefit from this book and the solution presented here.
• I am unhappy in my long-term relationships.
• My work relationships are tense.
• I get the feeling my kids avoid me.
• My relationship with money is not satisfying.
• I would not describe my home life as consistently peaceful.
• I frequently lose or switch jobs.
• I don't understand why people get angry with me when I'm only trying to help.
• I am sometimes shocked by how I treat customer service people.
• My relationships with my children are tense or stressful.
• I suffer from road rage.
• I hear myself say things that I know I will regret later, but I can't stop myself.
• I make jokes at other people's expense.
• I feel surprised when people admit they are afraid of me.
• I blame others.
• I judge others frequently.
• I often believe I am right and others are wrong.
• I assume that others are not as intelligent as I am.
• Drama seems to follow me.
• I often feel frustrated, angry, sad, or lonely.
• I can't keep my opinion to myself.
• I don't have much sensuality in my life.
• My life lacks true and fulfilling romance.
• I struggle with money and abundance.
• I meet my own needs at the expense of others.
• I allow others to meet their needs at my expense.
• I keep score in relationships.
• I call people names.
• My life would be better if others would just…

234 pages, Paperback

Published November 13, 2023

Reviews

[Amy · Rating 5 out of 5]

People often think of violence as being only physical. That isn’t accurate. Violence comes in many forms. Once we become triggered by something or someone we often become engaged in drama. We hop on the Drama Triangle.

This book is patterned after the original AA steps and program.

I found it illuminating and it caused me to consider my own role with violence in my life. It was/is extremely thought provoking and through its lessons I hope to become a better and more grounded person.

A great book for those on a healing and spiritual journey through life.