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Strife
"Whenever women are honest about their struggles, they give other women a gift. Mia delivers." Elizabeth Gilbert
'There are many, many books written by successful women who talk about how successful they are and float their theory about how you can get some of that success for yourself if you just Lean In, Say Yes, Live Your Best Life, Beat Your Fear or Sleep More.
Work Strife Balance is not one of those books.
I want this book to be helpful to every woman. And I know from experience the best way to be helpful is to be honest. It's easy to share your successes and your triumphs but the real stuff of life is far less transient: Eating disorders. Grief. Divorce. Losing a job. Losing a loved one. Losing your mind. Infertility. None of these things have rituals. In an age of social media brag-fests they mostly exist underground.
But the way women connect is by sharing failures, disappointments and insecurities. Quietly. Privately. Over wine. Over text. Over fences. Female connections are forged through vulnerability not Facebook brags.
Work Strife Balance is split into those about my most valuable failures, my most significant setbacks and my most mortifying slip-ups in life, love and work. At Mamamia we call it FLEARNING - failing and learning. Learning through failing. In my teens, 20s, 30s and 40s, I've done a lot of both.' Mia Freedman
MORE PRAISE FOR MIA FREEDMAN
"To be generous is common. To be funny is common. To be neurotic is also, alas, common. But to be generous and funny about one's own neuroses is spectacularly rare, and it's what makes Mia Freedman such an exhilaratingly readable writer. Mia Freedman's achievements as a relentless innovator in media are profound, but the real marvel is that she can still write a book like this. Funny, raw, fierce and - at heart - profoundly generous." Annabel Crabb
"There are few writers in Australia who care as much about what makes women tick as Mia Freedman and who reveal so much of themselves. "Mia Freedman has pulled off something marvellous: a book that's funny and frank but also touching and vulnerable." Leigh Sales
"Mia Freedman is one of the most inspirational, informative and accessible voices among contemporary Australian writers. She shares the richness of her lived experience as a Woking mother, thinker and writer to inform challenge and motivate Australian women. This book bears the hallmarks of her distinctive style: witty honest and encouraging. She is dedicated to improving the lives of other women. Hers is an important unique voice in our national conversation." Cate McGregor
'There are many, many books written by successful women who talk about how successful they are and float their theory about how you can get some of that success for yourself if you just Lean In, Say Yes, Live Your Best Life, Beat Your Fear or Sleep More.
Work Strife Balance is not one of those books.
I want this book to be helpful to every woman. And I know from experience the best way to be helpful is to be honest. It's easy to share your successes and your triumphs but the real stuff of life is far less transient: Eating disorders. Grief. Divorce. Losing a job. Losing a loved one. Losing your mind. Infertility. None of these things have rituals. In an age of social media brag-fests they mostly exist underground.
But the way women connect is by sharing failures, disappointments and insecurities. Quietly. Privately. Over wine. Over text. Over fences. Female connections are forged through vulnerability not Facebook brags.
Work Strife Balance is split into those about my most valuable failures, my most significant setbacks and my most mortifying slip-ups in life, love and work. At Mamamia we call it FLEARNING - failing and learning. Learning through failing. In my teens, 20s, 30s and 40s, I've done a lot of both.' Mia Freedman
MORE PRAISE FOR MIA FREEDMAN
"To be generous is common. To be funny is common. To be neurotic is also, alas, common. But to be generous and funny about one's own neuroses is spectacularly rare, and it's what makes Mia Freedman such an exhilaratingly readable writer. Mia Freedman's achievements as a relentless innovator in media are profound, but the real marvel is that she can still write a book like this. Funny, raw, fierce and - at heart - profoundly generous." Annabel Crabb
"There are few writers in Australia who care as much about what makes women tick as Mia Freedman and who reveal so much of themselves. "Mia Freedman has pulled off something marvellous: a book that's funny and frank but also touching and vulnerable." Leigh Sales
"Mia Freedman is one of the most inspirational, informative and accessible voices among contemporary Australian writers. She shares the richness of her lived experience as a Woking mother, thinker and writer to inform challenge and motivate Australian women. This book bears the hallmarks of her distinctive style: witty honest and encouraging. She is dedicated to improving the lives of other women. Hers is an important unique voice in our national conversation." Cate McGregor
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October 11, 2017
2.5 stars for me - right in the middle.
There were certainly many parts of this book that I enjoyed - such as teaching young women to protect themselves (does not equal victim blaming), on understanding the context of 'empowering' yourself as a woman by making choices that actually reinforce the patriarchy, and thoughts that first time parents have BEFORE having a baby.
I genuinely appreciated Mia's honesty in sharing about anxiety, miscarriages, abortion and bulimia. But for me she failed to find the line between 'I'm sharing my experiences so other women can connect and not be afraid or ashamed' and 'I'm giving advice for other people with these same experiences'. She purported not be giving advice or writing a self help book, but then fell into generalising experiences more than she perhaps realised, and using that to give advice and 'teach life lessons' to other women. She was very careful not to do this with 'controversial' topics, like bulimia or anxiety, and clearly stated that her experience does not speak for all. But the smaller experiences she shared that I personally have been through or identified with (like overcommitting to things), I found that she made assumptions about how I, as a woman, feel, and this made me annoyed and defensive - and generally put me offside.
I thought the chapter by her son was really irritating and contrived, and I didn't appreciate a lot of the advice she gave her daughter either.
I sadly also don't think that this book adds anything new to the conversation about feminism. She touches on many concepts but doesn't give any insight or add any value.
By the time I got the end, I also realised that her concept of 'balance' or 'work life balance' is actually flawed - or at the very least it doesn't tally with my own. To me I think of life as a balancing act - it's constantly a work in progress - it's not about having perfect 50/50 of work and life. Work is one of many parts of life and it's about finding the right mix for you, and THAT is balance.
Final thought: why so much name dropping?
There were certainly many parts of this book that I enjoyed - such as teaching young women to protect themselves (does not equal victim blaming), on understanding the context of 'empowering' yourself as a woman by making choices that actually reinforce the patriarchy, and thoughts that first time parents have BEFORE having a baby.
I genuinely appreciated Mia's honesty in sharing about anxiety, miscarriages, abortion and bulimia. But for me she failed to find the line between 'I'm sharing my experiences so other women can connect and not be afraid or ashamed' and 'I'm giving advice for other people with these same experiences'. She purported not be giving advice or writing a self help book, but then fell into generalising experiences more than she perhaps realised, and using that to give advice and 'teach life lessons' to other women. She was very careful not to do this with 'controversial' topics, like bulimia or anxiety, and clearly stated that her experience does not speak for all. But the smaller experiences she shared that I personally have been through or identified with (like overcommitting to things), I found that she made assumptions about how I, as a woman, feel, and this made me annoyed and defensive - and generally put me offside.
I thought the chapter by her son was really irritating and contrived, and I didn't appreciate a lot of the advice she gave her daughter either.
I sadly also don't think that this book adds anything new to the conversation about feminism. She touches on many concepts but doesn't give any insight or add any value.
By the time I got the end, I also realised that her concept of 'balance' or 'work life balance' is actually flawed - or at the very least it doesn't tally with my own. To me I think of life as a balancing act - it's constantly a work in progress - it's not about having perfect 50/50 of work and life. Work is one of many parts of life and it's about finding the right mix for you, and THAT is balance.
Final thought: why so much name dropping?
May 12, 2017
Exactly what I expected. Some chapters were interesting- I appreciated Mia's candidness in her chapter about anxiety, and Luca's candidness in his chapter about Mia- but many chapters felt a bit same-old as someone who listens to Mamamia podcasts and checks the site semi-regularly. Clear feminist message, which is great for anyone reading who may not be there yet but as a well-established feminist this offered me little new food for thought.
January 27, 2020
I loved this book. It was honest, real and I could see myself in so many aspects of this book. I loved the feminism and the reminder to treat each other with a bit more kindness. I also had chats to my kids about porn, being the ‘good guy’, social media and might even pass the book onto them when they’re looking for a good read.
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September 23, 2017Some parts v interesting; even enthralling.
Most parts: I did not enjoy at all.
Absolutely no idea what stars to give it.
Most parts: I did not enjoy at all.
Absolutely no idea what stars to give it.
May 24, 2017
As a member of the Mamamia community, I had been eagerly awaiting the release of Mia Freedman's second book, Work Strife Balance. Mia's weekly podcast 'Mamamia Outloud', which she co-hosts with Monique Bowley and Jessie Stevens, is at the top of my list of favourite listens.. I think it is because of this that I was a bit disappointed. I felt like I had heard it all before. There wasn’t anything new, some of it was word for word what has been said on the show, there were snippets from her articles, it’s all a bit repetitious.
It was about 100 pages in before I had dog eared my first page for future reference, so it’s a bit of a slow start. The first third of the book focuses on work. The 'lessons' that she shares here is probably targeted at a slightly younger or less experienced audience then myself. I felt that is was all a bit obvious. I definitely found the second half of the book more enjoyable with Mia's future lessons to her daughter a highlight chapter, I felt it summarised the book and its messages, and was well placed. I am a big fan of footnotes which were well used throughout and added a teaspoon of humour at all the right spots.
On reflection, once I had finished reading, my opinion began to change, I started to appreciate the book as a whole. The topics Mia tackles are important issues that very few address. She delivers her opinion and beliefs in a way that felt informative and inoffensive while still being clear and to the point. She has a wide range of life experience which I believe greatly attributes to her success. Chapters such as "The babies that could have been", "The time food nearly destroyed me", and "That time my marriage ended" are honest, heart felt, and very relatable for a lot of women although sadly in society not openly or frequently discussed.
In some ways this collection of stories felt more private, like it was written for her family rather than to be published for public consumption. There was a chapter written by her eldest son Luca on what it is like to have Mia as a mother, a letter to her youngest son about porn, the mentioned future lessons for her daughter, and a conversation with her mother on feminism. All up it felt like a memoir to future Freedman generations on who Mia was and what her 'voice' was like.
Ultimately Work Strife Balance is a very easy read and brings important societal issues to light told through interesting, ,funny and often heart breaking anecdotes. I would most recommend this book to young women early in their careers, parents of toddles, tweens or teens and those looking for something quick to devour poolside. If you are a fan of Mia Freedman you will continue to be so but it just may not rock your world.
It was about 100 pages in before I had dog eared my first page for future reference, so it’s a bit of a slow start. The first third of the book focuses on work. The 'lessons' that she shares here is probably targeted at a slightly younger or less experienced audience then myself. I felt that is was all a bit obvious. I definitely found the second half of the book more enjoyable with Mia's future lessons to her daughter a highlight chapter, I felt it summarised the book and its messages, and was well placed. I am a big fan of footnotes which were well used throughout and added a teaspoon of humour at all the right spots.
On reflection, once I had finished reading, my opinion began to change, I started to appreciate the book as a whole. The topics Mia tackles are important issues that very few address. She delivers her opinion and beliefs in a way that felt informative and inoffensive while still being clear and to the point. She has a wide range of life experience which I believe greatly attributes to her success. Chapters such as "The babies that could have been", "The time food nearly destroyed me", and "That time my marriage ended" are honest, heart felt, and very relatable for a lot of women although sadly in society not openly or frequently discussed.
In some ways this collection of stories felt more private, like it was written for her family rather than to be published for public consumption. There was a chapter written by her eldest son Luca on what it is like to have Mia as a mother, a letter to her youngest son about porn, the mentioned future lessons for her daughter, and a conversation with her mother on feminism. All up it felt like a memoir to future Freedman generations on who Mia was and what her 'voice' was like.
Ultimately Work Strife Balance is a very easy read and brings important societal issues to light told through interesting, ,funny and often heart breaking anecdotes. I would most recommend this book to young women early in their careers, parents of toddles, tweens or teens and those looking for something quick to devour poolside. If you are a fan of Mia Freedman you will continue to be so but it just may not rock your world.
December 29, 2017
As a working mother increasingly contemplating the concept of work/life balance, I thought this would be a fun, thought provoking holiday read. Whilst Freedman is very candid and generous in detailing her personal struggles and victories in the hope of helping others (and I genuinely believe she wants to help other women), I can't help but find her to be a little too Oprah like in that the ego seems to get in the way of all those good intentions. There was little here that I found new or particularly revelatory. Some things made me feel better - that work/life balance is basically bullshit and that mother guilt needs to be continually quashed within yourself and others at all costs. However, I found some of the anecdotes to be completely unrelatable and quite far removed from most women's experiences. For example, whilst I'm certain Freedman worked hard to establish Mamamia with small children and no income, she still did it while being supported by a successful businessman husband, a nanny and a very handsome redundancy payout from her previous job. I'm sure other women will read this and gain a lot, but for me there are much better current feminist texts out there.
May 13, 2017
Not a big fan of Mia's brand of feminism.
March 10, 2025
For the most part this is a fantastic read written by a wonderful woman who genuinely cares about the causes and issues that affect modern women (however, that is not all I think, but I'd like to start with the parts that I loved). I picked it up because I've of course heard of her and of Mamamia and thought it might be interesting.
For 97% of the book Freedman is trying to navigate the societal pressure to "have it all" and wanting to help other women to shirk off the societal pressure to do so by helping us realise that this feeling is one that men don't really have. Freedman is a self described feminist and what she brings here are ideas and thoughts that aren't "radical" and will appeal to a lot of women who (consciously or unconsciously) try to stay away from that word (feminist) because they worry about the connotations it has. I was only about 10 pages in when I first had to stop for a second and put it down because of how much I recognised myself in her words. How much I resonated with what she wrote and how much I realised that actually the issues she's talking about really do affect me. They apply to me, to my friends and colleagues and not in a way that's theoretical.
That is brilliant writing. That is a voice we should listen to. She gained my respect, admiration and desire to listen to her from only about 10 pages in. That's not nothing, that's something special.
Freedman's prose, easy to read (and often hilarious) descriptions of the various stages of her life and career are so relatable. I was comforted by many of the thoughts and instances in her book. She, by writing this and sharing her story with the world, made me feel so much like the problems in my own life (and head) are normal. She should be congratulated and celebrated for that fact and I admire her for so openly sharing her life and trying to valiantly to make a difference for causes that she so obviously believes in.
But. There's a but.
Thankfully only in the last 30 or so pages of the book but it really left a sour taste in my mouth, as I'd grown to almost cult like worshipping the woman were it not for this. Right at the end of the book she writes a letter to her daughter, with advice to her and things she wants her to know about the world. One of those things is "be wary of adult men who play video games", because, Freedman suggests that this is some indication of a failure to grow up and thus a red flag. She compares this to if women played Barbies of an evening.
The comparison and "wariness" is unfair, shortsighted and respectfully absolutely tone deaf. Freedman herself in an earlier part of the book details her diagnosis of ADHD and being neurodivergent. She notes that if she is going to attend a meeting that runs for more than 20 minutes she'll take a colouring book or play doh as it helps her focus. Power to her, glad she's found something that works for her.
However, to then go on to say in a chapter as important as the advice she wants to give to her daughter (and by extension, all young women in general) to overgeneralise about a predominantly (but not exclusively) male pursuit is hypocritical at best and misandrist at worst. Be wary of "adult men" who play video games? What about adult women who play them? Let's not even glance at the fact that the comparison between "video games" and Barbie dolls is overly simplistic and farcical. Most video games played by "adult men" are not suitable for children and erego can't really be for people who haven't "grown up". She mocks the idea that adult men are doing this to "relax". Why on earth can't they? Most of the men that I know who play video games do so online, with others in a setting that is social, where they make friends and where they communicate freely and without judgement about all aspects of their lives in between rounds of Call of Duty. I can't think of a thing that I'd sooner have adult males (read, adults) do MORE. This is especially so if they, too, are neurodivergent and don't connect with others in "normal" ways, something you'd think Freedman would be alive to, whether it's a predominantly male pursuit or not. If she can (and she absolutely can and should) have her colouring books and play doh in her meetings, then let the "adult men" have their video games, for crying out loud.
Freedman is, of course, entitled to her opinion. And this made up only about a paragraph in an otherwise interesting, thought provoking and wonderful book to read. However, it is because of this that statements as inane as "be wary of adult men who play video games" detract so much from her overall point and my overall rating. I've taken an entire star off. Before I read that bit she had my undivided attention and admiration and after reading it I felt a little betrayed. Not just because it offends me personally (though it absolutely does) but also because when you say so many other things that are so important and make so much sense, people are going to listen to you. People are going to believe what you write, people are going to take notice of your opinions. Even the ones that are absolutely outrageous, as that one single opinion/piece of advice is. One must be careful then what one does when they have as much pull and sway as Freedman does.
Overall, I think it's a brilliant read, but, if your husband, boyfriend (or brother, father, nephew or any other adult male in your life) plays video games, that's great, hope he enjoys it and it is most definitely not something you need to be "wary" of.
For 97% of the book Freedman is trying to navigate the societal pressure to "have it all" and wanting to help other women to shirk off the societal pressure to do so by helping us realise that this feeling is one that men don't really have. Freedman is a self described feminist and what she brings here are ideas and thoughts that aren't "radical" and will appeal to a lot of women who (consciously or unconsciously) try to stay away from that word (feminist) because they worry about the connotations it has. I was only about 10 pages in when I first had to stop for a second and put it down because of how much I recognised myself in her words. How much I resonated with what she wrote and how much I realised that actually the issues she's talking about really do affect me. They apply to me, to my friends and colleagues and not in a way that's theoretical.
That is brilliant writing. That is a voice we should listen to. She gained my respect, admiration and desire to listen to her from only about 10 pages in. That's not nothing, that's something special.
Freedman's prose, easy to read (and often hilarious) descriptions of the various stages of her life and career are so relatable. I was comforted by many of the thoughts and instances in her book. She, by writing this and sharing her story with the world, made me feel so much like the problems in my own life (and head) are normal. She should be congratulated and celebrated for that fact and I admire her for so openly sharing her life and trying to valiantly to make a difference for causes that she so obviously believes in.
But. There's a but.
Thankfully only in the last 30 or so pages of the book but it really left a sour taste in my mouth, as I'd grown to almost cult like worshipping the woman were it not for this. Right at the end of the book she writes a letter to her daughter, with advice to her and things she wants her to know about the world. One of those things is "be wary of adult men who play video games", because, Freedman suggests that this is some indication of a failure to grow up and thus a red flag. She compares this to if women played Barbies of an evening.
The comparison and "wariness" is unfair, shortsighted and respectfully absolutely tone deaf. Freedman herself in an earlier part of the book details her diagnosis of ADHD and being neurodivergent. She notes that if she is going to attend a meeting that runs for more than 20 minutes she'll take a colouring book or play doh as it helps her focus. Power to her, glad she's found something that works for her.
However, to then go on to say in a chapter as important as the advice she wants to give to her daughter (and by extension, all young women in general) to overgeneralise about a predominantly (but not exclusively) male pursuit is hypocritical at best and misandrist at worst. Be wary of "adult men" who play video games? What about adult women who play them? Let's not even glance at the fact that the comparison between "video games" and Barbie dolls is overly simplistic and farcical. Most video games played by "adult men" are not suitable for children and erego can't really be for people who haven't "grown up". She mocks the idea that adult men are doing this to "relax". Why on earth can't they? Most of the men that I know who play video games do so online, with others in a setting that is social, where they make friends and where they communicate freely and without judgement about all aspects of their lives in between rounds of Call of Duty. I can't think of a thing that I'd sooner have adult males (read, adults) do MORE. This is especially so if they, too, are neurodivergent and don't connect with others in "normal" ways, something you'd think Freedman would be alive to, whether it's a predominantly male pursuit or not. If she can (and she absolutely can and should) have her colouring books and play doh in her meetings, then let the "adult men" have their video games, for crying out loud.
Freedman is, of course, entitled to her opinion. And this made up only about a paragraph in an otherwise interesting, thought provoking and wonderful book to read. However, it is because of this that statements as inane as "be wary of adult men who play video games" detract so much from her overall point and my overall rating. I've taken an entire star off. Before I read that bit she had my undivided attention and admiration and after reading it I felt a little betrayed. Not just because it offends me personally (though it absolutely does) but also because when you say so many other things that are so important and make so much sense, people are going to listen to you. People are going to believe what you write, people are going to take notice of your opinions. Even the ones that are absolutely outrageous, as that one single opinion/piece of advice is. One must be careful then what one does when they have as much pull and sway as Freedman does.
Overall, I think it's a brilliant read, but, if your husband, boyfriend (or brother, father, nephew or any other adult male in your life) plays video games, that's great, hope he enjoys it and it is most definitely not something you need to be "wary" of.
June 3, 2024
It's difficult to rate non-fiction books..how can I critique someone's lived experience and point of view? Let me show you :D
This book was certainly an easy read, although the organisation of chapters seemed a bit disjointed to me and I couldn't really get lost in the flow (maybe a pitfall of non-fiction in itself).
I found myself enthusiastically nodding and laughing at times - I appreciated how clearly Mia's personality shone through her words. Very authentic.
I knew not to expect fresh and radical feminist ideas, but as many other reviewers have mentioned, it felt like a lot of what I'd already heard before. I kind of question - what did I learn? What did I take away from this? Because I feel like non-fiction books especially have to offer some kind of teaching or newfound perspective (probably a me-problem).
Insights into motherhood and building her company from the ground up were valuable and interesting though. Can't deny she slayed.
This book was certainly an easy read, although the organisation of chapters seemed a bit disjointed to me and I couldn't really get lost in the flow (maybe a pitfall of non-fiction in itself).
I found myself enthusiastically nodding and laughing at times - I appreciated how clearly Mia's personality shone through her words. Very authentic.
I knew not to expect fresh and radical feminist ideas, but as many other reviewers have mentioned, it felt like a lot of what I'd already heard before. I kind of question - what did I learn? What did I take away from this? Because I feel like non-fiction books especially have to offer some kind of teaching or newfound perspective (probably a me-problem).
Insights into motherhood and building her company from the ground up were valuable and interesting though. Can't deny she slayed.
January 27, 2024
This was a really enjoyable read. Mia is a powerhouse. The only part I really cringed & was bewildered about was the (very small) part about epidurals. I don’t think we need to strike fear into women about childbirth & tell them they will be traumatised if they birth without an epidural. Other than that - great read.
January 10, 2020
Loved this book! Such honesty with a real glimpse into her life ... warts and all! I had a longing in my heart that I might have had a smidgen of her openness and awareness when I was in my early years. I loved the chapter written by her son on his thoughts of Mia as a mother. Love what she stands up for ! 4 1/2 stars!
June 18, 2017
Mia is candid about her life and comfortable sharing the highs, lows and mistakes in order to encourage other women. She isn't interested in creating a public image of perfection and actively works to debunk such obsessions. This is refreshing because we all learn far more effectively from our mistakes than we do our successes and no one wins when we are duped into believing perfection is attainable.
My journey has been quite different in many ways and my values diverge in some areas however the central ideas around not comparing, keeping it real, understanding your limits, creating a firm foundation, learning from mistakes, not comparing your real life to other peoples highlights, and choosing your friends wisely would resonate with many women. The chapter written by her son was particularly beautiful and must warm her heart in the best possible way.
It was a good read with some valuable insights. Importantly though it gives us permission to admit we don't have all the answers but we are a work in progress and that just might be enough.
My journey has been quite different in many ways and my values diverge in some areas however the central ideas around not comparing, keeping it real, understanding your limits, creating a firm foundation, learning from mistakes, not comparing your real life to other peoples highlights, and choosing your friends wisely would resonate with many women. The chapter written by her son was particularly beautiful and must warm her heart in the best possible way.
It was a good read with some valuable insights. Importantly though it gives us permission to admit we don't have all the answers but we are a work in progress and that just might be enough.
October 19, 2017
My knowledge of Mia Freedman before the book was based on sporadic encounters with Mamamia articles (which I usually avoid, apart from Bachie recaps) and a vague awareness of some sh*t going down between her and Sarah Wilson regarding their different perspectives on quitting sugar.
I admire Mia more now, having read this memoir-style book on how "balance is bullshit", partly because I feel I know her better, and partly because I can respect where she's coming from in opinions that differ from mine.
I was particularly interested in her thoughts on feminism, abortion, parenting, how our food choices are not moral choices, and of course, how the idea of work-life balance is bullshit - just another way for the world/patriarchy to pressure women into measuring up in some way. So, pretty much most of the book.
I admire Mia more now, having read this memoir-style book on how "balance is bullshit", partly because I feel I know her better, and partly because I can respect where she's coming from in opinions that differ from mine.
I was particularly interested in her thoughts on feminism, abortion, parenting, how our food choices are not moral choices, and of course, how the idea of work-life balance is bullshit - just another way for the world/patriarchy to pressure women into measuring up in some way. So, pretty much most of the book.
October 19, 2017
This book has some important messages for women, but I found the writing style irritating so couldn't rate it more highly. The conversational style would be fine in a blog post or magazine column, but it quickly became wearing. Many sections were repetitive, and the same themes were rehashed multiple times. There were many sweeping generalisations about women's feelings and experiences, presented without any real evidence in most cases. I also found the name-dropping off-putting.
Some tighter editing would have made this much more readable. It's a shame because the book has helpful messages, with added weight from the author's own experiences. I particularly appreciated her openness about her mental health issues.
Some tighter editing would have made this much more readable. It's a shame because the book has helpful messages, with added weight from the author's own experiences. I particularly appreciated her openness about her mental health issues.
June 24, 2018
While I felt - as some do - there are some things that needn't have been put in this book because it's either just too much information, or not necessarily relevant. I loved this book. I used to be current in my reading of women's information and magazines etc, but it was great to get an update on how things have changed, and Mia's perspective on things. I respect most of her reasoning and really appreciated her ideas and feelings. If you're out of touch, as I am, because life gets in the way, I thought this was a terrific read and I really enjoyed it. Sad that some things are the way that they are in this world, but best if we move forwards united as women supporting each other.
January 9, 2018
She writes exactly as she speaks. If you’re a fan of Mia’s read the book.
I absolutely loved the lessons she has written for her sons and her daughter. Invaluable lessons which I read out loud to my own daughter.
If you listen to her podcasts there will be some things you e already heard but as a massive fan of hers I was OK with that.
As a full time working mum it’s so good to know the feelings I have are normal and not everyone has their shit together. 👊🏼 #girlpower #beafeminist
I absolutely loved the lessons she has written for her sons and her daughter. Invaluable lessons which I read out loud to my own daughter.
If you listen to her podcasts there will be some things you e already heard but as a massive fan of hers I was OK with that.
As a full time working mum it’s so good to know the feelings I have are normal and not everyone has their shit together. 👊🏼 #girlpower #beafeminist
March 29, 2024
I mean I kind of loved Mia Freedman before this so
July 14, 2017
I borrowed this from the library as I expected it to be a quick read, and one that I would skim at times and chapters that wouldn’t always interest me and I was right. I do like that Mia is very open about her life and she’s not interested in selling the story of being a super mum, who bakes cakes, makes her kids nutritious lunches, volunteers at school, has a perfectly curated Instagram account, all whilst having a high-powered career (whilst looking effortlessly beautiful and perfectly groomed!). I would have liked more chapters on her early career in magazines, her experience at Channel 9 and starting her current media company. She touched on it at the beginning of her book but I would love a book by her just about that!
July 19, 2017
Lots of interesting reflections on women in Australian culture. As a woman who is not an avid feminist and doesn't have a career I was left feeling a failure at the end of the book. Whilst there was much about not comparing yourself to unreal people that are splattered over the media, I felt I fell far short of the author's definition of who a woman should be.
February 8, 2019
I started flicking and skimming so quickly turned to reading. I loved all the business chapters, they were so interesting to read and there was lots of good advice in general. But I’m 40, it would have been so helpful at 25 :)
January 27, 2024
Thought I'd like this book as I quite like Mamamia content and Mia Freedman seems quite cool but it was so bad.... such a struggle to finish. It's two stars rather than one because I think it takes guts to write about anxiety and eating disorders in the way Mia opened herself to vulnerability in this book, which will no doubt be very meaningful to others with these struggles. But that's all the positives.
This book is basically a series of Mamamia blogs put into a book- it just doesn't work the way these topics would as short essays. By half way reading it feels like a chore and like Mia is lecturing on how to just live which becomes cumbersome. It's not well planned and doesn't flow well. I found this book really quite self indulgent- if she wanted to write a memoir, then write a memoir, not an "i know so much about everything" book as if it applies to everyone.
This book has many flaws.
-The chapter by her son- can't see why that's there.
-Constant name dropping.........
-Most of what she talks about is just stuff you work out by living life and maturing.
-The drawing attention to (i.e. judging) young women who get botox..... despite an entire career spent in magazines which were almost the sole driving force of creating the (totally unrealistic and unattainable) ideas society has about how women must look. Hypocrisy be thy name!
-She has a TONNE of privilege which isn't acknowledged in this book (i.e. suggesting its fine to work for free as an intern as that's how she started..... Great that worked for her, not every 19 year old has the ability to not work for money)
-She retells the story of taking a job in TV (a medium which she had no experience in and had no leadership to guide her) and them talks about how this was a terrible experience and goes to show you should never take a job that doesn't actually exist. She then went on to start a company (which didn't previously exist), doing online media (which didn't previously exist), in a role she had no idea how to do (which didn't previously exist) and no really idea how to monetise her offering...... Hmmmmmm...... ignoring her own advice has turned out extremely well for her so I'm glad she did that. I'll do the same.
This book is basically a series of Mamamia blogs put into a book- it just doesn't work the way these topics would as short essays. By half way reading it feels like a chore and like Mia is lecturing on how to just live which becomes cumbersome. It's not well planned and doesn't flow well. I found this book really quite self indulgent- if she wanted to write a memoir, then write a memoir, not an "i know so much about everything" book as if it applies to everyone.
This book has many flaws.
-The chapter by her son- can't see why that's there.
-Constant name dropping.........
-Most of what she talks about is just stuff you work out by living life and maturing.
-The drawing attention to (i.e. judging) young women who get botox..... despite an entire career spent in magazines which were almost the sole driving force of creating the (totally unrealistic and unattainable) ideas society has about how women must look. Hypocrisy be thy name!
-She has a TONNE of privilege which isn't acknowledged in this book (i.e. suggesting its fine to work for free as an intern as that's how she started..... Great that worked for her, not every 19 year old has the ability to not work for money)
-She retells the story of taking a job in TV (a medium which she had no experience in and had no leadership to guide her) and them talks about how this was a terrible experience and goes to show you should never take a job that doesn't actually exist. She then went on to start a company (which didn't previously exist), doing online media (which didn't previously exist), in a role she had no idea how to do (which didn't previously exist) and no really idea how to monetise her offering...... Hmmmmmm...... ignoring her own advice has turned out extremely well for her so I'm glad she did that. I'll do the same.
November 13, 2019
I once thought I would never go electronic with books and now I struggle to read paperbacks - and its a shame this was read in paperback form as I wanted to highlight so much of this (but alas it was a library copy).
I'm a fan of Mia through her website and TV appearances etc but even more so now. I just think she's so brave and funny and I admire her work and words. In this book I found myself agreeing with so much, learning a few new ways to think about certain things (like selfies) and feeling quite inspired by her feminsitic thoughts. It helped that we are at similar stages in our lives, so so much of this book resonated with me - from not understanding the appeal of the selfie to knowing when you are done having children and considering botox.
I found her thoughts on our modern era of social media fascinating and how all these pictures woman post about #gratitude etc are not empowering to them or other woman - E.g. when celebrities pose for 'body-after-baby' pics - it might benefit them but doesnt do much for other woman except create potentially unrealsitic ideals and goals. And botox and photoshopping - its nice having a public person trying hard to keep things real.
Some things I didnt instantly agree with but then found myself nodding along. Like her F#$k your dreams chapter - I thought that was a bit harsh but it has actually challenged me in a positive way. I always felt 'lacking' for not being passionate about my career but as she states from Elizabeth Gilbert there are 4 distinct elements - a hobby, a job, a career and a vocation. Wish I had seen this type of thinking earlier!!
I may have to invest in this book though so I can copy Mia's letter to her son about Porn!
I'm a fan of Mia through her website and TV appearances etc but even more so now. I just think she's so brave and funny and I admire her work and words. In this book I found myself agreeing with so much, learning a few new ways to think about certain things (like selfies) and feeling quite inspired by her feminsitic thoughts. It helped that we are at similar stages in our lives, so so much of this book resonated with me - from not understanding the appeal of the selfie to knowing when you are done having children and considering botox.
I found her thoughts on our modern era of social media fascinating and how all these pictures woman post about #gratitude etc are not empowering to them or other woman - E.g. when celebrities pose for 'body-after-baby' pics - it might benefit them but doesnt do much for other woman except create potentially unrealsitic ideals and goals. And botox and photoshopping - its nice having a public person trying hard to keep things real.
Some things I didnt instantly agree with but then found myself nodding along. Like her F#$k your dreams chapter - I thought that was a bit harsh but it has actually challenged me in a positive way. I always felt 'lacking' for not being passionate about my career but as she states from Elizabeth Gilbert there are 4 distinct elements - a hobby, a job, a career and a vocation. Wish I had seen this type of thinking earlier!!
I may have to invest in this book though so I can copy Mia's letter to her son about Porn!
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December 26, 2024
Good light holiday read. It’s Mia Freedman’s version of Bossypants or Yes, Please and while she has found her own unique voice and perspective, it does feel like a rehash of so many other feminist memoirs. I would have liked some more unique and specific insights into her experiences working as an editor of Cosmo at 25 and her other media jobs, but there were some interesting anecdotes about parenting and starting up Mamamia.
While some of her advice was sage, most of it was not ground-breaking and some was a little ignorant and maybe too specific of her own negative experiences (e.g. adult men playing video games is like women playing Barbies. Clearly she has not played a video game recently but also so what if we still want to sometimes do childish things?).
I love Mamamia and the podcasts, articles etc. that have come from it. I love the idea of female-centric media in what is often a male-dominated sphere. But I think I’ll stick to her short, witty think-pieces rather than whole books.
But also the TV show Strife which was inspired by this book is way better and maybe watch that instead.
While some of her advice was sage, most of it was not ground-breaking and some was a little ignorant and maybe too specific of her own negative experiences (e.g. adult men playing video games is like women playing Barbies. Clearly she has not played a video game recently but also so what if we still want to sometimes do childish things?).
I love Mamamia and the podcasts, articles etc. that have come from it. I love the idea of female-centric media in what is often a male-dominated sphere. But I think I’ll stick to her short, witty think-pieces rather than whole books.
But also the TV show Strife which was inspired by this book is way better and maybe watch that instead.
August 3, 2017
I have loved Mia's writings since Cosmopolitan, but surprisingly I wasn't even aware of the mass backlash against her. I guess I hadn't been following her whereabouts as religiously as I thought.
Mia's story is honest, unapologetic and straightforward. Qualities I always admire in people even when I don't necessarily agree nor have the same outlook and values (or feel as particularly strong as them).
I like the combination of autobiography and personal advice in this book. Also, Luca's chapter (my favourite part) is such a breath of fresh air. I don't give this book more stars because although I like the sneak peak into Mia's life, the life tips part has nothing particularly ground shattering for me. They're funny, nice reminders of things I have read before. And I also have a completely different personality than Mia (I guess I'm more like Luca) so I don't feel as strong affinity to apply her views and ways (not that she's asking her readers to).
All in all, still a good book, which I probably re-read in the future.
Mia's story is honest, unapologetic and straightforward. Qualities I always admire in people even when I don't necessarily agree nor have the same outlook and values (or feel as particularly strong as them).
I like the combination of autobiography and personal advice in this book. Also, Luca's chapter (my favourite part) is such a breath of fresh air. I don't give this book more stars because although I like the sneak peak into Mia's life, the life tips part has nothing particularly ground shattering for me. They're funny, nice reminders of things I have read before. And I also have a completely different personality than Mia (I guess I'm more like Luca) so I don't feel as strong affinity to apply her views and ways (not that she's asking her readers to).
All in all, still a good book, which I probably re-read in the future.
July 3, 2017
I liked this book, overall. I didn't learn a whole lot, apart from the 18 month conception of mamamia which was motivating (although still very privileged). It's taken me awhile to come around to Mia and I read this while she was embroiled in the Roxanne Gay controversy. I used to find her irritating because I found she took others opinions, views, and philosophies and passed them off as her own, too often. Her book is basically made up of referencing other women she looks up to, which is handy as it saves time reading all of the other books (but you should definitely read them anyway!). I found an enormous mistake, which is where she misquotes Carline Overington for Leigh Sales in regards to preparing for interviews. Upsetting for Leigh.
Mia is incredibly "polarising", however as someone who advocates for women, it is hard not to look up to her as a role model for women. She is someone who is always - doing the best she can.
Mia is incredibly "polarising", however as someone who advocates for women, it is hard not to look up to her as a role model for women. She is someone who is always - doing the best she can.
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June 2, 2017I love listening to Mia talk and rant, I find her soothing and comforting although she's talking about harsh topics. As an over thinker myself it's interesting to read someone else do the same. When I say shes an over thinker I mean she's self conscious and has studied her past thoughts and behaviour in a way I find fascinating. Also she has had an interesting life. And when I asked my mum how many times she's been pregnant ( as Mia discussed in the book), I found out she has had a miscarriage!
While reading this book I found my self being hyper aware of the people's behaviour regarding gender and social media. I didn't agree that one should be wary of a partner that plays video games in there adult life, I LOVE VIDEO GAMES! but maybe that proves her point. Also I choked up when she was discussing her miscarriage.
Anyhow Mia is smart, funny and I wish her podcast was more frequent!!
While reading this book I found my self being hyper aware of the people's behaviour regarding gender and social media. I didn't agree that one should be wary of a partner that plays video games in there adult life, I LOVE VIDEO GAMES! but maybe that proves her point. Also I choked up when she was discussing her miscarriage.
Anyhow Mia is smart, funny and I wish her podcast was more frequent!!
January 3, 2018
My New Years resolution is to write more reviews on the books I read throughout the year. So here it is...
I used to read the Cosmo magazines when Mia Freedman was the editor, which was at the time the "go too guides" for all things. And, I listen to some of the Mamamia podcasts. Mia has worked really hard (really, really brain-draining hard!), and her persistence in focusing on the business has really paid off, having one of the most successful female media companies in Australia.
However, I would give this 3.5 stars. Some parts I glanced and skimmed over. Maybe its because I am not a parent? Maybe I felt I have read this before? Or, maybe it’s because I listen to her podcasts where some of the chapters are all on her podcasts? Possibly all the reasons?
The book was much what is to be expected.
She is however spot on in regards to the “friend” categories.
I used to read the Cosmo magazines when Mia Freedman was the editor, which was at the time the "go too guides" for all things. And, I listen to some of the Mamamia podcasts. Mia has worked really hard (really, really brain-draining hard!), and her persistence in focusing on the business has really paid off, having one of the most successful female media companies in Australia.
However, I would give this 3.5 stars. Some parts I glanced and skimmed over. Maybe its because I am not a parent? Maybe I felt I have read this before? Or, maybe it’s because I listen to her podcasts where some of the chapters are all on her podcasts? Possibly all the reasons?
The book was much what is to be expected.
She is however spot on in regards to the “friend” categories.
April 16, 2024
I've always enjoyed Mia Freedman's articles in the media; she writes from an intense personal POV, strongly and well. I've also been astonished by the sledging she's experienced - the bullying and intense opposition and name calling has exhibited human trollish behaviour at its most appalling. If you don't agree, don't carry on and froth at the mouth like a lunatic, just disagree and deal with it yourself. I value her honesty and her courage, she has trailblazed a path in journalism and opened up a lot of conversations that needed to be said, all kudos to her. I agree with a lot she says, I disagree with some. A lot of it is common sense and really how to live with a better life balance (the original title was Work Strife Balance, which says it all). I loved the chapter in this book from her son; so glad she included it. Worth the read.
May 21, 2017
I loved this book. I wish it had been around when I was 16. It was like a diary of great tips and advice for girls and women on every topic they've ever stressed about. But, it's incredibly refreshing from most other non-fiction books in this subject area. It cuts through the bullshit and Mia shares real life personal examples that are hilarious one minute and deeply sad the next. Her chapters on abortion, anxiety, losing a baby, mothering, and social media and porn advice for both sons & daughters, are inspirational. I will be ensuring my daughter reads this when the time is right. I never thought of myself as a true feminist until I read this book. It was a great reminder of values that I am passionate about and want to stand up for.
August 18, 2020
Only recently really starting to listen and connect with what Mia Freedman has to say I truly laughed out loud at the so frank and on point and honesty she expresses with equal parts flair and real mom life fact. She takes you on a familiar rollercoaster if you’ve been on the working mother journey - trying to do all the things and am so grateful she’s so honest with her failings. Although I felt like I could have been reading my own life story (except the big media job and running a massive media company with my husband bits) I still thoroughly enjoyed her take on life and how she’s shared those stories to normalise what women can often think are our own crazy thoughts. Easy read, or in my case eBook read I just popped in and out of over the last new months.
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