The Comfort Zone: Create a Life You Really Love with Less Stress and More Flow

by Kristen Butler

Get ready to forget everything you've ever been told about the "comfort zone." It's not a place where you sit complacently because you can't be bothered to take action. It's not a barrier blocking you from the life of your dreams. Instead, it's the truest source of growth, possibility, and joy-and it's within your reach with help from an expert guide. As the founder and CEO of The Power of Positivity, an online community with more than 5 million followers worldwide, Kristen Butler has spent over a decade examining the elements of a life well lived and the paths that get us there. Her book blows the lid off the idea that anxiety and stress are necessary ingredients for success-and shows you how a state of ease instead of constant effort holds the key to unlocking your full potential. In thoughtful lessons, exercises, and personal stories, you'll The Three Zones of Living-Complacent, Survival, and Comfort-and what determines which one you are living in right now The Create from Comfort Process-including clearing a safe internal space as a foundation for self-expression and joy, defining the expanded life you wish to live, and acclimating to even your wildest desires in ways that are natural and easy Relationship Tools-including maneuvering luminary and gloominary relationships, turning competitors into compellers, and defining clear boundaries Mindset Tools (that really work!)-including examining and replacing limiting beliefs, using mantras, affirmations, and power stances to create internal balance, entering the flow state at will, and developing empowering mental habits And much more "You will never achieve success faster and with less effort than when you are in your Comfort Zone," Kristen writes. "By living inside of my Comfort Zone, I've achieved more success than I thought was possible, and I've done it without feeling overworked or compromising who I am. Now it's your turn." This audio product contains a PDF with supporting material, and the PDF is available to download.

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Psychology, Personal Development, Personal Growth, Mental Health, Audiobook

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Published April 18, 2023

About the author

Kristen Butler is an entrepreneur, leader, writer and visionary in personal development with a huge heart and captivating authenticity. Her mission is to uplift the planet! She is the founder and CEO of Power of Positivity. Started in 2009, today, her brands have a collective global audience of over 50 million and an amazingly talented team behind the scenes.

She passionately started Power of Positivity after completely transforming her life from rock bottom using the power of positive thinking. She was so astonished by the results of her research and mindset implementation that she felt her life's purpose was (and still is) to help others improve their lives. Kristen not only contributes her transformation to a positive mindset but her relationship with God and an active, plant-based lifestyle.

You can follow her on IG @positivekristen along with her main brand @powerofpositivity

Reviews

[Maria Clara · Rating 4 out of 5]

SEGURO QUE HAS ESCUCHADO un montón de veces la famosa frase de: "Solo si sales de tu zona de confort lograrás lo que quieres"🤔

🌸Y, claro, como puedes imaginarte, ahí que vamos tod@s, saltando cual cabras locas🐑, en busca de nuestro lobo particular.

🌸Porque, eso sí, cuando sales de tu zona de confort aparecen unos cuantos lobos y no precisamente de los que desean comerte...🔥 O por lo menos, no como a ti te gustaría🤭

🌸Pero y, ¿si pudieras conseguir lo que deseas desde un espacio seguro y positivo?🤩
Sería increíble, ¿verdad?

🌸¡Pues agárrate los nachos porque es posible!

🌸Es más, en su libro "Tu zona de confort positiva", Kristen Butler te da las claves para que lo logres a través de un montón de ejercicios que te permitirán descubrir cuál es tu zona de confrot ideal y cómo llegar a tus objetivos sin despeinarte. Vamos, si es que estás tardando!🤩

[Deborah Ann · Rating 5 out of 5]

I just got my copy of Kristen Butler's latest masterpiece, The Comfort Zone, yesterday. Once I picked it up, I could not put it down! I invested my entire day, a random Tuesday, absorbing every bit of knowledge from this book. It presents an entire paradigm shift and will help you rebalance your life.

Butler exposes the falsehood that you can only grow if you push yourself outside your comfort zone. But there's a reason that feels so awkward--it's not how we are intended to experience growth. She explains all the science proving that old advice is an outdated fallacy and delivers actionable tips and tools to grow by expanding your comfort zone, not leaving it.

I am a voracious reader as well as a writer. This is a must-read book that' I'll keep handy. I know I'll refer to it over and over again.

[Ravi Shah · Rating 5 out of 5]

“The Comfort Zone by Kristen Butler”

We live in an age that rewards and praises overwork, and in a society that finds it totally normal to postpone fun and leisure while prioritizing more work. The Comfort Zone is a paradigm-shifting read that challenges our perception of comfort zone – instead, shows us that it is the place where our truest source of growth, creativity, possibility and joy lives.

The Comfort Zone valuable insights:

👉🏻 The Three Zones of Living: Complacent, Survival, and Comfort and what determines which one you are living in.

👉🏻 The Create from Comfort Process: including clearing a safe internal space as a foundation for self-expression and acclimating to even your wildest desires in ways that are natural and easy.

👉🏻 Relationship Tools: including maneuvering luminary and gloominary relationships, turning competitors into compellers, and defining clear boundaries

👉🏻 Mindset Tools: including examining and replacing limiting beliefs, using mantras, affirmations, and power stances to create internal balance, and entering the flow state at will.

Thank you again Kristen for sending me an early copy of your new book, I enjoyed thoughtful lessons, exercises, and personal stories in the book. Shine on! ✨

[Jung · Rating 5 out of 5]

Ditch the discomfort mindset and embrace your flow.

Flip through any motivational or self-help book, and you’ll likely come across some version of this core message: You’ve got to push yourself beyond your comfort zone to accomplish anything worthwhile. The author heard these messages early in childhood, and embraced the idea that unless she pushed herself, lived on a growth edge, and leaned into her discomfort, she’d never achieve her goals.

And for a while, it worked. She studied hard, became obsessed with her goals and spent every waking moment pushing herself to achieve them. She crammed her college schedule to the brim, networked constantly despite being an introvert, and pushed all those uncomfortable feelings away, telling herself that the discomfort was actually good. It was a sign of growth.

That’s exactly how she burned out, too. Despite all the praise for her many achievements, she felt empty and apathetic. Worse still, she’d taught herself not to listen to her intuition, not to take her own needs seriously and honor them. So she missed all the warning signs of impending breakdown. By her early twenties, wracked with anxiety and depression, obesity and ill-health, she had a complete mental and physical collapse. Feeling like a failure, she knew something had to change. But it would take several more breakdowns before it did.

Finally, at rock bottom, she began to honor the quiet voice of intuition that told her it was okay just to be her. Not the grind-culture, go-get-’em hustle queen whose self-worth rose and fell with her latest accomplishment, but just her authentic, positive, and happy self. The one who liked having time to reflect, to connect deeply with others and herself. When she made those things a priority, things even got easier as she began to thrive.

So this book will bust some long-standing myths around what it takes to succeed, starting with the idea that you can’t grow or succeed without suffering for it. It will take an honest look at the costs of living outside your comfort zone for too long, and how you can avoid it by nurturing your intuition and making comfort a priority. Then it offers some practical advice to help you chart a new course toward the life you dream of – without ever leaving your comfort zone.

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No pain, no gain? Think again

Take a moment and imagine a time in your childhood when you had trouble doing something, like your math homework or learning to ride a bike. What kinds of things did people around you say about it?

For many, the answer might have been something like, You’re just not trying hard enough, or If you want to get better at anything, you have to work hard. Or perhaps it was the ever-encouraging Nothing comes easy.

The real message in these comments is simple: anything worthwhile in life comes with a high price in effort, time or discomfort. Whether at school, work, in sports, or even around the family dinner table, the belief that hard work is the only way to achieve your goals is an accepted paradigm.

And beliefs matter more than you may think. The human brain believes things, like messages it hears from parents, teachers, religious leaders, media, or peers, and then actively looks for evidence to support those beliefs. The idea that experience determines your beliefs is actually false. Called confirmation bias by English psychologist Peter Wason, it's an all-too-human tendency to ignore evidence that contradicts one’s beliefs, and unconsciously seek confirmation of them instead.

So if you believe that you can only build a life you love by working incredibly hard all the time, you’re going to look for evidence that this is true. You’ll completely ignore the fact that this belief is actually chaining you to discomfort, anxiety, and stress. Even worse, this belief is based on the idea that there’s some fundamental deficit you have to make up for by pushing yourself to grow in uncomfortable ways – that you can only accomplish worthwhile things by working against your own nature and not being your authentic self.

That’s why the first step in finding your comfort zone is to seek out beliefs like this and start to challenge their implicit messages. If you’ve internalized the idea that your self-worth is tied to your achievements, you may feel compelled to keep pushing yourself as a way of life. That’s a recipe for burnout and exhaustion, and for denying yourself the love and compassion you so richly deserve just for being you.

So the next time you feel compelled to say “yes” to setting a goal or taking on a challenge regardless of how anxious or fearful it makes you, pause for a moment and ask yourself why you feel that way. You may discover that these beliefs are trapping you outside of your comfort zone, keeping you in places that are far less conducive to living a life you love.

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Zones of living

If you’re not in your comfort zone right now, feeling authentic and fulfilled with life, you may be experiencing another zone of living that is far less pleasant. So let’s take a closer look at the three zones of living, to understand why choosing the comfortable one makes real sense.

When you’re not in a place where you feel fulfilled, authentic, and connected to the things that truly matter to you, then you’re living in either the survival zone or the complacent zone.

Just outside your comfort zone is the survival zone. This is the place where you are pushing yourself to put in outsized effort, and making decisions based on stress, fear, and uncertainty. In the survival zone, it is easy to make short-term decisions that jeopardize long-term health and well-being, because daily life is chaotic, driven by circumstances that feel beyond your control.

A lot of workaholics linger in the survival zone, and they may even be admired for their work ethic. But driving all of this effort is a layer of fear – fear that goals are out of reach, that being themselves isn’t enough, that their achievements don’t measure up to those of others.

Those in the survival zone likely feel exhausted by all this effort, and recognize that it is unsustainable. Sadly, instead of seeking comfort again, they may actually push themselves even farther away — to the complacent zone.

In the complacent zone, everything comes crashing down and all effort ceases. This is the place where everything feels too difficult – where exhaustion isn’t just a bodily phenomenon, but seems to have a hold on mind and spirit, too. This is the place where all the fear and negative self-talk leaves you unable to care about anything. It may feel like a relief for a short time, as numbness sometimes feels like an improvement in the endless cycle of stress.

But this zone is really just burnout. It is a place where living itself has become a chore, and even getting out of bed is too much. This is where the body and mind retreat when the stress of survival mode becomes unbearable. But it, too, is unsustainable, because life in this zone has no joy, no peace, and no growth. It’s neither living nor surviving, just … existing.

If you find yourself in the survival or complacent zones, the answer is not to work harder to get out of them. In fact, it’s the opposite. It’s putting yourself at the top of the priority list, and making time to rest, reflect, and restore yourself. While this might feel counterintuitive in the survival or complacent zones, it’s actually the smart choice – as we’ll see next.

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Create with comfort in the flow zone

If the survival and complacent zones are ultimately about acting from feelings of fear, anxiety, self-judgment, and lack of self-worth, let’s take a closer look at what living in a comfort zone might feel like.

Try to remember a time early in your life when you discovered something that made you feel incredible. Perhaps it was learning to ride a bike, or the first time you applied finger paints to a canvas. Maybe it was the first time you sang a whole song by yourself, or read a book out loud.

Can you remember how uplifted you felt? The excitement of discovery, or the happiness that flooded your system? It might have felt natural at that moment to imagine yourself a great artist, a world-class athlete, a great novelist, or famous musician. Those feelings of confidence and passion were the driving force in that moment, and you just flowed with them.

This is what life is like in the comfort zone. Think of it as the mental place where you feel at home – the safe place from which you can encounter the world, and that allows you to interact as your authentic self with the full awareness that it is enough. This is the place where you feel confident in pursuing the things that make you feel fulfilled, whether or not they matter to anyone else.

And because all those stress hormones that were driving your choices outside this comfort zone get a chance to turn off here, the comfort zone is actually the place where real growth can happen. Associating growth with stress actually works against the brain’s abilities. Humans make better decisions when they are at ease – when their nervous systems aren’t on high alert and their bodies stuck in fight-or-flight mode.

The more you stay in a zone where your well-being, health, and vitality matter, the more your body and brain have time to rest and repair. This in turn makes you far better at making good choices about how you spend your time and effort, and brings better results. Because you are moving with purpose and passion, even the difficulties that arise have less impact. They feel less personal, and don’t arouse as much anxiety or stress response as a result.

This is also the safe, mental place from which you can learn new things and experience sustainable growth. In fact, you don’t have to leave your comfort zone to accomplish great things; you just have to grow your comfort zone large enough to encompass them.

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Growing in comfort: expanding the comfort zone

Remember the old fable about the race between the tortoise and the hare? Everyone bets the hare will win, given its quick and energetic nature. It is in fact the tortoise who wins, however, because he keeps a steady pace right up to the finish line, while the hare burns out. This idea of moving at your own pace and winning the race is timeless, but the story has even more lessons to impart.

Think of the tortoise’s shell as its comfort zone. It has everything it needs to feel safe and at home right there. From this safe place, it takes on the challenge of the race, knowing full well that if it stops anywhere along the way, it will be just fine. It is safe at home the entire time.

From this safe place it sets out on a journey into the unknown, with the full awareness that no one around it can imagine it will succeed. Slowly, steadily, and with time to enjoy the experience, why wouldn’t the tortoise enjoy the race? It’s not all about the finish line, the tortoise knows, but what it will experience along the way.

That’s what living in the comfort zone is all about. It is moving and growing at your own pace, in a direction you really want to go, and not leaving yourself behind to do it. After all, it’s doubtful the tortoise could enjoy the journey without its shell. Neither can you truly enjoy life’s journey from outside your comfort zone.

Your growth journey should take all the time you need to acclimate yourself to the changes along the way. Understand that growth doesn’t have to happen in spurts, and challenges don’t have to be overwhelming. You can go slowly if you aren’t driven by fear, worried about survival, or stuck in complacency. And slow and steady do ultimately win.

To return to the comfort zone, it is important to confront the feelings that try to push you out of it for too long. That confrontation can feel uncomfortable, for sure. But the goal is to understand how negative self-esteem or self-talk are keeping you from expressing your authentic self. They may also be keeping you stuck in relationships, jobs, or living situations that don’t feel good, too.

Confronting these negative feelings takes courage. But like the tortoise, courage is much easier when you can feel at home in whatever circumstances you happen to be. Living in the safety and certainty of your comfort zone means fully accepting that everything you are right now, already, is enough. It also means resisting the temptation to abandon yourself just to cross some imaginary finish line a little faster.

Because ultimately, each finish line is also a starting point. And when you’re in your comfort zone, you can meet each new challenge you take on with purpose and passion.

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Although the widely-accepted paradigm is that growth can only be achieved if you push yourself beyond your comfort zone, that kind of thinking has kept many people stuck in endless cycles of stress, anxiety, and low self-worth. A better way to think about growth is to imagine growing from a place of safety, ease, and comfort. When you do that, your brain and nervous system are better able to make good choices and learn new things. Giving yourself time and breaking big challenges into small, manageable steps isn’t a sign of weakness, either, but of courage, self-acceptance, and authenticity.

[Shanifiction · Rating 4 out of 5]

Aku baca yang versi bahasa Indonesia judulnya jadi "Emang Boleh Senyaman Ini?"

Kalau mau sukses harus keluar zona nyaman! Siapa sih yang gak pernah denger kalimat itu?

Aku juga dulu percaya sama kalimat itu. Pokoknya harus keluar zona nyaman, biar berkembang, biar sukses! Tapi sebenernya sukses itu apa? Patokannya apa? Kalau ngikutin standar sukses yang dibuat orang2 mah gak akan ada habisnya. Jadi mending cari arti sukses buat diri sendiri itu apa.

Apa lagi pas akhirnya aku milih zona nyaman. Aku berkali2 mengkritik diri sendiri atas pilihan ini dan selalu nyuruh aku buat keluar zona nyaman lagi. Padahal kan zona nyaman enak, kenapa aku harus ninggalin?

Terus pas baca buku ini akhirnya aku semakin yakin bahwa tinggal di zona nyaman itu adalah pilihan yang tepat. Lewat buku ini aku juga jadi belajar buat memperluas zona nyaman aku, memaksimalkan diri buat berkembang dari zona ini. Zona nyaman nggak menghalangi aku buat bertumbuh. Malah aku bisa lebih bebas buat explore banyak hal dengan nyaman.

Di era sekarang yang semua serba cepat, persaingan semakin ketat, harus kerja keras, harus produktif, harus lari biar gak ketinggalan orang2, hustle sana sini, rasanya buku ini membawa angin segar karena ngajak kita buat slow down. Buat kembali menemukan zona nyaman.

Bukunya gak terkesan menggurui, terlebih buku ini ditulis berdasarkan pengalaman penulis sendiri, ada juga diceritakan beberapa pengalaman temannya.

Selain itu buku ini juga nggak cuma ngasih teori aja. Ada latihan2 yang bisa kita lakukan buat menemukan zona nyaman itu. Bisa sekalian jurnaling sih baca ini, aku saranin bacanya pelan2.

Aku gak expect bakalan suka banget sama buku ini! Kalau lagi di fase hidup yang capek, bingung, lagi gak tau arah mau kita, coba deh baca ini. Mungkin emang udah saatnya kembali dulu ke zona nyaman buat memulihkan diri.

[Christy Martine · Rating 5 out of 5]

I enjoyed this book very much. I love how the author shares her personal story of overcoming challenges. I also loved her enthusiasm! She is the reader's cheerleader, and you feel as though you are receiving great life advice from a friend who cares.

[Ranya · Rating 4 out of 5]

I had to power through the first 5 chapters. The remaining 15 were full of excellent tips and essential lessons. But if it weren't for the very good review I read, I probably would have given up by chapter 2.
Very weak start but 5 stars to the rest.

[Girlinthebooks · Rating 5 out of 5]

Książka, o której poza tytułem nie wiedziałam nic przed lekturą i to było bardzo dobre podejście.
Jakie było moje zaskoczenie, gdy okazało się, że to nie książka powielająca powszechne przekonanie, że nic nie rośnie w strefie komfortu i należy dążyć do przekraczania jej granic. Wręcz przeciwnie, w tym tytule na każdym kroku autorka podkreśla, że przebywanie w strefie komfortu jest dla nas dobre i powinniśmy dążyć do spędzania tam jak największej ilości czasu, bo to jest zdrowe podejście.

Strefa komfortu to bardzo szerokie pojęcie - o czym jeszcze przeczytamy w tym tytule?

- O tym jak przestać porównywać się z innymi
- O tym jak przestać gloryfikować uczucie dyskomfortu
- O tym jak wyznaczać granicę by okazać szacunek do samego siebie i oczekiwać tego szacunku od innych?
- O tym czym jest samoopieka i samoświadomość na poziomie fizycznym, psychicznym jak i duchowym
- O schemacie zarządzania emocjami RAR
- O tym czym jest ekspresja
- O poziomach strefy komfortu, o tym jak zaprzyjaźnić się z uczuciem przebywania w tej strefie
- O tym jak językiem kształtujemy swoją rzeczywistość
- O sztuce afirmacji i pozytywnego dialogu wewnętrznego
- O tym, że każdy problem ma swoje rozwiązanie

... mam głęboką nadzieję, że te elementy uwidoczniają jak pozytywna i pełna ciepła jest ta lektura.

Czułam się zaopiekowana przez autorkę, która niczego nie narzuca, przedstawia fakty, przykłady, a także zadania do wykonania.

W każdym temacie po przedstawieniu naukowych faktów i własnych refleksji, a także przykładów zachowań i sytuacji autorka dostarcza zestaw zadań, które mają pomóc czytelnikowi wyrobić w sobie dane zachowanie.

Jakie pytania sobie zadać by poznać czy znajdujemy się w strefie komfortu? Jak wzmocnić pozytywny dialog wewnętrzny? Wraz z lekturą otrzymujemy masę materiałów pomocnych w wyrobieniu tych elementów w swoim życiu.

Ogromnie wartościowa, pełna spokoju, dająca ukojenie, pozwalająca zwolnić, zadbać o siebie, swoje otoczenie i nie zwariować w pędzącej rzeczywistości.

[Jane Bedford-Crooks-Paredes · Rating 5 out of 5]

DONE!! I found this book to very just the right one to be encouraging as this has answered so many questions I have been pondering for myself. The author is so very kind with great enthusiasm that one can feel her positive energy as one reads this newest book. Several fantastic family members and close friends have been involved in reading this confidence building book that my two copies are “lost” out there somewhere as unfortunately some people like to dog eared pages 😳due to her positive energy just speaks volumes to all who even just crack the book to read a sentence that turns usually into a paragraph than the page than they are so captivating into her written words they are caught up reading the whole book!! What I cherish is that her words are inspiring others to work better in obtaining a better understanding how to apply this to their own personal lives. One just makes a difference than choosing another way different to achieve something than another…. Very good book to be read by anyone who wants to learn from great guidance how to be the very best version of themselves and their world. Thank you so very much for your time to read this book review!! May you be inspired to read this enlightened book, also!! I bought my two copies as soon as I learned from this great author they were available for sale!! H Jane Bedford-Crooks-Paredes

[AANVI WRITES · Rating 5 out of 5]

"The Comfort Zone" by Kristen Butler is an empowering read, offering actionable advice for personal development. Its focus on stepping outside of comfort zones to embrace growth and new opportunities is a valuable perspective for anyone looking to achieve more in life.

The book is a comprehensive guide, addressing both psychological and emotional barriers to change while providing practical exercises and real-life anecdotes to motivate the readers. The book not only offers theoretical advice but also actionable steps for personal growth. By busting myths about success and discussing the different zones of living, it offers a holistic approach to achieving balance and reaching one's full potential. The topics covered, from clearing internal space to redefining boundaries, suggest a thorough exploration of self-improvement strategies.

The author challenges common misconceptions about success and delves into the three zones of living: complacency, survival, and comfort. By discussing topics like clearing internal space, transforming competitors into allies, setting clear boundaries, and overcoming limiting beliefs, it offers a comprehensive approach to personal growth and achieving internal balance. Along with these insights the book provides practical strategies for readers to navigate their own paths to success and fulfillment.

As it delves into the psychological and emotional barriers that hinder personal growth and change by incorporating personal anecdotes and motivational advice, the author not only offers insights but also empowers readers to break free from their comfort zones and strive for success. This approach resonates with individuals seeking to overcome obstacles and unlock their full potential.

Overall a compelling read and a valuable resource for anyone seeking a personal growth and life lessons.

[Eva · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book shows what great things can grow within your comfort zone, how much power this zone holds ready for us and how easy things get, when we don't waste our energy on keeping up with external expactations that we don't want to comply with. This book is exactly what we need in a world, in which people are looking for validation and happiness in the external world and easily get tricked into societal expactations that are not always appropriate for everyone, yet get promoted on the media, in dysfunctional working environments and many other contexts.

[Cindy · Rating 5 out of 5]

Loved this book! Really gives you some great ideas and helpful information.

[Jessica · Rating 5 out of 5]

From Blinkist..
“So if you believe that you can only build a life you love by working incredibly hard all the time, you’re going to look for evidence that this is true. You’ll completely ignore the fact that this belief is actually chaining you to discomfort, anxiety, and stress. Even worse, this belief is based on the idea that there’s some fundamental deficit you have to make up for by pushing yourself to grow in uncomfortable ways – that you can only accomplish worthwhile things by working against your own nature and not being your authentic self.”

“Your growth journey should take all the time you need to acclimate yourself to the changes along the way. Understand that growth doesn’t have to happen in spurts, and challenges don’t have to be overwhelming. You can go slowly if you aren’t driven by fear, worried about survival, or stuck in complacency. And slow and steady do ultimately win.”

“A better way to think about growth is to imagine growing from a place of safety, ease, and comfort. When you do that, your brain and nervous system are better able to make good choices and learn new things. ”

[Rachel Parker · Rating 5 out of 5]

Life changing!

[Andres Leon · Rating 2 out of 5]

Great core message that I will definitely keep to myself and practice it but the book itself was painful to read word by word, for me. It could’ve been an essay (10-12 pages long), and reminded me of how much I hate radical positivity.

The book seeks to show how being in our comfort zone can actually help us thrive in life instead of something bad that we need to escape from.

Everything solution and invention we create for the wold, in some way, is intended to make our lives easier and more comfortable, yet when we want to make our own lives comfortable we somehow conclude that’s wrong and we need to get out of that comfort.

Actually, when we leave our comfort zone, we enter survival mode, we get anxious, we get stressed, we feel like fighting, because we are facing new things, the unknown, things we don’t understand, and many of these things, we try because we compare to others and do them because we think we have to even when they don’t bring joy to our lives. Whereas when we discover our comfort zone, what brings us peace, calmness, joy, relaxation, we are able to think better, reflect, we are not in danger, we feel safe to be curious, confident, secure of ourselves and we can wonder.

Once we discover out comfort zone we can (not escape from it) but rather gradually expand it, centered and from the safety of our comfort zone, experiment with new things that also connects to the peace, joy, etc.of our own specific comfort zones. This applies professionally, but also when making relationships among other things.

There are some more complementary ideas, but the rest I felt was radical positivism that I don’t like and nowadays is a big trend in a lot of books: “You came to this world deserving happiness, you deserve to achieve, you deserve your dreams, believe in yourself, look yourself in the mirror, you are beautiful! you are amazing,” and all that lala land, that piss off :).

[Synthia Salomon · Rating 5 out of 5]

It’s not about being in pain to gain. We should focus more on zones of living. We create with comfort in the flow zone. We grow in comfort when we expand our comfort zone.

[Mindset Reading · Rating 5 out of 5]

In thoughtful lessons, exercises, and personal stories, you’ll discover:

· The Three Zones of Living—Complacent, Survival, and Comfort—and what determines which one you are living in right now. 🔥

· The Create from Comfort Process—including clearing a safe internal space as a foundation for self-expression and joy, defining the expanded life you wish to live, and acclimating to even your wildest desires in ways that are natural and easy.

· Relationship Tools—including maneuvering luminary and gloominary relationships, turning competitors into compellers, and defining clear boundaries.

· Mindset Tools (that really work!)—including examining and replacing limiting beliefs, using mantras, affirmations, and power stances to create internal balance, entering the flow state at will, and developing empowering mental habits.

This is an absolute must-read. A relatable and inspiring book from the very first page. ❤️

[Diana · Rating 5 out of 5]

I have learned so much. The Comfort Zone is an amazing book. What I thought what our comfort zone was, I was completely wrong. What I have learned is our comfort zone is a stress free place that we continue learn and grow in. I have also learned what zone of living I am in and with Kristen help with her book she helps go into our comfort zone. I have been following Kristen for a few years and she is so uplifting and inspiring and an amazing person. I look forward to receiving her daily text messages and her posts on social media. I strongly suggest for everyone to read The Comfort Zone

[Kelly Petty · Rating 1 out of 5]

I had such high hopes for this book but I found that it just repeated the same thing over and over again. And as for the chapter reviews at the end of each chapter - they were down right patronising!!

I desperately wanted to finish this book but also didn’t want to have to read any more of it!

Waste of time. Waste of money. Wish I hadn’t bothered.
Glad I’ve finished it!

[WILSON Tash · Rating 1 out of 5]

Good concept but honestly I really struggled to push through this book. I felt there were a lot of good tips but that it was diluted in wordy metaphors and paragraphs that repeated the same thing over and over with no real oomph. The book dragged out to fill up the pages, and felt more like an attempt to hit a word count rather than putting concise points across.

[Desirae Steffen · Rating 5 out of 5]

I've received & read my copy of Kristin's The Comfort Zone! Truly a positive force in the way I think & live! I love her positive thinking & her quotes & it's amazing how much it helps me out every single day in my life!

[Lisa B. Gentry · Rating 5 out of 5]

Kristen is awesome! So are all of her books! Her daily input always brighten my days! Kristen is a great person to follow! In addition to her books!

[Nancy Ann · Rating 5 out of 5]

PRIME OF PRIME!

A VERY INSPIRING AND PRACTICAL WAY TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE AND INVEST IN YOUR FUTURE SELF. YOU WILL BE DIFFERENT IF YOU TAKE IT TO HEART.

[Adit MKM · Rating 1 out of 5]

Too many self affirmations. Me don't like it

[michellebetweenbooks · Rating 5 out of 5]

In diesem Sachbuch setzen wir uns mit der persönlichen Komfortzone und wie man glücklich leben kann, ohne Stress und Angst zu empfinden, auseinander. Alle kennen es ja, dass man sagt, dass man seine Ziele nur erreichen kann, wenn man seine Komfortzone verlässt. Jedoch lernen wir in diesem Buch, wie wichtig es ist, dass wir aus unserer Komfortzone heraus handeln. Die Autorin macht uns klar, dass wir wahres Wachstum nur in unserer Komfortzone erleben können.

Ich setze mich seit ein paar Monaten mit der Persönlichkeitsentwicklung und Persönlichem Wachstum auseinander. Und da ich diese Leserunde auf LovelyBooks entdeckt habe, dachte ich, ich bewerbe mich einfach mal und schaue, was mich dort erwarten wird. Und ich muss sagen, dass ich viele neue Dinge gelernt habe. Daher habe ich dieses Buch im Rahmen einer Leserunde auf LovelyBooks erhalten, vielen Dank dafür! Das beeinflusst jedoch in keiner Weise meine Meinung!

Bevor ich loslege, möchte ich positiv hervorheben, dass wir direkt mit dem Buch arbeiten können. Teilweise können wir direkt in das Buch schreiben und auf der anderen Seite gibt es viele Fragen, mit denen man sich auseinandersetzen und besser kennenlernen kann. Natürlich muss man dazu sagen, dass nicht alles auf einen zutrifft oder für einen passend ist, dass sollte man hierbei schon differenzieren. Dennoch kann man viele Anhaltspunkte mit in sein Leben nehmen und diese anwenden. Gerade die Affirmationen sind meiner Meinung nach super!

Zu Beginn lernen wir auch erst einmal die Autorin mit ihrer Geschichte kennen. Ich muss sagen, dass ich das toll fand. Mir ist es ähnlich ergangen und von daher hatte ich oft das Gefühl, dass ich verstanden werde und auch nicht alleine bin mit meinen Sorgen, Ängsten und Problemen. Dennoch bin ich der Meinung, dass man hierbei nicht erwarten sollte, dass dieses Buch einen aus der Depression retten kann. Man sollte immer im Hinterkopf behalten, dass diese Bücher keinen Therapie Ansatz bieten und beim Lesen vorsichtig sein sollte, wenn man sich nicht stabil genug fühlt. Sollte dies nicht der Fall sein, schnapp dir ein Notizbuch und einen Stift und beginne deine Reise. Lerne dich und deine Komfortzone kennen.

Der Schreibstil von Kristen Butler war für mich neu, da ich bis hierhin noch kein Buch der Autorin gelesen hatte. Somit war dies mein erstes Buch und sie konnte mich mit ihrer Schreibweise überzeugen. Kristen Butler hatten einen flüssigen und angenehmen Schreibstil, der einem das Lesen des Buches erleichtert. Auch der Lesefluss wurde hierbei in keiner Weise gestört, sondern positiv unterstützt.

,,Rein in die Komfortzone!‘‘ ist ein Buch, aus dem ich für mich sehr viel mitnehmen konnte. Gerade deshalb, weil man immer denkt, man muss aus seiner Komfortzone heraustreten um Handeln oder an seinen Zielen arbeiten zu können. Doch durch dieses Buch lernen wir, dass wir in unserer Komfortzone bleiben können und dennoch an unseren Zielen arbeiten können, um diese zu erreichen. Ich kann euch das Buch ans Herz legen, darin gibt es viele tolle Inhalte.

[Sarah Cupitt · Rating 5 out of 5]

As a recovering workaholic, everything in this book makes sense - it left me feeling a little defeated and uncertain of what is 'doing the right thing'. I felt like this was a good devil's advocate for the usual societal norms of GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE - and rather, this book suggests how to return or foster that zone instead—conveying the message that in an ideal world, we would prioritise relationships, connections, relaxation, and the things we enjoy.

Apparently, you cannot push yourself to the limit and live in a state of well-being simultaneously. I would have liked a little more guidance on cultivating a relationship with your authentic self - for that reason, it gets 4/5.

Also the fact that the line "All I need to do to be successful is to be myself and follow my own internal guidance. If I can dream it and claim it, I can receive it." sounded a tad manifesty trust the universe and everything will magically work out for you vibes.

Takeaways/themes:
- Shift your priorities away from hustle culture
- You cant grow or succeed without suffering for it
- Make comfort, deep connections, and authenticity a priority
- Confirmation bias is a human tendency to contradiction
- Self-worth being tied only to achievements is a recipe for burnout
- Survival zone (workaholics) vs comfort zone (escaping the layer of fear)
- The fear of being yourself isn't enough compared to others
- Instead of seeking help, workaholics push themselves into the complacent zone

Favourite quotes:
- “By forsaking joy in pursuit of growth, you forget that growth should make you feel alive, and that when you reach your goals, you should feel energized, even exhilarated, not exhausted and burned out.”
- “If you’re living a reality you don’t like, chances are you’re living out beliefs that are not serving you—beliefs that limit your creativity, your inspiration, and your ability to thrive.”
- “Beliefs are our brain’s way of making sense of and explaining the world around us. They originate from our environment and the events we live through, but at the end of the day, every belief originates with a choice.”
- “Our very definition and understanding of the Comfort Zone is false—or at the very least, incomplete. True, lasting success is not attained outside our Comfort Zone, but rather inside it.”
- “The Comfort Zone is not a static place. In fact, if we allow it, our Comfort Zone will continually grow and expand. It is always becoming more.”
- “The more you fight against and feel shame for spending time in your Comfort Zone, the more you are in danger of compromising trust with yourself.”

[Bryan Tanner · Rating 4 out of 5]

TL;DR
You don’t have to leave your comfort zone to accomplish great things; you just have to grow your comfort zone large enough to encompass them.

SUMMARY
This book challenges the generally-accepted self-help assumption that growth doesn't happen inside your comfort zone. You've got to push yourself to succeed. You've got to live on the growth edge and lean into your discomfort to achieve your goals. Bologna!! Discomfort doesn't automatically equal a growth environment. Based on her experience with overachieving and the subsequent burnout, the author rebrands the comfort zone (which is different than the complacency zone) as a cocoon for transformation. She permits her readers to live authentic lives they love. It's good to welcome new things into your zone and sometimes explore outside your comfort zone for short periods. However, you should explore your motivations for your visits outside. You should never make decisions based on self-judgment or a lack of self-worth--this is exhausting. If you've already pushed too hard, you may feel like everything is too difficult and seek comfort in complacency (which is code for burnout). But life in this zone brings no joy, peace, or growth.

Remember the fable of the tortoise and the hare? Which one wins? That's right! The underdog tortoise. Why? Think of the tortoise's shell as its comfort zone. People who race, unprepared (physically, emotionally, etc.) into the unknown, find themselves lost and in trouble when the unpredictability of life hits them in the face. But when you bring your home with you, you can weather anything.

The hare paradigm - that growth can only be achieved if you push yourself beyond your comfort zone - has stuck many people in endless cycles of stress, anxiety, and low self-worth. A better way to think about growth is to imagine growing from a place of safety, ease, and comfort. Your brain and nervous system can better make good choices and learn new things when you do that. Giving yourself time and breaking big challenges into small, manageable steps isn’t a sign of weakness, but of courage, self-acceptance, and authenticity. Because ultimately, each finish line is also a starting point. And when you’re in your comfort zone, you can meet each new challenge with purpose and passion.

REVIEW
Powerful read! The message is simply but potentially life-changing!

[Matteo Dalla · Rating 5 out of 5]

"The Comfort Zone" by Kristen Butler is an eye-opening guide to the power of embracing discomfort and venturing beyond our familiar boundaries. This book is a must-read for anyone seeking personal growth, resilience, and self-discovery.

Butler's narrative delves deep into the concept of facing fears and stepping outside our comfort zones. She beautifully illustrates how this essential act of courage can lead to a more meaningful, mindful existence. Her words are not only inspiring but also highly practical, offering actionable steps to implement change in one's life.

Throughout the pages, the author highlights the importance of resilience and adaptability, emphasizing that these qualities are key to thriving in the face of life's challenges. Butler's insights serve as a guiding light, reminding us that we are far more capable of overcoming adversity than we often realize.

"The Comfort Zone" is also a valuable tool for unlocking your true potential. Kristen Butler's wisdom encourages self-discovery, helping readers uncover hidden talents and passions that have been dormant for too long. Her words inspire us to transform into the best version of ourselves.

In a world filled with self-help literature, "The Comfort Zone" stands out for its ability to provoke thoughtful reflection and inspire positive transformation. Kristen Butler's message is clear: when we confront our fears and embrace discomfort, we open the door to a world of opportunity and growth. Whether you're looking to break free from old habits, revamp your life, or simply become a more empowered version of yourself, this book is a must-read.

Embrace the discomfort, face your fears, and embark on a transformative journey with "The Comfort Zone." Kristen Butler's words will stay with you long after you've turned the final page, leaving you with the tools and mindset to achieve your full potential. Don't miss out on this life-changing book.

[Brina · Rating 4 out of 5]

„Rein in die Komfortzone!“ von Kristen Butler hat mich direkt angesprochen, denn allein der Titel sagt schon etwas aus, das man normalerweise nur selten ist. Während man der Gesellschaft in der heutigen Zeit schon fast gebetsartig immer wieder sagt, dass man auch mal seine Komfortzone verlassen muss, um neue Dinge kennenzulernen oder auszuprobieren oder man immer wieder was riskieren muss, sagt Kristen Butler genau das Gegenteil.

Für die Autorin ist es wichtig, dass die sogenannte „Komfortzone“ nicht mehr nur als negativ angesehen wird, sondern in etwas Positives umgewandelt wird. Der Mensch ist leistungsstark am besten, wenn er sich wohlfühlt und genau weiß, was er gerade macht – dies geht am besten, wenn man sich in der Komfortzone befindet.

Dabei wird nicht nur auf die eigenen Ängste eingegangen, sondern auch an die Motivation appeliert. Mit hilfreichen Tipps und Tricks bekommt man hier sehr viel Input, um neue Strategien zu erlernen, sich selbst besser kennen zu lernen und sich selbst neu zu erfinden.

Etwas schade ist allerdings, dass es trotz der vielen nützlichen Erklärungen auch leider immer zu Wiederholungen kommt, was das Buch teilweise unnötig in die Länge zieht. Es wäre praktischer gewesen, wenn man bei einigen Aspekten erwähnt hätte, dass sie auch auf andere Gebiete mit Beispielen angewandt werden können, anstatt alles immer zu wiederholen.

Dennoch ist „Rein in dieKomfortzone“ ein durchaus ansprechendes und hilfreiches Helferlein, das mich noch einige Zeit im Alltag begleiten wird.

[Bookreadersclub · Rating 5 out of 5]

Are you truly enjoying the journey towards your goals or delaying happiness until you arrive at a destination?

Can growth and comfort exist at the same time?

Kristen Butler's "The Comfort Zone" offers a refreshing take on personal growth and happiness that challenges conventional wisdom.

In this paradigm-shifting guide, she asserts that the comfort zone is not the danger zone but, in fact, the gateway to growth, joy, and creativity. Instead, she shows readers how embracing a state of ease can lead to unlocking their full potential.

Through thoughtful lessons, personal stories, and engaging exercises, Butler guides readers through the Three Zones of Living - Complacent, Survival, and Comfort - shedding light on what determines our current zone.

She introduces the powerful Create from Comfort Process and shares valuable relationship and mindset tools, which helps clear internal barriers, express oneself authentically, and manifest even the wildest desires.

Overall, "The Comfort Zone" is a thought-provoking guide that will challenge you to reimagine your relationship with comfort and embrace it as a catalyst for growth. Butler's approach is both empowering and practical, offering readers a guide to create a life filled with joy, purpose, and self-expression.

If you're ready to redefine comfort and unlock your true potential, "The Comfort Zone" is your roadmap to a fulfilling life. 🌈✨