This book begins with the following sentence: ”A woman, a dog, and a walnut tree – the more they are beaten, the better they’ll be”. I was shocked to read it, but then I was even more shocked to discover that it was actually an old English proverb quoted by a Member of Parliament in 1853.
This book takes us on a journey through the Victorian and Edwardian times and tells us a story of how women were treated by men and the surrounding society.
We see a story of bravery, of women like Caroline Norton, who fought against the inequality. Caroline was a married woman herself and suffered extreme cruelty at the hands of her husband, and yet, she could not divorce him. Back in those days, it was almost impossible for a woman to divorce her husband.
A woman had to prove her husband’s infidelity and cruelty to the court, but as all judges were men, they usually stood on the husband’s side. A man only had to say that their wife was unfaithful, and that was enough to grant a divorce.
I was further amazed by the inequality that women had to face at that time. By law, they belonged to their husbands, and some took it literally: a wife was their possession and they could treat her as they pleased.
The book portrays a grim story of Emily Jackson, who was estranged from her husband, but he decided he had had enough, so he went to kidnap her and held her captive for a week, until her family came to her rescue.
When the Contagious Diseases Act was introduced, women were forced to test against the STIs, but not the men. Oh, the irony! If a woman was found to have a venereal disease, she was confined in a ‘lock hospital’ for treatment for up to one year.
I could go on and on about the injustices in this book, but I feel that every woman (and man) should read it. It is such an important part of our social history and cannot be missed.
I definitely recommend it.