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Hot Not Bothered
Don’t miss the next coming-of-middle-age story from Harper Ford, perfect for fans of Alexandra Potter and Ruth Jones!Hot Not Bothered is the new hilarious, no-holds-barred and heartfelt novel about the rollercoaster of menopause, from hot flushes to HRT and everything in-between.
It’s a bloody mess but she ain’t stressed…
Heidi is tired. Tired, grumpy and hot as hell.
Juggling the demands of her stressful job whilst parenting two children with a significant age gap is proving chaotic, and Heidi has well and truly run out of f**ks to give.
When her menopause symptoms skyrocket, Heidi dives headfirst into a sea of comically contradictory advice, absurd doctors' appointments, and the wild world of online support forums that range from cult-like to totally bloody batshit.
The last straw comes when Heidi receives a patronising company-wide email from HR supporting ‘women of a certain age’. Heidi accidentally hits ‘reply all’ when calling out the bullshit, only to suddenly find herself the inadvertent face of the menopause in her office…
Hot (Not Bothered) is the new hilarious novel about the menopause, second (or third) chance love – and the unexpected ways in which we can find our tribe at any age.
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Praise for Harper Ford!’Honest, unfiltered, hilarious. Your cheeks will hurt from laughing so much!’ Louise Pentland
‘A blast!’ Daily Mail
’Defiantly funny – we need more books like this!’ Georgie Hall
‘Sex education was never like this the first time around!’ Julie Ma
‘Personal, funny, relatable and motivational!’ Shazia Mirza
‘A no-holds-barred, honest romcom.’ Platinum
‘Hugely relatable!’ Heat
‘An unfiltered, hilarious book… highly recommend!’ Best
'Funny, frank and loving… Enjoy!' Lesley Sharp
‘Whipsmart, feminist and sex-positive…I defy anyone to read this without loudly cackling’ Kitty Wilson
‘Sweary, sassy and sensational, this is a book that surprises as well as entertains!’ Linda’s Book Bag
Readers LOVE Harper Ford!‘Absolutely raced through this irreverently funny, clever and thoughtful book. A whip smart novel with a clever heroine!’ ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
‘Better than Sex and the City! I loved it and you will too!’ ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
‘I laughed out loud… loudly out loud, to be precise!’ ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
‘Made me laugh more than any book I have ever read!’ ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
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It’s a bloody mess but she ain’t stressed…
Heidi is tired. Tired, grumpy and hot as hell.
Juggling the demands of her stressful job whilst parenting two children with a significant age gap is proving chaotic, and Heidi has well and truly run out of f**ks to give.
When her menopause symptoms skyrocket, Heidi dives headfirst into a sea of comically contradictory advice, absurd doctors' appointments, and the wild world of online support forums that range from cult-like to totally bloody batshit.
The last straw comes when Heidi receives a patronising company-wide email from HR supporting ‘women of a certain age’. Heidi accidentally hits ‘reply all’ when calling out the bullshit, only to suddenly find herself the inadvertent face of the menopause in her office…
Hot (Not Bothered) is the new hilarious novel about the menopause, second (or third) chance love – and the unexpected ways in which we can find our tribe at any age.
––––––––––––––––
Praise for Harper Ford!’Honest, unfiltered, hilarious. Your cheeks will hurt from laughing so much!’ Louise Pentland
‘A blast!’ Daily Mail
’Defiantly funny – we need more books like this!’ Georgie Hall
‘Sex education was never like this the first time around!’ Julie Ma
‘Personal, funny, relatable and motivational!’ Shazia Mirza
‘A no-holds-barred, honest romcom.’ Platinum
‘Hugely relatable!’ Heat
‘An unfiltered, hilarious book… highly recommend!’ Best
'Funny, frank and loving… Enjoy!' Lesley Sharp
‘Whipsmart, feminist and sex-positive…I defy anyone to read this without loudly cackling’ Kitty Wilson
‘Sweary, sassy and sensational, this is a book that surprises as well as entertains!’ Linda’s Book Bag
Readers LOVE Harper Ford!‘Absolutely raced through this irreverently funny, clever and thoughtful book. A whip smart novel with a clever heroine!’ ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
‘Better than Sex and the City! I loved it and you will too!’ ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
‘I laughed out loud… loudly out loud, to be precise!’ ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
‘Made me laugh more than any book I have ever read!’ ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
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Published September 26, 2024
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March 29, 2025
Have you ever wanted to say exactly what you think in a work email? To cut through all the b/s and blurt out what you know the silent majority are thinking? Well, this is exactly what Heidi Hobbes did. Though inadvertently. In a pique of rage - not helped by an endless hot flush and interminable brain fog - she puts pen to paper (or in this case jabs away angrily at a keyboard) telling her boss in no uncertain terms what he can do with his offer of a free fan for all menopausal women at the university where she works. Or as is euphemistically put ”‘women of a certain age.” Thinking she had simply saved the savaging as a “draft” email, to her horror in the office the next morning she discovers her email has been well and truly sent. To the entire staff.
As her penance (and to keep her job) Heidi is asked to set up a support group for other women in the same boat as her. And this is where the book really comes into its own. Via the group which she was hoping no-one would turn up to, Heidi finds an unlikely bunch of very different women who share their experiences of being at the mercy of their bodies.
It’s so bl**dy funny in so many parts and so sad in others. Which is what life is all about really, isn’t it? It’s a true exploration of female friendship, resilience and fighting your corner. As Heidi says in the opening sentence:
”You know the phrase ‘I don’t give a f*ck’? When you’re well and truly at the end of your tether and have nothing left to give? Well, I’m there. With bells on.”
The book opens with the Easter Sunday lunch from hell where Heidi can’t find the lamb to roast (it was in the dishwasher) through to the 29th of December with a toast and a sigh to have survived the last few months. It shows how much can change if we take a chance. There’s self discovery, a university reunion, some unrequited love, friends realising they could be more and a whole lot of feel good factor.
It looks with seriousness at the effects of perimenopause and menopause. How little information is on offer to women already going through it, and how conflicting opinions on how best to transition through it can wreak havoc on women’s self worth and affect their personal and work relationships. There are so many “ah ha” moments throughout which I’d say many women could identify with, particularly no longer keeping quiet about things which bother them. Naming her at times all encompassing rage “Blondie” is just brilliant.
I loved this book completely. Harper Ford (not her real name) has created such a wonderful character with Heidi Hobbes. Totally relatable and identifiable. I’d love to read about the next installment in her life as she’s certainly a cracker.
As her penance (and to keep her job) Heidi is asked to set up a support group for other women in the same boat as her. And this is where the book really comes into its own. Via the group which she was hoping no-one would turn up to, Heidi finds an unlikely bunch of very different women who share their experiences of being at the mercy of their bodies.
It’s so bl**dy funny in so many parts and so sad in others. Which is what life is all about really, isn’t it? It’s a true exploration of female friendship, resilience and fighting your corner. As Heidi says in the opening sentence:
”You know the phrase ‘I don’t give a f*ck’? When you’re well and truly at the end of your tether and have nothing left to give? Well, I’m there. With bells on.”
The book opens with the Easter Sunday lunch from hell where Heidi can’t find the lamb to roast (it was in the dishwasher) through to the 29th of December with a toast and a sigh to have survived the last few months. It shows how much can change if we take a chance. There’s self discovery, a university reunion, some unrequited love, friends realising they could be more and a whole lot of feel good factor.
It looks with seriousness at the effects of perimenopause and menopause. How little information is on offer to women already going through it, and how conflicting opinions on how best to transition through it can wreak havoc on women’s self worth and affect their personal and work relationships. There are so many “ah ha” moments throughout which I’d say many women could identify with, particularly no longer keeping quiet about things which bother them. Naming her at times all encompassing rage “Blondie” is just brilliant.
I loved this book completely. Harper Ford (not her real name) has created such a wonderful character with Heidi Hobbes. Totally relatable and identifiable. I’d love to read about the next installment in her life as she’s certainly a cracker.
October 10, 2024
Brilliant, just what I needed! I’m a similar age and navigating the am I, am I not ear of analysing any possible potential symptom whilst still full thrust in the middle of a crazy busy life with work, teenage daughters, elderly parents and basically lots of stuff! This book is absolutely laughable out loud funny and entirely relatable in so many ways, although I don’t think the laughing out loud bit has helped my quest to still remain vaguely sane. The story, as it were, contains every single tonic you could wish for, there’s a love story, romantic comedy style, there’s reflection on your youth and the characters therein who shaped you. There’s panto style baddies to boo at and hope for the demise of whilst you get angry with them unrealistically so seeing as this is fiction (ooh am I get anger issues?) There’s some fabulous female friendships and solidarity and overall a reminder not to take it all too seriously and that it’s actually ok not to be ok and to ask for help. The floundering your way through the NHS system is totally spot on and a reminder to hang on in there and try a second opinion and also an amazing array of facts that I wasn’t even aware I was digesting and some which were completely new to me. A total one book mends all situation, reassurance, comedy and informative and a big fuzzy feel good hug. Top marks. I’d love to hear what happens next to the characters too, it definitely left me wanting more. Perfect, thanks. Ps extra marks for mentioning a TVR, I even showed my husband that bit, we had a Tamora when we were DINKY a lifetime ago….
August 8, 2024
"Hot Not Bothered" is a quick read, even though it's very... wordy. I mean, there are tons of descriptions and thoughts and not so many dialogues, but nevertheless, it reads quickly. Maybe because, even though there is a depth, a bit of sadness and desperation hidden, it's written in a light way, with some funny scenes and a few one - liners.
It was great to get Heidi, a heroine that is visibly struggling, and the author told her story in a brutally honest way, just like it is, like it or not, not beating around the bush and not sparing us the worst details - hats off, Harper Ford, welcome to a life of a menopausal woman. She focuses on trials and tribulations of the main characters, intoducing us a great group of mature women, all with their own stories. I liked their no - nonsense, stright to the point conversations and personalities.
There is also a bit of a romance in this story, friendship and simply normal human interactions and it is really well woven together.
However, I missed on this "wow" effect and as much as I enjoyed this book and its important subject, it won's stay with me for long.
It was light - hearted, thought - provoking, important and meaningful read.
It was great to get Heidi, a heroine that is visibly struggling, and the author told her story in a brutally honest way, just like it is, like it or not, not beating around the bush and not sparing us the worst details - hats off, Harper Ford, welcome to a life of a menopausal woman. She focuses on trials and tribulations of the main characters, intoducing us a great group of mature women, all with their own stories. I liked their no - nonsense, stright to the point conversations and personalities.
There is also a bit of a romance in this story, friendship and simply normal human interactions and it is really well woven together.
However, I missed on this "wow" effect and as much as I enjoyed this book and its important subject, it won's stay with me for long.
It was light - hearted, thought - provoking, important and meaningful read.
September 22, 2025
This book is about a woman going through perimenopause and it hit all the right notes for me- it was heartwarming , it was humorous and honestly I felt seen! Made me wish I could be a part of the M&M group.
The romance portion wasn’t so great but it didn’t diminish the plot for me.
The romance portion wasn’t so great but it didn’t diminish the plot for me.
January 23, 2025
A funny, heartwarming story which is very relatable. The strength of women and their ability to help each other are key components of this story.
July 3, 2024
Thank you Avon Books for a gifted copy of this new release.
I absolutely love this author’s light hearted comical style of storytelling. She can certainly entertain and knows how to create relatable characters who have realistic and modern situations. So much in fact I want to be part of the M&Ms. I could do with them in my own life right now!
I was gripped from the very beginning and was able to read this completely within 2 sessions. The little author’s note at the end made me smile, like the label on curling tongs that says “for external use only!” (IYKYK!)
This is a highly recommended romantic comedy, blended together flawlessly with woman empowerment and would make a great bookclub read.
I am super excited to read more from this author in the future, and Harper Ford has become an auto buy author for me!
‘Hot Not Bothered’ is due for release in October 2024.
I absolutely love this author’s light hearted comical style of storytelling. She can certainly entertain and knows how to create relatable characters who have realistic and modern situations. So much in fact I want to be part of the M&Ms. I could do with them in my own life right now!
I was gripped from the very beginning and was able to read this completely within 2 sessions. The little author’s note at the end made me smile, like the label on curling tongs that says “for external use only!” (IYKYK!)
This is a highly recommended romantic comedy, blended together flawlessly with woman empowerment and would make a great bookclub read.
I am super excited to read more from this author in the future, and Harper Ford has become an auto buy author for me!
‘Hot Not Bothered’ is due for release in October 2024.
January 1, 2025
This is my first read of 2025 and I thoroughly enjoyed it! Written in a lighthearted, yet powerful way. It's about menopause, girl power, romance and relationships plus more. It may have been a bit predictable in places, but I loved it!
July 21, 2025
4.5 Laugh out loud funny in places and very relatable. I’d love to join the M and M’s!
January 14, 2025
Heidi is struggling. She’s 50 something and has 2 daughters, one in her twenties, and one who is only 9. She is no longer with the girls’ dad, but he lives below them in a different flat, to help co-parent and they co-parent well. As we begin the story, it’s clear that Heidi is having some issues when all the neighbours from their apartment block, along with her ex Geoff, are coming for Easter Lunch, and she can’t find the lamb. Only, they do find it, in the dishwasher. It’s now when Heidi decides to face up to the facts, she thinks there is something wrong with her and it’s only when she speaks to her friends and they mention the menopause that she thinks it could be that.
She’s been having memory loss for some time, she keeps getting hot flushes, and she is very irritable with those around her, more than she normally would. After her daughter Carly keeps pestering her to go to the Doctor, she finally gets an appointment and she is told she is in the perimenopause. This is devastating for Heidi because she quickly realises that with the diagnosis, that’s it. There’s nothing they offer treatment wise, and now she has to handle this situation and manage the symptoms it brings along.
After the boss at the college where she works sends a random company wide email detailing the “help” they will provide to cater for women suffering from menopause (a USB fan which is £400 and the women have to pay 75% of the cost for!), Heidi unleashes her rage and writes an email to all, and saves in her drafts, documenting her opinion on how poorly women in the company are treated and how outraged she feels by this. Only, when she heads back into work the following week, it turns out somehow, that email to the company director and everyone else in the business, actually was sent from Heidi’s email and the whole college know about it. She thinks she’s going to be sacked now and prepares for the worst. However, she is called in for a meeting with her manager and the company director and rather than berate her, they want her punishment to be helpful to other women in her position and they want Heidi to begin a menopause support group. She can’t think of anything worse, she hates public speaking, but if this is all she has to do then so she will. At least she still has a job.
Heidi doesn’t have many friends, but she soon sees an invite on her computer for a reunion from University. She doesn’t want to go, to show people how she looks now, having gained weight and become unattractive with age 30 years later, but when she gets a message from an old friend, Nate, who she shared a flat with, and had a crush on, she contemplates going to the reunion. She’s pleased to see that he has aged well, he looks good and he’s managed to continue his music career just like he said he would. Whereas, Heidi has not. She used to be fantastic violin player but she hasn’t picked it up in years, she has a boring job in a college doing admin, she is opposite worlds away from Nate and how he’s progressed. Along with Nate, she manages to track down their other flatmate from all that time ago, Luke, and the pair end up texting frequently, until Luke reveals perhaps Nate isn’t all that Heidi is made to believe and they fall out for a short time due to differing of opinions on Nate.
Once the menopause support groups begin, Heidi finds herself making new friends with women she hasn’t met from work before, and soon feels comfortable to discuss sensitive topics in these meetings and they begin to help Heidi with the new friends and realising that each women have different symptoms and they all share together, it makes Heidi feel not as isolated and alone. It quickly becomes a help group for the new found friends and over the weeks they help each other, with Heidi becoming the main one helping the others and not so much them helping her as she comes to realise.
She takes one of the friends, Cheryl in, to stay with her after she decided to leave her husband after years of mental abuse. Each woman in the group have their own stories and struggles with the menopause and it’s a good group to confide in. It makes living with the condition slight more bearable when there are people around you to support.
Then, towards the end of the story it’s onto the reunion, will Heidi go or won’t she? She struggles with the decision for some time and changes her mind a few times. I really enjoyed this story, I liked the way the book ended and it made me laugh out loud in a few places. Very good book!
She’s been having memory loss for some time, she keeps getting hot flushes, and she is very irritable with those around her, more than she normally would. After her daughter Carly keeps pestering her to go to the Doctor, she finally gets an appointment and she is told she is in the perimenopause. This is devastating for Heidi because she quickly realises that with the diagnosis, that’s it. There’s nothing they offer treatment wise, and now she has to handle this situation and manage the symptoms it brings along.
After the boss at the college where she works sends a random company wide email detailing the “help” they will provide to cater for women suffering from menopause (a USB fan which is £400 and the women have to pay 75% of the cost for!), Heidi unleashes her rage and writes an email to all, and saves in her drafts, documenting her opinion on how poorly women in the company are treated and how outraged she feels by this. Only, when she heads back into work the following week, it turns out somehow, that email to the company director and everyone else in the business, actually was sent from Heidi’s email and the whole college know about it. She thinks she’s going to be sacked now and prepares for the worst. However, she is called in for a meeting with her manager and the company director and rather than berate her, they want her punishment to be helpful to other women in her position and they want Heidi to begin a menopause support group. She can’t think of anything worse, she hates public speaking, but if this is all she has to do then so she will. At least she still has a job.
Heidi doesn’t have many friends, but she soon sees an invite on her computer for a reunion from University. She doesn’t want to go, to show people how she looks now, having gained weight and become unattractive with age 30 years later, but when she gets a message from an old friend, Nate, who she shared a flat with, and had a crush on, she contemplates going to the reunion. She’s pleased to see that he has aged well, he looks good and he’s managed to continue his music career just like he said he would. Whereas, Heidi has not. She used to be fantastic violin player but she hasn’t picked it up in years, she has a boring job in a college doing admin, she is opposite worlds away from Nate and how he’s progressed. Along with Nate, she manages to track down their other flatmate from all that time ago, Luke, and the pair end up texting frequently, until Luke reveals perhaps Nate isn’t all that Heidi is made to believe and they fall out for a short time due to differing of opinions on Nate.
Once the menopause support groups begin, Heidi finds herself making new friends with women she hasn’t met from work before, and soon feels comfortable to discuss sensitive topics in these meetings and they begin to help Heidi with the new friends and realising that each women have different symptoms and they all share together, it makes Heidi feel not as isolated and alone. It quickly becomes a help group for the new found friends and over the weeks they help each other, with Heidi becoming the main one helping the others and not so much them helping her as she comes to realise.
She takes one of the friends, Cheryl in, to stay with her after she decided to leave her husband after years of mental abuse. Each woman in the group have their own stories and struggles with the menopause and it’s a good group to confide in. It makes living with the condition slight more bearable when there are people around you to support.
Then, towards the end of the story it’s onto the reunion, will Heidi go or won’t she? She struggles with the decision for some time and changes her mind a few times. I really enjoyed this story, I liked the way the book ended and it made me laugh out loud in a few places. Very good book!
October 19, 2024
It's a fantastic book . Very relatable characters and storyline . Dealing with serious issues but has a great balance of humour to it. Highly recommend
June 2, 2025
Easy to read romcom, which surprisingly and lightly discusses heavy topics.
January 29, 2025
Harper Ford’s Hot Not Bothered is a witty, warm, and refreshingly honest look at life for a fifty-something woman navigating the chaos of perimenopause, co-parenting, and self-doubt. Heidi is as relatable as they come—juggling work, parenting two daughters (one in her twenties, one still in primary school), an ex who lives just next door, and a body that seems to be staging its own personal revolt. The book’s opening scene—Heidi hosting Easter lunch for the neighbours only to discover the lamb in the dishwasher—sets the tone for a novel full of laugh-out-loud moments.
But this story isn’t all light-hearted gags. Ford explores the very real frustration of being dismissed in the workplace, the loneliness that comes with ageing, and the physical and emotional toll of the menopause. Heidi’s journey from overwhelmed to empowered, thanks to an unlikely menopause support group and some brave (if accidental) workplace rebellion, is deeply satisfying. The friendships she forms with the women in the group are heartening, offering solidarity and humour in equal measure.
The subplot of the university reunion—with a charming old flame and a bit of soul-searching—adds a touch of nostalgia and romance, rounding off the story beautifully.
Funny, relatable, and uplifting, Hot Not Bothered is a must-read for anyone who’s ever felt life spinning out of control.
But this story isn’t all light-hearted gags. Ford explores the very real frustration of being dismissed in the workplace, the loneliness that comes with ageing, and the physical and emotional toll of the menopause. Heidi’s journey from overwhelmed to empowered, thanks to an unlikely menopause support group and some brave (if accidental) workplace rebellion, is deeply satisfying. The friendships she forms with the women in the group are heartening, offering solidarity and humour in equal measure.
The subplot of the university reunion—with a charming old flame and a bit of soul-searching—adds a touch of nostalgia and romance, rounding off the story beautifully.
Funny, relatable, and uplifting, Hot Not Bothered is a must-read for anyone who’s ever felt life spinning out of control.
February 10, 2025
Cracking read! Resonated with me, but equally a decent plot and storyline running through it.
July 31, 2024
A very funny book about a family orientated woman, Heidi who is suffering from the Perimenopause. Her daughters try to help her but to no avail as she refuses to take advice from people younger than herself. Then there is her mother who is of no use for advice whatsoever because she believes in dealing with things yourself with no help as it will make you stronger she thinks. Then she has her ex-husband living in the downstairs apartment and he’s handy for child sitting but not much else.
Following the receipt of an email from work, which outlines what they’re going to do to help workers suffering from the menopause. Heidi loses her mind and accesses her inner rage, which she feels a lot of due to her perimenopause, and constructs an email outlining her aggression and thoughts as to what they can do with their offer in that email. It’s not until she gets into work that she realises she didn’t actually save the email but sent it out to every single member of staff in the University. She’s subsequently called into her manager’s office and begins to grovel knowing that she could actually lose her job, but decides against that and does the total opposite. Then after speaking to the head manager, he has decided that she needs to send an apology email out and run a support group for people suffering from the menopause. These are two of the things which she doesn’t really want to do because, she doesn’t feel that she should apologise for something that she thinks is true and secondly, she hates people.
But the group turn out to be not so bad, she actually quite enjoys the 4 women after a while, and she realises that she’s not the only one suffering from the symptoms, especially the rage. Together they find a way to cope with their personal problems and also the menopausal problems that they are experiencing.
This book is about a woman suffering from menopause and all the problems that are contained with having it. It also raises issues with the healthcare profession who are always misdiagnosing women and not accepting that they are actually suffering from the menopause and the specific drugs that they need. This book is also a love story about unrequited love and lust. It’s also about friendships which can be found in the most unusual places and ways. There are times when you found you were cheering for our protagonist and other times when you just cringed at her mishaps due to the menopausal symptoms. I thoroughly enjoyed this book and it didn’t seem long because it had so much packed into it, there are laughter tears of joy and sadness. But most of all love, love of family, friends and of life.
Following the receipt of an email from work, which outlines what they’re going to do to help workers suffering from the menopause. Heidi loses her mind and accesses her inner rage, which she feels a lot of due to her perimenopause, and constructs an email outlining her aggression and thoughts as to what they can do with their offer in that email. It’s not until she gets into work that she realises she didn’t actually save the email but sent it out to every single member of staff in the University. She’s subsequently called into her manager’s office and begins to grovel knowing that she could actually lose her job, but decides against that and does the total opposite. Then after speaking to the head manager, he has decided that she needs to send an apology email out and run a support group for people suffering from the menopause. These are two of the things which she doesn’t really want to do because, she doesn’t feel that she should apologise for something that she thinks is true and secondly, she hates people.
But the group turn out to be not so bad, she actually quite enjoys the 4 women after a while, and she realises that she’s not the only one suffering from the symptoms, especially the rage. Together they find a way to cope with their personal problems and also the menopausal problems that they are experiencing.
This book is about a woman suffering from menopause and all the problems that are contained with having it. It also raises issues with the healthcare profession who are always misdiagnosing women and not accepting that they are actually suffering from the menopause and the specific drugs that they need. This book is also a love story about unrequited love and lust. It’s also about friendships which can be found in the most unusual places and ways. There are times when you found you were cheering for our protagonist and other times when you just cringed at her mishaps due to the menopausal symptoms. I thoroughly enjoyed this book and it didn’t seem long because it had so much packed into it, there are laughter tears of joy and sadness. But most of all love, love of family, friends and of life.
February 2, 2025
This is the first book I’ve read by Harper Ford and I thoroughly enjoyed it.
The subject matter was relevant but it had humour and laughter & tears and rage (just like real life).
I have now passed this book on to my reading friends and I am now planning on purchasing Divorced (not dead) because this book too seems extremely relevant but again hopefully with humour as well.
The subject matter was relevant but it had humour and laughter & tears and rage (just like real life).
I have now passed this book on to my reading friends and I am now planning on purchasing Divorced (not dead) because this book too seems extremely relevant but again hopefully with humour as well.
September 29, 2024
Heidi is tired, grumpy and juggling the stresses of her job whilst parenting two children.
When her menopause symptoms skyrocket, she dives headfirst into a sea of comically contradictory advice, absurd doctors' appointments, and the wild world of online support forums that range from cult-like to totally batsh!t.
But the last straw comes when she receives a patronising company-wide email from HR supporting ‘women of a certain age’. Heidi accidentally hits ‘reply all’ when calling out their nonsense tokenism. Despite her worst fears she doesn't lose her job, but suddenly finds herself the inadvertent new face of the menopause in her office, tasked with starting a support group....
Oh how I loved this book. It had me laughing out loud because it's just so funny, but, it's also written with depth and poignancy, as it explores important Women's issues with sympathy and understanding.
Walking the writing line and achieving the perfect balance between hilarity and seriousness is tricky, but Harper Ford's manages it beautifully, and as well as a sympathy and understanding of what it's like to experience the perimenopause and the menopause, her writing is underpinned with extensive research.
There is a cast of brilliantly realised characters that the reader enjoys getting to know. They feel like women you know, or women you'd like to know! I loved Heidi with her smart cracks, her sense of humour and her unerring ability to land herself in situations!
This warm, uplifting and completely relatable novel champions the cause of women going through the menopause, but also highlights how so many of us are uninformed and ill-informed about the whole concept of the menopause and what it could mean in terms of the myriad symptoms experienced.
However, amazingly - and alarmingly - so too are many medical practitioners, and we see some of the characters misdiagnosed and mis-treated or worse, untreated and dismissed.
Similarly employers are shown to be either ignoring such a fundamentally important Women's issue, or cooking up policies which are just tokenism and lip-service.
Both of these really big issues are explored within the story, but they are balanced with themes of getting a second chance at love; finding female friendships forged in the unlikeliest and unexpected circumstances; and the absolute importance of friendship, support and love.
Thank you to Avon Books for my gifted copy, I enjoyed reading it so much and would definitely recommend it. I'll also be reading anything else written by Harper Ford!
4.5 stars rounded up to 5
When her menopause symptoms skyrocket, she dives headfirst into a sea of comically contradictory advice, absurd doctors' appointments, and the wild world of online support forums that range from cult-like to totally batsh!t.
But the last straw comes when she receives a patronising company-wide email from HR supporting ‘women of a certain age’. Heidi accidentally hits ‘reply all’ when calling out their nonsense tokenism. Despite her worst fears she doesn't lose her job, but suddenly finds herself the inadvertent new face of the menopause in her office, tasked with starting a support group....
Oh how I loved this book. It had me laughing out loud because it's just so funny, but, it's also written with depth and poignancy, as it explores important Women's issues with sympathy and understanding.
Walking the writing line and achieving the perfect balance between hilarity and seriousness is tricky, but Harper Ford's manages it beautifully, and as well as a sympathy and understanding of what it's like to experience the perimenopause and the menopause, her writing is underpinned with extensive research.
There is a cast of brilliantly realised characters that the reader enjoys getting to know. They feel like women you know, or women you'd like to know! I loved Heidi with her smart cracks, her sense of humour and her unerring ability to land herself in situations!
This warm, uplifting and completely relatable novel champions the cause of women going through the menopause, but also highlights how so many of us are uninformed and ill-informed about the whole concept of the menopause and what it could mean in terms of the myriad symptoms experienced.
However, amazingly - and alarmingly - so too are many medical practitioners, and we see some of the characters misdiagnosed and mis-treated or worse, untreated and dismissed.
Similarly employers are shown to be either ignoring such a fundamentally important Women's issue, or cooking up policies which are just tokenism and lip-service.
Both of these really big issues are explored within the story, but they are balanced with themes of getting a second chance at love; finding female friendships forged in the unlikeliest and unexpected circumstances; and the absolute importance of friendship, support and love.
Thank you to Avon Books for my gifted copy, I enjoyed reading it so much and would definitely recommend it. I'll also be reading anything else written by Harper Ford!
4.5 stars rounded up to 5
July 5, 2024
Title: Hot Not Bothered
Author: Harper Ford
Genre: Romance, Women Fiction Rating: ★★★★1/2
If you're in the mood for a laugh-out-loud, no-holds-barred dive into the chaotic rollercoaster of menopause, then Hot Not Bothered by Harper Ford is your next must-read! This novel is a heartfelt and hilarious exploration of midlife's many surprises and loved every bit of it.
Meet Heidi—she's exhausted, irritable, and burning up from the inside out. Balancing a stressful job with the demands of parenting two kids with a significant age gap has left her with zero patience and even fewer f**ks to give. When her menopause symptoms ramp up, Heidi finds herself submerged in a whirlpool of contradictory advice, absurd doctors' appointments, and the wonderfully bizarre world of online menopause forums.
The turning point comes when Heidi accidentally hits ‘reply all’ to a patronising company-wide HR email meant to support ‘women of a certain age’. Her candid response makes her the unexpected poster woman for menopause at her office, and things get even more entertaining from there.
Why I Loved It:
Hot Not Bothered is an absolute riot! Harper Ford captures the trials and tribulations of menopause with a perfect blend of humour and honesty. Heidi's journey through hot flushes, HRT, and finding her tribe is both relatable and uplifting. The novel's wit and warmth shine through every page, making it impossible not to root for Heidi as she navigates the absurdities of midlife.
The book's portrayal of online support forums is especially amusing, highlighting the spectrum of advice—from the cult-like to the totally batshit—that women encounter. Heidi’s accidental rise to menopause spokesperson in her office adds another layer of hilarity, showing how one moment of candour can unexpectedly change everything.
Hot Not Bothered is a delightful read that will make you laugh until you cry. It's a 4.5 star celebration of second (or third) chance love, the power of community, and finding joy in the most unexpected places. If you're looking for a book that tackles menopause with humour and heart, this one’s for you!
Thank you to Avon Books UK , The Author Harper Ford & Netgalley for an advanced reader copy (ARC) in exchange for my honest review.
Genre: Romance, Women Fiction Rating: ★★★★1/2
If you're in the mood for a laugh-out-loud, no-holds-barred dive into the chaotic rollercoaster of menopause, then Hot Not Bothered by Harper Ford is your next must-read! This novel is a heartfelt and hilarious exploration of midlife's many surprises and loved every bit of it.
Meet Heidi—she's exhausted, irritable, and burning up from the inside out. Balancing a stressful job with the demands of parenting two kids with a significant age gap has left her with zero patience and even fewer f**ks to give. When her menopause symptoms ramp up, Heidi finds herself submerged in a whirlpool of contradictory advice, absurd doctors' appointments, and the wonderfully bizarre world of online menopause forums.
The turning point comes when Heidi accidentally hits ‘reply all’ to a patronising company-wide HR email meant to support ‘women of a certain age’. Her candid response makes her the unexpected poster woman for menopause at her office, and things get even more entertaining from there.
Why I Loved It:
Hot Not Bothered is an absolute riot! Harper Ford captures the trials and tribulations of menopause with a perfect blend of humour and honesty. Heidi's journey through hot flushes, HRT, and finding her tribe is both relatable and uplifting. The novel's wit and warmth shine through every page, making it impossible not to root for Heidi as she navigates the absurdities of midlife.
The book's portrayal of online support forums is especially amusing, highlighting the spectrum of advice—from the cult-like to the totally batshit—that women encounter. Heidi’s accidental rise to menopause spokesperson in her office adds another layer of hilarity, showing how one moment of candour can unexpectedly change everything.
Hot Not Bothered is a delightful read that will make you laugh until you cry. It's a 4.5 star celebration of second (or third) chance love, the power of community, and finding joy in the most unexpected places. If you're looking for a book that tackles menopause with humour and heart, this one’s for you!
Thank you to Avon Books UK , The Author Harper Ford & Netgalley for an advanced reader copy (ARC) in exchange for my honest review.
November 5, 2024
A hilarious and very relatable read!! And like the main character, Heidi, I'm navigating that 'coming of middle age' myself so it was like seeing my life and thoughts on the pages! From the brain fog, to the random rage - normal life is exhausting when peri/menopause is kicking your butt!!
Heidi takes herself on a journey of discovery for online advice of how to deal with this stage of life and discovers horror stories that scare the pants off her! She's also living with no filter, so what she thinks she says and that lands her in a spot of trouble at work! So now she's taking on a new group, and this is where she finds some stability and support from others going through the same thing and leaves her feeling less alone!
She's also looking back at the past, so when a Uni reunion invite pops up that starts stirring up old memories, and how you can put rose tinted glasses on where some people are concerned! It's always good for seeing people for who they really are!
I loved how this story flowed! There's so much to connect with if you're going through the same thing, or have been through it, and it's like your own little support group in a book! Finding support where you least expect it and helping each other to navigate the challenges that life is throwing at us! The humour is right up my street and is the perfect tonic for those ragey days that being a middle aged woman brings our way!! Highly recommended!!
Heidi takes herself on a journey of discovery for online advice of how to deal with this stage of life and discovers horror stories that scare the pants off her! She's also living with no filter, so what she thinks she says and that lands her in a spot of trouble at work! So now she's taking on a new group, and this is where she finds some stability and support from others going through the same thing and leaves her feeling less alone!
She's also looking back at the past, so when a Uni reunion invite pops up that starts stirring up old memories, and how you can put rose tinted glasses on where some people are concerned! It's always good for seeing people for who they really are!
I loved how this story flowed! There's so much to connect with if you're going through the same thing, or have been through it, and it's like your own little support group in a book! Finding support where you least expect it and helping each other to navigate the challenges that life is throwing at us! The humour is right up my street and is the perfect tonic for those ragey days that being a middle aged woman brings our way!! Highly recommended!!
September 17, 2024
Harper Ford’s Hot (not bothered) is a laugh-out-loud journey into the menopause that had me howling with laughter more than once.
Heidi’s sharp wit and hilarious inner thoughts kept me eagerly turning the pages, curious to see what she'd say next. The bond between Heidi and her ex-husband Geoff, along with the friendships they share with their neighbours added a lot of heart to the story. The characters are wonderfully diverse, the colleagues who come together to form the M&Ms are very different yet the friendship that grows is something else, making the relationships feel authentic and relatable.
Ford expertly balances humour with more sobering moments - of which there are many - giving the book depth without losing its lighthearted tone. I found myself not just laughing but also reflecting on some of the insightful commentary on coming to terms with being perimenopausal. Whether it’s the opening kitchen scene or Heidi’s inner monologues, this story is packed with memorable moments.
Ford’s writing is sharp, well-researched, and relatable, making it easy to get lost in Heidi’s world. If you're looking for an enjoyable, funny, and thought-provoking read, Hot (not bothered) is a perfect choice. An absolute gem for anyone wanting a fun and honest take on the ups and downs of being a middle-aged woman facing the menopause. Highly recommend!
Heidi’s sharp wit and hilarious inner thoughts kept me eagerly turning the pages, curious to see what she'd say next. The bond between Heidi and her ex-husband Geoff, along with the friendships they share with their neighbours added a lot of heart to the story. The characters are wonderfully diverse, the colleagues who come together to form the M&Ms are very different yet the friendship that grows is something else, making the relationships feel authentic and relatable.
Ford expertly balances humour with more sobering moments - of which there are many - giving the book depth without losing its lighthearted tone. I found myself not just laughing but also reflecting on some of the insightful commentary on coming to terms with being perimenopausal. Whether it’s the opening kitchen scene or Heidi’s inner monologues, this story is packed with memorable moments.
Ford’s writing is sharp, well-researched, and relatable, making it easy to get lost in Heidi’s world. If you're looking for an enjoyable, funny, and thought-provoking read, Hot (not bothered) is a perfect choice. An absolute gem for anyone wanting a fun and honest take on the ups and downs of being a middle-aged woman facing the menopause. Highly recommend!
August 3, 2024
Harper Ford is back with her no-nonsense, straight to the point writing, It's another hoot of a book!!
Sending THAT email to everyone within the company.... go Heidi, go!!!
Unfortunately for Heidi, it means she now has to lead a support group for menopausal women at her workplace, when she rather just stays in the background and gets on with her stuff in between hot flushes, memory loss, anger and tiredness...
It turns out that the group is not as bad as Heidi feared and they quickly build trust and share stories of their struggles during this natural part of all women's lives.
The group also helps Heidi to take charge of her own life and symptoms, and to seek the professional help she needs; to try different things until she finds something that works for her.
Admittedly, it is a work of fiction, but there are lots of relatable events in this book for anyone experiencing peri-menopause or menopaus - it's good to know that we're not alone!
The quote below if from one of the passages towards the end of the book:
Menopause is not the beginning of the end, as I once called it; in fact, it’s the end of the beginning."
ARC via the publisher / Netgalley
Sending THAT email to everyone within the company.... go Heidi, go!!!
Unfortunately for Heidi, it means she now has to lead a support group for menopausal women at her workplace, when she rather just stays in the background and gets on with her stuff in between hot flushes, memory loss, anger and tiredness...
It turns out that the group is not as bad as Heidi feared and they quickly build trust and share stories of their struggles during this natural part of all women's lives.
The group also helps Heidi to take charge of her own life and symptoms, and to seek the professional help she needs; to try different things until she finds something that works for her.
Admittedly, it is a work of fiction, but there are lots of relatable events in this book for anyone experiencing peri-menopause or menopaus - it's good to know that we're not alone!
The quote below if from one of the passages towards the end of the book:
Menopause is not the beginning of the end, as I once called it; in fact, it’s the end of the beginning."
ARC via the publisher / Netgalley
August 17, 2024
Harper Ford does it again with a story that hits all the right notes. This time, we’re introduced to Heidi, a divorced mum of two daughters (with a serious age gap!) who's juggling the wild ride of peri-menopause symptoms including an uncontrollable rage she's dubbed "Blondie".
After receiving a condescending company-wide email offering "support" for menopausal women in the form of overpriced desk fans, Heidi, in a fit of anger, drafts an unfiltered response never intending to send it at all let alone for it to actually go out to the entire company. Oops! But, this accidental email sets off a chain of events that leads to her chairing a support group for other menopausal women in the workplace.
And that’s how the M&Ms are born. These women soon form close bonds not just through the madness of menopause, but through all of life’s ups and downs.
As if that’s not enough, enter Luke and Nate, back in Heidi’s life as their 30-year university reunion approaches.
The supporting characters? Absolute gems. They add so much flavour to the story and make this book an even richer read.
If you’re in the mood for a book that’s equal parts hilarious and heart-warming, try this one!
Thank you to Netgalley and Avon Books for the ARC .
After receiving a condescending company-wide email offering "support" for menopausal women in the form of overpriced desk fans, Heidi, in a fit of anger, drafts an unfiltered response never intending to send it at all let alone for it to actually go out to the entire company. Oops! But, this accidental email sets off a chain of events that leads to her chairing a support group for other menopausal women in the workplace.
And that’s how the M&Ms are born. These women soon form close bonds not just through the madness of menopause, but through all of life’s ups and downs.
As if that’s not enough, enter Luke and Nate, back in Heidi’s life as their 30-year university reunion approaches.
The supporting characters? Absolute gems. They add so much flavour to the story and make this book an even richer read.
If you’re in the mood for a book that’s equal parts hilarious and heart-warming, try this one!
Thank you to Netgalley and Avon Books for the ARC .
July 20, 2024
It's great to see more books available for women of a certain age hitting that special time in their lives and not shying away from the realities - Hot Not Bothered does that unapologetically!
Heidi Hobbes is in her early 50s and definitely perimenopausal (whatever that means) resulting in mental and physical changes she doesn't really understand and has no control over. One particularly stressful work day this sees Blondie the Rage Monster take over and Heidi sends a company-wide email that wasn't meant for public consumption.
This kickstarts a series of events which sees Heidi face her current situation head-on instead of hiding away and hibernating which is what her anxiety is telling her to do.
I loved this book, the way it deals with menopause and its effects of women is incredibly relatable - as is the lack of information, misinformation and poor support options available in the real world. I could very much empathise with some of the character's experiences and it references a few things I have googled to check out myself.
This is a great story in itself, but I would love to see what happens next for Heidi and her friends and family!
Heidi Hobbes is in her early 50s and definitely perimenopausal (whatever that means) resulting in mental and physical changes she doesn't really understand and has no control over. One particularly stressful work day this sees Blondie the Rage Monster take over and Heidi sends a company-wide email that wasn't meant for public consumption.
This kickstarts a series of events which sees Heidi face her current situation head-on instead of hiding away and hibernating which is what her anxiety is telling her to do.
I loved this book, the way it deals with menopause and its effects of women is incredibly relatable - as is the lack of information, misinformation and poor support options available in the real world. I could very much empathise with some of the character's experiences and it references a few things I have googled to check out myself.
This is a great story in itself, but I would love to see what happens next for Heidi and her friends and family!
December 27, 2024
A Refreshingly Honest Take on Menopause.
Harper Ford's Hot Not Bothered is a delightful and relatable romp through the ups and downs of menopause. With a sharp wit and a no-holds-barred approach, Harper tackles the physical, emotional, and societal challenges faced by women in midlife.
The protagonist, Heidi, is a relatable character who isn't afraid to speak her mind. As she navigates the hot flashes, mood swings, and societal expectations, Heidi's humour and resilience shine through.
The book's strength lies in its ability to normalise these experiences, making readers feel seen and understood.
Beyond the physical symptoms, Harper also explores the emotional toll of menopause. She delves into themes of identity, relationships, and self-worth, offering a nuanced perspective on how this life stage can impact a woman's sense of self.
One of the most refreshing aspects of Hot Not Bothered is its portrayal of female friendship. Heidi's bond with her friends, who are also going through menopause, is heartwarming and empowering. The book celebrates the importance of female support and camaraderie during this challenging time.
While the book is primarily a comedic exploration of menopause, it also offers moments of vulnerability and introspection. Harper's writing is witty, insightful and oh so relatable, making Hot Not Bothered a must-read for women of a certain age!
Overall, Hot Not Bothered is a hilarious, heartwarming, and empowering read that offers a refreshing perspective on menopause. Harper's honest and relatable portrayal of this life stage is sure to resonate with readers, and I think sometimes we all need to ask ourselves, 'What would Miriam do?'
Now, where did I put my kindle? 🤔🤣
Harper Ford's Hot Not Bothered is a delightful and relatable romp through the ups and downs of menopause. With a sharp wit and a no-holds-barred approach, Harper tackles the physical, emotional, and societal challenges faced by women in midlife.
The protagonist, Heidi, is a relatable character who isn't afraid to speak her mind. As she navigates the hot flashes, mood swings, and societal expectations, Heidi's humour and resilience shine through.
The book's strength lies in its ability to normalise these experiences, making readers feel seen and understood.
Beyond the physical symptoms, Harper also explores the emotional toll of menopause. She delves into themes of identity, relationships, and self-worth, offering a nuanced perspective on how this life stage can impact a woman's sense of self.
One of the most refreshing aspects of Hot Not Bothered is its portrayal of female friendship. Heidi's bond with her friends, who are also going through menopause, is heartwarming and empowering. The book celebrates the importance of female support and camaraderie during this challenging time.
While the book is primarily a comedic exploration of menopause, it also offers moments of vulnerability and introspection. Harper's writing is witty, insightful and oh so relatable, making Hot Not Bothered a must-read for women of a certain age!
Overall, Hot Not Bothered is a hilarious, heartwarming, and empowering read that offers a refreshing perspective on menopause. Harper's honest and relatable portrayal of this life stage is sure to resonate with readers, and I think sometimes we all need to ask ourselves, 'What would Miriam do?'
Now, where did I put my kindle? 🤔🤣
July 18, 2024
Buckle up for a real fun, feel-good read about women, menopause and life in general.
Heidi works at a university, is mum to two lovely girls, has her ex-husband living next door, positively involved in their upbringing. It all should be wonderful. But Heidi is hitting the menopause and is really struggling. Then she receives a patronising email from the university (I worked in one for over 20 years and could just envisage this happening!) offering help to women going through the menopause, and she drafts an email back telling him exactly what she thinks of him, his policy and his bright ideas. Unfortunately the email is sent to all staff... and Heidi faces disciplinary action, or the chance to step up and help her colleagues.
The result is heart-warming, slightly twee but offset by some real laugh out loud moments as she and her friends cope with these distressing symptoms. A great read for anyone, menopausal or not.
Thank you to NetGalley and Avon Books UK for allowing me access to the ARC in exchange for an honest review.
Heidi works at a university, is mum to two lovely girls, has her ex-husband living next door, positively involved in their upbringing. It all should be wonderful. But Heidi is hitting the menopause and is really struggling. Then she receives a patronising email from the university (I worked in one for over 20 years and could just envisage this happening!) offering help to women going through the menopause, and she drafts an email back telling him exactly what she thinks of him, his policy and his bright ideas. Unfortunately the email is sent to all staff... and Heidi faces disciplinary action, or the chance to step up and help her colleagues.
The result is heart-warming, slightly twee but offset by some real laugh out loud moments as she and her friends cope with these distressing symptoms. A great read for anyone, menopausal or not.
Thank you to NetGalley and Avon Books UK for allowing me access to the ARC in exchange for an honest review.
July 22, 2024
Heidi is coparenting her two children. She’s also holding down a job struggling with the menopause.
As her symptoms increase her mood gets even darker. So when she receives an email from HR for women of a certain age, she finds the content particularly patronising and irks her fury. She types an email (a very funny one) to vent her emotions. She never intends to send it. It’s just to get her thoughts together.
However what should’ve been an email that she intended to delete she accidentally send to all within her company. The next day she is a global sensation all be it not with her boss. To make amends. She must send a global apology and form a menopause support group.
What starts off feeling like a punishment to Heidi ends up becoming one of the highlights of her life.
This is a highly entertaining read. Being of a similar age to the character Heidi I could certainly relate to a lot of the things she was going through. This is certainly a book that I will be recommending to my female friends although some of my male friends could learn from it too.
As her symptoms increase her mood gets even darker. So when she receives an email from HR for women of a certain age, she finds the content particularly patronising and irks her fury. She types an email (a very funny one) to vent her emotions. She never intends to send it. It’s just to get her thoughts together.
However what should’ve been an email that she intended to delete she accidentally send to all within her company. The next day she is a global sensation all be it not with her boss. To make amends. She must send a global apology and form a menopause support group.
What starts off feeling like a punishment to Heidi ends up becoming one of the highlights of her life.
This is a highly entertaining read. Being of a similar age to the character Heidi I could certainly relate to a lot of the things she was going through. This is certainly a book that I will be recommending to my female friends although some of my male friends could learn from it too.
August 5, 2024
Hot not bothered is a great read, lighthearted, relatable yet with a meaningful undertone for women of a certain age!
Great to focus on the trials and tribulations that women of a certain age experience that affects them both at work and home, the reluctance of medical professionals to listen and provide HRT, the lack of workplace adaptions and breaking down the barriers to raise acceptance understanding and knowledge of the perimenopause and menopause.
Heidi aged 52,divorced single parent of 2 girls, working in an admin role, juggling work and home commitments whilst in perimenopause has had enough, provoked by a particularly bad day at work she lets rip and pours out her innermost rage into an email, one that was never meant to be sent, but somehow gets sent to all! What ensues changes Heidi’s life both at work and at home and that of her colleagues, friends and families in a way no one could have predicted!
A brilliant read that all women of a certain age can totally relate too, would highly recommend
Thank you NetGalley for this early read
Great to focus on the trials and tribulations that women of a certain age experience that affects them both at work and home, the reluctance of medical professionals to listen and provide HRT, the lack of workplace adaptions and breaking down the barriers to raise acceptance understanding and knowledge of the perimenopause and menopause.
Heidi aged 52,divorced single parent of 2 girls, working in an admin role, juggling work and home commitments whilst in perimenopause has had enough, provoked by a particularly bad day at work she lets rip and pours out her innermost rage into an email, one that was never meant to be sent, but somehow gets sent to all! What ensues changes Heidi’s life both at work and at home and that of her colleagues, friends and families in a way no one could have predicted!
A brilliant read that all women of a certain age can totally relate too, would highly recommend
Thank you NetGalley for this early read
September 28, 2025
I absolutely loved Hot (Not Bothered) by Harper Ford! This book is incredibly useful for all women, especially for those who haven’t yet experienced the first signs of perimenopause and don’t really know what to expect. Personally, I wish I had read it earlier, before starting this whole process, because it would have helped me so much.
Reading it now, I realize that many of the things I went through suddenly make sense, and I can finally connect the dots. Harper Ford explains everything in such an honest, accessible, and supportive way – and the fun, witty tone in which the book is written makes the whole subject so much easier to absorb. It feels like having a wise (and very entertaining) friend guiding you through a confusing stage of life.
That’s why I wholeheartedly recommend this book to all women – and especially to those who haven’t yet started experiencing symptoms. It’s the kind of knowledge that truly empowers you to face perimenopause and beyond with clarity, confidence, and even a smile.
Reading it now, I realize that many of the things I went through suddenly make sense, and I can finally connect the dots. Harper Ford explains everything in such an honest, accessible, and supportive way – and the fun, witty tone in which the book is written makes the whole subject so much easier to absorb. It feels like having a wise (and very entertaining) friend guiding you through a confusing stage of life.
That’s why I wholeheartedly recommend this book to all women – and especially to those who haven’t yet started experiencing symptoms. It’s the kind of knowledge that truly empowers you to face perimenopause and beyond with clarity, confidence, and even a smile.
July 14, 2024
I absolutely loved everything about this book and was hooked from the first page. It was so true to life and the characters were totally relatable.
The story is focused on Heidi and how she is navigating life as a single mum of 2 girls while dealing with work, life in general and the menopause.
Heidi was a fantastic character who I could totally relate to and I just wanted to be her friend and part of the M&Ms.
Parts of the story had me laughing out loud, while other parts had me crying or shouting out with solidarity. The reunion chapters were fantastic and (no spoilers)the morning after was brilliant.
The book touched on some important themes but showed the importance of friendship and family.
I didn’t want this book to end and am definitely buying this for all of my friends. I am also hoping for a sequel to see what happens next for Heidi.
Thanks to NetGalley, Avon Books UK and Harper Ford for an advance copy in exchange for an honest and unbiased review.
The story is focused on Heidi and how she is navigating life as a single mum of 2 girls while dealing with work, life in general and the menopause.
Heidi was a fantastic character who I could totally relate to and I just wanted to be her friend and part of the M&Ms.
Parts of the story had me laughing out loud, while other parts had me crying or shouting out with solidarity. The reunion chapters were fantastic and (no spoilers)the morning after was brilliant.
The book touched on some important themes but showed the importance of friendship and family.
I didn’t want this book to end and am definitely buying this for all of my friends. I am also hoping for a sequel to see what happens next for Heidi.
Thanks to NetGalley, Avon Books UK and Harper Ford for an advance copy in exchange for an honest and unbiased review.
September 28, 2024
What a brilliant read this was! I absolutely loved it!
It follows Heidi, a divorced mum with two daughters, as she discovers she’s going through the perimenopause and struggles with a host of symptoms while looking after her family and coping with her job.
It’s laugh out loud funny in places but also touches on more serious issues as Heidi and some of her colleagues share the difficulties they’re going through, at this stage of their lives, and try to solve them together.
I’m going through the menopause at the moment and although this wasn’t written as a source of information about the menopause, I did feel an affinity with these fictional ladies and empathised with what they were going through.
Many thanks to Avon Books UK for sending me an early copy of this book to read. It was right up my street and I think many of you will enjoy it too.
It follows Heidi, a divorced mum with two daughters, as she discovers she’s going through the perimenopause and struggles with a host of symptoms while looking after her family and coping with her job.
It’s laugh out loud funny in places but also touches on more serious issues as Heidi and some of her colleagues share the difficulties they’re going through, at this stage of their lives, and try to solve them together.
I’m going through the menopause at the moment and although this wasn’t written as a source of information about the menopause, I did feel an affinity with these fictional ladies and empathised with what they were going through.
Many thanks to Avon Books UK for sending me an early copy of this book to read. It was right up my street and I think many of you will enjoy it too.
September 30, 2024
Menopause is not fun (believe me I know!)
Heidi is full of hot flushes, anxiety, digestive issues, brain fog and rage…so much rage that cases her to write a very unfortunate email and pressing send instead of delete.
To make amends she is forced to start a menopause support group at work. Instead of it being awful she finds the best group of women all going through similar symptoms.
When a uni reunion is organised Heidi finds herself back in touch with her uni housemates, Nate the “rock god” who she had the worst crush on and Luke the kindest friend she ever had.
I thoroughly enjoyed this rom com and it was a refreshing change to read about someone of my age going through similar things (although mine are not as dramatic obviously)
With thanks to NetGalley and the publisher for the arc.
Heidi is full of hot flushes, anxiety, digestive issues, brain fog and rage…so much rage that cases her to write a very unfortunate email and pressing send instead of delete.
To make amends she is forced to start a menopause support group at work. Instead of it being awful she finds the best group of women all going through similar symptoms.
When a uni reunion is organised Heidi finds herself back in touch with her uni housemates, Nate the “rock god” who she had the worst crush on and Luke the kindest friend she ever had.
I thoroughly enjoyed this rom com and it was a refreshing change to read about someone of my age going through similar things (although mine are not as dramatic obviously)
With thanks to NetGalley and the publisher for the arc.
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