Non-spoilers first: This book is incredible. I had just finished Mark Twain's The Innocents Abroad and was in the mood for another irreverent travel guide when I stumbled upon Froning's account of China. After Twain the bar was high but Froning's wry wit, curious eye, and warm heart won me over almost immediately. I used to live in Beijing as well and found myself rolling my eyes, laughing, and occasionally getting choked up when listening to his perspective on the city, its people, and the country at large. The China that Froning explored doesn't exist anymore, as the events of this book took place almost twenty years ago now, but the general spirit remains and it was so delightful to listen to this fish-out-of-water's take on all the major and minor differences between a life in the US and one in the Middle Kingdom. I strongly recommend this book to any and all.
This is now one of my favorite books of all time and I'm not sure if I can ever revisit it again, because:
Spoilers: I don't think I've ever cried more at the end of a book than I did with this one. I have never read something that, upon its completion, becomes so overwhelmingly poignant and existential. As I said, I used to live in Beijing, so I was already tearing up when Froning described how painful his farewell was, as I've gone through that exact experience several times. But the epilogue is objectively and absolutely devastating. Imagine reading a book about the last year of another's life but having that fact be completely unknown to both the author and yourself. I was, just as everyone was in real life, completely blind-sided by Froning's death, an event that casts a completely different light on every word of his book, given the subject matter. It has stuck with me for days; I've thought about his students, who are all in their forties now, and cannot bear the incredible sadness that comes with the fact that Froning himself would only be in his sixties today. What would he think of China now? Some of his predictions were way off base but others were quite premonitious.
It is a masterpiece of a book in that it shows us what it means to be human, in just how far our kindness and generosity can go with others, and how strong the bond between us can be when it comes to love.