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Husband Hunting with Confidance
Set the time for two years! Fidan needs to find a husband ... Can she do it?Fidan is a successful woman. She is smart, single, 32 year-old lawyer who knows what she a husband. But she's about to learn that finding a life partner is not easy.Documenting her dating journey in an honest, thoughtful and at times, hilarious way, Fidan—codename 'KC'—takes you on the hunt with her. She tries it all from internet dating, speed dating, picking up at parties, and she even joins a professional dating agency in the hope of finding her special someone.Despite the constant stream of bad dates and failed love attempts in her life, Fidan remains in good spirits throughout the journey, and it is her eternal optimism, and good humour, that gets her through the two-year hint with a surprising twist.With the clock ticking, 'KC' is determined that he husband is out there, and that all she has to do is Hunt for him, using her special elixir called Confidance'.
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704 pages, Kindle Edition
Published October 19, 2023
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September 4, 2024
Too long winded and the author comes across as incredibly judgemental which made it hard for me to read.
December 16, 2023
Entertaining for maybe the first ten dates then repetitive, judgemental, and boring.
January 12, 2024
I am glad this book was ‘free’ to read using my kindle subscription thing because I would never pay a cent for this. What an absolutely disappointing book. I will admit that it was interesting for the first two hundred pages. I was keen to go through these dates with her, and I chuckled at many parts, but it got very repetitive and boring very quickly. Some stories are fun (like Brett’s!), but then once you learn of her taste in men you can just anticipate how the dates go, and then she just drags them on for ages. There are so many irrelevant details throughout the book that just had me skimming past. I don’t care if you’re petting your dog before your 34th date girl! Get to the point!
I thought it was very distasteful when she was saying how she was getting annoyed by some of her dates’ accents. I don’t think she would appreciate it if someone made fun of her male relatives’ Turkish accents!
I thought Jake from Penrith was horrible, and I struggled to continue reading when she said they both listened to 2GB radio.
I think this book would’ve benefited from some major editing. It could’ve been half the size and maybe a little more interesting!
P.S. after seeing a picture of her partner, I was reading this book thinking “what was the point of belittling so many men based on their physical appearance?” Hmm.
Definitely do not recommend.
I thought it was very distasteful when she was saying how she was getting annoyed by some of her dates’ accents. I don’t think she would appreciate it if someone made fun of her male relatives’ Turkish accents!
I thought Jake from Penrith was horrible, and I struggled to continue reading when she said they both listened to 2GB radio.
I think this book would’ve benefited from some major editing. It could’ve been half the size and maybe a little more interesting!
P.S. after seeing a picture of her partner, I was reading this book thinking “what was the point of belittling so many men based on their physical appearance?” Hmm.
Definitely do not recommend.
December 29, 2023
The amount of 5 star reviews is shocking - this book is terrible. The author reads as cocky and hypocritical. Also needs some major editing work!
January 17, 2024
I am challenging myself to write at least something small about every book I read this year. Read this for book club- spoilers of my review!!!!
I enjoyed this, I had a good laugh and it was such a fun idea for Fidan to collate all of her blogs. I think I especially enjoyed it because she was based on the North Shore and all of the location mentions I could relate to…. she really does love the Greengate.
It was extremely repetitive, and I did struggle sometimes with some of the comments made, I found them quite rude, but I had to remind myself that 1) this was 2010 and 2) this acted as her journal and she was being her absolutely brutally honest self.
Overall not the type of book I’d usually read, or will read again, but I did laugh. 3 stars from me!
I enjoyed this, I had a good laugh and it was such a fun idea for Fidan to collate all of her blogs. I think I especially enjoyed it because she was based on the North Shore and all of the location mentions I could relate to…. she really does love the Greengate.
It was extremely repetitive, and I did struggle sometimes with some of the comments made, I found them quite rude, but I had to remind myself that 1) this was 2010 and 2) this acted as her journal and she was being her absolutely brutally honest self.
Overall not the type of book I’d usually read, or will read again, but I did laugh. 3 stars from me!
November 14, 2023
Couldn’t put it down! Certain problematic tones that I do think you have to consider it was 2010-2012 and people did say “sl!t” and other now problematic words just off the cuff and thats when these blogs are from. Overall a fun read and genuinely did enjoy it. Wish there was more about her life now, but obviously then it wouldn’t be her blog from over 10 years ago. 10/10 for fun factor but likely wouldn’t read again!
January 29, 2024
Husband Hunting with Confidance was such an easy read. I enjoyed how personal this book was, it felt like hearing a friend update you on their dating life. It was beautiful seeing the timeline of Fidan’s desires in life completely change from the start to the end of the book. I would have loved a detailed description of her first 1-3 dates with her current partner, or at least as much detail as she used when speaking about how things transpired with Mitch. Would definitely recommend to anyone who wants an easy book and loves hearing first date anecdotes
October 28, 2023
Love fidan but the book ended up being a bit repetitive. Definitely showed herself through her writing which was entertaining. And some crazy dating stories. But the hunt for a husband became a little hopeless at the end of the book. Glad she got her happy ending - just wish it was in her two year time period to get a husband.
December 3, 2023
I tapped out at 13%
It was awful. Hated the blog post style. Hated the main character. I’m hoping she has major character development by the end but I won’t ever find out.
It was awful. Hated the blog post style. Hated the main character. I’m hoping she has major character development by the end but I won’t ever find out.
December 29, 2023
First couple of chapters are quite funny and entertaining, but it was quite a hard read in the end. I found it very repetitive and honestly quite negative. Overall disappointing.
July 11, 2024
Read this cause I love FidanTok but skipped to the end about halfway through…
March 5, 2024
Got suckered in by Fidantok and I enjoyed this at first but it got pretty repetitive and long winded by the end.
February 14, 2024
god forbid people dont have their life worked out by the age of 30 (mind you theyd just be a TRADIE😭)
i do understand this book is quite literally her journal over a few years of trying to find a husband but i cannot believe the way she judges these people (for the littlest of things too!) just because she does and has had the opportunities she has to get her so far in life, which honestly good for her im not shitting on her for that, but my god she acts like a spoiled brat.
DNF after the WHOLE Brett fiasco. I did skip through it abit though…😑
i do understand this book is quite literally her journal over a few years of trying to find a husband but i cannot believe the way she judges these people (for the littlest of things too!) just because she does and has had the opportunities she has to get her so far in life, which honestly good for her im not shitting on her for that, but my god she acts like a spoiled brat.
DNF after the WHOLE Brett fiasco. I did skip through it abit though…😑
November 11, 2023
The first few hundred pages were ok. But then I struggled.
This book is so long and repetitive. I ended up skipping through the last 20% of this book and then disappointed in the ending tbh.
This book is so long and repetitive. I ended up skipping through the last 20% of this book and then disappointed in the ending tbh.
January 11, 2024
The book is ok, not what I expected for the ending with all the anticipation of finding a husband. Quite a lot of spelling and punctuation errors.
Wouldn’t read again, or recommend!
Wouldn’t read again, or recommend!
December 17, 2023
This was an entertaining and easy page turner. Some of Fidan’s commentary is really funny. Dating stories are always popular. The writing is well done considering this was once a casual blog! Don’t be intimidated by the length - chapters/entries are short and easy to flick through.
Sometimes her views and opinions are really out there, and in that way her blog has not aged well as she sometimes comes across as judgemental. Too, some of the issues she had with her dates were really silly - but this ultimately is her real dating journey, not a fictional one, so really she can be as picky as she wants.
Annoyingly, there are regular (albeit minor) grammatical/syntactical errors that could easily be fixed with basic editing. Nonetheless, this was a great read!
Sometimes her views and opinions are really out there, and in that way her blog has not aged well as she sometimes comes across as judgemental. Too, some of the issues she had with her dates were really silly - but this ultimately is her real dating journey, not a fictional one, so really she can be as picky as she wants.
Annoyingly, there are regular (albeit minor) grammatical/syntactical errors that could easily be fixed with basic editing. Nonetheless, this was a great read!
December 16, 2023
5 stars because this book was genuinely so funny
August 20, 2024
This was just very very long 600+ pages. I found her very repetitive and just judgemental. I enjoy her Tik toks so I thought I’d try it out but it was just very underwhelming
The only reason I was holding out was for her final husband now but she didn’t go into it at all literally only gave two paragraphs (very disappointed!)
The only reason I was holding out was for her final husband now but she didn’t go into it at all literally only gave two paragraphs (very disappointed!)
January 8, 2024
Incredibly long and repetitive. Only finished so quickly as I raced Lyss to finish it (I won). She was incredibly picky throughout the dating process which made me change my view on her. Sad that it didn’t live up the hype.
November 3, 2024
In order to like this book you have to like Fidan, wish she elaborated more on her story with Mr Fidan!!!
December 30, 2024
I follow Fidan on TikTok and was curious about her book, which I got for free. Sadly, it didn’t live up to my expectations. While some individual stories were intriguing, the book felt like a slog to get through.
Fidan has an interesting life, as seen on TikTok, but the book didn’t capture that. It lacked the depth and reflection that could have tied her blog entries together. Ultimately, it felt incomplete and isn’t worth the time, which is disappointing because I wanted to enjoy it.
Fidan has an interesting life, as seen on TikTok, but the book didn’t capture that. It lacked the depth and reflection that could have tied her blog entries together. Ultimately, it felt incomplete and isn’t worth the time, which is disappointing because I wanted to enjoy it.
December 18, 2023
A long 668 pages to get through, I think we got the run down on 52(?) dates. Quite repetitive and judgy but I thibk it makes Fidans story even more interesting on how she became to be where she is today. I’ll be completely fine if I don’t have to read ‘we like it when they pay’ ever again.
February 4, 2024
SO BORING AND SO REPETITIVE.
I was so tempted to skip through some chapters as it was the same stuff over and over again.
KC comes across up herself and like no one could ever say no to her.
But yet, HAS ALOT TO SAY about the men.
Hmmmm… 2 ⭐️⭐️ only just tho!!
I was so tempted to skip through some chapters as it was the same stuff over and over again.
KC comes across up herself and like no one could ever say no to her.
But yet, HAS ALOT TO SAY about the men.
Hmmmm… 2 ⭐️⭐️ only just tho!!
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November 12, 2023DNF. She’s off-putting and talked shit about teachers.
December 28, 2023
I thought this would be more a reflection on how Fidan balanced life and work. It wasn't- it was more a recollection of each of her problematic and frankly mean 'icks'.
January 4, 2024
Could not finish. I’m sad because I love Fidan but I was forcing myself to read and gave up 25% through.
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January 10, 2024I love Fidan, I just had to DNF this. I couldn’t get into it.
No reflection of her writing as some of it was really entertaining, I just found it hard to stay with.
No reflection of her writing as some of it was really entertaining, I just found it hard to stay with.
January 10, 2025
Content
All of the context in the world cannot change the fact that this book should not have been published. It is very outdated and the author makes several mentions that her 'blog' readers at the time of publication considered her to be 'too cold'. Trying to take an already controversial blog and adapt it to a novel for modern readers was bound to end up with content issues. Unfortunately, there are many problematic things about this book and it is hard to look past the obviously offensive and inappropriate content when leaving any kind of review. The author would have benefitted greatly from an editor, with an understanding of modern audiences, to help advise as to what content made the 'final cut'.
Format
The blog format was easy to follow and made for light reading. The author's pragmatic and analytical nature was very evident in the way she compiled her information, making lots of use of lists and dot points to summarise. At times, I think reliance on this formatting detracted from her story-telling and forced extraneous details (age, location, occupation) of all of the men we followed through the story. It was hard to keep track of all of the information because the small (and often irrelevant) details were very over-saturated. It also contributed to the (far too long) length of the book and was the biggest barrier for the very slow pacing and repetitive nature of the blog entries. The format did allow us to get a good insight into the author's frame of mind though and the whole thing felt very immersive. There were moments were you felt like you were in the room with her and gave it a 'soap', diaries of a modern working woman feel. Again, I feel like an editor really would have helped her to figure out how to adapt to the novel format and avoid some of the complications she ran into here.
Voice
The biggest redeeming factor for this book is the author herself. Those who know her from her internet presence will instantly connect to and recognise her voice in the book. Despite the obviously inappropriate content, it is nice to have the voice of an extremely independent, intelligent and head-strong modern working woman. I think her commentary on the experience of being a single, childless woman in her 30s in modern Australia and the way she notes but doesn't subscribe to societal pressures is an important one. It is clear that the author has an unshakeable sense of self-worth and it is both refreshing and necessary to see dating stories told through this lens. Not to mention, she is extremely charismatic and her ruthlessly blunt delivery is (at times) very engaging.
Summary
I think this author has something and I think this book could have been a whole lot better than it is. The ingredients are all there but unfortunately, the need for an editor or content advisor was so obvious that it really detracts from the overall experience. It is just too regressive and discriminatory for modern audiences and lacks a degree of sensitivity and cultural awareness that is impossible to overlook. With some coaching and advice, I think we could see great things come out of the author and I would certainly welcome the opportunity to read further works in the future. This one unfortunately, missed the mark.
All of the context in the world cannot change the fact that this book should not have been published. It is very outdated and the author makes several mentions that her 'blog' readers at the time of publication considered her to be 'too cold'. Trying to take an already controversial blog and adapt it to a novel for modern readers was bound to end up with content issues. Unfortunately, there are many problematic things about this book and it is hard to look past the obviously offensive and inappropriate content when leaving any kind of review. The author would have benefitted greatly from an editor, with an understanding of modern audiences, to help advise as to what content made the 'final cut'.
Format
The blog format was easy to follow and made for light reading. The author's pragmatic and analytical nature was very evident in the way she compiled her information, making lots of use of lists and dot points to summarise. At times, I think reliance on this formatting detracted from her story-telling and forced extraneous details (age, location, occupation) of all of the men we followed through the story. It was hard to keep track of all of the information because the small (and often irrelevant) details were very over-saturated. It also contributed to the (far too long) length of the book and was the biggest barrier for the very slow pacing and repetitive nature of the blog entries. The format did allow us to get a good insight into the author's frame of mind though and the whole thing felt very immersive. There were moments were you felt like you were in the room with her and gave it a 'soap', diaries of a modern working woman feel. Again, I feel like an editor really would have helped her to figure out how to adapt to the novel format and avoid some of the complications she ran into here.
Voice
The biggest redeeming factor for this book is the author herself. Those who know her from her internet presence will instantly connect to and recognise her voice in the book. Despite the obviously inappropriate content, it is nice to have the voice of an extremely independent, intelligent and head-strong modern working woman. I think her commentary on the experience of being a single, childless woman in her 30s in modern Australia and the way she notes but doesn't subscribe to societal pressures is an important one. It is clear that the author has an unshakeable sense of self-worth and it is both refreshing and necessary to see dating stories told through this lens. Not to mention, she is extremely charismatic and her ruthlessly blunt delivery is (at times) very engaging.
Summary
I think this author has something and I think this book could have been a whole lot better than it is. The ingredients are all there but unfortunately, the need for an editor or content advisor was so obvious that it really detracts from the overall experience. It is just too regressive and discriminatory for modern audiences and lacks a degree of sensitivity and cultural awareness that is impossible to overlook. With some coaching and advice, I think we could see great things come out of the author and I would certainly welcome the opportunity to read further works in the future. This one unfortunately, missed the mark.
January 17, 2025
3/5 🌟 for Ms Fidan.
I will be brutally honest with my review.
I was skeptical going into this book because I love FidanTok! If you don’t know what that is, search “Fidan” on TikTok.
She’s amazing and I think she is quite a refreshing person to watch.
Fidan’s story is repetitive because it is basically a recount of her everyday life. Her husband hunt. Which is as raw and as true as you can get it.
So, for people complaining about the repetitiveness are not seeing what the book truly is, it’s a replica of her blog at the time. Of course, it’ll be repetitive.
Look, I am not saying it didn’t tire me out, because it did. I am just saying, what else would you expect from a real life recounting?
This book will definitely sit with me.
She has taught me a lot of things from her experiences.
She has given me some pointers as to how she looks at men and how to read people. Especially men. Cause, duh.
I appreciated her independence and her commitment to her goal, which was essentially finding a husband.
What I did not like, is that the ending was rather rushed…
637 odd pages for her to quickly write out five pages of her ending?
No Fidan, not good. In my books anyway. And that’s the honest truth.
But let’s end on a good note. I did gasp at the Brett story, not going to lie and there were some times I giggled aloud at her experiences. Poor Fidan, I suppose you do have to meet a lot of Wickham’s in order to meet your Darcy, hey?
🏙️💙
I will be brutally honest with my review.
I was skeptical going into this book because I love FidanTok! If you don’t know what that is, search “Fidan” on TikTok.
She’s amazing and I think she is quite a refreshing person to watch.
Fidan’s story is repetitive because it is basically a recount of her everyday life. Her husband hunt. Which is as raw and as true as you can get it.
So, for people complaining about the repetitiveness are not seeing what the book truly is, it’s a replica of her blog at the time. Of course, it’ll be repetitive.
Look, I am not saying it didn’t tire me out, because it did. I am just saying, what else would you expect from a real life recounting?
This book will definitely sit with me.
She has taught me a lot of things from her experiences.
She has given me some pointers as to how she looks at men and how to read people. Especially men. Cause, duh.
I appreciated her independence and her commitment to her goal, which was essentially finding a husband.
What I did not like, is that the ending was rather rushed…
637 odd pages for her to quickly write out five pages of her ending?
No Fidan, not good. In my books anyway. And that’s the honest truth.
But let’s end on a good note. I did gasp at the Brett story, not going to lie and there were some times I giggled aloud at her experiences. Poor Fidan, I suppose you do have to meet a lot of Wickham’s in order to meet your Darcy, hey?
🏙️💙
January 30, 2025
I read this because she mentioned it in her TikTok videos and I was curious. She is so funny and quirky. While this book was a little long, it was definitely more entertaining than I thought it would be although the ending could have been not so rushed. I also found it interesting that she was dead set on finding a husband (the whole point and title of the book) yet from one of her videos she mentions she never actually married her “husband”
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