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In their highly-anticipated first book, the hilarious mom duo with millions of followers explores all the ridiculous shit you’re expected to do to keep multiple humans alive and happy-ish, and celebrates the love for the friends who get you through it.

Kristin Hensley and Jen Smedley, the creators of #IMomSoHard, are just like you and your best mom friend, only funnier and with more wine. Perhaps you’ve seen one of their insanely popular videos musing on everything from impractical swimsuit fashions to “Things I Found in My Bra.” Or maybe you’ve gone to one of the shows on their sold-out tour, hailed as “monster truck rallies for moms.” Or you might have just taken a break from mom-ing so hard yourself and decided to read some adult words for a few minutes. Did you pour yourself some wine?

This is not a self-help book. Kristin and Jen know that you probably didn’t get to shower today and that the last thing you need is advice on all the stuff you’re doing wrong. Instead, Kristin and Jen talk nipple hair, sex after marriage, Mom-bods, and their unhealthy obsession with Khal Drogo from Game of Thrones. #IMomSoHard is packed with the back-and-forth laugh-out-loud best-friend banter that Kristin and Jen are known for, with plenty of real talk about post-partum depression, bullying, and the dark thoughts that plague every mom. Throughout it all, they know the ups and downs of motherhood often have nothing to do with your kids—it’s the female friendships and solidarity you have with other moms that makes it all worthwhile.

#IMomSoHard is like a long, funny, gab session with your best mom friends. Kristin and Jen know 6:00–8:00 pm is the worst time to call you. They know not to give harass you when you show up to a playdate in a free t-shirt you got from the dentist. They won’t give pep talks, but they will talk you down from the motherhood ledge, because, you’re passing with a “C”—and that’s all any of us can hope for.

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Published April 2, 2019

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Kristin Hensley

3 books173 followers
Kristin grew up in a small town in the middle of Nebraska where she learned that working hard and laughing harder is the best way to live life. After graduating from the University Of Nebraska in Lincoln she ventured out to Los Angeles where she started working as a actress, comedienne, writer, teacher and bartender. She met her friend Jen, the other gal on the cover of this book, while drinking beers in the parking lot of a run-down comedy theater. After 15 seconds, they became besties and soon realized that they were both from Nebraska! Soon after, they both met their now husbands, had a couple of babies, found themselves completely overwhelmed and started a web series called #IMOMSOHARD. Turns out there are a lot of moms/women out there who feel the same. This is Kristin's first book but not her last as the material only gets better and the kids age up.

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Profile Image for Jennifer.
1,871 reviews6,703 followers
April 16, 2019
#imomsohard is a popular web series started on YouTube by Kristin Hensley and Jen Smedley. They're women, wives, and moms that talk about mostly hilarious women's and motherhood issues in pure, unfiltered honesty. They show the good, the bad, and the ugly, and make themselves look ridiculous on purpose so their viewers can know they're not alone on those hard days. A friend of mine introduced me to their style of entertainment when the swimsuit segment went live and I was immediately intrigued.

The book #IMomSoHard is a mixture of memoir, behind-the-scenes information, and more laughs coauthored by both Kristin and Jen. It discusses the isolation of motherhood, the importance of having mom friends, the benefits of laughing, struggling with body image, practicing self-care, and remembering how every stage of motherhood felt so that we can lend a hand as needed (with and without being asked). I hope more empowering women follow in Kristin and Jen's footsteps to bring encouragement, perspective, and laughs to the world. Check it out.

My favorite quote:
“Self-care is really hard as a mother. Somewhere along the way, there was some shitty Hallmark card that told us that if we give all of our time to our kids and husbands, they will be better people. It's so untrue. Mothers who sacrifice everything gain nothing. Before we were mothers, we were women, and we still are. We gain nothing by missing a gyno appointment to make it to our kid's volleyball game. We gain nothing by skipping our one night with the girls to organize the garage. And we gain nothing by struggling in darkness without a few rays of light. We work this hard out of love but we've got to shine that lovelight on ourselves once in a while. It makes us better people. It makes us happier moms. It makes us healthier women.”

Audiobook self-narrated by Kristin and Jen.
Profile Image for Heather K (dentist in my spare time).
4,108 reviews6,667 followers
May 28, 2019
*3.5 stars*



I adore a funny, self-deprecating parenting book, and I LOVED #IMomSoHard at the start. I was telling everyone about it, and I was convinced it would be a favorite of mine. The audio version of this book is very charming, and I was hooked. However, though it remained decent up until the end, it became very repetitive over time and I found myself fast-forwarding as I went along.

I'm a part time working mom, and I try to do it all, just like most of my fellow moms out there. I'm struggling (like the rest of you) to remember pajama day, theme lunch day, and also to remember to shower myself once in awhile. However, mom books are so, so hard because you might relate to one mom's experience in one way but not in other ways. The birthing and parenting parts in the beginning of this book were very fun, but it is almost like the authors ran out of stuff to talk about, and it became the same thing over and over again, some of which I related to more than others.

Also, and this is pretty personal, but it always irks me when women (and fellow moms) talk about how their husbands think they are so attractive and want sex 24/7, like it's a problem every woman has. My husband is the one coming home tired and wanting to sleep in peace, and I'm the one reading filthy romance books and bugging him at 2 am. Never wanting sex isn't a universal woman thing, and I hate feeling weird that I'm not like, ugh, not again.

I think #IMomSoHard is a fun audiobook, especially at the beginning when the authors have the most material to talk about. I would listen to their podcast and watch their videos any day of the week, but to fill up a cohesive book... that's hard stuff.

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Profile Image for Grace {Rebel Mommy Book Blog}.
475 reviews173 followers
April 25, 2019

Warning: This will be a total fangirl review.



So there are so many mommy bloggers, you tubers, mom duos with videos on Facebook, who are all over Twitter. I follow a bunch because I am a mom. One who does not have it all together. One who likes to know she isn't the only one just muddling through this parent thing. I have to say there are so many lovely ladies that are super funny, really honest and just seem to get the whole mommy thing. The ladies of #IMomSoHard are my favorite. Their video on trying on bathing suits might be my favorite things ever.



Anyway, a lot of these mom peeps have books. Meh. These ladies have a book? Yeah I preordered that audio so hard. Listen a lot of the funny mom people out there do it in a way that sometimes is too much. Like trying too hard to be too funny. These ladies don't come off that way to me. They are funny, honest, caring and all in a way you know they love their kids and want them to be good humans. But it's hard man and they capture that perfectly.



There were lots of times I laughed. Lots of times I cried. A real emotional rollercoaster I will tell you. They talked about things like the baby blues, when it is more than that, depression and anxiety, feeling good about yourself ( the book inspired me to buy lipstick and I must say I like it), sexy times with husband and how it changes after kids, how your body changes and friendships change. They talk about things that affect you like loss of a parent. We also get some insight into their friendship and their backgrounds. How they both grew up in Nebraska but didn't meet until a random time in California. How they both were into acting and comedy. How they decided to even start these videos and why.If you are a mom I really think this is worth the listen (or read). I bought the audio but am totally buying a hard copy version too. I love these ladies and felt #IMomSoHard too.
This review was originally posted on Rebel Mommy Book Blog
Profile Image for Christy.
733 reviews
September 12, 2019
I enjoyed this one... if it's something you think you would be into, definitely do it as an audio book. It was funny, but I think it was more of a book about being okay with yourself as a Mom and realizing you don't have to be the Pinterest perfect mommy and serve organic vegetables 24/7. Like the description says, it's not a self-help book, but it gives you plenty of real talk. Being okay with your after baby body, dealing with post-partum, knowing your not alone with the highs and lows of motherhood, etc. It speaks a lot about the importance of having female friendships and how these bonds can help you get through the day to day, and even make them so much better.
Profile Image for Brittany McCann.
2,712 reviews609 followers
June 3, 2025
I HIGHLY suggest listening to this one because it made me laugh so many times. We are all different moms, and we all need mom friends.

I am thankful for my mom friends and hopeful for more great ones in the future. I love that these ladies, although very different from myself, were able to talk about some raw and relatable topics about being a mom. It was great to have their support and to support them in return.

May all of us, as mothers, women, and human beings, support one another and love one another more now and every day in the future.

5 stars.
Profile Image for Jenna.
405 reviews377 followers
May 16, 2019
"If there is one word that captures motherhood, it's not "exalting." It's "exhaustion." Being this tired all the time is torture. Men have confessed to crimes that they did not commit because they were kept awake for twenty-four hours. If you put a mom in an interrogation room, she'll last four and a half years." - #IMomSoHard

When I was gifted this book by the publisher, I had no idea who Kristin Hensley and Jen Smedley were. And, if I'm being honest, I still don't really know who they are, but I do know that they are funny and have a friendship that I hope to have with another girlfriend someday. Written in the authors alternating perspectives, #IMomSoHard is designed to make you laugh, ~maybe~ cry, and, most of all, to feel understood. I felt all of those things (sometimes simultaneously) as I read, creating a mostly enjoyable reading experience for me.

The section I enjoyed the most by far was "I Lose My Mind So Hard", where the authors talk very pointedly about the effects of having a baby on a mamas body and mind. As someone who struggled very deeply with postpartum depression with a lack of support in the place I was living at the time, it was nice to read of someone else's experience with their mental health after having a kid. It made me feel seen, and for that section of the book alone, I will be keeping my copy.

There were some sections that I found to not really add much to the book, hence the reason I didn't give it the full 5 stars possible. The sections that I enjoyed, I really, really enjoyed, and the sections that I didn't enjoy, I found myself skimming. It was one of the first "mom" books that I've ever read, and overall, I'm glad that I read (most) of it.
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3,042 reviews619 followers
August 3, 2024
2024 Review
I challenged myself in 2024 to re-read the books that impacted me most in my 20s.
Probably wouldn't give this one 5 stars if I rated based solely on my most recent re-read. These are the sort of moms who throw a party for their child's preschool graduation. Nothing wrong with that, but sometimes it comes across a little...out of touch.
But different lifestyles aside, I did enjoy this re-read. I still found it really convicting to be a better friend to my friends with kids. I also just really appreciate the authors' candidness about how life changes with kids.
It is amusing, a little bit entitled, but genuine and honest which makes for a reflective read.

2019 Review
I am not the intended audience of this book: I am not married. I am not a Mom. I am also about as celibate as a nun and not likely to become a mom any time soon. I still found this book hilarious and 100% recommend. (Mom or not.)
The thing is, your friend gets married. And if you run in the circles I do, that means they have a baby in about a year. Maybe two. Or three. Or more. And that's great! I am not one of those people who complains about babies in her newsfeed. Keep 'em coming. But it still becomes hard to relate. The conversation centers around Little Jimmy or Jane. But you don't have a little Jimmy or Jane so the conversation feels rather one-sided and you awkwardly smile and nod....or at least, I do.
This is one of those books that helps bridge the conversation. It explains what is going on in the head of your friend. It gives practical insights about how to relate.
And honestly, it makes you laugh too.
I gave a copy to my Mom and told her to read it. I'm tempted to send a copy to my Mom friends. I just genuinely appreciated what I found between the covers of this book. Give a copy to your non-mom friends. Because honestly, hats off to mothers. Your non-mom friends don't understand it. But this book helps bridge the gap and that makes it worth reading.
Profile Image for Carmen Liffengren.
900 reviews38 followers
April 11, 2019
My days with very small children are mostly in the rear view, but #IMomSoHard is just a fun reminder about how fundamentally women are rewired when they become mothers. Hensley and Smedley are hysterical and I would recommend the audio for their high energy performance. I didn't know who these two friends were before I saw this book, but what I appreciated about them is that they are equal parts snark and sassy without being mean. They support moms. They support the journey of motherhood. They are right there with you in the trenches of womanhood and motherhood. I found so much that resonated with me while laughing too!
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655 reviews
August 24, 2019
I think they are funny...most of the time. The book was very repetitive and a bit one note, so I got tired and dragged through the final chapters. Let me sum it up for you- being a mom is hard, nobody is perfect so don't think you have to be or assume they are, having some good friends you can laugh with and not taking yourself too seriously is key, and love and support the other mom's out there. There you go!
Profile Image for Yadira Soto.
18 reviews
March 10, 2020
Books such as these I wouldn't pick to read because most things in them are relatable to me or are just targeted to a select audience. So when a few friends of mine read it and recommended that I do so as well, I thought, ok what the hell, why not! Well, I'm glad I did. Its hilarious and spot on on a few things that us as moms can relate to. I'm glad I read it and will definitely recommend to all of my mom friends. Now where is my wine.....😜
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1,645 reviews131 followers
May 11, 2019
I grabbed this book on a trusted friend’s recommendation. I haven’t seen the #IMOMSOHARD series but, you guys, these are MY kind of moms. Kristin is basically me, except I *do* love banana-flavored candy. It’s honest and hilarious while discussing some very real issues about life and parenting. It’s the most relatable “mom book” I’ve ever read. Kristin and Jen remind us that we’re not alone which is perhaps the most important thing to remember on the toughest days.
Profile Image for Kim Howard.
812 reviews15 followers
May 7, 2019
I listen to this one and hearing the back and forth of Kristen and Jen raised the enjoyment of this book. Their supportive, relatable, compassionate, and humorous take on being a wife and a mother was the perfect balance of good advice and laughter. If you enjoy their YouTube videos, then you will really enjoy listening to this one. Highly recommended.
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323 reviews2 followers
April 1, 2019
This was ok. As a mom I get what they are saying. It just wasn't that funny. It's an ok book. Maybe it's better as stand up material but for me this book was just meh.
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1,580 reviews44 followers
May 23, 2019
#Imomsohard 4.5⭐️
This was hilarious. I am not a mom to humans only fury creatures right now but i still loved this.
Definitely listen to the audiobook hearing them tell their story was great!
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683 reviews85 followers
February 14, 2021
These gals are hilarious!

If these two moms are for real I congratulate this generation of moms to littles for getting it so right!

What a funny funny look at raising our bambinos.

There is a lot of emphasis placed on mom friendships in this book. Please just be easy on yourself if you are not in a season of mom friending and you’re just out there doing your own thing.

It all has a way of working out. If you love your kids they will (almost always) grow up and love you back.
Profile Image for Rebecca Mueller.
2 reviews
May 19, 2019
Holy Crap! I wish I could give this book 10 stars!
Funny, honest, and so close to home...seriously wish I was neighbors with these two badass Moms.
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30 reviews2 followers
January 21, 2021
I’ve always enjoyed Jen and Kristin’s videos. They are so talented and I know I am not alone in thinking that they are the kind of people you feel instant kinship with. Like you’ve always been friends and always will be (which as a total stranger does not sound at all creepy.) Someone in my neighborhood was giving their book away FOR FREE and I immediately snagged it, thinking it would be a perfect light and fun read/pick me up. I finally got around to it like six months later, because that’s mom life.

#IMOMSOHARD is a series of short essays exploring various aspects of life as a mother with Jen and Kristin’s trademark wit and humor. They do not hold back on sharing which makes them my people because I always am thinking to myself, “Should I have said that? Was that over sharing? Eh, whatever, it was funny!”

Aside from bringing on giggles and full on belly laughs, these ladies are also really good at getting real and exploring the complex emotions we can feel as mothers and human beings in all our relationships. Life is complicated and messy and hard, but also funny and beautiful and full of joy. They don’t hold back on either side of it. And I think that is what made this not only an enjoyable but also a worthwhile read. I also felt like they had some pretty solid advice on parenting through difficult situations, through the examples they shared of how they handled certain things with their kids. I bookmarked a couple spots because I felt like I needed to remember those words for my own kids.

Personally, I could not have read this at a better time. I have been feeling lost as a parent/person for the last few months (now I’M getting real), and this book ended up being more than just a fun, light read for me. It’s helpful to know that I’m not alone in feeling this way, and reading this was like girls night therapy which I have not been able to have in way too long. Thank you ladies, for helping me through a dark time.

If you’re a parent, I 100% recommend this. I’m thinking about getting it as a gift for some fellow friends in the trenches of motherhood. If swearing or talking about sex makes you uncomfortable, proceed with caution. But as a parent, you probably do both those things regularly anyways. 😜
Profile Image for Melissa Stacy.
Author 5 books271 followers
July 7, 2022
Originally published in 2019, I first spotted a paperback copy of the nonfiction humor book, "#IMomSoHard," by comedy duo Kristin Hensley and Jen Smedley, in a Target store before Christmas in 2021, and then saw the audiobook at my library in June 2022. With a long road trip ahead of me, I grabbed the book for the drive.

And I am *so* glad I did!!!

This book is so funny and warm. Hensley and Smedley share stories of their lives with so much wit and humanity, listening to this book was addictive and easy. It definitely made my road trip fly by.

For the past two weeks, I've been recommending this book to all the moms I know. I loved it. I would go and see these authors on tour, and I checked their website for tour dates as soon as I finished the book, but they aren't coming anywhere close to where I live. Alas.

If you are someone looking for a book to make you laugh out loud and lift your spirits, this is definitely it. I loved it.

And the audiobook is *superb.*

Five stars. *Highly* recommended.
Profile Image for Tori.
164 reviews10 followers
October 22, 2021
I needed this book. I love these two and their videos, which I binge from time to time to have a good laugh and feel less alone as a mom. Listening to the audiobook was like having a hilarious best friend cheering me on, validating my thoughts and feelings, and telling me stories while I nursed, folded laundry, and rage cleaned. If you like their vids you’ll like this (audio) book. If you don’t, you won’t.
Profile Image for Amber.
842 reviews21 followers
February 28, 2020
Holy crap these ladies are my perfect soul mates! I love how honest they are about parenting, life and living with your husband. I can honestly say I have felt everything they have discussed in this book.

"As long as your kids are fed, safe, and happy sometimes, you're winning."

"Be okay with average. Be a seven. It's a lucky number."

After my 2nd kiddo, I realized this is what was most important. This made my life and mood so much better. If only I could get my hubby to feel the same way.

I highly recommend this book to anyone who has kids or plans to have kids. Everything they discuss is spot on.

Profile Image for Elizabeth Bowen.
41 reviews
August 3, 2019
I am not one who likes books about people talking about their life but this book was awesome and I feel like anyone who is a mom or going to be a mom should read/listen to this book it makes you feel good because you are not alone in this mom life.
Profile Image for Jocelyn.
687 reviews12 followers
November 6, 2021
Some chapters I connected with more then others, some being just so true I was dying!
103 reviews
June 24, 2023
I cannot express how much I love these women! They make me belly laugh like only my college roommate, Stacy can.
Profile Image for Ana Abreu.
156 reviews14 followers
February 1, 2024
These gals are super mom relatable, I found myself saying "Yes" plenty times. I most say I am team Kristen, sorry Jen!

I will now go follow them on the Gram!!
Profile Image for Courtney Olivero.
72 reviews5 followers
July 30, 2024
These bitches are hilarious!!! Like tell it as it is!! No sugar coating shit over here!! Raw truth!! A mom must read !!!
78 reviews7 followers
June 6, 2019
Funny, but also very real. Lots of women’s empowerment and encouragement to just love and support each other and be ourselves. Really enjoyed it!
Profile Image for Donna McCaul Thibodeau.
1,332 reviews32 followers
August 8, 2020
This was a really funny book. These two ladies get the whole mom thing. I wish this book had been around when I was a young mom and felt like I was the worst one on the planet. Very enjoyable.
Profile Image for Dena.
329 reviews
June 30, 2021
I was let down by this look. I’ve watched videos that Kristin and Jen have done in the past and thought they were hilarious but the book, while it had a few chuckles, was just ok. The last chapter was the best part of the book for me. It talked about mom’s taking care of each other and to reach out when you see another mom struggling.
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