🍂 The Stars Will Still Be There: a memoir 🍂
By Nicola Nuttall
Publisher: HarperElement (May 2024)
Genre: nonfiction memoir
“Laura told me that it was only when she realized she was going to die that she truly began to live”.
It’s non fiction November but truth is, I read nonfiction all year round. And more specifically memoirs. Whether they’re celebrities or just the normal lives of someone who could be my neighbour, I love learning people’s stories. And the reason why is very simple: because we at the heart of it all, we are all the same.
Some ppl dream big lives but most of us just want to feel safe, loved and part of something. And based on the hundreds of memoirs I’ve read, I would say that’s the common thread.
This book came to my attention randomly. I happened to be on X and saw something about a young girl who has cancer and was meeting with the Prince and Princess of Wales. This book isn’t about Elizabeth’s story but her mother had retweeted this book which piqued my interest.
It’s Laura’s journey through brain cancer which began with the optic nerve disc swelling which (most ppl don’t know this) my son had last year. It was like hell in a basket while he underwent many tests and appointments to see if it was indeed a tumour like Laura. It was not, and while I’m grateful, in that quick synopsis , I felt a connection to their story and needed to read it.
“Stars” is Laura’s mother’s voice. It’s full of pain and gratitude. It doesn’t shy away from fights or fear. Or even flippant comments. There’s space within that talks about the ‘glass child’ and how the cancer affects everyone in the family. While the parents grieve the unnatural order of life and losing a child, it’s also Laura’s sister who has huge emotions about the pain of losing her sibling, her sister, and then losing her parents while they fight the disease.
It’s hard to read as a parent. It holds every fear of our worries. But it also shows you the strength of a parent’s love. A sibling who battled beside.
I’ll end it with this:
“Everyone dies alone. But if you mean something to someone, if you helped someone, if you loved someone, if even a single person embers you, then maybe you never really die at all”.
And with that epilogue, another person all the way in Canada knows about Laura.