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Maria’s Scarf: A Memoir of a Mother’s Love, a Son’s Perseverance, and Dreaming Big

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A beautiful and transformative memoir, Maria’s Scarf is the incredible story of a mother’s love, a family’s unbreakable bond, and a starry-eyed boy who never lost sight of his dreams.

As the fatherless, biracial child of a Mexican immigrant, Danny Donnelly was never expected to amount to much. Before the age of nine, his single mother had moved her seven children more than thirty times—from the impoverished streets of South Central Los Angeles to rural Oregon and everywhere in between.

Sometimes, there was no home to go to, so they slept in their ’62 Chevy; sometimes dinner was a slice of bread; sometimes they showered in a nearby park. Desperate yet ever hopeful, they clung to the only thing they had—each other. Through it all, Danny longed for his father’s love and approval, ultimately channeling his pain and transforming himself into Zoro, one of the world’s greatest drummers.

Eloquent, hilarious, and remarkably tender, Maria’s A Memoir of a Mother’s Love, a Son’s Perseverance, and Dreaming Big, tells the story of a family fighting for survival against almost insurmountable odds. Through laughter, tears, and many misadventures, Zoro touches the heart of every reader—young or old, citizen or immigrant—and speaks to the dreamer in all of us, emboldening everyone to live fantazmical lives.

445 pages, Kindle Edition

Published April 30, 2024

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Profile Image for Amy Hagberg.
Author 8 books84 followers
December 14, 2025
“The world said I would never amount to anything. My mother said all things are possible to those who believe. I believed my mother.” ~ Zoro

Maria’s Scarf is a beautiful memoir about the unbreakable bond between a mother and son, a family’s struggle to survive in the face of desperate circumstances, and a starry-eyed boy’s quest to live out his dream. From the very first page, Zoro’s journey pulls you in, tugging at your heartstrings with every twist and turn of his life story.

Raised in abject poverty, Zoro defied the odds stacked against him. Before the age of nine, his single mother, a Mexican immigrant, had moved her seven children over thirty times. They lived a hardscrabble life, were often homeless, hungry, and downhearted, but Maria’s unwavering belief in the power of possibility guided them through the darkest of times.

But Maria’s Scarf isn’t just about survival; it’s also about transformation. Zoro’s evolution from a fatherless, biracial child to a world-renowned drummer is nothing short of extraordinary. His journey took him from the mean streets of South-Central Los Angeles to the world’s biggest stages, where he shares the spotlight with music legends such as Lenny Kravitz and Frankie Valli and The Four Seasons.

Yet, amid the glitz and glamor, Zoro never lost sight of his roots. This isn’t a rock star tell-all. With his powerful truth telling, Zoro provides heartfelt encouragement to readers from all walks of life. His story is at times hilarious, at other times gut wrenching and tear-jerking. But in the end, Maria’s Scarf is the inspiring tale of a devoted mother who gave her very best to her children, a loyal family that never quit despite their struggles, and a boy’s unrelenting quest to reach for the stars.

Maria’s Scarf will linger in your heart long after you turn the last page. It is a triumph! 5 stars.

** Thanks to NetGalley and the publisher for a review copy of this book. The opinions are my own.
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19 reviews4 followers
June 3, 2024
I just finished Maria's Scarf this morning with tears in my eyes. It's a beautiful tribute to Zoro the Drummer’s dear mother and an incredible testimony to the author’s tenacity, faith, and courage. This rags to riches story kept me rooting for the author, because I love to see the good guys win. There is so much for book clubs to discuss and I hope you will take advantage of the opportunity to read this book, schedule a visit with the author, and be inspired!
Profile Image for Kaitlin Morgan.
20 reviews1 follower
August 20, 2024
This book aligns perfectly with one of my favorite soap boxes: the power of words. In the book, famous drummer, Zoro talks about how his single mother of 7 inspired him to make his dreams a reality. The intentionality of his mother (Maria) amidst dire circumstances is jaw dropping.

Throughout the book, Zoro shares the words his mom used to speak over him. One of these moments is when Zoro’s mom lets him wear her scarf to elementary school for picture day. When she gives it to him she tells him “you will do something fantazmical with your life” (330). The scarf moment becomes full circle when he wears it to play in the first big show his mom is able to see.

His mother’s words emboldened Zoro to go after it in life. There are plenty of anecdotes capturing this boldness. The top two for me were: 1. when he won over the kids who were bullying him with an epic drum solo in the quad. 2. When he faked going to a high school in Beverly Hills to make connections.

All in all, the message is loud and clear. Words are powerful. They can be used to build up those we love or tear them down.

Key Words: Fortitude, Dreams, Word Choice, Encouragement, Boldness, Bravery, and Perspective
Profile Image for F. Clay.
Author 7 books13 followers
January 6, 2025
From words on the page to narration (I listened to audiobook but started via Kindle), I devoured this book. It was such an easy read / listen because Zoro is a masterful storyteller, taking us back to richly described scenes from childhood and weaving in purposeful and relevant dialogue that keeps things moving and making you want to hear what happens next. Throughout the book, he builds on the wisdom gleaned from his mother and lives out a "fantazmical" life - because he was told from the start, he was destined for greatness. His self-inquiry and discovery is believable while his quest to know his father - though painful and ultimately disappointing - reveals the author's innermost yearnings yet also his strength and ability to rise far above despite his father's absence. At the very least, it seems he did "inherit" one critical thing from the father he never got to know: the drums, the heartbeat of his entire life. Worth the read!
Profile Image for Christin.
458 reviews
September 29, 2024
A fantastic, poignant memoir and story about family, faith, love, and passion.
Profile Image for Enchanted Prose.
333 reviews22 followers
May 28, 2024
What makes and is greatness? (Los Angeles, Oregon, tours/performances US, world-wide; 1969 to present-day, with backstory): Zoro’s story is the Impossible Dream.

Not the song from the 1965 musical Man of La Mancha. Nor one of the songs a knit-together-like-glue family swooned over. Nor one of the many chapter titles that evoke songs in this remarkably loving memoir by one of the world’s great drummers – Zoro. Repeatedly voted #1 R&B drummer in the world, the “Minister of Groove” (rock n’ roll and hip-hop music too) sends a rocking message to “keep dreaming and reaching for the stars” no matter how impossible that seems.

Born Danny Donnelly, Zoro legally changed and tweaked his name to honor a fictional cowboy hero with Mexican roots who fought for justice wearing a black mask. Nothing appears to be hidden in this story in which Zoro’s heart leaps off the pages. The emotions he expresses come through as overly optimistic given what he, his Mexican-American mother Maria, and his six brothers and sisters went through for years and years.

Above all the gratitude he feels, it’s his mother he “owes a great debt” to. Maria’s Scarf – what a symbolic title you’ll find it to be. It took some thirty years for Danny to become Zoro.

“The world said I would never amount to anything.

My mother said all things are possible to those who believe.

I believed my mother.”

He dedicates the first “Act” of Maria’s Scarf to his “saint” of a mother, whose dreams to be an actress were cut off but never wavered in wanting her children to find theirs. Consistently she tells Danny someday he will do something “fantazmical” – and he did. Love is what makes this story fantastic and amazing – the two words Maria combined to invent a memorable one. His formative years with Maria’s unwavering love is fittingly the longest part, consuming the first half of this 400+ page memoir. Vivid, crushing, memorable scenes that enable an appreciation of the depths from which Zoro overcame.

The second “Act” honors Armando, Mary, Ricardo, Patricia, Bobby, and Lisa – the siblings who watched each other’s backs he “shared the journey” with. And what a journey it is! Five different fathers, Zoro the fifth-born child, the first born in America; all singlehandedly raised by one strikingly strong and devoted mother whose beauty betrayed her.

The third “Act,” the shortest, celebrates the woman he fell instantly in love with, and his two children he loves the way he wanted his father to care about him.

In his early sixties, Zoro looks back on Danny’s impoverished childhood; aching feelings of low self-worth abandoned by his Irish-American father; how survival pulled his family together rather than apart; the racism he and his family were subjected to; and his never-give-up spirit, soulfulness, and wistful way he frames his story. The stuff of a motivational speaker, which he also is, along with being a great educator writing The Commandments of R&B Drumming. See:
https://youtu.be/2QYLS-daoU0.

You can get a good musical sense of the upbeat, nostalgic, and appreciative tone of this story by the titles of chapters: “Wind Beneath my Wings,” I Feel the Earth Move,” “With a Little Help From My Friends,” “Come Fly with Me,” “I Will Survive,” “When You Wish Upon a Star,” “Can’t Take My Eyes Off You,” and “I Just Called to Say I Love You.”

How can a memoir of such hardship before reaching fame be so positively told?

This isn’t a Nature vs. Nurture question. It’s abundantly clear it took both, but without the indefatigable nurturing of his mother, Danny might not have been equipped to boldly break-through-the-impossible odds he was up against. And yet, he tells us he was born with “an “uncanny ability to make people dance, to make them smile, to make them happy in a world that wasn’t always happy.”

Early in his life people told him, “Your groove will take you places you can’t imagine,” but he battled with the scars of low self-esteem caused by an absent father. We’re moved by how long he spent desperately trying to meet and create a relationship with him. Eventually, he found his identity through drumming.

Danny’s story opens when he’s five and living in South-Central Los Angeles in Compton, “the most crime-ridden zone neighborhood” in California. By the time he was ten, the family moved thirty times.

This isn’t a story of woe-is-me. It’s a look-at-me story of great pride and resoluteness to rise above.

Take a look at these two videos to see how charismatic, joyful, energetic, and grateful Zoro is:
https://youtu.be/l0wb07W5zrk and https://youtu.be/xsrs__YVdHs.

The word inspiring is used so often it doesn’t adequately describe how poverty and marginalization led to homelessness before Danny saw the possibility of his dreams. Imagine what it must have been like for his large family to live in a 1962 Chevy Nova when the family moved to rural, white Oregon with its disturbing racism. They also met some well-meaning people, who along with his eldest brother and a sister were instrumental in helping the family move up, first to trailers of varying size and space. Trailers they turned into homes, offering a respectful perspective on what it means to own a place of your own.

Once Danny’s talents became recognized, breakthroughs snowballed. By being in the right place at the right time, but mostly by sheer grit, practice, training, and a passion that won’t quit. The memoir then reads like a Who’s Who in the history of musical genres over the decades tracked, with a playlist a mile long. Maria loved the music of Frank Sinatra and Nat King Cole, so you’ll find all sorts of genres and legends you remember or learn of.

Friendships also make Zoro’s world go round. Chief among them is his lifelong friend Lenny Kravitz from their high-school-aged days when they dreamed of fame. Kravitz, who became a multiple Grammy award-winning rock n’ roll musician, was highly influential in Danny’s quantum leap to tour with the New Edition R&B group, “the most successful” in the 1980s, founded in Boston by Bobby Brown.

Thirty-pages of black-and-white images of Maria, brothers and sisters, friends, and a few icons Zoro played with visualize the written word. Lenny Kravitz is in a number of them, but not his friend Kennedy. Imagine being Danny driven in a Rolls Royce to his Beverly Hills mansion, then learning his father was Berry Gordy, founder of Motown Records. (Kravitz’s mother was Roxie Roker, the actress in the groundbreaking 1970s TV show, The Jeffersons.)

Other photographs show stories told of some of the heroes Danny grew up on Zoro played with – Frankie Valli and the Four Seasons, Earth, Wind & Fire, The Temptations.

This isn’t a story of naming names to be a bragger. It’s a story of: If I can do it so can you. Maybe not to the heights Zoro reached, but in terms of reaching for your dreams, sense of purpose, and happiness. All the while, remembering “family is everything.”
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145 reviews3 followers
June 11, 2024
I loved this book. It is a slice of life account of dreams deferred and dreams fulfilled. It is a moving and inspiring tribute to a mother who rises above every imaginable challenge to raise a family of 7 siblings. It is also the unabashed and emotional outpouring of one son’s love for his family, his friends and the country that made it possible for him to thrive. And last, but not least it is a testimony to God’s faithfulness in the life of one of “ the least of these” and how God raised him up to make him an encouragement to others.

At times, Danny Donnelly felt like he could never measure up. He lived hoping against hope that the father, who abandoned him in infancy, would someday acknowledge his achievements and show him the affection he craved. But when his circumstances brought him down, his mother was always there to remind him of his potential and to encourage him to chase after his dream to become the best drummer he could be. The book is a tribute to Maria, who never allowed him to give up on his dream. This is an unforgettable book.

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May 2, 2024
"Maria's Scarf" will open your eyes to a young boys dream of becoming a famous drummer, but all along wondering how it will ever be possible given his poverty stricken life. You will be emersed in Zoro's world the second you start reading. Riding along with him, tears will well up, your hope for him will rage, and in the end a smile will forever be cemented on your face because he made it! This is a book you will want to read over and over and share with your friends and family. It will give you the courage to accomplish whatever you have been keeping in your back pocket, along with being in awe of Zoro's faith, perseverance and his trust in his mother's love and inspiration to pull him though...
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14 reviews
November 17, 2024
This was such an inspiring and touching memoir of both parenthood and coming of age. I am not sure I expected to like it as much as I did. But I immediately identified with that young boy living in poverty and tore through each chapter. It is truly a fitting book for our times and subtly sends a message about what it means to be an American, to be human and where passion can lead us. I am so glad I picked this one up and so happy Zoro shared so much of his life with us. It touched my heart, brought tears to my eyes more than once and I'll treasure my signed copy for years to come.
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May 18, 2024
An amazing story of resilience, perseverance and family love and loyalty. Zoro does an excellent job of detailing his mothers love for him and his siblings while remaining trying to his faith and hope for a better life. I rooted for little Danny all the way through this wonderful book. Needs to be a movie!
182 reviews
November 23, 2024
A very different book for me. Wasn’t even on my “want to read” list. It was loaned to me by a neighbor and I gave it a shot. Even though it was kind of wordy, I did enjoy it. Good recounting of a biracial boy growing up in poverty and persevering to make his dream come true.
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193 reviews11 followers
June 24, 2024
An impact full book. A must-read.
95 reviews
January 6, 2025
Upbeat, inspirational story of a young boy abandoned by his father but loved and encouraged by his Mexican true s, goes on to become great drummer. rant mother
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89 reviews14 followers
March 21, 2024
I just finished reading the last page of Maria's Scarf by world-renowned Zoro the Drummer, and am writing this review thru blurried eyes and tears streaming down my face. How does one little boy, with every strike against him in life: poverty, absentee father, homelessness, racial discrimination, bullying, transform himself into a world renowned musician? Zoro's memoir will have you crying, cheering, seething with anger at how he and his family were treated, but mostly inspired, in awe, and full of hope. Because of his mother, Maria's, unconditional love and support, he believed her when she told him he could do anything with his life. With that undying love and support, and an audaciousness you have to read about to believe, Zoro transformed his life. If you just read one book this year, let it be this one, and make sure to tell everyone you know to add it to their reading list. We see you Zoro!
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368 reviews3 followers
May 7, 2025
This is, above all, a tribute to the astonishing fortitude and positivity of a most outstanding mother. It's a paaen to the power of a parent's words throughout childhood, adolescence, and adulthood. Zoro achieves his dreams almost wholly due to his mother's belief in him and her dogged efforts to give all of her children a better life. The story is also a tale of a youngster's determination to achieve what would seem an impossibility for someone in his station in life. Brava, Maria! Bravo, Zoro!

“The world said I would never amount to anything. My mother said all things are possible to those who believe. I believed my mother.” ~ Zoro
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333 reviews31 followers
May 2, 2024
I love reading memoirs that artists have written. They show us how they took a passion which many of us might have as children but actually followed through with it to become a career as an adult.
As a longtime fan of Earth Wind & Fire, Zoro’s memoir caught my eye and his mother’s unfailing devotion captured my heart. His mother inspires us to speak words of affirmations and love on not only our own children but any we happen to cross paths with. I want to buy myself an orange scarf to hang in my closet to remind me of the difference one can make in a child’s life.
Thank you Zoro!!
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May 12, 2024
Just finished the book today, which just happens to be Mothers Day. Just a great book of a mother loving her children unconditionally, and instilling confidence in them to never give up on their dreams. She did all of this as her family faced many challenges. What an inspiring story. Highly recommend reading it. It is well written and very powerful.
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Author 24 books3,369 followers
February 24, 2024
One of the best books I’ve read in years. Uplifting, hilarious, heartbreaking, and heartwarming, Maria’s Scarf is a revelation, a love letter to those who love us unconditionally.
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286 reviews1 follower
October 24, 2024
Very decent writing for a guy who made a living as a drummer (one of the best at it). His journey, his mother's permanent and unconditional love, are both inspiring.
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