Our New World of Adult Bullies: How to Spot Them ― How to Stop Them

by Bill Eddy

Genres: Psychology, Relationships

288 pages, Paperback

Published June 11, 2024

About the author

Bill Eddy is a lawyer, therapist, mediator and the President of High Conflict Institute. He developed the "High Conflict Personality" theory (HCP Theory) and has become an international expert on managing disputes involving high conflict personalities and personality disorders. He provides training on this subject to lawyers, judges, mediators, managers, human resource professionals, businesspersons, healthcare administrators, college administrators, homeowners’ association managers, ombudspersons, law enforcement, therapists and others. He has been a speaker and trainer in over 25 states, several provinces in Canada, Australia, France and Sweden.

As an attorney, Bill is a Certified Family Law Specialist in California and the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center in San Diego. Prior to becoming an attorney in 1992, he was a Licensed Clinical Social worker with twelve years’ experience providing therapy to children, adults, couples and families in psychiatric hospitals and outpatient clinics. He has taught Negotiation and Mediation at the University of San Diego School of Law for six years and he is on the part-time faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law and the National Judicial College. He is the author of numerous articles and several books, including:

High Conflict People in Legal Disputes
It’s All YOUR Fault! 12 Tips for Managing People Who Blame Others for Everything
SPLITTING: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
BIFF: Quick Responses to High Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email and Social Media Meltdowns

He is also the developer of the “New Ways for Families” method of managing potentially high conflict families in and out of family court. He is currently developing a method for managing potentially high conflict employees titled “New Ways for Work.”

Reviews

[David · Rating 3 out of 5]

I think this book is better read than listened too. So much of the content is something you want to keep as reference. Good ideas. Ironically, I thought the narrator came off as a bit of an authoritarian.

[Elizabeth · Rating 4 out of 5]

Very helpful at this moment in history. On p. 229, the book was distilled down to this gem for me:
"This knowledge should help us disengage from overexposure to today's media by limiting our consumption to what is really necessary. We have to realize that what we watch and what we repeat can make us part of the problem or part of the solution. This awareness should also motivate us to find a healthier balance and more realistic interactions with real human beings. After all, you get more of what you pay attention to."

[Cathy · Rating 5 out of 5]

Bill Eddy is knowledgeable, experienced, and kind. He sees bullying behaviour for what it is, gives many examples from current society, and useful suggestions for dealing with it in families and the workplace. I highly recommend!

[Sam With Veggies · Rating 5 out of 5]

FANTASTIC BOOK! What an incredibly niche topic about something that we all understand. Bullies. the words in here are impactful and remind us of what is and isnt respectable as well as normal. Loved this book and feel it would benefit so many people.

[Jess · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is such a well written and researched book. Not only was it easy to read and follow, but it's practical and truly helpful. With the amount of bullies we interact with, this is an important read! I highly recommend!!

[Oksana · Rating 4 out of 5]

Useful overview of high-conflict personalities. And how to deal with them. More like a generic framework, not necessarily a guide to could help to deal with one’s specific situation, but helps to reflect

[Snezhana, MD, PhD Djambazova -Popordanoska · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book - very useful and practical

The book provides great insight about our new worldof adult bullies with real life examples. The author writes in easy to unxersrand language and provides useful practical strategies of how to deal with these people. Highly reccommended!

[Suzanne Lorraine Kunz Williams · Rating 4 out of 5]

I've gone through more social bullying as an adult and social aggression than I ever did as a child. Who would have thought?! One would hope that people would get kinder and more mature as they age. I'm thankful for books like this one that teach us how to spot bullies and how to stop them. Notice the cover! It does sometimes take a village to stop bullies.