Satisfactions

by Peter K. Gerlach

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Premise :
From newborn infants to dying adults, we all communicate to reduce local discomforts - i.e. to "fill current needs." Doing that promotes
satisfaction . Anything you do that causes a significant
emotional-spiritual-physical-mental change in another person can be called communication .
Its impossible to "not communicate" with other people, for silence and inactivity cause reactions and presumed meanings.



The quality of your life and key relationships depends largely on the effectiveness of the way you communicate - yet you probably
dont know what you need to know about this vital life skill. To reality check that, mull these five



1) Name a learned skill that you rely on more often than
communicating to get your key needs met. Note that thinking is
internal communication.


2) How do you distinguish between effective and ineffective communication? If
youre not sure, how can you tell if youre communicating effectively in
important



situations?"

3) On a scale of 1 (totally ineffective) to 10 (totally effective), generally how effective a communicator would you rate yourself in calm times __ and in conflicts __ recently?


4) Identify the five most important people in your current life. From 1 to 10, how effective would you rate yourself in your communication with each of them in calm __ and conflictual __ times? How effective would each of them rate you?


5) Take your time, and
see how well you do
with this
communication quiz . Then return.


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First published October 28, 2003

About the author

A professional trauma-recovery and family systems therapist.

The author of the non-profit educational "Break the Cycle" website. (http://sfhelp.org)

Over 33 years of experience as a professional therapist, working with individuals, couples and families.

B.Sc. of Mechanical Engineering from University of Stanford
M.A. of Social Work from University of Illinois
Participated in hundreds of post-graduate seminars.

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