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What Happened to My Sex Life?: A Sex Therapist’s Guide to Reclaiming Lost Desire, Connection, and Pleasure
“An invaluable resource for anyone who wants to know where their sex drive went—and, importantly, how to get it back.”—Laurie Mintz, PhD, author of A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex and Becoming Cliterate
When your interest in sex takes a dive, it can be frustrating, isolating, and scary. You might feel pressured by a partner to “get back to normal,” or worry that you’re broken, no longer able to connect authentically to your sexuality.
You’re not broken, and you will feel desire again.
In What Happened to My Sex Life?, Dr. Kate Balestrieri—licensed sex therapist, founder of Modern Intimacy, and host of the podcast Get Naked with Dr. Kate—uncovers the twelve most common causes of a loss of libido. Then she shares what you can do to overcome them and reignite your passion.
Sometimes the cause of a dip in desire is obvious: stress at work, a fight with your partner. But often, it’s not so clear. Maybe you’re struggling with shame, burnout, or feeling disconnected from your body. Or maybe you’re dealing with libido-killers like a partner’s entitlement, a stagnating long-term relationship, or feelings of objectification.
Whatever the cause, once you know what’s behind your lack of interest, you can address it. With Dr. Kate’s compassionate guidance, you’ll be empowered to begin asking yourself what you really want from sex, befriending your body, confronting your mental blocks, discovering and sharing your turn-ons, and renegotiating your relationships.
Full of insightful analysis and practical advice, What Happened to My Sex Life? is your road map back to yourself, your sexuality, and your pleasure.
When your interest in sex takes a dive, it can be frustrating, isolating, and scary. You might feel pressured by a partner to “get back to normal,” or worry that you’re broken, no longer able to connect authentically to your sexuality.
You’re not broken, and you will feel desire again.
In What Happened to My Sex Life?, Dr. Kate Balestrieri—licensed sex therapist, founder of Modern Intimacy, and host of the podcast Get Naked with Dr. Kate—uncovers the twelve most common causes of a loss of libido. Then she shares what you can do to overcome them and reignite your passion.
Sometimes the cause of a dip in desire is obvious: stress at work, a fight with your partner. But often, it’s not so clear. Maybe you’re struggling with shame, burnout, or feeling disconnected from your body. Or maybe you’re dealing with libido-killers like a partner’s entitlement, a stagnating long-term relationship, or feelings of objectification.
Whatever the cause, once you know what’s behind your lack of interest, you can address it. With Dr. Kate’s compassionate guidance, you’ll be empowered to begin asking yourself what you really want from sex, befriending your body, confronting your mental blocks, discovering and sharing your turn-ons, and renegotiating your relationships.
Full of insightful analysis and practical advice, What Happened to My Sex Life? is your road map back to yourself, your sexuality, and your pleasure.
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288 pages, Hardcover
Published February 11, 2025
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June 9, 2025
Very good title on the different ways a person’s sex life (libido, interest, frequency) can be impacted. I’d say that this book is written primarily for women but everyone can learn from it.
This title is well researched and organized into groupings with the chapters further arranged into small sections. While I personally liked the book, I found it to be a little too “academic” and I fear that it won’t get the readership it was intended for or deserves because of that.
This title is well researched and organized into groupings with the chapters further arranged into small sections. While I personally liked the book, I found it to be a little too “academic” and I fear that it won’t get the readership it was intended for or deserves because of that.
January 19, 2025
A very enlightening and helpful guide to identifying the circumstances which may affect intimacy in a relationship. Each chapter deals with a different issue which may or may not apply - chapters that don't resonate can be skipped over without affecting the relevance or usefulness of the rest of the book. A must-read for anyone experiencing this issue.
July 20, 2025
Good and simple information. As we age it is natural due to many root causes, hormones and shifting priorities being two major ones, to have a decreased sex drive. Good communication and empathy are important in longterm relationships.
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