Learning Love: Build the Best Relationships of Your Life Using Integrated Attachment Theory

by Thais Gibson, Sjorland Gibson

Have you ever been in a relationship with someone and felt like you’re not on the same page? You say one thing, but your partner hears another? Or, after a big fight, you yearn for closeness but they want to withdraw? Or maybe it’s the other way around?These disconnects can be attributed to a difference in what are called “attachment styles.” Attachment styles refer to how childhood experiences shape our adult relationships and how these early bonds impact future connections. In the past, a person’s attachment style was considered unchangeable, but this is no longer the case.

You don’t have to feel as though relationships are impossible, with so many things left unsaid and misunderstood. You can heal your attachment style for good, changing the way you relate to everyone around you. In this revolutionary book, relationship expert Thais Gibson will help you discover how to build secure relationships in less than 90 days and transform your life from the inside out.

In Learning Love, you will learn the process of building fulfilling and fail-proof relationships that have you on the same page with the people you care most about. There is a better way to love―and be loved.

And it all starts with you.

Genres: Relationships, Self Help, Nonfiction, Love, Personal Development, Psychology

161 pages, Kindle Edition

Published December 12, 2023

Reviews

[Daniel Salinas · Rating 5 out of 5]

The Author Knows Her Sh*t!

This is one of the most straightforward and effective frameworks for becoming a securely attached individual and building better relationships with those you care about.

Big thanks to Thais Gibson for putting so much care, love, and clarity into her book. :)

[Shawna · Rating 5 out of 5]

Thais Gibson is a gifted writer and therapist. If you like her book, I recommend her YouTube videos and personal development school. It really augmented and enhanced the therapy work I have been engaged in.

[C.K. Sorens · Rating 4 out of 5]

The framework she offers to work through wounds and needs is amazing. I found myself wanting more, though, maybe an appendix with in depth charts regarding the wounds for each of the types. It would have been nice to feel more represented with concrete examples, like she did for her main ‘case study.’

[Henry · Rating 4 out of 5]

Learning Love offers a practical and insightful look into how our attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized—shape the way we relate to others. Through a clear formula and real-life case studies, the book helps you identify your own needs and how to express them in healthier ways.

It’s especially useful for people who often feel unfulfilled or abandoned in close relationships, or who want to create more balanced, supportive dynamics. Whether you're looking to improve how you connect with others or understand your own patterns better, this book is a valuable guide toward more conscious and fulfilling relationships.

[Ty · Rating 5 out of 5]

Attachment styles are important to understand any relationship (platonic, romantic, or family). Learning your attachment style and others help you improve your communication skills. The book provides great details and examples to help you become your best self. A quick read with a lot of information. My attachment style is secure attachment but after reading this I was better able to understand the attachment styles of those around me.

[Ellie Schwarz · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book was actually pretty good at explaining attachment styles without demonising avoidants. It was also pretty effective at helping to identify core wounds/needs and how to work on these. It’s definitely a good start to diving deeper into attachment styles and how to work on your own, have better relationships and communicate better.

[Costa · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a great book to read when you first start to learn about attachment theory. Went from zero knowledge to having a very good understanding of my relationships with people around me and myself and most importantly on how to get started on improving.

[Sydney Roehm · Rating 5 out of 5]

I love Thais Gibson

[Barbara Hawkings · Rating 5 out of 5]

Quick read. Super helpful, real solutions. I've known about attachment theory for years but didn't ever think about how it looks in adulthood.

[Sim · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is practical and I will reread it many more times in my lifetime. Expect to be challenged and inspired to get to know yourself in a whole new way.

[Elgin Bailey · Rating 5 out of 5]

Anxious Avoidant

This book was super helpful specifically when it comes to communication. I highly recommend this book to anyone who is struggling

[Helena Ankur · Rating 5 out of 5]

Suurepärane raamat, kui soovid ennast ja teisi paremini mõista.

[Vilma · Rating 5 out of 5]

Everyone should read this book. It provides a map to understanding the subconscious in a structured and clear way.

[Ethan · Rating 4 out of 5]

I don't think I enjoyed this book as much as Gibson's other book on attachment theory, but I still found this one extremely helpful and easy to understand. Definitely recommended for those struggling with interpersonal relationships