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Divorceless Marriage: Put It First, Make It Last
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First published July 28, 1998
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September 3, 2024Setting Ground Rules
1. No matter what, we will talk through the problem and find a mutually agreeable solution
2. If a conflict arises, or a decision affecting both of us has to be made, we will consult with each other before making a decision
3. Money matters will be discussed in private and without pressure from outside sources
4. Any one or any thing that tries to divide us or pit us against each other is to be held in mutual distrust.
5. Keeping each other informed is of paramount importance
6. Raised voices and physical violence will never be used to make your point or get your way
1. No matter what, we will talk through the problem and find a mutually agreeable solution
2. If a conflict arises, or a decision affecting both of us has to be made, we will consult with each other before making a decision
3. Money matters will be discussed in private and without pressure from outside sources
4. Any one or any thing that tries to divide us or pit us against each other is to be held in mutual distrust.
5. Keeping each other informed is of paramount importance
6. Raised voices and physical violence will never be used to make your point or get your way
January 2, 2018
Pretty basic things but always good to be reminded. Remember to do the little things, have mini honeymoons, don’t compete, don’t be selfish (‘I can’t have it my way, so you can’t have it your way), don’t use extremes (‘you always...’), manage debt, have priorities- spouse before others.
October 25, 2010
Don't let the title scare you away! This is a must read for ALL married couples! I read the book before Richard and I were married, as a single woman, but now we are reading one chapter a night! I found it on sale at the BYU Bookstore and I am so glad I bought it!
The author is a LDS man, and a well known Religious professor at BYU. His writing is ENCOURAGING! It isn't about divorce, it is about how to have the HAPPIEST marriage! We have enjoyed reading and talking about the chapters at night, it is a great read.
My one recommendation is ALWAYS read books like these BEFORE the fights start, BEFORE the mean words and vicious attacks happen in your marriage, start reading helpful advice books before those things trickle in!
The author is a LDS man, and a well known Religious professor at BYU. His writing is ENCOURAGING! It isn't about divorce, it is about how to have the HAPPIEST marriage! We have enjoyed reading and talking about the chapters at night, it is a great read.
My one recommendation is ALWAYS read books like these BEFORE the fights start, BEFORE the mean words and vicious attacks happen in your marriage, start reading helpful advice books before those things trickle in!
July 8, 2015
This book was too basic and simple, in an almost condescending way. It does not provide very deep, insightful suggestions. For instance, on the chapter about avoiding debt he suggests, "Taking shorter showers or turning off the water while you soap up, can cut down on your gas bill." First of all that was incorrect comma use. I cannot imagine readers so clueless that they desperately need the OBVIOUS advice he gives. But I could be mistaken.
This book was definitely not a complete waste of time, however. Bott has some excellent perceptions and I did underline at least one sentence in each chapter. Overall, it is worth skimming in one sitting and seeing what kind of perspectives a man who has had a successful marriage can offer.
This book was definitely not a complete waste of time, however. Bott has some excellent perceptions and I did underline at least one sentence in each chapter. Overall, it is worth skimming in one sitting and seeing what kind of perspectives a man who has had a successful marriage can offer.
February 1, 2008
I love this book, if anyone out there is wanting to read a book on how to have a happier marriage this is the one! The author is LDS, but he doesn't really mention that in the book and he uses a lot of examples. Creed and I aren't having any problems, I just know the author and found the book on sale, and I LOVE it!
February 12, 2008
I love this author--he was also a great professor of religion at BYU. The book is more about a happy marriage and not about divorce. The title is a little misleading. I wish the actual title would have been: Put It First, Make It Last.
March 23, 2009
My dad gave us this book for Christmas, and overall I really liked it. There were many times I said, "Man, I need to do that better" while reading. Some things didn't apply, but I think it's always smart to read marriage-strengthening books.
February 4, 2008
A lot of this is pretty basic, but it is a good book to read overall. I think there is something that any couple can gain from it.
August 4, 2008
Good ideas and messages, but very sloppy and poorly constructed! Randy Bott needs to hire a better editor. Or perhaps pay his college intern a little more.
March 29, 2011
Lot of his own opinion in it. Some of the things didn't work with us - but it worked with his relationship.
November 8, 2011
We got this book as a wedding present a few years ago, and it has great ideas for keeping the romance alive and building memories together. Definitely recommend to newlyweds and older couples!
September 28, 2012
Dr. Bott was one of my very favorite professors at BYU, so of course I liked his book. I know am biased. This is a good, practical, general book about how to be happy in marriage. Good stuff.
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