What Men Don't Talk About

by Maggie Hamilton

What do men and boys long for, agonise over, aspire to? Why are men often silent in dark and difficult situations? Why do so many find it hard to express how much they care? What do they look for in women? What do they want from committed relationships, from friendships? How do they feel about kids? What motivates them? What do they worry about? How do they see their bodies? What is life like for them as they age? Why do so many resort to suicide?

Every day we read articles about men- men at home, men at work, men in bed – but still the confusion and frustration between the sexes remain. Can we put the differences between men and women down to the influence of Venus and Mars, or are there more intricate dynamics at play? Is it true that men's lives are much easier than women's lives – that they have 'got it made'?

Surprising, illuminating and at times shocking, What Men Don't Talk About takes the reader far beyond the many stereotypes of men, and reveals how real men and boys view their world.

Genres: Nonfiction, Psychology, Audiobook

388 pages, Kindle Edition

First published January 8, 2007

Reviews

[Mohra · Rating 3 out of 5]

عرفت شيئا يسيرا عن عالم الرجال.كنت أجهله..
رغم وجهة نظري في أن هذة الكتب لاتلامس واقعنا بدقة..
لإن الأمثلة والقصص كلها طبعا من بيئة المؤلفة وهي طبعا بعيدة كل البعد عن مجتمعنا..
وهذا يؤدي أحيانا لصعوبة تطبيق بعض الخطوات العملية الواردة في مثل هذه الكتب
ولكن يظل كتاب جيد خاصة لبعض الفتيات اللواتي أعرف بعضهن ممن ينظرن للجنس الأخر فقط انه ظالم ومستبد وخالي من المشاعر..سيغير من نظرتهن..

[fa6em]

كان الكتاب لإحداهن وبدافع الفضول قرأته وتعجبت ! ، أحتاج لمتبرع من الرجال لقراءته ليخبرني بالمفارقه بين الرجل المذكور في الكتاب وبين الرجل الشرقي
=P

[Anita · Rating 3 out of 5]

What I enjoyed most about this book are the anecdotes from the men the author interviewed.

After 30 pages in, I was increasingly frustrated because it felt as though the author was trying very hard to turn me into a sympathizer of males. The writing seemed somewhat bias and I kept thinking, "so what, women have to deal with that as well". And then I realized.. That's the point!

We all have to go through the phases of life - childhood, adolescence, adulthood and elderhood. Males and females alike experience the different pressures from being a child to being an adult. Sometimes we forget because society perpetuates these gender stereotypes so it's important to be reminded that we all have feelings. And, your feelings matter regardless of your gender.

If you're a boy and you're being bullied. Don't feel you have to be strong and deal with it alone because you're not. Girls, before you tease a boy - remember that he also feels embarrassment, pain and loneliness. One day that boy will become a man and how he's treated as a boy will leave a mark so let's make it a positive one.

[مما قرأت · Rating 4 out of 5]

تحميل كتاب ما لا يقوله الرجال للنساء لـ ماغي هاميلتون من هذا الرابط
http://goo.gl/GbciL5

[Nell · Rating 2 out of 5]

For a moment at the start, it seemed good.
But it is showing it's 10-12 years of age, and it's lack of inclusiveness for LGBTIQA+ was sad.

[Sarah M · Rating 5 out of 5]

4.5

Really incredible. Done with such tenderness without being 'woe is me'.

The best books change your perspective on things, and this is one of them for me.

[Flyingbroom · Rating 2 out of 5]

Water is wet.

[Bianca · Rating 5 out of 5]

I found this book at lifeline for $2 and thought why not? I didn't expect too much but honestly this book has given me a lot to think about. As a daughter, a partner, a mother to a young son, and a sister to 4 brothers I found so much in this book just really hit home for me.

This book touches on issues for boys and men pretty much from the time they are born right through to retirement and becoming elderly. It has small snippets and stories from various men at different stages of life throughout, which I thought was a great addition. Some of the many topics covered included: the way we raise boys, relationships with parents, schooling, bullying, suicide, masculinity, relationships with women, becoming a father, divorce, retirement and ageing.
There's so much in this book to think about and process and I've dog-eared some pages to come back to (and I hate dog-earing pages so that's saying something). It's a book I will lend to friends and no doubt return to as my son goes through life's ups and downs and my male family members and friends age.

What men don't talk about was published in 2007 so although times have changed technology wise (for better or worse) the issues are still the same.

[سمر الشريف · Rating 3 out of 5]

ملخص هذا الكتاب: الرجال أيضًا يعانون!

يسلط الكتاب الضوء على حياة الرجل وتركيبته النفسية، منذ كونه جنينًا وحتى يشيب.
مليء بالمعلومات والحقائق، مبني على دراسات وبحث وحوارات.
يذكر بعض المشاكل التي تواجه الرجل والنظرة السائدة له، لا يقدم حلولًا جاهزة لأن الخطوة الأولى لحل المشكلة هو فهمها وهو ما تفعله بقراءتك للكتاب.

يستحق القراءة :)

[Any Length · Rating 5 out of 5]

A fantasic book every woman needs to read. It gave me a better udnerstanding of what makes men tick, what goes on in their minds, how they feel about things. That they may have a hard shell, but need love just as much as we women do. It also gave me much more compassion for divorced men, who often through little fault of their own get the really raaw end of the stick and get taken to the brink of emotional breakdown and financial ruin. I found out so much about men, it increased my appreciation of the men in my life 100 fold. True understanding of our differences and similarities will help us all to improve our relationships. This book is of real help in this quest.

[Rare Soul · Rating 4 out of 5]

رهيب جداً هالكتاب ..مشّوق..ممتع

[Elisabeth · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book was utterly bizarre. On one hand I agree with much of what the author was saying, but overall it left a very pitying and stereotype reinforcing feeling. Yes, men are often raised in a certain way due to cultural tendencies, but all of the examples given are really mostly western countries issues. It felt like one qualitative study with select participants written into a popular book. It really lacked the evidence outside of the couple of quotes to make any solid points. Anecdotal data is not enough to say that men carry all the financial responsibility for the family and women want to stay home and look after the kids.
Many points also are equally applicable to both men and women and are rather about prejudice and assumptions, eg that the parent wants to spend time with children but due to financial reasons is often at work. I completely did not understand some aspects, eg people looking odd at father playing with his baby/toddler instead of mother. Really?? Is the prejudice that high in Australia that only children with female guardians are considered normal??
So overall I found this without foundation and in a way a compete opposite to the Invisible Woman book, which actually shows inequalities with solid data.
But, I do agree that boys and girls should receive more similar upbringing regarding nurturing and enforcing no gendered behaviour.

[Celeste · Rating 3 out of 5]

This just makes me sad and it makes me realise just how sexist people can be towards men. The men in my family have always been open about their feelings, but thinking back it wasn’t often they shared those feelings with male family members, it was always female family members - proving this book right. Men struggle to open up to other men.

We look down on India and the Middle East for so many things, but the sense of community their men have is one thing they got right. I think it’s only going to get worse for the Western men, because less and less have hobbies that bring them together, all they do is go to work or stay home, if the do go out it always ends with alcohol and that is not health.

[Shivani Passi · Rating 3 out of 5]

Many points mentioned are applicable to both men and women.. what they look in a relationship, domestic violence, career wise, PTSD etc. Good research mentioned from various sources plus 100 of interviews from boys n men.

It doesn’t say “how parents should raise a boy differently to current or earlier times”

[Joseph · Rating 1 out of 5]

Zzz zzz zzz

[Fiona Whelan · Rating 1 out of 5]

Struggled through

[Sophie · Rating 2 out of 5]

Bits of it were interesting but overall it wasn’t for me

[Collette · Rating 5 out of 5]

This audio book was an inside look into....well... What Men Don't Talk About! and why they don't talk about it.
It was written and read by an Australian so to just listen to it was quite enjoyable for me but I did learn a thing or two along the way. The author conducted many interviews with a lot of different types of men. Some of the stories they told went from sad to downright horrifying. I did find myself shaking my head several times thinking how something I heard made a lot of sense in regards to the men in my life.
Being a woman that gets really frustrated with men and almost everyone else that isn't good at communicating, I really appreciated this book. Many of the ideas in it related to most people we come into contact with that can't always "share" themselves.
I could see me listening to this again in a few years when some of the ideas lose their shine.

[Aya N · Rating 5 out of 5]

كتاب اكثر من رائع من اهم واروع الكتاب التي حظيت بها ... كتب بطريقة البحث العلمي البحث المفصل الدقيق الذي يعرض الخقائق دون تشويه .... كتاب ياسر الالباب .. لقد صحبتني الكاتبة برحلة كل انثى بخاجة لها في عالم الرجال هناك الكثير من الافكار المغلوطة التي كانت لدي هناك كثير من الحقائق التي اكتشفتها .... اتمنى ان يدرس هذا الكتاب في الجامعات كتاب فعلا يستحق .....

[Deb Ingley · Rating 5 out of 5]

My family emigrated when I was 4yo, leaving behind my grandfather, uncles and cousins. My father died when I was 12. Consequently I had little contact with men growing up and they used to seem like aliens to me. This book offered great insights and I wish I had read it years ago.

[Meedo · Rating 1 out of 5]

so bad ...

[S00ma]

ff

[سين]

;;;

[Jahnavi Jha · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very well researched view into men's lives from childhood to old age. I learnt a lot from this book about men's issues and it has made me more sensitive to men in my life.

[Sahar · Rating 5 out of 5]

helpful book,makes women reconsider how to treat men.

[Nadia Aidan · Rating 5 out of 5]

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