What the Hell is He Thinking?: All the Questions You've Ever Asked About Men Answered

by Zoe Strimpel

What does he think if I sleep with him on the first date?

Why is he possessive even when he isn't all that into me?

What does it mean when he won't call me his girlfriend?

Why does he freak out when I leave my stuff at his house?

What the HELL is He Thinking?

Having spent a good part of her post-pubescent life picking apart dating dilemmas with her girlfriends over cocktails, Zoe Strimpel decided it was time to do something once and for all about the mystery that is the male mind.

So, instead of moping about in the Mars/Venus divide, Zoe did something completely crazy: she talked to actual guys, getting them to explain the tales of confusion that she had gathered from her friends. And - would you believe - they had a lot of gems to offer. So while she had their attention, she also asked them the Eighty Questions You Most Want Men to Answer.

Genres: Nonfiction

282 pages, Kindle Edition

First published August 24, 2010

About the author

Zoe Strimpel is a journalist, author of two indispensable dating books and a dating scholar. Having recently completed a MPhil at Cambridge in gender studies she is currently the Asa Briggs PhD scholar at Sussex, working on a thesis about the late 20th century history of dating.

Reviews

[Mairita (Marii grāmatplaukts) · Rating 2 out of 5]

Varbūt 2,5 zvaigznes. Nebija slikti, tikai šķita, ka par daudz un sāk tās problēmas atkārtoties. Grāmata noteikti aktuālāka randiņu periodā un var noderēt, lai iemācītos atpazīt sarkanos karogus, bet arī vispār noderīgi palasīt, kā vīrieši uzvedas un ko domā par randiņiem un tam sekojošo (seksu, attiecībām, šķiršanos un niansēm pa vidu). Tikai jāatceras, ka aprakstītie gadījumi un aptaujātie vīrieši ir tikai viena neliela grupa, lai gan tendences var pamanīt.

[Chocolaa · Rating 1 out of 5]

It might be helpful for some ... but for me it's just plain boring ... add to that the fact that I do not believe in Love and Relationship general rules... I believe that every person has his or her own set of rules ... and I believe that every relationship is different... that's why I choose to live and love like a free spirit :), also I choose to understand men as human beings and not as the other sex or gender ...

[Carla · Rating 2 out of 5]

Lo empecé a leer porque era el último libro en inglés de mi estantería (Sólo tengo 3) que me había regalado mi host family cuando viví allí y dije "Tienes que practicar inglés Carla, deberías leer algo en inglés" y por eso lo hice. Pero qué aburrido que es este libro por favor, me costó, si tuvo palabras que no había leído antes pero fue aburrido. Así que después de acabar con este y los adaptados de Oxford, y he decidido leerme la saga de Percy Jackson de Rick Riordan, que le tengo ganas, porque como son libros para niños me dijeron que eran fáciles, algún día seré capaz de leer los clásicos en inglés. Si tenéis alguna recomendación para leer en inglés estaría encantada de recibirla. 1'5/5

[Gisela Olsson · Rating 1 out of 5]

I read this for the MacMillan Book challenge, so could not choose that books to read as we where given a bundle of six books.
This is from 2010 published by Cosmopolitan and frankly in 2021 felt old. Or maybe it just me being old. This was very much a skimmed read

[Zuzanna Pusz · Rating 2 out of 5]

Meh, this is okay if ur single and want to get a bunch of little stories about how guys can be dicks and what to look out for. It's very documentary style, where you get case files. Interesting but after a while it gets boring.

[Mansi Narula Kashyap · Rating 3 out of 5]

When we differentiate a guy with a girl and Venus vs Mars, we realise that they both are so much different when it comes to love and relationships. This book by Zoe Strimpel tells you exactly that. When a girl is in a relationship, how she perceives her lover and what are her expectations from him versus when a guy is in a relationship what is he looking for? The reality is a little funny. Guys are a lot more chilled out when it comes to remembering anniversaries and dates and they don't really expect much. But girls are more bend towards the depth of things. They want closure while guys just ignore. The books also tells us about what a guy is thinking in a relationship. What turns him off and what makes him happy. What I could understood by this book is that Guys are turned off when girls try to be clingy.
Well, the book is very well written but honestly, I feel every guy is different in his own way. We can't really put them into one single opinion. It give honest answers to a lot of questions when you go on a first date. Do give it a read if you are into some kind of relationship and can't understand a thing why your guy is behaving the way you see it.

[Petra · Rating 4 out of 5]

Quite good book, which explains men's behaviour in a very clear and understandable way. It definitely clarified some things for me. However, every man is different and I don't think that every man fits into one of the categories mentioned in this book or he just partially matches one of the descriptions. Still highly recommended book.

[Deborah-Ruth · Rating 4 out of 5]

This was a fascinating book that I just couldn't put down. What I love about Strimpel is that instead of writing about guys, she went and asked a bunch of her guy friends how they would respond to various scenarios. It is clearly very secular, but an interesting read all the same.

[Gillian]

I got this free with a mag,but I don't think we'll ever know the answer to the question...lol

[Redfox5 · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book was okay. Some of it was funny. Think this would be more enjoyable for a single girl, playing the dateing game.

[Anisah · Rating 3 out of 5]

I purchased this book not knowing what it was about, so was a random read for me. However, this book was okay I guess.

[Dr Poesy · Rating 3 out of 5]

There are fond insights in there but in the whole it's a book for daters not mammals and I don't buy it.