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My Lady Parts: A Life Fighting Stereotypes

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Doon Mackichan is best known for her comedy characters in the hugely popular Brass Eye, Smack the Pony and Toast of London – but throughout her career there are parts she’s refused to take and stereotypes she's challenged to find more empowered characters.

The Feisty Feminist. The Hot Lesbian. The Desperate Cougar.

In My Lady Parts, Doon shares her experience on stage, screen and in real life, examining how our culture still expects women to adhere to certain stereotypes – and punishes those who don’t. Doon looks at the stories we are telling and what do these roles we give women tell us about their value in the society we live in? How do we hold our heads up without fear and say no to those that objectify us?

The Deranged Mother. The Stupid Tart. The Hag.

This is a courageous, vulnerable and empowering account of being a woman in an industry that has been exposed for its deep-rooted sexism. It is, above all, a call to reflect on – and radically rework – the implications such attitudes have for future generations.

256 pages, Paperback

Published November 11, 2024

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Profile Image for Lauren pavey.
383 reviews10 followers
September 24, 2023
I’m not really sure what I expected when I started this book but it turned out to be the perfect book to get me out of my reading slump !
As an 80s baby I relished growing up watching smack the pony, listening to female empowerment songs, we were the generation that told us women can do anything and be anything but sadly things were not as straight forward as Doon mackichan shows.
Her memoir is straight talking and details with humour and wit how standing up for your principles in such a cut throat world can sadly and oh so easily label you.
Her tale is so open and honest it could be seen as vulnerable but the unabashed honesty I found to be incredibly empowering. She owns her past and conveys a fearless lioness who owns her own power and strength and who fights for the things she values most in this world.

I would highly recommend !
Profile Image for Kahn.
590 reviews3 followers
June 18, 2024
To many of a certain age (hi there!), Doon MacKichan is nothing short of a comedy hero.
The scene-stealing star of Toast was one third of the ground-breaking, award-winning sketch show Smack The Pony - a show that somehow managed to be hilarious despite starring and being written by women.
Who knew that was possible, eh?
I've been a fan since then, and generally take the view that if Doon is in it, it's worth watching (Good Omens proving my point).
And she was the other reason I found myself in a tent in the grounds of a small stately Norfolk home one nippy Saturday, as she held a Q&A about My Lady Parts. She was, once again – despite Adam Buxton regularly putting himself at the centre of anecdotes and questions – hilarious.
Which is what you find with the book, and much, much more.
Detailing the life of a working actress and mother, Doon not only takes us into her precarious world but she also shares deep, personal moments.
Not least, the major health issues her son – and the rest of the family – had to survive when cancer came knocking.
I was in tears before I got halfway through that chapter.
And then there's Doon's activism.
Written with passion and anger, Doon has been fighting against the depictions of violence against women for some time (to some good effect, too), and it's an important, worthy, cause that she talks us through here.
There's also the time she swam the channel to fund a play.
This book is the very definition of a rollercoaster ride.
It would have been easy to just do a sanitised biography, a few anecdotes and tales of telly life, and that would have been fine.
But Doon's not one for doing the easy thing, which is great because it means we get rewarded with this rich tapestry and a life fully experienced.
Profile Image for Abi Pellinor.
891 reviews81 followers
February 18, 2024
This book was sent to me by the wonderful folks over at Canongate in return for an unbiased review. Of course I had to say yes when I saw that this was a feminist memoir by someone who had been in Good Omens!

Oh. My. God. This was absolutely hilarious, insightful, and a great discussion on women in comedy. Both today and in the past few decades. Doon is a riot and that really shines through in her writing. I couldn't put this book down.

The balls on this woman! She's who I want to be when I grow up! (I say at 27). I absolutely zoomed through this in just two days, I could barely put it down. Doon has had such an eventful life, filled with positives and negatives, but through it all she's remained a badass. I highly recommend giving this book a read, and I'm very excited to go back and watch the shows that she mentions in here. Especially Smack the Pony!

Also the bollocks grab?!?! BEAUTIFUL. Recommend for that alone 🤣
Profile Image for Claire.
70 reviews
September 30, 2024
So depressing, so true.
I recently threw out a pile of letters men had written to me. I never tallied the crap on a daily basis, went with the positive thinking, just keep moving on. I actually think that was a mistake. I reread a 2003 Caitalin Moron review, I'd forgotten she was like the execs, only one woman per category on TV please.
Doon kept hers notes, kept the weirdness, the unfairness, the anger. Must been hard pulling that back into the light.
I bloody hope this allows her to pay the mortgage off.
And I'm pretty certain Baddeil had to have laughter dubbed onto his Shaftesbury Theatre show.
It's clearly missed so much out, so many more times, the 'did he really say that's moments'.
The biggest positive thing to come out of this is Doon's wish to make the world easier for the women coming along behind, her work in the moment and the inspiring list at the end.
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128 reviews6 followers
October 2, 2024
It’s been a long time since I read a book that really made me look at the world in a different way. This autobiography is challenging in all the right ways. Doon is an astonishingly strong and insightful woman who writes about the mysogny in the dramatic arts with a mixture of rage and deep sadness. Although that sounds serious, and it is, she manages to balance the dark with the light of those moments her success.
This is an emotional, enlightening and supercharged read that I recommend for everyone.
435 reviews4 followers
March 3, 2024
I only know Doon M through Two Doors Down, in which she is brilliant. Her acting life has been exhausting to read about, so actually living it must have been utterly exhausting. This book is a revelation and I applaud her enormous efforts to improve women’s experiences on stage and screen. A fearless woman!
57 reviews1 follower
February 1, 2024
Not a typical autobiography but a run through of Doon’s experiences as a woman and the barriers and attitudes she’s faced as a performer over the years. An eye opener in places and depressingly familiar in others. I enjoyed it overall and admire Doon’s principles and resilience.
8 reviews
October 14, 2023
Had the pleasure of meeting Doon at The Mannington Book Bash. She is an incredible woman.

Bold, bright & brilliant!


Just read the book.
Profile Image for Mike Clarke.
576 reviews14 followers
May 31, 2025
Doon not out: looking for a frothy celeb biog where comedienne spills the tea on her famous friends - Steve Coogan, Sally Phillips, what Tamsin Greig said to her in rehearsal at the Royal Court, how she shared a cig break with DeNiro? Look not here for this isn’t it. Instead, we have a straight-talking polemic demolishing sexism and misogyny in the entertainment industry.

Mackichan angrily takes on the rules and mores, the directors casting “desperate cougars” and “brainless sluts”, the casting agents who suggest showing a bit more cleavage, the ageing (male) stars and creatives who somehow always seem to be surrounded by much younger (female) acolytes and ‘feeds’.

#metoo and Harvey Weinstein may have brought all this to the fore but it hasn’t gone away, and few are spared - Ricky Gervais who tried to muscle in on Smack The Pony, a pioneering female-created and performed sketch show, because it was ‘women’s comedy’ and he wanted to help [sic] them upgrade to ‘comedy’; the Mary Whitehouse Experience gang, an all-male quartet whose laboured student humour was briefly popular in the early 90s and who employed Mackichan as a straight woman aka stooge, to be ignored and talked over; and David Mamet, whose Weinstein play somehow, mysteriously, managed to wrest control of the narrative back to a male playwright. Even Chris Morris and Armando Ianucci, arch-disrupters of comedy, don’t emerge unscathed, their tendency to place women in the male glare does not escape scrutiny.

Mackichan is a fine actor, both comedic and straight; she has brilliant timing and seems to inhabit the roles she plays to a greater extent than most. Having seen her in the West End, I can attest to a magnetic stage presence. Yet she’s been underserved by casting in her long career and hasn’t had the same public recognition of some of her peers (Greig, Michelle Gomez, Siobhan Finneran spring to mind). My Lady Parts is an investigation into why.

It’s angry, sometimes difficult reading - I hadn’t really thought about the preponderance of female dead bodies on the small screen - but also funny and eyebrow raising. Maybe there’s a lot less full-front male nudity on TV because - did you know? - they get paid more than women for getting their kit off. Something about the fragile ego…

Lifting the rock and peering under is sometimes a very good idea indeed, even if what we see is disturbing or icky. And if you want froth and flummery, there’s always Joan Collins’s diaries. Encore, madame!
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215 reviews11 followers
May 18, 2025
At the end of this book Doon does a Q&A and she’s asked about responses to the book. She says Men are shocked but women aren’t - I certainly was shocked at the unrelenting stories of how she’s been treated by predominantly men in the industry but also not entirely surprised.
This book contains her biography as a series of stories about sexism, misogyny and unequal gender relations. What’s important in this completely compelling book is the more subtle types of behaviour often involving scripting and the status of characters that demean women or reduce them to functional stereotypes with little nuance or depth. She’s been actively fighting this her whole career and has called it out wherever possible - tricky when your income depends on it. Still sketchily written characters; nude scenes; removal of clothing ; the male dominance of many key roles and behaviour within casting and rehearsal processes are clearly explained in powerful anecdotes.

That she often called this out ; didn’t compromise ; demanded what she wanted/ needed sometimes lost her jobs or made them impossible. Occasionally there were big wins but usually at a cost. There is humour of course and interesting accounts of her comedy work especially in Smack
The Pony. Most of her most successful projects have been female led. There is also the narrative of her life including powerful and moving words about the times of crisis in her life - when her son contracted cancer and also an atmospheric and exhausting chapter on a cross channel swim where the writing was very fine.

So a showbiz biography this ain’t. She doesn’t often name drop; she’s not prurient or gossipy but it’s a compelling account of a successful career built on determination to make her own choices. There are no pictures or photos in the book perhaps adding to the difference this book promotes and towards the end there are self help elements for young actresses including a bibliography and almost a manifesto for how the industry still needs to change - for example the continued preponderance of programmes that promote violence against women particularly in the crime genre.

Recommend if only sadly to see how much more there is to do to go beyond the intimacy coaches and safe spaces .
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193 reviews10 followers
August 20, 2025
Doon Mackichan has been one of the most reassuring comedy presences on British TV since the mid-80s, when she first appeared beaming in the title sequence of the largely forgettable Five Alive sketch show. Despite being given little to do, she stood out, and went on to bring a rich and creative comic flair to a wide range of film, theatre, and TV roles. She’s been key to the success of groundbreaking shows like The Day Today, Smack the Pony, I’m Alan Partridge, and Toast of London – the list goes on.

This excellent book, as she makes clear in her introduction, is not a traditional showbiz memoir. The name-dropping is limited, the luvvie anecdotes infrequent. Instead, she gives us a powerful and enraging look at the realities for women in the largely men’s-club world of entertainment: stolen credit, invisibility, sidelining, “bit more cleavage, love”, stereotypical cutout roles, the eyerolling of male colleagues, crime dramas that fetishise violence against women and show them naked on mortuary slabs. Mackichan endured all of this and never stopped challenging it, even when her personal life was at rock bottom.

I ‘read’ this as an audiobook, narrated by Mackichan herself, and I’d recommend this as an especially effective way to experience her anger, her outrage, her rebellion, her strength, her suffering, and her triumphs. When she works with other creative women who want to collaborate and innovate, her joy is palpable.

This is an eye-opening, and at times jaw-dropping, book.
Profile Image for Ian Mapp.
1,343 reviews50 followers
January 12, 2025
Interesting and easy to read memoir - well, more of a feminist rant - about Doon's life in the acting/comedy world and balancing motherhood, mortgage payments, illness and cross channel swimming.

Plenty of barbs about casting directors, other comedians and the industry in general. However, its all a little one sided and at times, reads like Father Ted's presentation speech. There is a platform for people to be had a go at but no opportunity for them to defend themselves. And sometimes the detail isnt quite there. For instance, there is an obvious dislike of David Baddiel during the height of his laddish comedy days. The real reason for the anger is not really detailed - and of course, Baddiel has no ability to come back.

Big fan of her work and this covers most things - Smack the Pony, Toast and some other ancient comedy sketch shows that I had never heard off (Glam Metal Detectives - check out YouTube).

Sadly, no mention of her latest - two doors down. Which is a work of comedic art.
Profile Image for George.
108 reviews1 follower
January 19, 2024
Doon is a fierce feminist, having made some strong decisions about what she will accept during casting, how female roles should be portrayed on screen and modern beauty standards that have often effected her work, and ability to work.
She's also had to deal with various medical issues, including a major scare with her young son's health. I enjoyed hearing about her life a lot more than I thought I would, even without there being much to laugh at. Doon spends lots of time in Banstead and Sutton which, for me, was unexpected and familiar. The book is written in excerpts, with a casting call style introduction to each. I really enjoyed this autobiography, which the author also reads the audiobook of. 
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303 reviews9 followers
June 1, 2024
An interesting memoir about acting roles and motherhood. I found the passages about Mackichan’s son’s illness particularly affecting because she’s so honest about how that all felt. I could identify with quite a lot of it, because we had the unwelcome visitor of cancer too, and it undoubtedly wreaks havoc in the family.
I applaud Doon for standing up for women in her work and I want to read some of the books in the excellent bibliography. I do LOVE a good bibliography/further reading list, and this one is truly useful and appealing.
Profile Image for Ria.
2,488 reviews36 followers
October 3, 2023
I impulse-borrowed this from Libby, as I had fond memories of Smack the Pony and I thought the blurb sounded interesting. But I don't think I was ready for how gloriously furious this would prove to be - understandably furious and very inspiring in Doon Mackichan's commitment to standing up for what is right, even when it isn't what is easy. I hope the book is a success and she receives good opportunities as she moves into her 60s, women of all ages deserve to be on screen in all their glory.
4 reviews
January 6, 2025
I know the classic comedy show now on channel 4 oD, and have looked up the radio work described vividly behind the scenes, with Doon's excellent writing. The book describes the actor as a person and her activism that you would not know just enjoying the TV shows. It is well-structured and I am not such a big reader but this (in hardback) was gripping from start to finish. In this book I learned that Dave Baddiel is not only a racist but a sexist too.
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19 reviews
December 27, 2023
One of the best books I have ever read! I picked this book up in Waterstones on the off chance after seeing it and recognising Doon from Two doors down. She is truly a role model to all! Not just is she extremely talented but also an inspiration, especially to women! The last chapter, encouraging women to love themselves as they are, regardless of the pressures from society, had me in tears ❤️
Profile Image for Grace Jackson-Sedgwick.
8 reviews
July 18, 2024
I saw Doon doing a talk alongside Helen Lederer while at Hay Festival this year and bought this book in advance. I know of Doon through Two Doors Down, but now I have read her book, I now want to seek out her other works! Her passion and determination to make the world equal and equitable jumps off the page and I found it really empowering. Angry, funny and poignant in equal measure.
Profile Image for Caitlin Neil.
89 reviews
September 10, 2024
until reading this, i don't think i realised the extent of sexism and blatant exploitation of female stars in the tv industry, and reading this book made me disappointed by our society. but on the other hand, doon is a brave woman who has been through so much and come so far, and i think that's worth noting.
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633 reviews6 followers
December 25, 2024
Very much of a piece with Zawe Ashton's Character Breakdown. It is absolutely mind boggling how bad the acting world can be for 50% of the population. Yet while infuriating, this book is always engaging, I read it pretty much in one sitting.

The frequently mentioned radio show, Body Count Rising is a must listen and available here
https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b07w...
Profile Image for Dan.
175 reviews1 follower
January 12, 2025
Feminist adventures from Her off Two Doors Down and many other things. Tales from the days of alternative comedy, a visit to the world of light entertainment, then into acting... with some unsurprising revelations about dreadful men in comedy. The chapters about real life interrupting the acting jobs are a highlight.
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96 reviews1 follower
March 3, 2025
Doon MacKichan has had an interesting and eventful life. I'm sure that she has lots more she could say and should. I loved this book, so much feeling, moral dilemmas, motherhood, feminism covered. Mistaken choices discussed and lessons learned. I felt sad at the end because it did highlight the societal structure that still massively favours men.
Profile Image for Grant McLanaghan.
29 reviews
June 16, 2025
Less an autobiography than a feminist manifesto. That said, a couple of chapters are devoted to her son’s severe illness. Your mileage may vary, however. While she sticks to her principles, some may find the tone too didactic. Me? I admire Mackichan for sticking to her guns (and thus forging a less-than-smooth career path) and for refusing to have any work done.
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56 reviews23 followers
August 9, 2025
seemed at first this wasn't a proper biog, which i always find annoying probably because I'm autistic and find it difficult reading stuff that isn't in a traditional format. However Doon, as well as being a wonderful actress/comedian, is a gifted writer and this book recollects some of the tough times she has been through, as well as the highs. Recommended.
Profile Image for Lauren Nicol Deaton.
159 reviews
August 24, 2025
Really liked this. I absolutely love her in Two Doors Down I think she's a brilliant. I feel like inspiring actors would really appreciate this as well because she gives a great picture of what the film/TV industry is like without naming names etc which is also really good of her.

I think she would be a fabulous person to have a glass of wine and a chat with.
Profile Image for Jennifer Paterson.
87 reviews
September 25, 2023
I was totally gripped by this book! What an interesting life she has lived and continues to do so. So much food for thought too which I will definitely take away with.
Hopefully it won’t be the last book written by her.
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9 reviews
November 4, 2024
Enraging and really upsetting in some bits, not a great relaxing beach read, but hugely important and well-written.

I really admire Doon and this book made me feel braver.
Everyone not happy with a status quo should read it!
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Author 11 books5 followers
October 20, 2025
This book hits hard but is hugely recommended to anyone with even the vaguest interest in the realities of being a working female actor in a very male world. Would I had even the ounce of resolve and fight Doon has. Also: there's several pages on "Doon Your Way" which I adore.
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13 reviews1 follower
November 11, 2023
Always loved her from Smack The Pony, after reading this my adoration deepens. What a badass! A great read.
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