Marlene Dunham's first non-fiction narrative, Embracing the Navigating a Family’s Mental Illness, tells of her own family’s struggles with bipolar disease, schizophrenia, suicide, and acute mental disability. Additionally, this memoir serves to illustrate how our society has progressed in its treatment, diagnosis, and destigmatization of mental illness.
“Embracing The Shadows” shines a light on the mental illness landscape. From the past to the present, and the impacts it has had, the research within oscillates from a medical standpoint, genealogical standpoint and that of the author’s own family.
Author Marlene Dunham didn’t set out to simply entertain with her family’s story, but to educate and inform in a way that brings to light the conversations surrounding mental illness. Coming from a family with their own diagnosed mental illnesses, I was drawn to Marlene’s story. “Embracing The Shadows” is laid out in such a way that provides background on the diseases within, as well as the history of treatments and their impacts. Additionally, Dunham provides prospective from each of her surviving siblings as they reflect on their upbringing and lasting effects of living in a family with members suffering from mental illnesses. Starting with the union of her mother and father, readers get a sense her father brought with him some baggage. At one point it is detailed that even his psychiatrist told her mother to run prior to their union. Regardless, the marriage took place and six children resulted over the years.
From prolonged hospital stays to various medical treatments and the introduction of lithium, the ups and downs of her father’s manic periods and depression took its toll on the family. As each sibling recounts their childhood, the love or lack thereof they felt, and the reverberating repercussions of living in a family with prevailing mental illness, readers are given a front row seat to the impacts it had on each of their lives. Even our author recounts her own experiences incidentally joining a cult, which she traces back to likely stemming from her upbringing.
I related to Dunham’s story, her family and their fears and experiences. Mental illness is rarely discussed in families, there is a negative stigma that can persist around it, but Dunham cracks the door open and allows for a dialogue to help embrace topics often kept in the shadows. Providing both research and her own experiences Dunham has created a read that validates, verifies, and vindicates for all living with, or loving someone with mental illness.
Marlene Dunham's 'Embracing the Shadows: Navigating a Family's Mental Illness' is a gripping read of one family's mental illness journey, a multi-generational arc of personal and familial endurance and legacy. The author reveals then explores not one but a host of family mental illness challenges and engages the reader in frank discussions, expositions, and heartbreaking inter-generational experiences of disassociation, loss, and finally, attempts at redemption. In her book Ms. Dunham's family's illness arc begins with her parents' marriage in the mid 1950's and brings us right up to the present to 2022 as the author reveals a critical decision to find and visit a younger brother, commited to a mental facility in the early 1960s, lost to the family for decades. 'Embracing the Shadows: Navigating a Family's Mental Illness' is a survey of both deeply personal and societal revelations that the reader hopes at books end will heal the author and her family.