This books gives a name and very helpful context to something I’ve been trying to define for decades: relational agency as the antidote to loneliness, a way to create the meaningful connections that I (and my fellow humans) need in order to thrive and survive. In this book David Jay generously offers vulnerability, insight, and research to the matter of relationship, as well as an invitation to attend to it in our lives and communities.
More than advice for moving away from loneliness personally or building connection in a business context, Relationality mostly offers a lens of looking at the world and at what is valuable that is different from traditional power structures oriented around predictable results. It is highly autobiographical and also pulls from a greater history in showing the power of relationship.
The focus and lens here is strongly on the idea of Movements; I'm trying to take that as an extrapolation that anything can be considered a movement because it effects change, but it does sometimes make it hard to see the points as generalizable.
This book makes a strong argument for the importance of investing in relationship to change the world. It offers suggestions for ways to measure the health and outcomes of the movement, even without a KPI-driven "number go up" system. It offers reflection more than action: how does this affect your life, or how can you imagine things differently?
To me, this book is like a single node in a relationship. It will be interesting to see what other writers and thinkers make in conversation with Relationality going forward and how some of the world envisioned in these pages can come to fruition.