To Tend and To Hold: Honoring Our Bodies, Our Needs, and Our Grief Through Pregnancy and Infant Loss

by Eileen Rosete

A gentle companion that embraces you with love as you endure, grieve, and heal from pregnancy and infant loss“We, too, are postpartum after pregnancy and infant loss,” says Eileen Santos Rosete. “And we deserve the same care all who give birth need, with an added sensitivity to our grief and our trauma.”Pregnancy loss. Infant loss. Womb loss. Each of these heartbreaking moments is as valid as any other, yet these experiences and the individuals who endure them remain largely unrecognized and unsupported. To Tend and to Hold honors survivors and the depth of what they’ve gone through with a reverence that has, until now, been missing.Within this carefully crafted resource, Rosete emerges as a warm confidante, helping us articulate our experiences, understand our options, and tend to our unique needs as both postpartum and bereaved.Woven with threads of wisdom from a trusted collective of health and healing arts practitioners, comforting stories, nourishing postpartum recipes, and grounding embodiment practices, To Tend and to Hold is a heartfelt, holistic source of solace for all who bear loss.

280 pages, Hardcover

Published October 22, 2024

About the author

Eileen Santos Rosete, MSMFT, PCD(DONA), CYT 200, holds a master of science in marriage and family therapy from Northwestern University and is certified as a DONA International postpartum doula, trauma-informed yoga teacher, and grief educator. Her brand, Our Sacred Women®, is known for its elevated offerings that help women feel seen, held, and honored. She is especially passionate about supporting all who give birth and are postpartum both after live births and after loss.

Reviews

[peg · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is such a powerful companion and guide for all those who have experienced womb loss. As a perinatal mental health therapist and someone who has not experienced womb loss, this book has been a helpful resource for me as I support my clients through their pregnancy and infant loss. Thank you Eileen for creating this space for so many who need it

[Mary-Beth Kinchen · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is trauma-sensitive and a perfect guide for different scenarios for womb loss. I do wish I would have accessed it in the immediate aftermath of my loss as there are several supports for navigating during the loss, but it was still incredibly helpful. For me personally I found that I have to be in the space to use this support as it can be overwhelming at times to read all the various things you can do, but if you’re looking to regulate your nervous system mid and post loss, this is definitely the book!