3.5 This definitely made me think and reflect on my values and experiences.
Like (too) many books these days, this one needed a better editor. It was way too long and bogged down with too many extraneous details.
It is impressive that she fulfilled her dream of being the first Black woman Supreme Court justice, and she is not at all hesitant about tooting her own horn, which I suppose is not unusual for a memoir, but just turned me off a little. She went to Harvard, HLS, worked as a journalist, public defender, clerked DCt and appellate court as well as for Breyer, worked for firms (what is now) Baker Botts, Goodwin Procter, MoFo and Sentencing commission before becoming district court judge and appellate court judge.
No doubt about it — Justice Brown is indeed an amazing woman. I was surprised at how prominent a role identity politics played in her life which I guess is consistent with her persona, but I was exhausted just reading about it and can’t imagine how exhausting it must be to go through life through that lens. For instance, her parents told her a story of how they bought fish from a fishmonger for a dinner party. When they got home, they discovered that the fish was spoiled, and could not be served. K wonders if the incident had any racial undertones. Her parents don’t think so but wow! to constantly be judging every encounter through that perspective! And I would question whether it’s productive? Likewise, one day she is playing with her white friend, and they lose track of the time. Her mother is beside herself, and K comments, how these "rules of self protection of where they could go, and when they were allowed to go literally kept them alive.” The Black girls killed in ATL. The first time she goes to Patrick’s fancy cc and is the only person of color in the entire place. Is Talia’s intolerable behavior at school the volatility or also because she “doesn’t belong” because she is Black? Doesn’t this stuff happen to other races? Other socio-economic classes? Seems a little simple to attribute everything down to race.
Her parents are matter-of-fact and worked hard to ensure unfair stereotypes didn’t undercut her budding self conception. Instead, they intentionally shored up capacities they had identified and made clear K had to be willing to stretch herself to work as diligently as she knew how. “Can this be done? Have you seen other people do it? If it is possible for a person to do this thing, then you can do it too.”
She was nerdy in HS and very involved with debate. I was not aware that she was raised with professional, wealthy parents, I found her views on affirmative action interesting. While she had white friends throughout HS (only one other Black girl in her class which seemed to me to be a bit of a lifeline) but at Harvard found close friends who were all black.
K’s uncle who went to jail for drug distribution. She argues his sentence was too long (he served 28 yrs), But certain things don’t add up. After release, he relocates to Atlanta in 2018 and “ the siblings lost touch after that.” What? Different ideas of punishment. Focus on retribution or enforcement of a moral code versus survival, terminating the conflict and reintegrating everyone peacefully back into society. Likewise, Hammurabi & Kant: punishment should be based on the harm cost and is warranted simply and solely because the offender has done something wrong. In this view, it would be disrespectful if human beings as responsible, moral agents not to punish lawbreakers and proportion to their wrongdoing. In another philosophical camp, the utilitarians old perspectives, Plato, Hobbs: punishment is justified only by the end it achieves such as promoting good conduct by the punished individual or preventing evil in the future is only moral to punish someone if it doing so achieves the greater good deterrence
Recognizes importance of language (excoriating Ebonics as a fully fledged language); Confederate flag; Her trip to Africa “When did you leave us?” & “Welcome home”
Her skin prickled with chills and a flood of emotion welled in her. I am home v Asian experience of not feeling as if you quite fit in either place
One of the few things I knew about Jackson before picking up this memoir was that she married a white man whom she met at Harvard. Patrick was an nth generation Harvard grad, a Boston Brahmin and goes on to become a surgeon. I was very curious how she met and married him, especially after perusing the photos where it seemed everyone in her orbit was black, and everyone in his orbit was white. Obviously, their values were very much aligned, and Patrick dated at least one other black woman before K.
Her struggles with older daughter Talia, who winds up being diagnosed with autism. It challenged her belief that if you work hard enough, you can make things come out the way you want, but there was nothing they could do to make Talia conform to the vision they had for her life.
My favorite parts of the book initially were when she talked about balancing mom and career as much of her struggle resonated with me. But then she reverted to form when she once again brought in gender and race even though K&P were quite balanced with housework responsibilities. And I was surprised that my reaction to the ending when she spoke about her family was that it was not sincere but contrived and trite.
-you can get exasperated at the tone of some of the questions or you can be a Supreme Court Justice.
I also thought it was interesting that for being such a proud progressive, there were still so many sexist rituals she espoused ie her hubby approached her parents before her to get married (and nobody gave this antiquated practice a second thought), her dad gave her away at her wedding; she didn’t retain her name etc, even using phrases like “time waits for no man”