✰ 3.75 stars ✰
“Maybe if I tell my story, even just to myself, it will set off a spark. But where does my story even start? Where does any story start? What in the past makes the present what it is? He said this. She did that. This happened. Then this took place.
Change it all to ifs and maybes and it can mean another life for everyone.”
With these opening words, Mark McAvaney sets the tone For Everything a Time - a poignant and emotional journey of life and loss, regret and happiness, love and forgiveness, acceptance and grief, and how time tests the lasting bonds of family and friendship. It is the story of two best friends, Mac and Dave, and how after one tragic accident during their final year in school, their lives were drastically changed - never to be the same again. Thirteen years later in 2003, the story alternates between their dual perspectives as they reflect on their past and the present and how they both learn to accept the hand that fate dealt them and what it will cost them to have just one chance for forgiveness.
“The living take this to heart: We are not only our past. We are also our future.”
What is this story about? It is about how when we are young we can make certain mistakes or decisions that may cost us more than what we anticipated. It is about how some actions we never stop punishing ourselves over nor is it enough for us to get over them. It is about lost chances and the aching pain of seeing if it could have ever been something else - in another life. 'What people will do for even a tiny portion of love is incredible.' 😟 It is about the relationships that matter to us more than life itself, and how if we could choose to save anything - it would be the memory of what they were and only hope that we can make them stronger than what they were. How love and anger, jealousy and rash hasty decisions can lead to so much more hurt and sadness than intended or expected - one that doesn't only affect you but everyone who knows you.
The sorrowful truth is that I knew which direction the story was heading - but it didn't make it any less impactful for when the hurt - hits. It is in the telling and the unraveling of the events that take place leading up to it that make it such a gripping read. 'A time to skip, a time to laugh. Seems there’s a time for everything.' 🫂🫂 One that you're not exactly waiting for the inevitable, but seeing if there may be a chance to avoid it. And by alternating between the dual timelines, giving the readers brief glimpses into the friends and the lives they had before, compared to who they are in the present - it resonates deeply with you - of how tragic and precious life is - how we don't treat it with enough care or respect and realize just how fleeting it is. 😔
“I knew there was nothing I could change. It’s too late for me to undo the mess I made, to take back the stupid things I said. I just pray everyone else understands they still have a chance.”
Yet to truly appreciate the story for what it is, you really do have to be as vague as possible about it. Even though I knew what the story was leading up to - it still doesn't make the pain and the sadness any less hard-hitting. The author's writing evokes both a nostalgic feel and one that makes it so easy to picture in one's mind as the events unfold. Whether it is when they were seventeen and grappling with the final decisions before they leave their Australia small-town - both keen on having a fresh start of travels and adventures - or when they're thirty - aged and weary and coming to terms with the reality of what they're both living and knowing that it is not a time to escape, but to face it head on - there is a raw and gritty intensity to their emotions that is so very tangible. 👍🏻👍🏻 'I wanted to hold her and push her away at the same time. How does love and hate exist all at once like that?' Prevalent in the writing that echoes their sentiments so honestly and clearly that is so very relatable. Their hopes and dreams and of those who were in their lives - so much is impacted by that one fateful night that ultimately decides everything for them. A time that can never turn back the clock, but it doesn't mean that you can't make the most of it. ❤️🩹❤️🩹
“For everything a time,
Under the stars, still time for everything.”
Mac and Dave's friendship was so heartwarming to see - how close they were, the absolute trust they had with each other, despite how it felt that they were complete opposites, they still had the potential to make it last - they promised each other that. I loved how the author captured the heartbreak and uncertainties - the jealousy and sincerity - an honest portrayal of the highs and lows - the tenderness and the appreciation that comes by being friends - Dave more than others. And while it did make for an interesting choice not to have Mac's point of view for when they were younger - it made it all the more heart-wrenching to get his thoughts and feelings on what happened later - and how much he, himself, paid a price no one knew about. 😢 And there is nothing sadder than the possibility of a what if - a hopeful feeling that preys upon your conscience of if I hadn't done so and so where could I be now? ‘Everyone has a story. Every story has a time.’ The author showcases that in a really heartbreaking way - slight interludes where he depicts his characters in a light that will never come to be, but doesn't make it any less important to know of what could have been. Whether it is Mac or Dave or their family or friends - each person gets that moment to express what life could have been for them -
if only
. 🥺
It really hits hard in those scenes - that aching sense of loss - a sadness tinged with longing that it will never come to be. Those interludes really heightened how heartbreaking it was that life did take the turn that it did and the complications that arose from these complex dynamics that were all greatly affected by the tragedy that took place. Just remember: you can’t change who you were. But you can change who you are.’ The eventual truth is a heartbreaking one, beautifully captured - that slowly builds up to capture all the feelings that will pull at your core. 💔💔 It will leave an ache in your heart over hoping for some other possible outcome - a miracle, a sign, anything that might prove otherwise. But, even so, the author writes it as something very beautiful and hopeful. That for as long as time passed, it was not in vain - that there was something purposeful to what was gained and lost The beauty of it is that despite the shocking reveals and unexpected truths that came forward - despite knowing the inevitability of what is about to come crashing down on them and how many lives would forever be changed due to it - the author ends on a very hopeful, but cathartic and heartwarming that even though, the path wasn't exactly what we had intended it to be, does not mean that we can't still change its course to what we hope it can still be. 🙏🏻