Ignore the Guy, Get the Guy: The Art of No Contact: A Woman's Survival Guide to Mastering a Breakup and Taking Back Her Power

by Leslie Braswell

Being single isn't what it used to be... Now it means you're smart, sexy and selective. It means you have options and don't have to settle when it comes to matters of the heart. You can be a strong woman who knows and appreciates what a man brings to a relationship, but won't settle for anything less than the very best.

Leslie Braswell’s book "Ignore the Guy, Get the Guy: The Art of No Contact” is a Woman’s survival guide to mastering a breakup and taking back her power.

Women can learn how to obtain the relationships they want by earning the love and respect from any man they choose and have the time of their lives in the process.

In this book you'll learn...

-Why silence is golden...
-What a man secretly expects after a breakup...
-Why a strong woman steals the show...
-How to prevent a man from losing interest...
-Why women lose the battle of the breakup...
-How to make him miss you...
-How to handle your emotions...
-How he broke up and what it says about him...
-How to handle a breakup through Facebook and Twitter...
-How to SKY ROCKET your self confidence...
-What the biggest attraction killer is...
-How to be on Mr. Ex’s Mind...
-What you should do to get him back ...
-Fatal mistakes you might be making without knowing it...

If you've ever let yourself fall to pieces, cried, begged and pleaded for a man to take you back after a breakup, or if you have ever sought closure, you've never learned the art or the power of no contact.

Genres: Self Help, Relationships, Nonfiction, Love, Womens, Adult, Personal Development

117 pages, Kindle Edition

First published March 18, 2013

About the author

Leslie Braswell is a best-selling author who loves to empower women with knowledge when it comes to matters of the heart. She does so through favorite books like Ignore the Guy, Get the Guy: The Art of No Contact: A Woman’s Survival Guide to Mastering a Break-Up and Taking Back Her Power, How to Be the Girl Who Gets the Guy and Bitch Up! Expect More, Get More.

After eighteen years of living the single life, she married the love of her life. She lives in Texas with her husband, five boys, and three dogs. When she’s not dishing out dating advice, you can find her in the bleachers watching one of their boys play baseball or a Friday night football game. She loves to help women raise their confidence to be the best they can be in relationships and in life.

Reviews

[Tan · Rating 4 out of 5]

Okay, I was kind of embarrassed to put this on my shelf because it honestly sounds like the most pathetic single-girl book out there.

The title of the book should definitely be changed.

Because, this book is actually pretty damn amazing! After being shockingly houdini'd by a guy with no reason or answer in sight, I came across this book and read the great reviews. I decided to give it a shot. It couldn't hurt, right?

Put the title of this book aside, and just read it. If you're single, in a relationship, or in between, it is just great inspiration and insight onto how some guys' minds work. There were a little minor bits and pieces that were very 'relationship game' and I just brushed it off because I'm not into games. The rest was just ridiculously good insight. Give it a read!

[Robin Perryman · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great Book!

Finally someone put all that into words. This has always been my way of thinking but was always told this is why I don't have a man. Then Oh well. I have to be treated properly or he's out. I refuse to waste my time loving a man who don't love me back. Yes breakups are hard but life does go on. I appreciate the author putting it all out there. Now all women need to do is listen. All women should read this book because sooner or later it's going to happen.

[Blue Hidy · Rating 5 out of 5]

I've never read a book so fast in my life

This is now my favorite book! The author intends on helping you out whether you've decided you want to get your ex back at some point or if you need to move on (without him). I loved it. My boyfriend broke up with me three days ago and I couldn't even wait for the book to come in with Prime shipping- I had to buy the Kindle version ASAP! This book has changed my outlook from a negative to a positive. I am SO grateful. The message is, no matter what- know where to draw the line, you deserve to love yourself and respect yourself enough to set boundaries. In doing so, you could attract your ex that you want back or attract "Mr. Right" all while getting back to your old self, but better! You deserve a man who will respect your needs and loves you! Thank you!

[Mai · Rating 4 out of 5]

I love the main message of this book and it is that every woman really needs to love herself first and have her own life before giving all her attention ,love and energy to a man who would take her for granted eventually if she made any man the center of her universe!
So yes ignore the guy and that's healthy kind of ignorance and invest most of your energy in yourself and your life
Men should pursue women and not vice versa ,I think many women had to learn that lesson the hard way!!

[Lucia W · Rating 5 out of 5]

A great book to help you get through a breakup and feel empowered, also enjoyed how it gave more book recommendations. I wish I picked up earlier. What I liked about this book is that instead of "No Contact" being just 30 days like many online people suggest this book says "No Contact" until they prove they are worth talking to and other tips and tricks for even just feeling good about yourself. The goal is to find Mr. Right, not to get Mr. Ex back and for some people that might be able to get him back.

[Laura · Rating 1 out of 5]

pure drivel. terribly written and tons of typos ... it's like some woman just sat in her bed, crying, and rehashed everything we already know ... there is no rhyme or reason to anything ... no order to her thoughts ... basically the title says it all.

[Andreia Butterfly ❤️Audible listener since 2013 · Rating 5 out of 5]

5 Stars! Simply A.M.A.Z.I.N.G. I wish I knew this 20 years ago, not to "get the guy" but "to dump the guy" because this book is especifically about the bad guys that served for nothing in a woman´s life.

[Débora Sofia · Rating 4 out of 5]

Respect yourself above all!!
"Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world." Lucille Ball

[Yosr Ayari · Rating 3 out of 5]

It was a good one setting read, every woman should read it to know better about not just break ups but also her worth

[ポピ · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.5

[LaDrina Hall · Rating 4 out of 5]

Recommended

Recommended

Nice fast simple read. the book was easy to get through and has good ideas I think I'll try a few off them some confirmed my thoughts read it I think it won't be a regret.

[Emily · Rating 5 out of 5]

Love this book

this book has great insight and is spot on in the message she's trying to get across. I love having an "instruction manual" for stuff like this.

[Ana · Rating 1 out of 5]

i can believa i spent money on this! i'm pissed off!
this is just a bad version of "he's not that into you".

[Diane Briones · Rating 5 out of 5]

I just went through a pretty rough patch with a man I thought cared about me, where I was easily set aside when anything else interesting came up. (Huge red flag, I know now). I would justify this because I was so desperate to keep someone around.

Ignore the Guy, Get the Guy was a compassionate and educational reminder that a relationship should be about honoring the other person in action and rejoicing in their unique company. (I believe, by the way, that is true and applicable to both sides of the relationship.) While the title does sound a bit like it is about playing games, I decided to get it based on other reviews. I am glad I did.

First off, you should know that this book is strictly about handling neglectful treatment and the "break up" phase of a relationship only (which might be overlooked by the fact that the title itself is so long). This isn't about dating in general. For this, you will want to look elsewhere. For this I can initially recommend The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman's Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible for its wonderful insight into covering the difference between guy and bad guy behavior and indicators, and more importantly, how bad guy behavior can be misperceived at first and why it is initially attractive-although I am not finished with the book yet, this was well worth the price alone. Or, Why Men Love Bitches, to understand why you need to respect yourself (in a healthy way that is respectful to all) in order to be respected by him.

The beauty of this book is that it reminds you that, first and foremost, a man is attracted to you for the qualities that you had at the beginning of the relationship and all that you had going on then. Often, we begin to set aside things that were important, and this makes us lose ourselves (and part of the perceived value we were attracted to). This book reminds you that 1) you must, first and foremost, value and honor yourself by continuing the things that you had going on before you met him (of course, you may need to cut down on the time a bit-but you don't drop anything) and that 2) a man who is attracted to you will work to be in your space and have your attention-at the get go and continually. This doesn't relieve us from showing we appreciate his efforts as well-but it is not our job to be the ones putting in overtime to attract him. He liked us because he had to work for us. This is essentially why the book argues that you should discontinue contact if you are in a breakup or in the no-man's land of unreturned calls or affection. He has either decided to move on to his next target (player-and you dodged a bullet) or has lost the adventure of 'you'.

All that said, while it can sound like this is a book about games, the simple matter is that we, as women, do need to talk everything out, and this is not the way men work in a break up. This book helps you to handle the art of stepping back in a breakup with dignity, giving yourself (and him) the timeout you need to think clearly, and while in that timeout, re-evaluating if he was treating you properly even while you were dating. If he was, then you learn to reestablish more balance as you may have sacrificed in other areas and that could have overwhelmed him. If he wasn't, then you get tons of advice on why you have now made room for someone better in the next round.

[Jessica · Rating 5 out of 5]

I found this book the day after I got dumped. I needed something, anything to make me feel better. I read the reviews on Goodreads and Amazon and immediately bought the eBook. I just couldn't wait for a physical copy to come in the mail. I needed it right then. This book is so empowering. It made me realize mistakes that I'd made in the past with previous men and helped me keep myself from making mistakes with my most recent breakup. I hadn't contacted him since the day of the dumping, and this book helped me to make the decision to go No Contact completely. Have I heard from him? Nope, but it's only been nine days. Do I want to hear from him? Yes... but not as much as I did the day of the dumping and the most immediate days following. I know that it's nothing that I can fix because it's not my fault. It is up to him to make contact if he wants to see me again. If he does, great! If he doesn't - his loss, not mine. I have read this multiple times since the day I initially bought it (March 15th) and re-reading it has helped me immensely. I highly recommend this to anyone who has been dumped and wants to take back control of the situation and their feelings surrounding it.

[Azeemah · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is definitely a great book. I loved how the author explained about women’s intuition, and consequently, my favourite lines or I should say, paragraph from this book would be: « There is nothing stronger or more powerful than a woman’s intuition. Unfortunately, many women confuse intuition with insecurities. Especially when it comes to matters of the heart. This is the time when you need to trust your intuition the most. If you believe you’re being insecure, maybe a good question to ask yourself is « What am I being insecure about? » Your intuition will tell you something is wrong, but it’s your job to determine what it is. Whether a man is lying, cheating or maybe you just feel he doesn’t have your best interests at heart. Whatever the case may be find the underlying cause of it ».

[Patri C. · Rating 5 out of 5]

'There's no one that will ever take care of your needs and look after your best interests as you will.'
This is the first self help book I ever read and also the book I read the fastest.
I recommend this to any woman no matter what her relationship status is. It's empowering and reminds you of your self worth, whether you have to get over an ex, are already in a relationship or single. Just take what you need from it as from any other self help book. It doesn't have to be 100% relatable since it isn't written about your life. But it can help you write your own life better.
As for the repetitive phrases, I consider the author did a good job of stating her point and engraving the ideas in your brain using those.

[tiffany crosby · Rating 5 out of 5]

Right on time!!

My boyfriend broke up with me recently and I found myself crying for days at a time. I've never been the type to cry after a breakup, so this was new to me. I told myself I can't keep going on like this so I looked for some help and bought this book. I wish I would've read this book before I sent the "I miss you" texts and calling him to some calls going unanswered. I read this book in one day and made a lot of highlights. I will definitely be putting her advice to work and depending on how it goes might even come back and update my review. I definitely going to tell my girlfriends about this book!!!

[Caitlin Woodworth · Rating 3 out of 5]

Eh! Read this out of curiosity. I think the book makes some good points about no contact & ways to move on from a relationship. And it had some funny points / quotes. But it does set some unrealistic expectations around a man “coming back” to you. It also made me concerned for people in an abusive / toxic relationship ... although the book does say you should not go back to someone that treats you that way. So sometimes the message seemed conflicting (get the man, but maybe not that man). I do think the title throws you off ... it’s got good after a breakup advice vs. just “getting a guy back”.

[Nadia · Rating 1 out of 5]

I didn’t like it at all. In my opinion, the writer is so much trying to imitate “why men love/marry bitches” but in a “failure” way.
It seems like the writer had a bad experience and is just trying to push women based on personal experience. What made me say so is the fact that the writer stated “periods” as if those are facts but in fact my personal “little” life experience was completely different, for example.
It is like a list of does and don’ts with nothing exciting in there.
Definitely not for all women, and definitely not for me !!!!!

[Eileen Pace · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book is hard to read. I have never seen a book with such bad writing. I know books don't need editors to get published, but the errors in syntax, punctuation, and spelling throughout make this book nearly impossible to understand. Not to mention the order of context - there's no rhyme or reason and a lot of jumping back and forth between points already covered and only a little bit of effort to move the content forward. One star for concept. One for getting the book published. Sorry. I wish I could always say good things, but sometimes critical things need to be said.

[Farrah · Rating 3 out of 5]

If not for the fact that I am an active member of a self-improvement program which champions self-love, the information in this book would have been new. However, the fact that most of Ms. Braswell's advice overlaps with said program, I am impressed. Especially in the fact that it isn't inundated with anecdotes, as books in this category usually are.

My only critique: the typeface, font, quality of print and spacing are an editorial nightmare.

[Sara B · Rating 1 out of 5]

A Poorly written summary of all the other books that already exist on the subject

This author lists other books on the subject for reference at the end of hers, and you can tell that her book is simply a paraphrase of all of them. She provides no anecdotes and no research to back up any of her points. It’s simply a list of do this and don’t do that. Completely unamusing. The books that she recommends are far better than hers.

[Honey · Rating 4 out of 5]

Easy read and I like the author’s writing style. It’s been a while since the last time I was in a relationship so I don’t have an ex to move on from.

But I decided to give this a go out of curiosity. I can relate to many things in this book. Basically this book reminds us women to always be classy and not appear needy to men. Never beg for love ladies. Have a life of your own and be happy by yourself. Always remember not to settle for less.

[Flora · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is definitely a well written book. I agree with a lot of the advice in the book. Very easy to read and apply to your current situation.

"Men are natural hunters and if they want to pursue they will", i couldn't agree more. I went no contact with my ex for about 2 months..at that point he was ringing me down apologizing and was crazy about the glow up i got without him !, i do believe men are scared about the woman they love in the hands of another man; and it should scare them !

[Catherine Flynn · Rating 5 out of 5]

I almost finished this in a plane ride. It's so good. Such an unlifter and eye opener. It's a great encouragement book to know your value and worth. Sometimes, relationships just don't work, and coming after your ex or someone who broke your heart will never be the best move. A must-read for all the amazing high-value women out there who want to have a genuine partner in their lives. Know and learn to weed out the time wasters.

[Amber O'Leary · Rating 5 out of 5]

Exactly what I needed

This was so helpful, everything was exactly what I need to hear and more. And it showed me what i was doing and what I needed to start doing. I have a feeling this will be my bible for awhile. I highlighted A LOT of paragraphs that I will be rereading a lot to help me along the way

[nikiwarne · Rating 2 out of 5]

Just okay

It was a long book or. Simple message. I found it to be very repetitive. This is great for young teenage girls that need the message beaten across. As for a lot of us it is just common sense. Truly every situation is different and this doesn’t work for everyone. Some breakups are very peaceful and mutual. Doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt.

[Heidi · Rating 5 out of 5]

Title sounds a bit cheesy, but the advice is good, I wish I would've read this in my late teens/ early twenties, would've saved me a lot of awkward cringey moments, and also make me realise the importance of focusing on oneself. I knew a lot of what she was saying, but as stated before I had to learn most of this the hard way, it was good to have a reminder though.

[Amelia Helms · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is an essential book that every girl needs to read that’s in a relationship right now or that’s going through a breakup. It was kind of repetitive. But such a good read!
If you’ve been in some tough relationships, pick up this book and read it. I learned so much and finally started to heal from a difficult breakup years ago.