Social Skills for the Overthinker: Beat Self-Sabotage, Escape Your Comfort Zone, and Get Out Of Your Head

The path to calm #17

by Nick Trenton

Feel yourself become tongue-tied around others? Or worse yet, you simply avoid others because you are constantly worried about being judged?
It's not logical and it doesn't make sense, but it can't be reasoned with. Social anxiety can be crippling, to the point where you don't even want to order food!

How to understand your anxious brain's wiring, soothe it, and get around it.
Social Skills for Overthinkers is about more than what to say and when to say it, it is about how to gain your freedom. This book takes a much more clinical route than any others of its kind. We gain an understanding of the issues that hold you back, how to overcome them, and an action plan for success in the future.

You'll learn a multitude of tools to get you from "I'd rather not go" to "I can't wait to go!"
Nick Trenton grew up in rural Illinois and is quite literally a farm boy. His best friend growing up was his trusty companion Leonard the dachshund. RIP Leonard. Eventually, he made it off the farm and obtained a BS in Economics, followed by an MA in Behavioral Psychology.

Challenge your inner thought pattern and break free and empower yourself.
- Putting a stop to the rumination cycle of doom; putting a fence around it
- Why curiosity is one of your best weapons against overthinking
- Your inner critic and why the grey area is the best area
- How to role play for social success
- Letting go of safety-seeking behaviors
- The magic of improv statements

Become excited about new relationships instead of wanting to run away. Stop getting in your own way.

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Personal Growth

192 pages, Kindle Edition

Published December 18, 2023

About the author

كاتب وباحث في مجال علم النفس.حاصل على ماجيستير في علم النفس السلوكي، وعمل مع العديد من الأشخاص ليعلمهم كيفية الوصول لصفاء الذهن والهدوء العقلي. له أكثر من 30 كتاب في مجال علم النفس، من ضمنهم كتاب clam your thoughts -the art of self therapy

Reviews

[Hydeia · Rating 5 out of 5]

Now this is the best self-help book I have ever read! I unintentionally came across this book, and I have never read a self-help book that describes exactly how I think and operate down to the T, AND, that keeps my interest. This book made me feel validated, seen, and heard.

If you overthink, self-sabotage, people please, feel uncomfortable socializing, have low self-esteem, are afraid to share your opinion, or have other similar behaviors, please read this book. It’s not long at all (192 pages), and the font is big.

This book does not dwell on why we think the way we do. In the first couple of chapters, it does so, which gives that validation to the reader. Then, it goes into how to battle the obstacles of social anxiety and better ways to communicate. Personally, I think the solutions that the author describe are doable and actually helpful to the socially anxious person. The author is to the point, and does not bash the reader for operating the way the reader does. Everything in the book is factual.

I plan on recommending this book to others I personally know. As far as lending the book, I am unsure because I highly cherished this book and want to keep it with me forever!

[Michelle Vandepol · Rating 5 out of 5]

All the stars! Brilliant, practical, and easy to implement immediately. A warm conversational tone that has the effectiveness of a Cognitive Behavioral Therapy session, even for those who might have not found their neurotype properly addressed by the modality previously. Highly recommend.

[April · Rating 3 out of 5]

I would give 3.5 stars but there are no halves. The book is not a waste of time. My favorite time to read it was when I was in the midst of having a social anxiety attack. The words of the book helped me to feel validated and not spiral into a depressive episode and helped me turn off the obsessing over potential mistakes that I made. That part was great, but the book fell short in my opinion, in helping to really work through building social skills, which is what I was looking for. I have had a lot of problems in life that led me to have underdeveloped social skills and trouble creating meaningful interaction with others. This book only offers a couple of suggestions. One of the strongest suggestions is improv, which is something not available in my area, making the author feel out of touch with suburban and rural readers.

[Brandi · Rating 5 out of 5]

I didn’t realize people have the exact same anxious thoughts I do! Nothing is an original experience 😂 which is very validating , and this book was very helpful overall

[Carly Bartholomew]

I read this book and went to Improv class and did stand up open mic within the month. recommend.