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Less Nice, More You: Stop Hiding & Become The Most Bold, Authentic Version Of You Now
How Long Have You Been Holding The Real You Back?Have you been too nice for too long? Have you tried to speak up for yourself, have better boundaries, or take care of your own needs, only to feel anxious, stuck, or guilty?
The unfortunate truth is people-pleasing and excessive niceness are debilitating patterns that most people never truly change. They remain in this “cage of niceness” until their final days, when they experience a strong sense of regret for living a life that wasn’t truly their own.
Fortunately, something so much better is possible. In this energizing and inspiring book, Dr. Aziz returns to the subject of niceness to help you finally break free to be boldly yourself around anyone. In this powerful book, you’ll
=> The hidden rule that stops you from speaking up (and how to change it now).
=> Transform how you see conflict so you can freely speak up and be real in all your relationships.
=> What boundaries really are, and how to communicate them freely and easily.
=> Finally free yourself from the fear of disapproval and upsetting others.
=> Forge a path to a truly authentic life where you celebrate and enjoy who you are!
The unfortunate truth is people-pleasing and excessive niceness are debilitating patterns that most people never truly change. They remain in this “cage of niceness” until their final days, when they experience a strong sense of regret for living a life that wasn’t truly their own.
Fortunately, something so much better is possible. In this energizing and inspiring book, Dr. Aziz returns to the subject of niceness to help you finally break free to be boldly yourself around anyone. In this powerful book, you’ll
=> The hidden rule that stops you from speaking up (and how to change it now).
=> Transform how you see conflict so you can freely speak up and be real in all your relationships.
=> What boundaries really are, and how to communicate them freely and easily.
=> Finally free yourself from the fear of disapproval and upsetting others.
=> Forge a path to a truly authentic life where you celebrate and enjoy who you are!
271 pages, Kindle Edition
Published December 18, 2023
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About the author
Aziz Gazipura
21 books123 followersDr. Aziz is a clinical psychologist and one of the world's leading experts on social confidence. After being stuck in shyness and social anxiety himself for almost 10 years, he became determined to find a way to social freedom. Through thousands of hours of his own training, counseling, reading, group work, and coaching, he has truly mastered what it takes to break free from shyness and social anxiety into a life of confidence.
In 2011, Dr. Aziz started The Center For Social Confidence, which is dedicated to helping everyone break through their shyness and social anxiety. Through his unique blend of compassion, humor, and personal courage, Dr. Aziz has helped thousands of people all over the world increase their confidence. Through confidence coaching, audio and video programs, podcasts, a detailed blog, and intensive weekend workshops, Dr. Aziz lives out his mission: To help every person who is stuck in shyness liberate themselves to pursue the relationship, career, and life they have always dreamed of.
He lives in Portland, Oregon with his wife Candace and son Zaim (who he claims is the "most socially confident badass kid in the world.")
In 2011, Dr. Aziz started The Center For Social Confidence, which is dedicated to helping everyone break through their shyness and social anxiety. Through his unique blend of compassion, humor, and personal courage, Dr. Aziz has helped thousands of people all over the world increase their confidence. Through confidence coaching, audio and video programs, podcasts, a detailed blog, and intensive weekend workshops, Dr. Aziz lives out his mission: To help every person who is stuck in shyness liberate themselves to pursue the relationship, career, and life they have always dreamed of.
He lives in Portland, Oregon with his wife Candace and son Zaim (who he claims is the "most socially confident badass kid in the world.")
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March 18, 2025
I did not finish this book. It was boring. Instead of energizing me to not be nice, it slowly drained my soul. Especially towards the end, Gazipura delivers the exact same content with slightly different examples. The squiggly line drawing (with and without the not nice box added) is a waste of environmental resources.
Some of his examples are mixing up not being nice with being immature. For example, he shares his interaction with a UTV seller where Gazipura changed his mind several times. He moved from waiting list to waiting list and after a few months, decided not to buy (and also asked for a refund of his deposit). His philosophy is to ask unapologetically so he did not apologize or thank him for accommodating all of his requests. Sorry, but this is not "not being nice". This is not not sharing a disagreement or withholding your opinion about something you dislike. It is owning up to your mistakes and yes, you should apologize or thank if you are making someone else carry your load.
Some of his examples are mixing up not being nice with being immature. For example, he shares his interaction with a UTV seller where Gazipura changed his mind several times. He moved from waiting list to waiting list and after a few months, decided not to buy (and also asked for a refund of his deposit). His philosophy is to ask unapologetically so he did not apologize or thank him for accommodating all of his requests. Sorry, but this is not "not being nice". This is not not sharing a disagreement or withholding your opinion about something you dislike. It is owning up to your mistakes and yes, you should apologize or thank if you are making someone else carry your load.
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