Sustained abstinence from an addiction is only the first stage of recovery; real recovery begins with Stage II--the rebuilding of the life that was saved in Stage I.
Earnie Larsen was a nationally known author and lecturer. A pioneer in the field of recovery from addictive behaviors and the originator of the process known as Stage II Recovery, Earnie authored numerous curricula, DVD's, audio CDs and books with Hazelden and other publishers, including his 2010 Hazelden book, Now That You're Sober: Week by Week Guidance from Your Recovery Coach, written with his sister, Carol Hegarty. With degrees from Loyola University and the University of Minnesota, Earnie had been a counselor for over 40 years.
This is a short book filled with lots of wisdom on how to change. I loved it! I did many of the exercises in it. It helps you come up with a program to change any habits you have that you want to change, or that you realize are inhibiting your ability to be close to others. It summarizes different kinds of people with bad habits "the people pleasers", "the caretaker", "the martyr", "the tap dancer"...and more. don't be deceived by the "addiction" title...it's for everyone who wants to change bad habits.
ugh....cannot wait until Stage III: When Things Get REAL or whatever good old "earnie" comes up with...I am sure that will have the REAL secret decoder ring of binary solutions...Cash grabs like this really upset me sometimes...
This book, like many of it's ilk, is mostly a clear reminder of keeping it simple and the importance of having mentors that you trust. If "earnie" was well sponsored and had a Writing Group to workshop this book in perhaps we would not have the collection of the poorly attributed chapter heading pull quotes OR the ending section of random quotes proving his perfection.
As an admitted work-a-holic, "earnie" must realize that creating a categorization of problems and then offering solutions is not ACTAULLY work, it is just churn.
In fact the worst kind of churn--you know, the bad advice that can kill people.
A practical reminder about how our negative thoughts affect our emotions. I identified some nagging behaviors I want to change. Is there any one else out there who a a card-carrying member of the Perfectionist Club?!?
Probably won't blow your mind but a good book for clients who need some basic/intermediate relationship help. Does a good job of putting words to what many healthy couples already know. Plus, it's short.
Such a useful book. This really is a wonderful option when you finish the 12 steps and how to be a partner and be in a relationship with others. So thankful that the major idea is personal growth first and for most.
I enjoyed reading this book with my boyfriend and we are practicing the suggestions to improve our relationship. So far it seems to help us know one another better.