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Cooling The Flame: Guiding Kids Through Anger
Rather than promising to transform your child's challenging moments into a state of zen-like serenity through magic, this book takes a refreshing lighthearted and humorous approach to the unpredictable journey of parenting, spanning from the toddler years to pre-teen tantrums.
Urgell acknowledges that parenting is like a wild rollercoaster ride encompassing various stages of childhood. Instead of offering complex theories or one-size-fits-all solutions, the book provides a practical toolbox of tricks to help parents maintain their sanity in the face of broccoli battles, homework resistance, and teenage mood swings.
This guide is a blend of real-life anecdotes, relatable situations, and a hefty dose of humor, making it equally relevant for parents of both young children and pre-teens. After all, laughter is the best armor against the chaos of parenthood. The author invites you to grab a comfy chair, and a soothing or caffeinated beverage (depending on the hour), and join her on a journey through the chaos, laughter and occasional eye-rolling moments of parenthood. Welcome to the world of "Cooling the Flame", Your companion for finding moments of calm amidst the parenting storm, making it a must-read for any parent looking to navigate the delicate dance of sippy cups, school assignments, and, of course, those notorious tantrums.
Urgell acknowledges that parenting is like a wild rollercoaster ride encompassing various stages of childhood. Instead of offering complex theories or one-size-fits-all solutions, the book provides a practical toolbox of tricks to help parents maintain their sanity in the face of broccoli battles, homework resistance, and teenage mood swings.
This guide is a blend of real-life anecdotes, relatable situations, and a hefty dose of humor, making it equally relevant for parents of both young children and pre-teens. After all, laughter is the best armor against the chaos of parenthood. The author invites you to grab a comfy chair, and a soothing or caffeinated beverage (depending on the hour), and join her on a journey through the chaos, laughter and occasional eye-rolling moments of parenthood. Welcome to the world of "Cooling the Flame", Your companion for finding moments of calm amidst the parenting storm, making it a must-read for any parent looking to navigate the delicate dance of sippy cups, school assignments, and, of course, those notorious tantrums.
203 pages, Kindle Edition
Published December 29, 2023
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March 19, 2025
This book was entered in The Wishing Shelf Book Awards. This is what our readers thought:
Title: Cooling The Flame: Guiding Kids Through Anger
Author: Laura Urgell
Star Rating: 4 Stars
Number of Readers: 15
Stats
Editing: 8/10
Writing Style: 8/10
Content: 7/10
Cover: 2/5
Of the 15 readers:
12 would read another book by this author.
6 thought the cover was good or excellent.
15 felt it was easy to follow.
12 would recommend this book to another reader to try.
Of all the readers, 7 felt the author’s strongest skill was ‘subject knowledge’.
Of all the readers, 5 felt the author’s strongest skill was ‘writing style’.
Of all the readers, 3 felt the author’s strongest skill was ‘clarity of message’.
15 felt the pacing was good or excellent.
12 thought the author understood the readership and what they wanted.
Readers’ Comments
“A very helpful little toolbox this. I liked the chatty way it was written; not too formal, like getting advice over a cup of coffee.” Male reader, aged 50
“If you constantly battle your child over things like brushing teeth and doing homework, this book might be helpful to you. It’s mostly common sense, but I liked how it was written; not judgmental at all.” Female reader, aged 39
“Parenting is unpredictable, and the author seems to understand this.. The best advice I ever got regarding kids is ‘everything’s a phase’. This book develops on this, suggesting ways to ‘cool the flame’. A handy little book to have for reference; you never know, a few of the author’s tips might just work!” Female reader, aged 41
“Light-hearted, fun, got a giggle out of me. Is it helpful? I don’t know, but I still enjoyed the ‘cosy chat’ feel to the book. It’s fun to find a book on parenting that’s (a) not hyper-critical and (b) has a few laughs in it.” Male reader, ex-publisher, aged 69
To Sum It Up:
‘A simple, highly accessible tool for helping parents and carers to find way of tackling (not rugby tackling) angry children and cooling the flame.’ The Wishing Shelf Book Awards
Title: Cooling The Flame: Guiding Kids Through Anger
Author: Laura Urgell
Star Rating: 4 Stars
Number of Readers: 15
Stats
Editing: 8/10
Writing Style: 8/10
Content: 7/10
Cover: 2/5
Of the 15 readers:
12 would read another book by this author.
6 thought the cover was good or excellent.
15 felt it was easy to follow.
12 would recommend this book to another reader to try.
Of all the readers, 7 felt the author’s strongest skill was ‘subject knowledge’.
Of all the readers, 5 felt the author’s strongest skill was ‘writing style’.
Of all the readers, 3 felt the author’s strongest skill was ‘clarity of message’.
15 felt the pacing was good or excellent.
12 thought the author understood the readership and what they wanted.
Readers’ Comments
“A very helpful little toolbox this. I liked the chatty way it was written; not too formal, like getting advice over a cup of coffee.” Male reader, aged 50
“If you constantly battle your child over things like brushing teeth and doing homework, this book might be helpful to you. It’s mostly common sense, but I liked how it was written; not judgmental at all.” Female reader, aged 39
“Parenting is unpredictable, and the author seems to understand this.. The best advice I ever got regarding kids is ‘everything’s a phase’. This book develops on this, suggesting ways to ‘cool the flame’. A handy little book to have for reference; you never know, a few of the author’s tips might just work!” Female reader, aged 41
“Light-hearted, fun, got a giggle out of me. Is it helpful? I don’t know, but I still enjoyed the ‘cosy chat’ feel to the book. It’s fun to find a book on parenting that’s (a) not hyper-critical and (b) has a few laughs in it.” Male reader, ex-publisher, aged 69
To Sum It Up:
‘A simple, highly accessible tool for helping parents and carers to find way of tackling (not rugby tackling) angry children and cooling the flame.’ The Wishing Shelf Book Awards
January 4, 2024
📚 Book Review: "Cooling The Flame: Guiding Kids Through Anger"
by Laura Urgell 📚
Rating:5/5
Review:
👉Laura Urgell's masterpiece, "Cooling The Flame," is a refreshing and indispensable guide for parents navigating the tumultuous waters of child-rearing. Unlike conventional parenting books, Urgell doesn't promise magical transformations; instead, she embraces the chaos with a delightful blend of humor and practicality.
🌟 Urgell's approach is a breath of fresh air, steering away from complex theories and offering a relatable journey through the various stages of childhood. The book becomes a reassuring companion, acknowledging that parenting is indeed a wild rollercoaster ride.
🤔 What sets this book apart is its practical toolbox of tricks. Instead of one-size-fits-all solutions, Urgell shares a range of strategies to help parents maintain their sanity in the face of diverse challenges—whether it's the infamous broccoli battles or the resistance of pre-teens to homework.
📖 The narrative is enriched with real-life anecdotes that resonate deeply with readers. Urgell's witty humor not only makes the book enjoyable but also transforms it into a genuinely helpful resource. It's like having a seasoned parent whispering wise and humorous advice in your ear.
👨👩👧 "Cooling The Flame" caters to a broad audience, making it relevant for parents of both young children and pre-teens. The author invites readers to grab a comfy chair, their beverage of choice, and join her on this journey through the chaos, laughter, and occasional eye-rolling moments of parenthood.
🌈 In a world filled with parenting guides, "Cooling The Flame" stands out as a game-changer. It doesn't just provide advice; it extends a lifeline to parents, offering moments of calm amidst the parenting storm. Highly recommended for anyone seeking a perfect blend of wisdom and laughter in the delicate dance of parenthood. 🌟👶📚
#ParentingWisdom #CoolingTheFlame #MustReadForParents
by Laura Urgell 📚
Rating:5/5
Review:
👉Laura Urgell's masterpiece, "Cooling The Flame," is a refreshing and indispensable guide for parents navigating the tumultuous waters of child-rearing. Unlike conventional parenting books, Urgell doesn't promise magical transformations; instead, she embraces the chaos with a delightful blend of humor and practicality.
🌟 Urgell's approach is a breath of fresh air, steering away from complex theories and offering a relatable journey through the various stages of childhood. The book becomes a reassuring companion, acknowledging that parenting is indeed a wild rollercoaster ride.
🤔 What sets this book apart is its practical toolbox of tricks. Instead of one-size-fits-all solutions, Urgell shares a range of strategies to help parents maintain their sanity in the face of diverse challenges—whether it's the infamous broccoli battles or the resistance of pre-teens to homework.
📖 The narrative is enriched with real-life anecdotes that resonate deeply with readers. Urgell's witty humor not only makes the book enjoyable but also transforms it into a genuinely helpful resource. It's like having a seasoned parent whispering wise and humorous advice in your ear.
👨👩👧 "Cooling The Flame" caters to a broad audience, making it relevant for parents of both young children and pre-teens. The author invites readers to grab a comfy chair, their beverage of choice, and join her on this journey through the chaos, laughter, and occasional eye-rolling moments of parenthood.
🌈 In a world filled with parenting guides, "Cooling The Flame" stands out as a game-changer. It doesn't just provide advice; it extends a lifeline to parents, offering moments of calm amidst the parenting storm. Highly recommended for anyone seeking a perfect blend of wisdom and laughter in the delicate dance of parenthood. 🌟👶📚
#ParentingWisdom #CoolingTheFlame #MustReadForParents
January 26, 2024
I am re-reading this book, because I need a refresher course. This is the best parenting book I've ever read, and probably the only one I ever needed to read. It will not be applicable to most family situations, but it is excellent. This should be on the bookshelf of every school counsellor, along w/every parent dealing w/children w/behaviour problems regardless of where it stems from.
This is a fantastic book for those of us who have an explosive child. It explains why the standard parenting approach of choices/consequences/consistency isn't/hasn't working for this particular child (when it has worked for all the others). Laura explains a comprehensive approach to working through problems differently and teaching our children how to work with/through frustration in a calm and humorous manner.
Getting to a new level of understanding and action, Laura Urgell presents some new solutions for any parent that struggles with the a child that is lacking in skills to manage difficult feelings like anger or frustration. It's a quick, easy read with easy to implement plans and realistic scenarios. This book was an easier reading book, which is good for me with this kind of topic. Wasn't too wording, in that I could understand what the author was talking about.
I cannot recommend this book enough. I hate books that do not think of children as people with their own feelings and thoughts. This book is very respectful to children while understanding the frustrations of the parents as well. This book may be particularly relevant in our 21st century world and the world our children are growing up in today. A must read!
This is a fantastic book for those of us who have an explosive child. It explains why the standard parenting approach of choices/consequences/consistency isn't/hasn't working for this particular child (when it has worked for all the others). Laura explains a comprehensive approach to working through problems differently and teaching our children how to work with/through frustration in a calm and humorous manner.
Getting to a new level of understanding and action, Laura Urgell presents some new solutions for any parent that struggles with the a child that is lacking in skills to manage difficult feelings like anger or frustration. It's a quick, easy read with easy to implement plans and realistic scenarios. This book was an easier reading book, which is good for me with this kind of topic. Wasn't too wording, in that I could understand what the author was talking about.
I cannot recommend this book enough. I hate books that do not think of children as people with their own feelings and thoughts. This book is very respectful to children while understanding the frustrations of the parents as well. This book may be particularly relevant in our 21st century world and the world our children are growing up in today. A must read!
February 22, 2024
Great read that’s to the point
Having a house of 6, ranging from 3-18, this book is welcomed to my literary rotation of tools to use during my Warden duties running my family camp.
Packed with an arsenal of ideas to defuse and apply methods behind parental madness when dealing with our house of multiple personalities. Anger is a huge issue and this guide helps you get through a lot of questions on how to handle the situations in nonproductive behavior. Well written and I enjoyed how the author is direct and to the point within her writing. It’s a No Holds Barred approach to anger management for our Children. Highly recommended from me to all parents.
Having a house of 6, ranging from 3-18, this book is welcomed to my literary rotation of tools to use during my Warden duties running my family camp.
Packed with an arsenal of ideas to defuse and apply methods behind parental madness when dealing with our house of multiple personalities. Anger is a huge issue and this guide helps you get through a lot of questions on how to handle the situations in nonproductive behavior. Well written and I enjoyed how the author is direct and to the point within her writing. It’s a No Holds Barred approach to anger management for our Children. Highly recommended from me to all parents.
January 2, 2024
"Cooling The Flame: Guiding Kids Through Anger" by Laura Urgell is a must-read for parents. It's a game-changer with its refreshingly humorous and practical approach to parenting. The Author's relatable anecdotes and witty humor make the book not only enjoyable but genuinely helpful. It's like having a seasoned parent by your side, offering a toolbox of practical tricks for tackling everything from toddler tantrums to pre-teen resistance. If you're navigating the chaos of parenthood, this book is your lifeline – a perfect blend of advice and laughter. Highly recommended!
March 12, 2024
I just finished “Cooling the Flame,” and it came at a perfect time when I was struggling with my 4-year-old boy as his daycare tells me that there are some behavioral issues. I was skeptical when I first started reading, but the book spoke to me like a friend would. It gave me tons of practical tips that have already begun to make a huge impact both at home and at daycare. I appreciate the author’s insight and sharing her experience. I recommend this to all parents and caregivers. It will come in super handy!
December 31, 2023
As a single dad, I found this book to be a great resource. The author provides strategies that seem to help my kid get out of their anger and into a more calm space. Within a couple days, we were understanding each other better. I definitely recommend to any parent that’s struggling.
December 31, 2023
I picked up this book because my grandkids can be a handful sometimes and I know my adult child struggles- I wanted to check it out. After reading it, I am now buying them a copy because I truly feel it will help them. The author does a great job of being pragmatic, funny and staying on point.
January 30, 2024
Easy to read and follow. Respectful of children and an inspiring take on how to be more proactive in stressful situations. Highly recommend to all parents!
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